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lovesLemonDrizzleCake ·
04/11/2012 14:58
Wow mellow that would be menkul-central. Are you regular-ish? I have never tested before 15dpo, so I don't know when tests go positive (2 negatives and 1 positive over 2 years of trying, I am restrained). But I thought they'd say test every 3 days or so, if AF is late? But that might just be the test manufacturers 
. Keep us posted in any case!
mrsmellow ·
04/11/2012 15:11
gin I'm so sorry to hear that- such a worry and a headache. As if IVF isn't complicated enough. I too have heard that FET has a greater success, so maybe this is just going to work out better? But will keep my fingers crossed that the estradiol is better today (would that mean you'd go on with hcg etc as planned?) My Dr is very worried about OHSS for me as well, - because of PCO and my AMH is relatively high which increases the risk, so she's tailored the stims to be relatively low, but wants to observe v closely. The things we do, eh 
lemon I am not regularish in any shape or form , but had a scan on CD19, over 2 weeks ago that indicated I was ovulating and normally my luteal phase is 14 days (follicle scanning on letrozole told me that). I don't know - the balance of probability is that I'm not, but anxiety about IVF has delayed onset of bleeding. If nothing happens by Thurs or Friday, I'll test. I have a blood form for hcg from Dr which would be more accurate, so will do that if test negative as well perhaps!
akuabadoll ·
04/11/2012 16:15
Just popping in to say sorry this is so complicated for you gin , perhaps FET will be the answer for you. As if things aren't difficult enough though. What a pain and a worry for you. Thinking of you, keep us posted.
Oh and mellow thanks for hunting for that article for me. We had a talk with an Iranian friend on Skype yesterday which was of some help but it is a messy situation, we will have to decide before knowing about two other posts, one we want but there is a lot of competion for and one we really don't want but they are ready snap Ken up. We came here at short notice, victims of geo-political events, the move shelved plans for a second adoption, this move would put an end to that for good, which is, obviously, a big deal for us. Also, like here, it's not the most obvious spot for a mixed-race family. Anyway a lot of issues big and small. It has also transpired that I would be rendered unemployable as due to the sensitive working environment Ken's employer would not tolerate me working for anyone at all in-country. So we have said we will consider based on two posts not one, so that's the first step. Life, eh?
Hope that period shows up, or err not
rabbitonthemoon ·
04/11/2012 18:30
Happy Sunday 10plus festival dwellers 
. I've missed so much but am feeling quite a bit better than a few weeks ago. 'twas a yuk slump I struggled to pull myself out of. But the past ten days have been filled with so many lovely family things and magical days and its mended me rather nicely. I wish I could tell it all, but I still worry about being outed on here as I have two friends who use MN a lot and one who is on the conception boards 
I don't find this time of year easy as I'm not a winter lover bit I read a really good yoga article that made me feel all warm and woo about things 
gin I'm so sorry to hear that this ivf is being uber challenging again, big squeeze to you, I bet you're feeling really fed up. But, I echo other people on here that an fet might be the right thing for you, when your body is all in balance. I hope you aren't in too much pain and that the hospital are lovely to you.
doll wow big decisions, you really are amazing for going through ivf and weighing up big life story choices. I hope you arrive at the place that makes most sense soon.
artemis hope you are feeling less rubbish? And nelly did you do jabbing? mellow hold handing and gentle billy bass tunes to soothe you through the menkuls.
I have read back quite far and want to say a huge big love to all you ladies going through ivf. I am in awe of your bravery and wish I could see you in person and dole out rocky road and macarons.
lemon I'm so glad to hear that you are feeling perkier.
pout yay!!! I did do missing of you. Hurrah for craft extravaganza.
sarlat I had a few early hatches this year after the op. the human body is a complex and contrary creature!
princess my god to scary farts and sick buckets. I edit out the indignities of growing another human inside you. There is no need to fret about your posts offending. You are part of Fred and I'm a bit head scratchy about why people feel they need to leave (beyond not wanting to think or talk of ttc ever again! i get that ) I second whoever said we should all be able to stay together. I find it quite uplifting to hear from those on the other side. Also, we all have every right to grumble about the bits of pregnancy that are grim. I've often thought that it must be extra awful for women who try for ages who get pnd - as if we don't get to feel that because we wanted it for longer? But this is a gripe from something a relative said to me but you know want I mean?
