TTC after recent MC

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Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

baby I'm so sorry you are going through this again

How u feeling today baby? We're here for u if you need us

Peanut I love dps!! I'm 9dpo today. Last time I tested on day af was due and got a very faint line. I was planning to wait a bit longer this time but don't think I can hold out! This is my first cycle after mc so I'm not even exactly sure when af due but I think I ovd on cd 18.
Anyone else planning on poas sometime soon?

Baby I hope you're not feeling too bad. Sorry about all the questions last post I was just thinking out loud, it was insensitive of me. Big hugs. I'm sure you'll get your sticky bean soon x

Hi ladies, may I join you? I'm sorry so many people are going through this awful thing :(

I just had a D&C last Friday at 7+1. This would have been my first baby and my first MC but I knew something wasn't right from the beginning. I didn't get my BFP until quite late (at 18dpo), my lines were always very faint and when I took a CBD it kept showing 2-3 weeks when I should have been over 3 weeks. Where I live, if you're privately insured they start giving you scans right away so I had 5 in total. Although my HCG levels seemed to be rising correctly, everything was a little slower than expected. At my 5 weeks scan we couldn't see a GS until 5+5 and at the next two scans, while the GS was growing normally, there was nothing found in the sac. I didn't have any bleeding or cramping but once the GS reached 1.5 cm (at 7 weeks) the doctor sent me in for a D&C.

It has been 4 days now and the bleeding started out very light as just a bit of spotting but has picked up quite a bit and now it's as heavy as a normal period. Has any one else had a D&C, is this normal?

I wanted to add something about having early scans as I had so many. I'm in two minds about it as I think they often cause unnecessary worry but on the other hand, the one thing that would have been worse than having a miscarriage at 7 weeks would have been having it later. I think the longer the pregnancy goes on, the more time you have to bond and become attached. I can only imagine how hard it would be to miscarry at 12 weeks or later. That is one reason I'm glad we did catch it early.

I am going to try to wait until next cycle to start TTC again. I don't really want to but I'm scared of MC again because my body isn't ready yet. That's what the dr. says anyway and there seems to be some truth in it. That said, it took us a year to conceive this one so I doubt we will conceive that easily again so I think rather than TTC with temping and opks I think we'll just go with how we feel and not use protection. Easier said than done of course, I'm still at the heavy bleeding stage so even the thought of DTD right now is making me shudder.

Hi everyone

babyjames I am so sorry to hear your news. I know how hard it is for it to happen so soon after another mc. I hope you have lots of support in RL.

I think I'm going to give fertility friend a go almond

woollywomble I am going to try and not get excited before the 12 week scan next time but I think it's going to be impossible.

lol how's the detox going? I've managed not to drink any diet coke since I gave it up last week!

Hello mrsmedusa I'm sorry that you've had to join us but this is a really nice and supportive thread. I am really sorry about what you've been through. I hope you are getting lots of support in RL. I haven't had a D&C before so I can't help there. I know what you mean about early scans - I had to have some in my first pg (before it ended in mc). DH and I don't think that we'd have early scans in another pg and just assume that everything is fine, unless I started bleeding heavily. They only really give you momentary reassurance - I had one in my first pg which showed heartbeat etc but then started mc the next day. I think in terms of ttc again, you just have to do what feels right. I was absolutely desperate to get pg again but then when I did, it ended in another mc. I think if I have another mc, I will probably give my body a couple of months off. I've started seeing a homeopath and an acupuncturist since my most recent mc and they both wanted me to wait 3 months before ttc again. I'm not going to though.

Saw some of my close friends who have very young children at the weekend - I love seeing them but it reminds me how much I want to be a mum.

Ok a few questions from me - did anyone ov earlier than normal after an early mc? I got a smiley yesterday on my CB ov sticks but that was only CD10. I think that means my 2 ww starts today!

Hi Medusa so sorry you find yourself with us, but welcome nonetheless! It's a good place to come and vent, especially when people in RL just don't get it. I didn't have a D&C but I'm sure there are others in the know. Hope you're not feeling too awful and that the bleeding doesn't last too long x

Baby I hope you're as ok as you can be. Been thinking of you xx

Betty by my rudimentary calculations I will next be 14dps(ha!) on Saturday, so planning to have a ceremonial poas then. I have my fx but have got used to not feeling too hopeful!

lol everything I had yesterday was just juice, how do you mean sieving the apples and spinach? I had a smoothie this morning though, apple, carrot, avocado, mango, yoghurt and flaxseed. Nom.

scared mmm peanut butter smoothies are amazing. Not sure how well it'd go with cheesy wotsits mind...

Hi mrsmedusa really sorry you are here but welcome to the thread. You sound quite strong. I remember googling slow growth and mc and you are much more likely to mc if the growth is slow. Hope you get a BFP again quickly.

