Emmsy's ladies - 4 years of weebling - still going strong!

[4everhopeful]

Here's to us ladies! Proud to be part of this - onwards and upwards..

The word is innate! I was tired and off-duty!

Yep, a bed was better than a stone barbie so I climbed out from underneath that stone at the back of the cave and relocated my bed back to a nice comfy prime position in our cave to bunker back down for the duration...

Thank you ladies, I'm not going anywhere right now! I'm a refreshed and upright weeble again this morning..! Was lovely to see the hive of activity on here (for the most part!) of yesterday!

Calling MLS nanu nanu! You made me so much (more than once bless ya) Course I remember Mork & Mindy, definitely of that certain age! I actually had a bit of a crush on Mork and loved it so much that I called one of my childhood cats Mindy!!! You uncovered a bit of a superfan here!

Neeko you made me laugh too, you walking theasaurus you! Thanks for being a sweetheart as always!

BTW MLS, yes, I'm outing her, I'm still very much in contact with the lovely Mermaid, who has been my kindred spirit and fabulous friend,a support like no other! Love her to bits and miss her on here loads!

Blue thanks so much for my yummy non alcaholic mojito! Yum, sent me off to sweet dreams last night! Bless what you said, I'll represent Team Blue all day long my lovely.. You're always so thoughtful,, I don't feel very strong alot of the time, but I'm a bit stubborn, so perhaps thats why I never gave up, and you're right, hey, look what I've got to show for it? My (hopefully, please god) 2 miracles!

Curly I've just mailed you back my darlin, lovely to hear from you so much on here again! Yea, you're back! Your posts always make me smile so much!

LBM I agree, such a glass half full kinda woman, I admire that lots! Have a fabby time at Harry Potter world today! Summer is with babybelle on the counting front, about 16-17 on her own and 20+ with prompting! Counts backwards from 10 too, not particuarly enforced, I think cbeebies has helped quite a bit! She seems to have the good memory thing going on too, lots of random stuff - animals, colours, loves the rainbow song, fruit and veg, songs, story books and much watched episodes of peppa or ben & holly, as well as her fave DVDs that she recites word for word! Think I'm a bit clueless and pretty relaxed about what developmental stuff she should be acheiving, as everyone was shocked she was drawing faces at just past her 2nd birthday too! She's a bright button though sure enough!

Cupcake bless little J, boys and cars eh? Too sweet! Have a lovely time meeting your new niece! Bet it makes you broody! Number 3 could be sooner than you planned! Well done on that weight loss too hon! My BILs wedding is in Sept, about 9-10wks after my edd, I'm gonna be such a heffa! Then we all go on that family holiday to Tenerife 2 days later, it'll be like that scene out of shallow hal where I jump in the pool and all the water splashes out! Ha ha! I dont care though, I'll hopefully, god willing, have my new ikkle bubba as my very good excuse why!

Moon lovely, don't go running off now, ditto Neeko, my god I've had enough squeezy hands for all my scans, absolutely have to reciprocate and be there to squeeze yours on the 11th!

Right, best crack on, Ive a sofa to be lying on and bubble wrap to be adjusting, a day of complete chilling is required, I'll be back to my bed in the cave later xxxxxxxx

4ever
I've been awake since 4am thinking, which is never a good thing.

I'm off.

I really can't apologise to you, I feel that things have gone to far and have gone of or far too long. It's unhealthy.

I don't think you realise but because of you I have felt immense guilt over many a things that have been said, the way you reacted when I mentioned I liked the name teddy, the way I felt I couldn't share my pregnancy with Henry in case I offended you. There has been other times too but I don't want this to turn into a tit for tat battle.
I'm feed up of having to apologise because you post how sad I make you, how upset you are, how emotionally fragile you all.

What it boils down to is the simple fact I don't think I can support you in the way you need/crave. Every time you bring up your past mc I skim read. It's been going on for a while now. It's not enjoyable for me to be here. I hardly remember the dates of my own loss so certainly don't want to be reminded of the dark place I was once was by reading your posts.

It's evident you are enjoying emails from the emmsy which are choosing sides between us, I'm not bothered but its a shame that its come to this. People feeling they need to side. curly as you said you wrote a post that would get you kicked off here I can only now presume that it was about me. Which is fine. I hold no grudges against you. I know 4ever has formed many friendships with you all away from here.

I do wish you all the best for the third trimester. I wish you a healthy baby. I wish many things for you 4ever but most of all I hope you can someday leave the past behind and move on. Your future is a bright and happy one. Live for the moment and enjoy it

Regards and best wishes

B x

barbie closes door quietly behind her

Oh and one last thing...

prime position?
This is why I can't stay, your own level of self importance astonishes me.