Well I wave enthusiastically to people missed, you are not forgotten. I will endeavour to be more chatty now I've done solitary in the tent. I still don't know what happened last month but no matter which cynical part of me tries to dismiss it as a duff test etc, there are just too many things that all point to egg and sperm meeting. There was some quite horrid stuff that left my womble too :-S I can't remember if I said but my acu had written in my notes from when I saw her at 11dpo that she had strongly suspected pregnancy and I found that a bit spooky. She says she almost always knows. Strange strange strange. My first impulse was to go down the immune testing but actually I'm still not ready. I'm going to see my gp about level 1 testing before I see Dr Big in January though. And I'm taking low dose aspirin. Oddly I've not and cold feet since taking it? Maybe that's imagined though. I'm now annoying back in the tww again but hold little interest in it given its taken 19 cycles to get a miniscule blink and you'll miss it maybe. Ho hum.
mellow thank you a hundred times for your insights into immunes - they were really helpful to me and made a lot of rational sense.
We are doing one of Jamie's 90 15 minute dinners, chicken and bacon and potato gratin with peas and leeks. I say we but I have abandoned Hare and am typing on Mumsnet. I hope we get a bfp in the added time bit of the thread.
rabbitonthemoon ·
04/11/2012 21:10
Ha ha euro about mr euro running to the hills. I can be such a cow with pmt, god help us when the menopause hits.
heart I never said a big phew about the scan. What a relief for you and I'm so glad.
joyce I got bv once when I left a Tampax in 
I had to have the evil antibiotics and ignored the wait 48 hours until the biotics had finished to drink rule and was so fucking ill! I puked for a whole day! But it was really awful, the smell and was a pretty much constant. Touch wood I never have it again! But isn't post shag cm always a bit yak smelling? Fascinating to see under the microscope though. And it is something you can feel you've fully explored, I admire your detective ways. I'm more ostrich like!
CritterPants ·
05/11/2012 16:49
doll amazing that your three year-old is rock climbing - that is pretty incredible! I'm sorry that you're starting to feel the negative mood swing craziness. And sorry about the scan. All I would say is that it isn't over until the fat lady sings, and things can change really fast down there - perhaps your ovaries will start to spring into action a bit more by the time of your next scan? I know how frustrating it is when nothing seems to be happening, but you still have a whole week to go until EC. Perhaps sar's protein and hot water bottle prescription could come in handy? If nothing else, it's an excuse to eat lots of cheese! Sorry if that's unhelpful. Also, how incredibly stressful about Ken's job. I hope you get the post that is right for the two of you.
joy keep us posted on what happens after you finish the antibiotics. I would not talk about this stuff with anyone (apart from maybe my sister and a couple of VERY close friends) - love that we're all chatting away about it here!
gin I am SO sorry that this has happened. I think mrsd's advice was spot on - like her, my doctor also warned me that this was a distinct possibility and said that if it happened to me, they'd just do an FET. He didn't seem that concerned about it, but it's interesting that he mentioned it in advance. I can only second what everyone else has said - much better that you rest now and the frosties are put back in when your body is ready to welcome them. Apparently the pregnancy hormones can make OHSS much worse, which is why they have to be conservative about things. I know you are probably feeling ghastly at the moment, though - I remember after my cancelled cycle the abrupt drop in hormones made me feel absolutely awful. Gentle paw squeeze. Hope you are ok.
rabbit I've already talked about my lost tampon experience here so won't go into it again but suffice to say I too have had the pleasure of experiencing that smell. Yak. Really interesting about your acupuncturist - that is spooky indeed. As euro said, it does sound like something happened this month and that can only be progress. I'm sorry this is so frustrating and stressful and I'm glad to see you cautiously emerging from the burrow.
euro that makes me feel a little better on the wedding album - I didn't get one made to save money, but am now seeing why people don't often get around to doing them - what a faff! Nice to have a little project though.
mellow what a headf**k. I hope you're ok.
sar sorry about the weird cycle. That does sound odd. Anything new on it today?
lemon good for you for running and out-endurancing SB. The raspberry cheesecake brownies sounded so delicious that I started to google for a recipe. And well done on getting nice dresses, that always cheers me up too - asos is my go-to - I love their ponti (sp?) style dresses - cheap and flattering!
Strange atmosphere here as we gear up ahead of the election tomorrow. MrCritter is all nervous and tetchy. We were watching American football on Saturday at a friend's flat post-potluck (well I wasn't watching it really, just admiring how dressed up to the nines all the Southern female college football fans were) and there was political ad after political ad in the breaks. All a bit depressing and exhausting. In other news, I ended up doing a pear and blackberry tart instead of a crumble because I wanted to try out a puff pastry recipe, and it worked a treat.
No other news here - I'm not ovulating, just getting enormous spots (MrC nicknamed the most recent one 'Mount Vesuvius', charming) and I was getting an itchy rash too until I stopped taking all my weird herbal supplements. So just chilling and enjoying booze and blue cheese until January.
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