Morning all and hello to Medusa. I didn't have D&C either so can't help there I'm afraid. Know what you and Woody mean about early scans, it really is just a snapshot and not really an indication of future success, but at the same time I just need to know what's going on. I saw a heartbeat at 7.5wks but when I went back at 11 wks the sonographer said that growth had stopped about two wks before, and I kind of wish I had known earlier rather than getting ever closer to the 12wk mark.

Anyway, thought I was doing ok yesterday until one of the Mums at school announced her pregnancy, due around a similar time, and it was like being physically punched. The thought of being faced with a daily reminder of what we've lost is really hard and all seems rather unbearable today.

Baby am so sorry to hear your news. Thinking of you. xxxx

woolly I know exactly what you mean. Friends of ours announced their pregnancy this weekend as well and it really was like a punch in the stomach. Can every one else just stop having babies until we have ours please?

Welcome Medusa also sorry you are here but fingers crossed for you for the near future. I'm undecided about the waiting thing. You hear of many people who catch very soon after and I'm not sure I could have waited, just in case I was one of them. However, looking back I don't think my body was quite right for my first two periods. They were still very bitty and heavy. I feel a bit more positive about this month (cycle 3), but it could just be in my head.

I know what you mean about scans. In my case, I miscarried days after seeing a heartbeat and being told everything was fine. I was so reassured that I didn't realise I was miscarrying until it was patently obvious, and that was quite shocking as I had decided everything was fine despite my bleeding. At the same time, it must be so awful to have a mcc at 11weeks where the baby has died at 5 weeks or something. In that case, I'd wish I'd had a scan.

Woody did your acupuncturist/homeopath give you a reason why you had to wait? xx

Peanut I love dps!! I'm 9dpo today. Last time I tested on day af was due and got a very faint line. I was planning to wait a bit longer this time but don't think I can hold out! This is my first cycle after mc so I'm not even exactly sure when af due but I think I ovd on cd 18.
Anyone else planning on poas sometime soon?

Baby I hope you're not feeling too bad. Sorry about all the questions last post I was just thinking out loud, it was insensitive of me. Big hugs. I'm sure you'll get your sticky bean soon x

Baby I'm so so sorry to hear your news. Big hugs this end x

woolly, medusa, woody, totally understand. I felt like an utter cow visiting my friend on Sunday, hardly heard a word she said because I was focussing on quashing the green-eyed monster - and I'm genuinely pleased for her, she's one of my best friends, but couldn't get past her massive bump at all. Cried all the way home, and then felt like a loony for doing so!

As far as the scans go, we had a dating scan making us 8 weeks on the dot, everything seemed happy and healthy. When I miscarried at 10 weeks we found out the baby had stopped growing at 8+2. So they're worth very little as far as reassurance goes because the minute the scan is over, you're back to not knowing. That said, I'd still go for an early scan next time - not quite sure what my logic is really though. Maybe just to make sure something is actually in there, given the total lack of pg symptoms last time.

medusa incidentally, I did a lot of research before deciding to try again before first AF because I'm a total geek. There is no evidence that trying again immediately is linked to increased adverse outcome after a miscarriage, unless the mother hasn't been taking folic acid for at least 3 months. Doctors usually recommend you wait because it's then easier to date the pregnancy from your last period rather than send you for a scan. I think it's probably down to personal preference. I couldn't have waited, I'm desperate to get pregnant again - it would appear these ovaries of mine weren't in on that particular conversation however !

Hi all. Thanks for all your well wishes. I'm feeling very low at the moment. Can't believe this is all happening again :( I have an appointment with my Doctor tomorrow so will have to make a list of things to ask I guess. I wasn't dating as far as last time as the clear blue digital said 1-2 weeks on Friday then negative Monday :( . Having cramps now as some brown tinged cm this morning so waiting for the bleeding to start again. Sorry for the "all about me post" can't seem to take anything else in at the moment. Feel sick to my stomach.

Get lots of rest baby. I hope you have someone there to make you cuppas and give you a hug. A lot of my friends have had more than one mc and gone on to have healthy pg. I know that doesn't make you feel any better right now but with time things will get easier less difficult. X

Peanut I'll be 14dps on Sunday but wad going to wait til 10th and test with Almond. Do I have the willpower? I want to test now! Tbh I am desperate for my bfp but am a bit scared of how I'll feel when I get it.

Welcome Medusa. Sorry for your loss. I've found this thread so helpful since I joined. It's reassuring to know I'm not alone.

ah well then betty I may as well wait and test with you guys - I'm fairly sure I know the outcome anyway but at least whatever happens I'll have someone to celebrate/commiserate with! Besides which that'll then be 14+dp several shags haha so my odds will be up, and it'll make me cut back on my practically 40-a-day POAS habit

Let's see if the three of us can last that long!

I was told by the doc to wait two cycles but have obviously taken no notice. (I live in Spain so things are a little different over her). The first scan, unless you go private, is around 12 week but if you go into A&E with cramps and/or bleeding they do an internal scan.

Welcome medusa, sorry for your loss. I had an erpc after my mmc. Like you I had very little bleeding for first 5 days and then it kicked in. It lasted quite a while and I'm not telling you how long as I don't want to freak you out. I'm sure I wasn't the typical case.

