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North! What are you doing? Going home is one thing. A 6 hour journey home is another (3hour journey being half way?). After a lap and dye I was sofa bound for 2 days. I tried to drive on day 3 and, while I got home, had 2 near misses and amnesia for the rest of the journey.

You cannot play at being jolly for 12 hours.

Do I have to come there and book you into a hotel myself?

Home is too far. The parentals/in laws is not going to do. Book a hotel. Stay there. Do not move. Except to use the remote. Then back to the hospital for a 4 week sick note. THEN you may consider getting the train any distance home.

No discussions.

My family have no idea what's happening. I have no intention of sharing. There is no way on gods earth I would be playing happy families after everything you've had in the last 48 hours.

Be kind to yourself, eh?

Sink speaks wisely but I suspect it's too late. You've been through such a big trauma, either be honest or lie, but get yourself home in the morning.

It's amazing how good an actor one can be when secretly you're hoping someone will say, that's clearly not what you want or need, now stay put and I'll make everything ok.

Shit, wrong thread! Sorry....

North I will be fast behind Sinky at this rate. You need to rest and be looked after

It's a roller coaster this game isn't it? And telling / not telling people. I'm so utterly transparent & can't keep anything to myself so am quite happy to tell whoever will listen. I told my mum a while ago but we don't 'talk' about it IYSWIM.

In other news we've bought a puppy

Right norf, if you are there, stay there. You have just had significant surgery. You will state you are unwell tonight and crawl into bed and stay there tomorrow. They rarely give sick notes for more than a week but you should get one from you GP to cover the following three. No doctor will expect you to work in these circumstances - its not just the physical impact of course. It is imperative that you rest. Telling family is another issue but honestly? I think you'd benefit from the support right now. I luff you and am only being firm because AMNH wasn't! :) I hope you get some rest.

Batman was alright but not as good as the last one. Honestly? It could have been so much better.

Awesome news about the puppy jethro!

Hope you had a nice evening, faith, despite batman not living up to his reputation. Better superheroes on the BESH fred by the sounds of it!

norf I agree with everyone else. Stay put, in bed, propped up on pillows and eating maltesers. I know what you mean abou not telling people. Mine was 2 weeks before spending christmas with GFBW's family, and I just couldn't bear to tell them, especially when SIL announced her diffment. I just hid my snivels behind having a cold. That said, my own family were brilliant when I told them - better than I'd expected - and don't bring it up now unless I do.

Hello old BESH! I recognise some of you from my lurking days. Luffly news about the puppy!

Last night was dreadful. Could barely speak for pain and tiredness and misery. AMNH had to tell his parents, who were very sweet.

I feel better this morning after a big sleep. Still in pain, but nowhere near as bad as last night. I think I might be able to do this, just. But I also think I might try to talk to my MIL this morning and see what she thinks.

That's just it, sink. I really want someone to take over and tell me what's best for me. I don't think I'm making very good decisions. Last night I lowered myself into bed, tried and failed to roll over, and lay rigid with pain for 20 minutes, occasionally muttering fuck and gasping for air. AMNH just sort of hovered, occasionally saying he was wondering whether he should take me straight to the nearest hospital, but then sort of looking at me to tell him whether or not that was a good idea! Gah.

I'm sorry for going on about myself and my problems so much over the last couple of days. You really have all been amazing as lovely support and entertainment and comfort. Hopefully it will all be over soon and we can go back to feeling each other's buzzwams.

Morning all. Norf - stop apologising! You have needed us and we wouldn't want it any other way! Sorry to hear you suffered so much last night - possibly due to physical exertion of leaving/train journey. I'm glad to hear you got some sleep and feel a bit better. Take it easy today. I would say to AMNH words to the effect of I know I am usually a strong, independent woman but right now I need you to take control and make decisions to help me. You have my permission Personally today I'd pop down at lunch, say hi, eat a bit but say you're 'under the weather' and retire to my boudoir to watch crap tv or films of your choice.

Fank you nurse faify.

And how are you feeling today?

I got more sleep last night so a bit better. Rather sniffly since I had to stop taking the antihistamines! We're awake early cos we set alarms because MSB's colleague - you know the one who stayed with us - wants sure he'd be able to make it into work and MSB might have to cover. So we're in bed having a Cuppa and some biscuits. :)

Morning. Norf, hope you're still in bed surrounded by all the toast you could wish for. Take regular painkillers, even if you don't think you need them at the time.

Little used fact, the hossy can give you as long as needed for post op recovery. So an ingrown toenail (or something) a day (and advice t wear comfy sandals), a major op, as many weeks as recovery would be expected. The argument being that a GP my not know what a reasonable recover period is.

Have I ever told you guys about my return from hossy after lap/dye/drilling? Desperate to go, but retention- totally unable to pee. I maintain if thy just gave me some bloody iv fluids I'd have been fine. Instead I had to drink 4 jugs (which are somewhere over a litre a piece). Managed to pee a thimbleful of smurf wee then demanded discharge. Made it the 1.5miles home in car feeling more and more queasy, only to vomit out of the car door onto my driveway. The volume and the fact my neighbours saw still makes me shudder.

Oh dear, poor sinky! Though I must confess I am sniggering a bit at the image of you projectile vomiting like a big welcome home fanfare out of the car :o

I had the same wee problem after my drilling! I think I was just so dehydrated that there was nothing to come out.

