TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Here's hoping for a shney new spring thread with lots of spring BFPs and some festive beanies so here's some sticky dust...
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Love and luck to all who need it, x

they seem to have calmed down, still taking c0-codamals though, dh said i have to stop taking to see how bad i am. so at the moment just ploding away

LittlePolly i agree with rubles, and go ahead give it to us thats what we are all here for

thinking of you all

Hi, just checking in - AF due tomorrow! Have felt very strange this month - a few pains mid month etc, very tired. Doesn't feel like AF is coming at the mo (no PMT etc), going to buy some pg tests today. (Gulp) Going to Majorca next Tuesday so need to know one way or the other. Have been telling myself I will wait til Monday to test but in reality I know I won't get past Saturday (or maybe even tomorrow!).

Not sure how I will feel is BFP coz then the panic will set it - what if another mc etc!

SKYTVADICTpostive vibes for you, good luck with testing, try and relax hun

SKYTVADDICT just wanted to send you some lovely bfp vibes xx

Thanks for the vibes, I will obviously let you know one way or the other

hello

LittlePolly, i know exactly what you are talking about - I've had really severe depression in the past and am still on medication for it, even though I've been really well for a few years now. it is really an appalling thing to go through. you've had a lot to go through recently - it's right to share with us. We do care very much.

But also, go to see you GP and think about more counselling - I have an occasional session with my counsellor, just for "top-up" of insights. I think with depression it is a long journey of learning about yourself, what makes us so hard on ourselves, etc. And the bad feelings do pass. Remember you deserve to take care of yourself as best you can. And depression is sometimes a safety valve telling you to let up on yourself! it certainly was for me. There's a nice book "Sunbathing in the Rain" by a woman called Gwyneth Lewis, I found that helpful.

Rubles, Oinker, WWW - On the issue of remembering our little babies, my thought was that the reason I found the prayers with my parish priest useful is that I had to speak out loud about it, rather than just sitting with my own thoughts - it made it more real. A reading that the priest just came across randomly (very sweetly, he said that the baby must has helped him choose it) had the words "We have not seen him, but we love him" (it was about the activities of the apostles talking to people who became christians after Jesus died and left the earth) which seemed really appropriate. To say "I love the baby" was a real breakthrough for me.

I do agree about candles and gardening too - I did a lot of retail therapy with Crocus!!! and visiting really special gardens that I had heard about. Making something grow and seeing something happen all by itself is very soothing.

Oinker - have a great holiday!

good things can happen. I saw my beanie again today (although the sonographer said because "there was lots of gas" in my tummy and "because I'm not size 8" it was hard to see well )
I could see a little flickering heart. I've got the Lesley Regan book on general pregnancy, and she is very up about the chances for all of us.

take care all - must hit the sack while DS is napping!!! but Little Polly, couldn't read your message without sending a few words. big hugs to you....

and sorry for the long old post!

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Oh well. AF came a day early so no pg for us this month. Not too disapointed as will have a good week in Majorca from Tuesday and will try not to obsess next month (but its really difficult not to)

Just off to join the "hoping for a positive August thread"

Good luck to everyone else this month

Hi Rubles - sorry, AF arrived yesterday afternoon, Very . Off to work now...

Ruthlouise, I'm sorry it's come I really am.

Hello everyone, sorry that quite a few are having a really difficult time right now. I sympathise about the thinking about the babies that might have been. My EDD would have been in September and I am now running a big (work) event on that exact day it would have been and the next day. This will take my mind off it and I will have to be very together for work, but I get sad twinges about it already. Littlepolly, I hope you are getting some help, things do sometimes get too much to cope with on one's own.

I have had my mind taken off ttc by events this week, which have kind of turned my life a bit upside down. Within the last week it has been decided that my elder stepdaughter (13) is coming to live with us next year, to go to school in this country. What a change it will be in my life! So, whatever happens, I will be a mum (well a stepmum at least, but she will be about six thousand miles from her mum and only see her once or twice a year). I'm excited and scared too. To the point of panic at times, but trying to stay calm. (Have started reading and posting on the stepmum forums on MN!)

