TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Love and luck to all who need it, x

I am doing as she says....... DH and I talked about it and decided it was for the best. I may try and even get referred to her clinic. One woman asked and was told the wait would be about 6mths. Mind you she came from Hertfordshire. I am only about 3 miles away. Who do you reckon I should ask. My GP or the consultant at my clinic. I really don't want to piss him off though.

Hi Oinker I would probably ask your gp to refer you then you won't pee them off like you say. I don't think there is anything wrong in getting the best possible care about if you can get. So I would say go for it and if its only 3 miles away I wouldn't have thought it would be too much trouble. Good luck with transfering.

www how are you and ds after the music group now? thats what we are here for rants too, doesn't it make you feel better when you get things off your chest though? I am too like you sometimes,I would rather remove the child in my care aware from the situation than confront the child and their mother. RE: jealousy well you know I think its normal, well I get it anyway. I am having difficulties at the moment relating with the step kids I look at them and get angry (not in front of them or toward them I must state clearly) I think why should I bother when I can't seem to carry my own. I sometimes just want to up and leave to another place to runaway from it all. Life is so so unfair and cruel at times. In fact re-reading this post I think I maybe should seek help, I have been given the grief councellors details on many occasions now and I never took her up on the offer maybe I should to get this out of my system as I can't seem to get past this point of anger and bitterness of why can't I.

How is everyone these days been a bit quiet hope you are all ok? xx

WWW - we all know kids like that where they are like that because the parents don't seem to care.
Oinker - you might not have to wait that long to see her if you're nearer to her. And what's 6 months in the grand scheme of things? I wish you the best possible luck. And I second Nikki - ask the GP, I dunno if your consultant could refer you to her but GP can.
Nikki - how are you love, you sound down. ((((((hugs))))))). You have my email address if you wanna talk and also you could try the grievance councellor.

thanks mygirl x

Nikki love, you have been thru so much, you are welcome. And I mean it, you can email any time. I can't promise an immediate resonse due to school runs but you know me, I'm never away from this computer!

thanks again, I have emailed you. x

FirstNikki - I am following you around! Hello to all - I am still miscarrying as it goes - waiting for the really nasty bit - but I have found the Mumsnet threads to be such a huge help and support to me that I thought why wait?? I have read the thread and you lot are fab!

I am 40 and mc at 10/11 wks. This is my first (hopefully only) "proper" mc and it is not easy, is it? My DH has been amazing and my 2 DS's (one big, one little) are fantastic and help me to get things in perspective. So just hello to everyone - and I plan to be here for a while as obviously not ttc for a couple of months at least...

riley3

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So sorry to hear of your loss. You have come to the right place. Everyone on here is fab and really supportive.

Just so's your aware it's normally very quiet on here over the weekend. We are not ignoring you.

Hi Riley glad you found us and again so to here of your loss, hopefully we can follow each other in the future to a Due in ??? thread.

Both of mine were natural ones, although the 2nd was going to be erpc but my body did the work the night before. It does take time but I suppose it is nice not to be intruded anymore and you can say goodbye in your own home. So please DH and DS's are helping you through this. The common recommendation is to give yourself time and if you want to cry then cry, shout then shout what ever it takes you can do it all on here too.

Take good care of yourself Riley x

Hi Riley, sorry to hear what you are going through but these ladies are great and can support and advice you. Welcme.

Riley hope you're doing ok this weekend :( And that everyone else is well.
The weirest thing happened to me yesterday
DP said I think you're pregnant.
He has said my boobs were larger and different looking, that I smelt different when he hugged me and that I was up about 4 x in the night peeing and just that I looked different.
It is 25 dys since I began my mc. I know I ov'd again on day 14, Consultant said (I saw him on day 14 as it happened) to lay off ttc for 3 mths.
WE had bd once about 2 days after bleeding stopped I guess (sorry if tmi)
the thereafter we've used condoms.
So I tested
BFP
Am stunned, scared beyond belief.
You're the only people I can talk to!!!!!!!!!

