TTC for 10+ months, part 10

[princesschick]

A very friendly and supportive thread for those taking way longer than they had ever expected to make a baby.

Was just popping on to explain the blood flow but euro has beaten me to it :)

rabbit I had spotting the first weeek of my second pregnancy so I don't think it means its all over, hang on in there

I love the cb digi, there is no wondering is there isn't there a line, it tells you straight, they are respoanbly sensitive, I got both my bfps on them when the fr and internet cheapies kept telling me it was a bfn at 5 weeks

well gettin my hair done so will catch up later

Official Lap Support for Joycep!

Big hand hold. I was terrified for big op, properly terrified but somehow your body goes onto odd automatic pilot and you just do it and surprise yourself with bravery, honest. Get some rescue remedy in and glug it out the bottle. I do actually do this! So. Let me see.

1. make sure you have a nightie/big t shirt, I found pyjamas rubbed. And nice huge pants are a bonus if you do end up bloated. Take a pad just in case. I had like a medium period after and lots of blue dye came out.
2. actually, you most likely will bloat. I feared I would forever look like it and drove mr r mad with asking. It does deflate! 3)get in some mint tea and even better mint cordial which tastes pretty dental but does dislodge the gas. The gas pains are uncomfy but only like trapped wind really and I found that because I knew what it was, it didn't stress me too much. Pacing around helped shift it a bit. It took about a week to get rid of mine. Sadly you can't fart it out but it does go. I had no problems breathing so don't let that thread panic you.
3. make them write down anything they say in note form. I had shocking memory loss even though I thought I was fully lucid. But probably all they will say that it all looked fine.
4. be prepared to be tired. I know you don't have the luxury of lots of time off but if you can arrange that the post op days are as easy as poss for you that will be good.
5. ask about stitches. I still regret not asking about mine as I'm sure if I'd taken care of them after my belly button wouldn't look like frankensteins face because i picked at them myself. I have a v deep inny button though which is why apparently my scar is below my belly button and not in it (I made him apologise for the mess of it!) so most people can hardly see theirs.
6. doing a poo and a wee after was a bit odd. I can't actually remember why now as both ops have merged. But it does go back to normal. Have some lactulose just in case you don't go..

That is a lot about laps. Remember the ten day rule. After ten days you will feel exactly as you do now. You can do this, you have survived a long time of ttc. That makes us super human! I will be thinking of you.

joy it's good to prepare yourself but the trapped air pains may not even happen, I had none at all. rabbit will help with the expert list. rabbit we are still on rabbit watch.

Princess with my trip with PiLs and own folks fresh in my mind, you have my sympathy. I think perhaps it will be helpful once they know.

Everyone please accept waves in place of proper name checking cosmos loved your post, good to see you. I just wanted to pop in to check in with me fellow IVFers. Gin my guy told to call him when I get my period to schedule a first scan. Due next Monday or Tuesday. And yes Long Protocol. Chosen by me, crazy as it sounds. I can go through that if there is interest but perhaps we are over the protocol discussion. Those with up coming IVF already have their protocol decided, am I right?

Oh, I don't have as much time as I thought...see you all tomorrow. X

Busy as hell so whizzing through, but rabbit, a line is a line, as they say on those insta-diff boards, no? But the pale positives are such a headfuck, I know. I'd do like others have suggested and test again with FMU tomorrow morning (and a pg test that has 2 separate lines to denote positive, not the cross). Thinking of you & keeping everything crossed for you.

Also fingers crossed for your smear euro.

Waves to everyone else! Be back properly when work has settled down.

Oh and, for me, the fear that they would find something was as bad as the op fear, that is perfectly understandable. But it is win win really. If they find a thing, you have a course of action. If its endo, they can laser it off (thinking of heart) if it's a broid they can get rid (say no more) if it's tubes then that is hard but if you have conceived and had HSG so thats not too likely? and it doesn't mean you can't get pregnant but that ivf might be what you need which lessens fear of Dr Beer Stuff. But, most likely, it will be clear as a whistle. Which whilst frustrating is actually a very good thing and you won't need to worry anymore about any of the above. Sorry if this is waffle!

Oh and doll is right, a lot of people don't even get gas pains. But it really is only like a trapped fart, promise

Rabbit watch update - down in the burrow.. there is no period. Sigh. I keep thinking its coming though. I've had a few cramps today. Not testing again. I might if it isn't here by Friday. It won't change anything and it made me sad.

Oo cosmos in my egocentric three week wait I missed your post sorry. It was lovely and has given me a boost. I'm so glad you are in a happy place and I resonate with what you say. I am still undecided if I will have treatment and I think if the right thing feels no more right now, then it is good that you are able to listen to it and go with that tide. In recent months I've felt a lot more comfy with the various futures that might unfold if I never get pregnant and you know what, they are OK. They aren't what I thought I'd end up with and I've no doubt there will be tears and trials yet but it is a very different feeling to 6 months of ttc worrying if I would be one of the one in six. Well I am. So I can't worry about that anymore. Do keep popping in, you are so lovely. And you never can tell what's around the corner.

