TTC after recent MC

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Here we go everyone - a place for the recent MCers to chat and share all our NOT waiting stories!

Dasch I'm about the same as you - DPO7. I've had cramps too with no spotting. I've kind of been hoping the same but trying not to get my hopes up too much!! When u poas?

Migraine finally seems to be subsiding after 48 hours! Bit worried how I'm going to cope through pregnancy as paracetamol doesn't touch it! DH suggested hypnotherapy so might give that a go!

Finding the 2ww very slow! Want to poas now!

Hey missmedussa just thought I'd say I had a d&c at 10 weeks in may baby stopped growing weeks before and I didn't bleed at all after but 4 weeks later my first period was agony so keep an eye on when your. Due and keep pain killers hot water bottles and lots and lots of chocolate handy lol

Speaking. Of chocolate I needed lots today girls I feel so down about it all! I'm 5 weeks now but just can't be excited as I need the 12 week scan and tim reassurance that everything is ok first! I feel really selfish moaning about it as s know so many of you wanted a bfp but I. Wanted to wait and got one anyway, really want it to work out so bad I'll fall apart if it doesn't, I am just not strong enough to deal with another mc :-(

Scared I know it's really frightening but just try and think positive. You get pg again straight away which is brilliant. I'm a great believer that your body and mind are linked so the more positive vibes you can give it the better. Maybe some hypnotherapy would be good? I've tried it for anxiety in the past and would recommend it.

Betty, Munchin and Peanut I told DH yesterday about poas and we agreed Sunday! You guys in? My AF is due next Wed so hoping with a FRER that isn't too early for me but I have about 40 tests prepared for my poas frenzy!!!

Morning all!

Woke up in the mother of all bad moods this morning. I'm really struggling with this wtf cycle, over 2 months now and it's getting me down. I've told a couple of friends in rl how I'm feeling and got the 'well what do you expect, your body has to go back to normal, stop stressing because it won't help' response. Dh was great in the early days after the mc but he just doesn't seem to understand how upset am by my stupid body still not working. I'm even jealous of all you guys getting smileys and knowing your dpo! It's making me so miserable. I've wanted kids for years, took forever before dh felt ready, and now i feel like its been put on indefinite hold. I cant even really be bothered dtd because I can't see the point, there's nothing to bloody well fertilise! I know there's nothing can be done about it, just wanted to let off steam I guess.

Phew. Rant over.

I'll join you on Sunday almond et al, but I already know the answer

Sorry for the grumpy post.

Almond I find it hard to believe this as last time every bit of my body was positive as I really thought that it was my time and it all fell apart and I was very positive and done everything right so I'm I'm struggling to believe there is anything you can do to make it ok its just sou luck and a waiting game!

Almond I'm in for Sunday. So much for waiting til 10th!! I am so easily influenced! I bet I won't sleep at all on Saturday night (not that I usually get much sleep anyway with dd!)

I think it's getting to all of us today. I've just stuffed my face with chocolate and feel totally sick now. I'm kidding myself that it's because I'm pg!

Scared I'm sorry that you're finding this pg so difficult. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do. Let's hope that time flies and we're all here at Christmas time with our little bumps talking about what 2013 is about to bring us.

Peanut maybe you should go on a date with dh and try to just enjoy spending a bit of time with him. It's crap when dtd is purely for ttc. My dh is sick of me obsessing over getting pg, he's not even sure he's ready for dc2 but I'm the one that does all the work anyway so tough!

I'm sending happy thoughts out to you all, and some back to myself as I need them too today. Roll on Sunday.

Dach I ovd on cd18 too this month after my mc. I had a few cramps around 7dpo but not much. Fx for you x

hi all - have been away on holiday for a week and returning shortly... ready to poas. Anyone else planning to poas? I did a ridiculously early test on 7 dpi which was BFN but no surprise - duh. Am now holding out til next week.

Sorry to hear about some of the losses on here -thinking of you babyjames... I had two mcs right in a row and really feel for you. It's just really bad luck, but it can't last forever. Hoping that things will work out for next month.

Thanks betty I hope so for all of us! It so unfair that we can't just be I!happy about being pregnant like other women makes me feel like a proper idiot!

I agree peanut get yourself on a date night were having one tonight to try and relay and chill out a bit :-)

Hi everyone. Just checking in - am still in the WTF cycle (mentally logs useful new expression) and keep thinking AF is coming then nothing. Think I will feel more positive when it's the start of a new cycle, but know I may have a while yet to wait. Trying to plan in some positive things to look forward to, my mum came to stay this week so DH and I got a rare night out, and my parents have offered us a whole weekend of babysitting as our joint birthday presents so we can go off for a romantic weekend
Fx for those of you POAS this weekend....

Nice messtins sounds lovely enjoy your romantic weekend x

Ok Betty almond peanut, if AF is a no show ill poas on Sunday. So be prepared for the fallout if its a bfn. Some serious hand holding will be needed. Suzy you may join us too as you defo poas too early.

Peanut I feel your frustration. You just want your body back to normal. And those comments are enough to send you over the edge. I was and am still that girl. Hang in there.

Messtins that's the only way through to plan lots of treats. Fair play to your parents.

Scared you are going through what we all will go through if we get our Bfps's. I suppose you have to stick by the mantra I so often read on mn today you are pg!!!!

Totally imagining sore boobs and nausea today. Amazing how mind can play tricks on you.