OMG CONGRATULATIONS
You must be soooooooo surprised.
I really hope this works out for you.

Have you been to the GP?

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That's such good news Piffle. I am very impressed with your dp's perception - maybe he should market himself as a human pregnancy tester.

Oh, Piffle!

congratulations!!!!!

You must take it easy, you need to take care of yourself - try not to worry, or stress out...this is lovely, happy news - think lovely, positive thoughts!

Here's to a healthy, stress-free pregancy!

Piffle - congrats. How surprising and for DH to notice too. Was it a sensitive test? Don't worry too much that the Dr said not to TTC for 3m, it'll be OK, you'll have no idea when you're due though?

Fantastic news Piffle!!

I read somewhere that women can be very fertile shortly after a mc so that may explain it !

Hang on in there, beanie.

Hi all, in a rush so will post later, welcome riley, again sorry for your loss, you will find a lovely bunch of supportive ladies here. Piffle congrats congrats!!!! see ya

Hi Ladies,

Firstly Piffle congratulations hun best of luck and take some well earnt rest and get checked into the drs. As already been said the 3 months thing is usually for dating the next pg and general well being.

How was everyones weekend? Mine was awful in the end, last weeks loss hit me like a bulldozer I knew something was brewing on Friday as also had like a pmt feeling and was tearful. DH can't understand why cos I was "fine" since it happened guess its just delayed reaction. Plus other things in my life are all happening at same time and guess I just crumbled. Not too bad today guess can only get better.

How is everyone? xx

Congratulations Piffle, that is great news! Nikki, I know what you mean, I felt just fine for a while and then really miserable again. I'm doing better now, but have a holiday and a visit from my mum and my sweet stepdaughters to look forward to in a couple of weeks, which will be great.

Have obstetrician appt this Friday, hoping so much a cause will be found for the m/c so I know...

Hi everyone,

Nikki, it's up and down all the time for me...yesterday I was fine, but have been sad today.... I suppose it'll just be like this for a while to come, we'd better just let our feelings progress naturally. Look after yourself.

thanks nicola and www

Nicola how lovely a holiday to look forward make the most of it and your stepdaughters. I have 2 young stepdaughters (I often refer to as skids for step kids) but just having trouble relating to them at the moment due to losses.

WWW hope you sad goes soon, don't take this the wrong way but when you hear others feeling the same it makes me feel a little more sane that I am not alone. (which I know I am not on here but it doesn't stop you getting that lonliness feeling) we are all in the same boat I know, it just hurts so much I spent pretty much my weekend in tears all day and night so now I am back to work I am totally exhausted to say the least. Checked to see if dh could get time off this wk for day together but he can't. never mind, may contemplate asking for a day of this week to recoup.

Love and hugs to those recovering xx

Piffle - when I had my miscarriage, I thought I'd conceived again the next month and I spoke to the lovely counsellor/nurse woman at our EPU. She said that there was no problem at all if it happened straight away, and all the studies seemed to say that there were no greater risks. It is just more convenient for them!

So good luck and I hope it all turns out OK with you

Thanks everyone I'm in total denail, the consultant thinks it may be retained products although I had a scan tv scan on the 2 march
So they want me back in if no bleeding in the next 3 weeks
Although I had some barely there spotting today so am sure if it is an actual pg it is going the same way as last month
I'm ok with it in a lot of ways, far more accepting that last time.
thanks for all the good wishes I'll sit tight and wait for the fat lady to sing though
You never know after all :)
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piffle - stay positive, there is no reason why this pregnancy, if it is a pregnancy can't work. I know lots of people who got pregnant as soon as you after a miscarriage and had successful pregnancies, so there is eveyr hope for you. bleeding doesn't mean you're losing again.

I can only echo whats been said on here Piffle keep positive. Can't the spotting be implantation at this stage Piffle? Hang in there x