Hugs to you, rabbit. You do exactly what it is that you need to do to get through this.

Hi all,

Just popping in to gently rub rabbit's paw (isn't a rabbit's foot a lucky talisman?) and say that I am hoping with all my might that AF stays away and that you get confirmation on Friday. That would really make my week.

doll I'm really impressed that you're going ahead with IVF in such a low key way. I have to make a huge song and dance about the possibility of it .

Good to have the advance warning about Downton - it won't be on here in the US until January, but forewarned is forearmed!

artemis you are a legend for getting on with the downregging. You're doing brilliantly with the woo and the taking it one day at a time and I'm just sad that I won't get to meet you and the other lovely ladies on this thread at your meet up! Loved the David Attenborough comment.

princess The oysters were delicious . And I drank my glass of rose really slowly and enjoyed it all the more , usually I chug wine so I was proud of myself!
You are an absolute champ living at the in-laws and managing it. Don't feel bad about skulking off. I do that when I'm at my in-laws and I'm not even pregnant! It's really tiring being around other people's parents. In fact, MrC does it around my mum and dad too - he slopes off to do his own thing and no one cares or notices (my family being louder than his). His parents do notice when I'm not 'participating' but sod it, just get your DH to say you've been poorly and that you always go to bed early and don't feel guilty about it. You're growing a person, that's hard work! Soon your lovely new house will be ready and you'll have saved loads by putting up with this unsatisfactory situation that you can put towards post-baby treats, and you'll both be really proud of yourselves that you stuck it out.

gin I can SO relate to the veering emotions between wanting to get on with IVF and not wanting to do it. Yes, yes, yes. I feel just like that too, it's like a see-saw, bloody exhausting! Huge hand squeeze and rallying tail feather shake. You'll get through this, and you should be really proud of how well you're dealing with this situation.

nelly, missm and lemon, thinking of you.

euro good luck with the smear and I hope you can have an extra delicious dinner afterwards to make up for having to fast all morning!

joy sorry that you're feeling frightened about the lap - rabbit has great advice. I haven't had one but can imagine I would feel very scared. Big hug.

sar are you ok?

Well, I've emailed the nurse to ask what's the latest I could start IVF if I was going to get in a cycle before Christmas. I also told her about my January holiday plans and asked what would be the schedule if I started in the new year instead, and whether I needed to have an HSG.
I had a small wobble yesterday evening when one of my best friends, who got started trying the same month as me, emailed to say she was pregnant with her second baby, due in April. She's lovely - knows that we're trying and is a total sweetheart about it and was really sensitive and kind in her email. I'm genuinely thrilled for her - I love her very much and she's been amazing to me - but my inner chimp had a brief self-pitying wallow before I shooed it back up its tree. Feeling more chipper this morning. This is just my path, and it's slightly different and longer than other people's routes to motherhood, but I am so lucky in so many ways.

Very quick post and hope I have this right.

Mrs D - you too have headfuckery with the dissapearing / reappearing AF? O my word, thinking of you and hoping this is your time.

Rabbit - still think it could either way. You poor thing, this is torture. But I do beleive without doubt somthing has happened this month. You got a positive test - that is AMAZING!

Artemis and Doll - well done on the down regging. One step at a time.

Euro - best of luck, so hoping you get good results and can put this saga behind you. xxx

And thank you to everyone for more kind words. I am still a little down and frightened. It is a crazy week with the interview today, my birthday today, the ever spreading rash, fertility clinic on Thursday and then hop in the car and down south on Friday. Can't keep up with myself.

I was offered the job this afternoon - I am pleased and accepted. But I am nowhere near as excited as I should be. I know it is a success but still doesn't come close to what I want. However, I am not ungrateful and am sure I will 'get in to it' a bit mor with time.

Huge congratulations on the job sar and a very happy birthday. I hope your DH spoils you this evening - you truly deserve it! It sounds like things are crazy for you at the moment - I really hope they will settle down soon.

Massive congrats on the job Sar. Is it a promotion or a change of direction?
Doll, I hadn't realised you'd already started ivf. I think I'll be doing short protocol but I'd be interested to hear your reasons because I find it all a little confusing.

Joy, we're all here to support you in preparing for the lap. And we will keep you comfortable while you're recovering.

Gin, I hope the anti bs fight off the lurgy. It's a shame I'm not coming to the meet up because I'd love to talk with you because our situations sound similar.

Rabbit, grrrr why can't this be easy? I'm totally with you. Af has not showed up, I wore a pad all day and it's totally spot free. I'm very confused. It's cd35 now.

Hang in there Mrsd, sorry you are waiting with rabbit I'll give you the low down on my protocol situation in the morning.

sar a very happy birthday and congrats on the job, just saw this, really great.

Swooping in between piles of work to wish sar a happy birthday and congrats on the job!
Hand squeezes to those in /approaching IVF and this have full on head fuckery sessions. Come on finger- where are ya?!