Oh so we'll have a group poas on Sunday then? How exciting! I'll be watching and holding Pom poms in waiting!
Cd11 for me and still too early for ov. Nothing on opk either. Think ill ov around cd18 or even 20 so have first shag planned for sun at the in laws

Aaah messtins that's nice, hope you have a lovely weekend! Where are you going?

Betty we do try to have date night at least once a week, we both work shifts/odd hours so it's hard sometimes but in fairness he's (usually) a fantastic DH and does his best to get the romance going. It's more just my mentality I think, I'm feeling pretty depressed and I'm stressed at work/uni as well so that's not helping! I've taken a leaf out of woody's book though and got in touch with an acupuncturist, apparently it can help give AF a kick up the bum (that's not quite how she put it) so going to book an appointment, booking myself a massage as well. Going to have a bit of me time next week after working the weekend from hell!

scared can't blame you for feeling this way. All I can think about at the moment is getting pg again, but I know once I do I'll be an absolute wreck - I was anyway this time, even before we knew anything was wrong. Not too long until second trimester and then you can breathe a little bit easier.

munchin it's a date! I'm on a long shift on Sunday but will attempt to poas early morning or late evening, will catch up with you all at some point though! FX for everyone. Sticks at the ready!

Thanks guys for your kind words I feel Terrible moaning about being something you'd all love to be but I done that bit after my first mc so know how you all feel but then I lost that too so hard to explain now I can't even be excited, you think it must be your break this time then its not I'm stupid coz I knew I warn.t ready so should have been more carefull we both want this baby so much my head is in the shed I can't concerntrate at all it doesn't help that my next door neighbors and friends are pregnant with there first baby no mc,s coming up to their 20 week scan I was so jealous before pregnant but now even more so I wanna be coming up to my 20 scan can relax a bit then sorry about selfish posts today don't even wanna go out tonight now just wanna sit on sofa and eat chocolate the dh2b is losing his patience he don't know what to say anymore I just can.x seem to snap out of it x

I think this is the place to moan, so moan away peeps and we'll all send each other some virtual hugs.

Goos for you Mess and Peanut. I live away (abroad) from all my family so am doing it all on my own. Dh is supportive in his own way but I rarely get any me time and we only get to go out for dinner twice a year when my mam visits and looks after dd. (I hate my ils and don't trust them with her. Anyway moan over!

I can hardly contain myself thinking about poas on Sunday. I have felt so sick all day but it's maybe even too early for ms.

I am stressing...so I went to the physio today about my mega migraine and he did some acupuncture on it. He said there is a small risk in pregnancy but it was very minimal and as I may/may not be pregnant he said to try it to help me through the headaches! Anyway...had a bit of spotting today and my irrational mind is saying it is the acupuncture. It is only a smear on 1 wipe and a bit in my knickers but worrying now! Or could it be implantation bleeding? I am CPO8/CD25 and dont remember having implantation bleeding last time...

Girls keeping checked in and will look forward to Sunday!!
Almond I have had implantation before, it is plausible at 8dpo, fx
Scared, you really do need to try and pull yourself up abit, I don't say this nastily or lightly but I have had 2 mc, one in may and another last month ( so its very raw to me aswell) as have quite a few girls on here but although scared you have to be positive about this!! You are acting like you have already been condemned to another mc and I know why you might fear that but really if that happens there is nothing you can do about it now, the chance of it happening 3 times in a row would be very slim and if it did you would be entitled to tests to see if there was a problem but like I said its a small chance and much higher odds of a healthy pregnancy, you can spend the first trimester worrying it away but I can't imagine it's making you happy, please try and look on the positive, right now you are pregnant and it's going well, if you need to cross a bridge wait till you get there, your road my not lead you to one x

almond the lady I was talking to today said acupuncture is totally safe in pg, because I was asking if she ever used it to encourage early pregnancy and she said yes and that she uses it for morning sickness with some ladies too. So I don't think you need to worry that it was the acupuncture. Hopefully implantation bleed - it could be a good thing! FX for you that it is xxx

Thanks for the reassurance Peanut. But I have had more today so wonder if AF is on her way . Just bought loads of pg tests for Sun too!!

On the positive we got the house today!!

Ah almond sorry if it is AF. But hey your ready and armed for next month. And huge congrats on house also. I'm not that confident about Sunday myself as have AF type cramps at mo. but sure what will be will be.

Oh no almond are u sure its af? Exciting news on the house!
I'm off to the in laws for the wkd and will need to squeeze in a shag on sun!

Congrats on the house Almond. I hope it's not af.
Hope you manage to dtd on Sun lol!
My cousin had a baby today and my grandad passed away early this morning so very emotional day today. Too much stuff going on these last few months!

Congrats on the house almond and fx it's not af, my implantation bleed lasted two days or half of one the start of the next so it isn't always just a few spots!
That's must have been a draining day Betty such sad and happy news in one day

Congrats on the house Almond.

Betty hope you are ok, lots of difficult news to deal with today.

Scared, if I get a BFP I will be just the same, and I don't believe positive thinking makes a jot of difference. Some people are optimists and it's all ok until proven otherwise, since my first MC I've been v pessimistic about each pregnancy and in a way I think I've dealt with the recent loss much better because of that, I hadn't planned the future in glorious technicolor, so I had fewer lost dreams to grieve for. You deal with it whichever way helps you get through. We will all Fx for sticky beans for each other, but really it will either be ok or not and I don't think we can have much influence on the outcome.