I'm kind of hoping this will be a bit like when someone ttc for years and then conceives soon after adopting a baby: maybe by deciding to look after and love this girl, I'll get another one too?! Obviously that's not the reason we are doing this, but maybe it could happen??

Nicola - blimey - that'll be a big change. You have a good relationship with your step children though, don't you? So it's not like you are seen as the wicked step-mum.
Why is she coming over now though? If I were her mum I'd hate my dd to be going such a long way away from me at that important time in her life. That's major news. Wow.

She's coming in December, for Christmas (with her younger sister),and then staying when her sister goes back home, and starting school in January. Her mum is a bit upset, but really wants the girls to have the best education so is totally in agreement. Her mum will be here for her first day of school and to meet the teachers etc, and will then take the younger one home.

It's taken my mind off obsessing about ttc, but I'm still very much on track for going to the fertility clinic if AF arrives next week.

PS she is coming here because she has reached the end of junior school in South Africa and would be starting high school there, and we would now like her to go to a really good private school (very clever girl. Her mum lives miles away from any schools and does not want her to go to boarding school, everyone would rather she came to school here and lives with her dad and me.

She's delighted about it but her younger sister is massively jealous and disgusted (even though she knows she will come here the following year, when she is 13!).

What school is she going to? When you say 'really good' is it one of the famous ones? If she is happy to do it then it sounds like a really good experience for her to spend her teens in London - sounds fab to me, I would have loved it. Also, sounds excellent way for her to spend time with her dad, and you get to have a young person around to keep you in touch with young people & the 'kids of today'.

You must be so excited. Scary too though.
Do you get on OK with her mother?

Should probably be on a different thread with all this as its not to do with ttc, but anyway! Yes I am very excited. So is she. I don't know if the school is famous, but it looks lovely to me (especially when the only other other alternative was for her to go to a state school in South Africa). It's ten minutes walk from our house too. Her mum is fine (I think, we have not really interacted much though). Now she (and her partner) are coming to stay with us for six days in January to see the girl settled into school. Lots of patience needed all around I think!

Meanwhile back at the ranch, AF seems to have arrived this morning (sigh), but now at least (and at last) I know where I am. I have immediately phoned the fertility clinic and booked for when I get back from my holiday. Decided after much deliberation and some advice guven on this site to go for the ACU at University College Hosp.

How are you doing anyway.

That AF came very quickly after your injection - you sound fairly relaxed about it.

I am fine. I am due for ovulation imminently so feel very happy and hopeful - getting all the signs.

Hi girls
Am going to be really cheeky now and ask if we can start a new thread? Ive just read the title and it says we are trying for festive beanies. Just a thought....

Anyway bit of a strange question...... I usually have btween a 30-36 day cycle, today is cd10/11 (cant remember whether i came on the thurday or friday!!!) and i have definatley got ewcm????? So does this mean i am fertile today? Last af only lasted 4 days too, and they normally are at least 7 days. It was def af though and quite heavy for a day or two. I'm sorry for confusing everyone any experience would be helpful though so thx

I think starting a new thread would be a good idea. I feel cheeky doing it though.

Well, it was a bit sooner than I expected, but I'm glad I know where I am again now! Day one and counting. Holiday in 2 weeks time. Fertility clinic appt the week after that.

Pepperpots, I would just go for it whatever, sounds possible, and this is such an incredibly inexact science, so just cover as many days as poss!

Pepperpots, definately go for it. You may have a longer period of ewcm (I have 5-7 days) or you may be ovulating early. Either way the ewcm is a good sign so you might as well give it a go.

What shall we call a new thread - 'TTC after a miscarriage - heres to bouncing 2007 babies'? Any other better ideas?

Rubles think name is fab i will go and start a new one now if no one minds xx

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