Right, a proper post.
Good morning ladies!
I'll just add to the decaf chat. My nutritionist took decaf coffee away from me because it still contains non-useful chemicals even without the caffeine. Plus you need to be careful about the decaf you select. Cheaper brands use solvents to strip the caffeine from the bean / leaf and there is a school of thought that the residue left by the chemical solvents is worse for you than the caffeine in the first place. Some companies use a different method to remove the caffeine, by basically washing the tea or coffee and then using a CO2 method to blast it away (I think - I am no scientist! There's a lot of stuff on the 'net). Twinings and Clipper use the latter method; PG and Tetley use the former. Ideally, my nutritionist would like me to give up decaf tea too. But when she saw my face drop having taken away dairy, sugar, processed meat (ham, even naice ham - sob), pork, beef, decaf coffee, caffeine, alcohol, fruit juice... so she said as long as it was decaf Clipper (they don't bleach their bags either) I could have a couple a day (with oat milk). BTW, the brown diet is still going strong bar the very odd treat (half a scone with jam and cream) and a few glasses of naice wine each week (that's allowed on my maintenance diet :) ) I feel great when I'm sticking to the diet. Calm and non hormonally challenged! Critter that's really interesting what you said about the only month the folly grew being the Dr G month. I am going to try really hard to avoid the treats and to really cut down the booze (from like 8 small glasses a week to 1 or none)
Critter I'm so sorry you've had your first tears. It must be sooo frustrating going through what you are going through. You are brilliant at taking it on the chin, going to see your doctor at the rich mahogany spa, injecting yourself bravely and without any squeamishness and doing loads of interesting other stuff. As someone said, you are pumped with hormones and bad news is always shitty, I still think you are doing brilliantly. And I'm sure with some tweaking and Dr G diet you'll get there. Big hugs though. xxxxx
Lemon it will take time to get over what you've been through. It is a big thing and it's not nice. I used the miscarriage association's website loads and even phoned up one of their councilors for a chat when it got bad on one occassion. Don't worry about 'getting over it' quickly - I don't think that's realistic. I promise it gets easier and easier as the weeks pass and things settle and get back to normal in your body. Whilst it's still early doors some days will be better than others and seem positively like you are back and then you may crash the next (this happened to me a lot - up and down like a yoyo). I felt really shitty about crashing but it's just a part of it and the crashes happen a lot less given time and the better days increase. We're all here to be nice and to give you lots of lemony treats on the bad days and to cheer you when it's a good day. Sorry that you are having to go through this though. I wouldn't wish a miscarriage on my worst enemy. Big, big, big hugs xxxxx
Pout I second all of the peeps saying to have a think about what you want to do with your cottage industry rather than feeling bad about not doing it. I've suspended my brain from thinking about anything to heavy. I could be doing so much more than just being on MN all the time and I don't have a heavy workload but even making dinner and meeting up with a friend to go to the cinema or meeting someone for a coffee of doing the washing up feels too much somedays. Anyway, when you're reading and Pout Inc is going strong I will be one of your first customers :)
Buzzy glad you had a better day yesterday :)
MrsM Ah the Romance exactly what I said to DH about our 'scheduled' sex life. But we were reading a copy of Cosmo at the hospital yesterday. I don't think I've picked up a copy since my early 20s. I was a little bit that on one page it's a rampant feminist campaign and on the next it was like, don't be shy to tell your man if you like submissive role play and it's ok for him to be like a caveman and surprise you whenever it takes his fancy. Grr. It makes me so cross. Oh and yes, be a feminist but rock those heels and bodycons too. Ok so, I like looking nice to and having spontaneous sex with DH but I think the message in Cosmo isn't right. Random rant over! Still it did give us a giggle before seeing the Consultant. I'm not too sure a couple of other ladies were very impressed at us sniggering away like a couple of teenagers!!
Ten 3 years! 3 years faints I don't know what it's like here. But I was hoping that it would be about a year to give us some time to try naturally and forget about appointments or seeing doctors a la Rabbit . But 3 years seems ruddy ridiculous. Can I ask what area of the country you are in vaguely? preys it's not West Sussex
Artemis I'm glad that Mr A is on board and the IVF open evening went well. I told DH very matter of factly yesterday that if they hadn't have found anything of slight concern with me that I would have put all of this on him bit mean really. But I wasn't being nasty and he agreed!! I think the doctor really made him think yesterday and he suggested the new plan on the way home yesterday faints again which was in line with what I was thinking. I think Doctors have a way of planting seeds in the sub conscious! What with all of their, "what would you like to do Mrs Princess?" Still dumbfounded! I did have a sly chuckle at "I could always go and buy some sperm"
Doll I hope The Dude gets back to you with sensible answers. Maybe you'll get that ironic pre-IVF duff this month though?
Right ho, back to work or something. Love to you all. Looks like we are moving out properly next week. PiLs here we come........