Hello everyone! Sorry, I've been reading your posts regularly over the last few days but haven't had a chance to say anything.
First to Jbrd, I was so happy to read about your Christmas present. Something similar happened to my SIL (before I knew her) - she was told there was an empty sac, then when she went back for a scan weeks later to check everything was ok, they found a heartbeat. Her DS is now 4.5 and is round here playing with my DSCs right now. I can appreciate your frustation re the dates; hope you get it sorted soon and without too much stress. Have you managed to get a sick note yet?
sparkly, my heart goes out to you. Your posts over the last few days have made me cry each time. When I got my BFP in June DP's response wasn't exactly what I'd have hoped for, despite his having agreed that we stop using contraception. Apparently he had agreed to the idea of having a(nother, for him) baby, but not to the reality as he didn't expect it to happen . He did come round a bit but never seemed really happy about it (although like gum's DH, I think it was, he assured me that his paternal love would kick in once the baby was born). I spent a lot of the 6 weeks that I knew I was pg (MC at 11 weeks) feeling angry and sad that I couldn't feel unabatedly happy about a pregnancy I very much wanted and which we'd agreed to try for (because I think that's what stopping contraception means? - & I'd been clear about what i wanted & he accepted). Since my MC we've talked a lot about all of this so I like to think things will be different next time. I think it all just happened too fast for him. As greenlizard said a while ago, men are supposed to be so much more straightforward than we are, but sometimes they take the biscuit. So, sparkly, I'm thinking if you and really, really hope things get easier for you very soon.
gum, I hope you won't be put off posting exactly what you think and feel. I regularly visit and post on the step-parenting threads too and that kind of thing happens depressingly often - we're there for help and support in our quest to make our step-families work, and someone comes along and blasts us for being in our DSCs' lives at all.
Have a lovely New Year's Eve, everyone! We're just having a quiet one at home as my DCSs are here. I'm making us a nice meal though.