Baby sorry that you are feeling so low but that is only to be expected. As others have said take it easy and give yourself time to come to terms with it all.

Totally agree with you ladies (woolly, medusa, woody, peanut) on how hard it is hearing of another pg. when my sil told me her news all I wanted to do was cry.

Wow lol and peanut I'm well impressed with operation detox. But don't think I could hack it.

I'm loving new lingo peanut dps!!!!

Posy that was awful having your scan and everything was ok and then mc after it. Really a scan is a snapshot of that moment and gives no guarantees all it proves is that ou don't have a mmc.

I think I should test on 10th if af hasn't shown up but I could cave in at weekend. So I'll be joining you Betty peanut and almond.

Hi Girls,

I am at home today feeling like sh*t! I get migraines and had some hard core tablets to stop them so they rarely made me bed bound but I have had to stop taking them whilst TTC/Pg and now I am really suffering! Trying to distract myself coming on here!

Sounds like there will be a few of us poas at the same time! I am on DPO7 and desperate to try but going to do my best to hold out. I have the day off on Monday so was thinking maybe to do it then instead of Wednesday but don't want the disappointment!! What do you guys think Munchin, Betty and Peanut? What DPO/DPS/CD are you guys on?

My detox went really well (2 days) then I had a chocolate biscuit this morning as all I could face eating with this headache and I also havent been to netball training for 3 weeks....doh!

Just wondering if anyone can help me with this (TMI alert) I've had on and off pink/brown CM over the last three weeks, sort of creamy rather than EWCM. At first I thought AF was finally on her way, but it doesn't seem to develop into anything and comes and goes. Then I wondered if it was implantation spotting but test was neg last week and it's been going on for ages. Any thoughts from anyone - is this normal? No other symptoms of anything, it's not thrush, I'm just a bit bemused!

Aw poor you Almond, can't blame you for having a biscuit! Hope I'm trying to stick with it but have to admit having more fruit than veg in my juices :-/ Mind you, last night had kale, spinach, broccoli, watercress and apple juice. Nearly yakked into the sink haha! I've been a lazybones as well, not been to derby practice since before I got pregnant, but that's because I'm constantly worried I'm pg so don't want to fall off my skates.

I'm CD65 or so now, 11dps...am trying to curb my testing habit, especially as DH has got a bit annoyed with the amount of HPTs he finds in the bin! I'm really not hopeful, especially with this weird spotting going on. Ah well... I think you could test on the Monday, 2 days early should pick up, especially on a first response test. But I'll wait with you if you decide to stick to Weds! xxx

Sorry Medusa, I remember you from the other thread. My doc just said to get on with it, no need to wait, I guess it's because mine was so early.

Poor you Almond, I get one or two migraines a year and that is more than enough for me, they are awful. You are doing the right thing by not taking the tablets though.

Peanut I'm afraid I can't help you with your cm question. I hope it's implantation bleeding. I can't believe your cycle has been so long. You must be going crazy!

Welcome to our little poas gang Munchin!
I am 10dpo today. I am more than happy to be talked into doing a test earlier rather than later. I'll test the same day as everyone else. I will have to try really hard not to test at the weekend!
Is anybody else having any pg symptoms. I feel exhausted today (but do have a dd who keeps we awake most nights) and am also quite bloated today, I hope it's not af coming.
I'm getting myself too worked up. I have to stop thinking about poas ALL the time!

Are you girls alright doing the detox if you are pg? Make sure you check about it just in case as you should be getting plenty of everything, including calories - yey! I am hungry all the time at the moment. I loved being able to eat all the time, when I wasn't throwing up, when I was pg with dd!!

almond sorry to hear you have a migraine and I suppose paracetamol wouldn't do much for you?

peanut I'm sorry can't offer any useful insights into cm other than my wtf cycle lasted 103 days so absolutely anything goes. I really hope it was implantation bleed. I was yaking at thought of your last smoothie. Yuck!!!!!

betty thanks. I don't know exactly where I am but guess I am 10dp smiley. We only dtd the day before smiley so I don't even know if I should even be gearing up to poas as it would be a long shot. I'll be 14 dp smiley on Sunday and cd 26. So I suppose I could test on Sunday????

Had +opk about 6 days ago on day 18 of my cycle, which is late ov for me. Today am having cramps, but no bleeding. Is it possible this could be implantation cramps? And if I have a regular 28 day cycle, is the luteal phase long enough for bean to implant properly? Also needing to wee a lot today but if it's only implanting now then that can't be a real symptom, because you don't start secreting pg hormones until after implantation. This is doing my head in! I'm paranoid about every little cramp!

Munchin - 10dp might be enough to give a BFP on a sensitive test! I generally start getting + about 7/8dpo... And apparently dtd before smiley is the right time to di it - we dtd from day 8 to day 21 as i never usually get + on opk

baby - I'm sorry xxx Everything crossed for a sticky one soon