Oh mrsden let's hold hands. I have womble rumbles so will most likely be passing on my huge billy bass medallion to you tomorrow. I so hope one determined swimmer made its journey for you.

sar happy birthday and job congrats all rolled into one! That is really ace about your job and I'm sure as it all sinks in you will get into it and be glad of a change. Sorry you feel frightened, thats a difficult place to be but v understandable. I was talking to my mum about how much I didn't want to do clomid today and she said, well you don't have to do anything that doesn't feel right for you. I think I tend to forget the doctors don't own my body! No one can make you do anything you aren't comfortable with and there are always second and third opinions. You have just been terribly unlucky I think and I send love and the unwavering feeling that your time will come, and what a caring and amazing mum you'll be.

critter thanks for the paw holding. Much needed.

I too have womble rumbles rabbit. It sort of feels like it wants to come but just can't quite do it. I have a feeling that when af does arrive its going to be a humdinger long cycles are not fun. Although this pushes my dates back so ivf wnt clash with Xmas now I don't think. I so hope you get a positive result, I've got everything crossed for you.

Isn't it awful! I feel like I have period constipation! I thought it was on its way last Monday..

Evening all.

The medical was fine. I am a glowing picture of health apparently (save for the dodgy cervical cells and long term infertility ). And Mr euro cooked me a lovely filling seafood pasta this evening to make up for my fast. I should get my results within two weeks.

rabbit I'm sorry your saga continues.

doll as others have said, I am in awe of your low key entry into IVF. My decision involved a lot of wallowing and handwringing.

Happy birthday sar and huge congrats on the new job.

critter it sounds like you are going the right way about getting all the info you need to make your decision. If only most drs here would accept email queries - it would make like a lot easier!

joy my lap was a long time ago, but I can remember my belly being bloated and tender but I don't recall any shoulder pain at all and absolutely no breathlessness. The GA (my first) did absolutely knock me for 6 though, so make sure you leave yourself adequate time to sleep it off and let your body recover.

right I'm back with grey roots respectfully covered.

sar a BIG HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU and CONGRATS on the new job

rabbit and mrsd the waiting is total hell, fingers crossed for you both, I also had womble rumbles when I got my BFPs, so it could be your uterus stretching instead of AF.

artemis and doll hope the down regging goes well for you both, brave ladies

joycep offering a hand to hold, not sure about the antibiotics so can't help you with that, although I don't think it would

princess It must be difficult living with PIL's Mr b and I couldn't do it, just think this is only temporary while you finish off your the house, where you'll take your little sea monkey and finally be a family in your lovely new home :)

gin sorry you are lurgified, hope you feel better soon, I feel the same about IVF

critter the adoption story was lovely

nelly Boo hiss to paying up for IVF, I was loloking through Hello or OK magazine and it has a picture of Holly Valance in her wedding dress, I swear it is the ugliest thing I have ever seen clearly money doesn't buy you taste, are we allowed to ask what colour your dress is?? big fat nosy emoticon

medussa Mr B and I just do it because we have to mainly after so long you get fed up with it

euro at where a baby has been, hadn't thought of it like that, I hope your smear was clear.

nothing to report, I think Kayla is becoming a 'daddys little girl' I'm getting a bit panicked and freaked out about Friday, feel like I could have a panic attack which isn't really like me :(

Saga over, heavy brown spotting is here. I have no idea what the fuck happened this month. It was all very unusual and bore all the hallmarks of what would have ended up as a pregnancy for lots. But not for me and my panda ways. I'm ok, have had small cry on mr r who, always cynical of any symptoms or signs, has taken the test and lateness of period as signs that at last a sperm cracked the egg. I'm not as sure. I was shaking when I saw the spotting. The stakes don't half get high when you've waited a long time don't they? All the best mrsden. Sorry to all for my rather undignified public mentalling. Next time will slope off down the burrow and not mention it til I have solid evidence!

Oh rabbit. You will get there. We all will.

oh rabbit :(

mrsden and rabbit so sorry about the ongoing AWOL AF sagas. Sounds really stressful.

euro Really glad that today went well - fingers crossed for a good result in two weeks. And that seafood pasta sounds yum! It is really, really great being able to email the clinic. The nurse got back to me and said she would forward my questions on to the IVF nurses, who I haven't met yet. She also said I could call them directly, but I think I'll lurk and wait to hear what they say. I hate phoning people with questions, I prefer to do it in writing - I get flustered and embarrassed on the phone.

buzzy I've seen Holly Valance in that copy of Hello and was just thinking what a hideously over-fussy dress it was. She's such a pretty girl, and the dress looked like it was made out of flocked wallpaper. Sorry that you're feeling so worried about Friday .

Xpost rabbit - I'm so so sorry.

critter it was truly hideous, thanks, the thought of it makes me feel like I can't breath and I feel panicked like i'm going to suffocate
I prefer to email, then you have a record of what is said