.....and 'comparing myself the to beckhams' wtaf?

That's it I'm done.

Oh barbie no no no. I could see why both of you had got upset. My post was just me throwing all the toys out of the pram because you lovelies, who have so much history together, were unintentionally upsetting each other more and more :(

I know you are stressed missus. When do you get the results of the smear test? Don't go anywhere you silly moo. I've only just got back :)

I think we need mermaids greenhouse back. It was a much calmer place xxxx though I do love the mojitos in our new gaff :)

Aargh and by the way I don't see anyone taking sides. Please please can you both move beyond making each other miserable and can we start talking about poo again?!!

Curlygirl sometimes names her poos after me and her dad... It's kinda sweet :)

So is 11th march our next handholding scan then? Here's my hand Moon x

Oh barbie. I don't know what to say about ur email but I think you know me better than to think I would be saying anything horrible about either of you. My post (which I didn't lose by the way, thankfully the mood on the thread had changed by the time I went to post it) was basically acknowledging that you both had the right to your opinions but we need to focus on lovely moon. She has finally got to this very fragile stage and I think she's disappeared just when we should be there for her. And Buddha too. And I don't blame them. I hated watching both of you saying hurtful stuff :( frankly I like you both too much to watch the car crash.

So take a breath, have a hug from me and dust yourself off. You guys don't have to be friends but you both have a lot of people who care about you here who would quite like to keep you both xxx

So that was pretty much my post. Feel free to kick me off the thread. I'll be leaving anyway if people don't start talking about poo soon

Oh dear oh dear! I hoped we'd moved on barbie!

Wow, I truly never realised the level of animosity you felt, or that you had felt it for so long.. I really don't want to get drawn into this tbh but I will try & address the issues you seem to have with me, cos I'm kinda flabberghasted tbh!

I am shocked and really sorry if you felt you couldn't share your pregnancy with Henry, however I told you several times if you check past threads that I absolutely did not want you to feel uncomfortable or awkward, and you should absolutely be able to share every step and receive all the support you deserve! I've even just checked past tx Id sent saying the same thing! You say you felt immense guilt, but that was certainly not inflicted by me, please check the old threads and tx!!

I do apologise for any awkwardness to my response to you liking the name Teddy, I probably shouldnt have said anything about us planning it as our boys name, so can appreciate that..

However you state there have been many other times, and I've wracked my brains but really can't work out what?! You suggest I should leave the past behind and move on, perhaps you should do the same?! Especially if it has clearly been eating away at you for so long, I'm truly shocked, I thought prior to the stupidness of the pink/style debate we were cool?! We have tx and WA loads so really don't know where any of these deep rooted issues have come from?

I don't recall one instance where you've had to apologise to me cos I've posted how you made me sad/upset/emotionally fragile?! Yea this threads been great for me but really I think your own level of self importance there is a bit astonishing! No offense, but your opinions really don't overly concern me that deeply! Yea, the stupid pink debate pissed me off & what it escalated into yesterday did upset me, but hey I'm a hormonal pregnant lady, and yea I did get irrationaly emotional about it all yesterday, today, I'm over it! Obviously contrary to your extensive opinions of me, I do live for the moment and not in the past!

That leads me onto my miscarriages, wow, perhaps you're forgetting the thing that originally linked us all together, sorry if my occasionally talking about them makes this such an unenjoyable experience for you to be here!, (it didn't seem that unenjoyable for you yesterday? ) I won't apologise for that as they are part of me as a person, my most recent one was only 8months ago, so appreciate your dark place was over 4yrs ago, mine wasn't, and its relevant to my current anxieties in this pregnancy, which, incidentally is all I've asked for support for recently, scan apts, believe me I haven't posted half my wobbles on here, again contrary to what you think of me, I really don't crave your support, I like to think, in fact, I know I'm a damn strong woman and what I've been through is what has contributed to that, and I'm bloody proud of myself for that too..

Oh and to address your other rather crazy points, perlease, come on, no one is taking sides! We've long since left school! Yea, a lot of us tx each other occasionally, me and you tx each other occasionally ffs!!!! Up until yesterday I thought that meant we were friends!!! Poor curly being dragged into this! I replied to an email she'd only just responded to that I originally sent at christmas, telling her I was pregnant! We exchanged pics of the kids, and guess what? Sorry to disappoint your own level of self importance, but your name wasn't mentioned once nope, not once, shocking huh?!

Oh and the bed in prime position?! (God this is where it becomes laughable) no not because of my own astonishing level of self importance, shockingly, but because Id made reference to crawling out from under the stone at the back of the cave, and was coming back to the warm bosum of the cave, in prime location much as one would at the cinema to get a good view and enjoy the general chit chat! Perlease!