MIL has brought me tea in bed - she is quite lovely. Going to have my first shower for days in a minute - hurrah!!

Glad you are feeling a tad better Norf and that MIL is looking after you. Could she tell AMNH that he needs to step up and be alpha male for a little while?
Agree with Faithy, we are here to support each other, it's what we do. You guys are certainly my support network. My parents know we are TTC (told them when I had to have my op) but they don't quiz me over it, just the occasional "are you ok?". My BF knows and she's a star, but we're in a slightly funny place at the moment - she doesn't want to upset me by "rubbing her pregnancy" in my face (her words) and one work colleague knows because she caught me sobbing in the office about 18 months ago. She is lovely but every now and then rolls out "you must try to relax" which makes me feel stabby!
The point of all that is that here is where I come to let off steam/wail/laugh about the general unfairness of all our situations. We are all in similar boats and I am adamant that only other women who are going through TTC problems can possibly understand what we are all going through.

Here, frankie, give us a snog :)

Shower was ouchy but bearable. It's nice to feel clean.

I'm glad she's looking after you. I found its not necessary to explain things in much detail but just to give an overview so people realise. I told my sister when I came off the pill but only told my Dad when we were about 18 months in and having investigations. He says this week that he had been praying for us and waited to hear news bless him. You need the RL support of people you love right now. I'm glad you told MIL to be so she can provide practical support this weekend.

The 'relax' chestnut still makes my blood boil Franks!

What is drilling please?

True Cavey true - they can only really empathise and understand if they have been through it too, even if they love you completely and sympathise. My sis said this yesterday when I finally came clean after over two years about the extent of our difficulties - that she could in no way know what it was like hugging a nephew when it seems you can't have a child of your own, but she's glad I told her. Made me sob! They know we've been thinking about babies of course. As for the in-laws, that's up to him. As making babies involves Aktchool Sechs, he probably won't.

North, I echo what the others have said. Your chap sounds like mine - you want to shake them and shout "Look after me properly, you wanker!" Stay where you are, rest, drink tea and eat toast. Tis a horrid thought of you being in all that pain last night, but glad you are feeling a little better. Keep snacking on the painkillers even if you don't think you are in pain.

As for the praying thing, I have a lovely lovely friend who has faith. Even though I don't believe myself, I find it an enormous comfort that she's praying for me :)

Yeah, fuck off with your relaxation, you clueless lucksters!

Back to Batman - I wasn't that taken with it either, fifi. It was about a third too long and quite bangy and boring.

My mother came perilously close to saying "relax and it'll happen" the other day. You know those people who say brightly "you never know, once you stop trying and give up it'll probably happen! I've known at least five couples!" blah blah blah as though they are the first person in the world to think of saying it.

Exactly, rierie! It sort of ruins the point of needing them to take charge, if you have to take charge to get them to do it.

This is the problem with tending to be the driving force in the relationship...

let's not mention then that that is essentially what happened to us after treatment!

rie Tis so luffly to have you and your wit around again!

I think the crucial thing I that sentence though is "after treatment". If you had just sat around relaxing for years you might never have got anywhere. It's only because you pursued and investigated and treated that you were in the right place for that relaxed moment. I reckon, anyway.

Thank you Faithy To be honest, I don't think I will ever write anything as funny as "Fuck of with your relaxation, you clueless lucksters."

sinking well done on the disease-free innards. Your poor boy! Did he shove the leaflet under his t-shirt or something?

Enjoy hols Dor

Norf with hospital food like that, I am not surprised you pushed for discharge! Can you just say you are feeling ill and go for a little lie down if you don't want them to know what the problem is? FWIW, I'm with Rie on telling people. I've had a largely good result from it. Whatever you decide, look after yourself. You have just had surgery woman, be careful!

Happy Burfday faif!

My appointment yesterday was fine. He fairly strongly recommended lletz there and then but accepted that I wasn't doing anything risky by seeing if it clears up by itself. I was quite surprised how strongly he pushed it given the statistics show that a mild abnormality has a teeny tiny chance of turning into cancer. Anyway, I suggested that he do the colposcopy (last time he couldn't see the area where abnormalities usually reside because the IVF drugs had made it disappear) and if he saw anything he felt the need to biopsy he could, and if he saw anything that concerned him and he felt went beyond a mild abnormality, we could revisit the question of lletz. So he repeated the colposcopy and... the area where abnormalities usually reside was still hiding! He said it could be an after effect of the drugs but that some women are just like that. But all of the area he could see looked perfectly healthy (again) so after that, he was quite happy for me to leave it for 3 months. So I am quite happy with how it went. I got the outcome I wanted. But I am a bit unsettled by how strongly he was pushing treatment. He is an oncologist, so I am wondering if he is a bit like my paediatrician friend who is massively anti homebirth because she only ever sees the results of ones that go wrong with the babies being bluelighted in, and he sees the people who have cervical cancer and all the effects that it has and so wants to be massively conservative about treatment. Anyway, I will now see him again in Feb, and have my work medical (with smear) next month and my NHS smear in December, so I can keep a close eye on it every 3 months.

I went out for a friend's 50th (!) birthday dinner last night. This morning I am rolling around holding my tummy and saying Too. Much. Food. It was bloody good but there was a hell of a lot of it!