Anyway, as said, I'm kinda shocked how deep this has all got, tbh, a little past caring, I'm hoping we can now perhaps contact each other directly via WA or email to potentially resolve our issues... It would be a shame for you to leave, and I don't really expect that you genuinely will, and hope you don't, we've both been here from the start, and I hope that what you've said has been in the heat of the moment and isn't deep rooted and personal as it seems..?

Now, this really is taking up way too much of ours, and our threads time... So, the balls in your court...

4ever please can I ask a bit of a random question? Sorry curly its not poo related

We've been invited to a wedding in May, and fingers crossed, all being well I'd be about 22 weeks by then. Was just wondering how big your bump is, as you're not far off time wise. I'm trying to work out if its noticeable by then, and what sort of clothes to wear, if I could get away with re-wearing an outfit or if I'd need a new dress. Appreciate everyone is different and tbh my clothes barely fit me now so I think I know the answer! Trying not spend too much as dh still hasn't got a job so trying to forward plan in case I'll need something new and could maybe get a bargain on ebay if I start looking now. Know its really trivial, sorry.

Thanks

Moon I'd imagine by then you'd definitely need maternity clothes although you might get away with an empire line dress. Do you have a Next clearance near you? I got loads of cheap maternity clothes from there when pregnant with DD1, some too were as cheap as £1!
Their black stretchy wide leg trousers at around £20 were amazingly comfy and I wore mine for ages around the house after DD was born. They had a big fold over panel at the waist that was really supportive and were great for work but also dressy enough for a night out. My sil had to literally have hers wrestled from her hands after her baby was about 5 months.
H&M can be good for reasonably priced clothes that "grow" too.

I meant some tops. This app drives me crazy!

moonmrs the answer is that it depends. Everyone carries differently - for me with dd2, I didn't even tell anyone at work until I was 20 weeks, so it really wasn't that obvious and we went on holiday when I was pregnant with DD1 at over 20 weeks and was only noticeable with a swimsuit on.. However as you say, you sound different. I got away with buying very few maternity clothes, getting some just a couple of sizes bigger from shops like peacocks, before getting into ebay maternity gear at the end.

I do have a very lovely jojomaman pink linen dress that I bought at an NCT sale and never wore ( it still has the label on it). It's a size 14 I think and if you want it, it's yours. Would look nice with a cardigan and some beads.

It is so lovely to see you thinking of a pregnant future - it might be very nice to show off your bump by then, might it not, and so something a bit tight fitting might be in order?

curly I'm really sorry but I don't think I can take a poo thread again. As BB refused to go, I was on one for a couple of weeks - spending my nights discussing poo and days cleaning it.. However, life now is lovely - all poos go to pooland ( and if anyone is ever having problems, I recommend that youtube clip!). So, lets talk alcohol, plants, general rubbish but please pretty please, no more poo!!

HP world was great but the shop left a bad taste - £6 for a chocolate frog and that was about the cheapest thing there. DS got something and DD refused to waste her money - she is learning :)

I too back those trousers - I ended up with 2 pairs and wore them constantly. Really liked dressing them up with a long black top and beads - got very into beads when pregnant!!

Hi neeko are you on half term this week or was it last week?

Oh and forgot to mention, we didn't tell the dc's where they were going today and as all the signs just said warner brothers studio tour, they didn't notice anything until we drew up in the car park and said what are these Harry potter pictures for? We'd told them that we needed to stop for a wee :)

LBM at the price of a chocolate frog but v impressed with savvy DD1.

4ever Really pleased to hear you are still in touch with Mermaid. I miss her and feel connected since she shares a birthday with DD2. Please send her my love. Her DS must be getting big now.

lbm your dd sounds fab, saving her money

moon i think youll have a lovely wee bump by then, and agree, you should show it off. I got a few things from h&m and had hand me downs from my younger sister , if you dont want to buy maternity you could always buy a bigger size.

LBM think we had a few "I heart those trousers" posts when we were both pregnant Loving the element of surprise to your trip.

I miss mermaid toi, she sent me some fab info about dyslexia for ds1, as did neeko . Her ds is roughly a year older than ds1, so he will be 11 now, 12 this year and so must be in highschool

Hello rumours. Are you in your Jammies yet?

High-school? No! I still think of him as a wee boy, not one of the big lumps of hormones I teach!

Not yet neeko, but they look so nice bright and comfy i may just have too

Get them on. I'm in mine. We could have a pj party

Oh and LBM I had half term last week so it's nose to the grindstone again.

Curly what distinguishes between a mum poo and a dad one?

Please come and talk to me and save me from marking.

Im trying to get my pjs on, i cant mumsnet and do that