TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Love and luck to all who need it, x

Just read this & want to say a big phew to Nicola - what a relief that it was something so straight forward.

Congratulations to your dh on his exams too.

Thanks everyone, now I can just get back to the "mnormal" 2ww! Had a really good weekend, hope everyone else did the same. Went to the Farnborough air show, which was brilliant!

Just had my GP appointment and, like you Rubles, was told because I am over 35, it will take longer. She also said to abstain from sex for at least 4 days before ovulation was due and then bd on the day BEFORE ovulation, rather than waiting for your surge (if you use your sticks). Haven't tried that approach so will try that this month!
I have to have a swab to check for any infection and blood tests and partner has to have sperm test. This will start the ball rolling.
Very funny GP appointment with a foreign locum and had to take my 6 year old who is no doubt going to ask me all sorts of questions later like what does 'sex' mean that the locum kept asking me about!

Janus, i was told very much the same am 40, and they did all them tests all mine was ok, but 21day blood test showed no ovultion, but i still managed to concive last month, i start dbing on day 8 and every two days until after a temp rise

I have also heard about the abstaining theory but have never managed to actually do it. Still I did get pg twice without the abstaining.

Hi ladies
I used to be on this thread last year, amd it helped me get through some very tough times. Dp and myself then decided after almost a year of no sucess to stop trying It has been a long hard time since then where we almost split. But am pleased to say that after having a break away and a lot of discussion we have decided to try again So I just wondered if it was ok if i join??......

Hi pepperpots and, as far as I am concerned, welcome to the club!
Trace2, I know I ovulate regularly as I have, on and off, used the ovulation sticks which have always shown ovulation except one month where I think I buggered up the testing anyway! My periods never deviate from 29 or 30 days, so I'm hoping things are OK but feel better that I can check things over as I am aware that time is not on our side. It is just a niggle that something is not quite right after the miscarriage as I have always fallen so easily and if ovulation and periods are so regular (can't imagine dp's sperm suddenly having a problem) there must be some reason?? Probably stressing over all this! Sure if we went on holiday things would happen but we can't so back to the trying again, starting next week!

Hi Pepperpots, I remember you from last time round. Unfortunately I'm still here...
Good luck for round 2 of ttc.

Hi ladies thanks for the welcome
So where is everyone on their cycle? today am cd5 which is a little weird for me. Normally i am bleeding for 7-9 days and today there is nothing was def a period tho iyswim. Anyway dp is away for a little while so have to grab my opportunities while i can . Anyway i am off for a bit of retail therapy and i will catch up later xxxx

Hello everyone, hope you are enjoying the lovely weather

Welcome to the thread Pepperpots.

I've been keeping myself to myself since all the stress over the salmonella and m/c investigations. The mess around my prolonged m/c is still being investigated and has now been referred to the cheif executive for further investigation and my daughters illness is still at the PALS stage of investigation as her notes are still 'missing'.

I'm still on the 2ww, bfn this am but probably shouldn't be testing for another couple of days as due tomorrow if still on 25-26 day cycle. Have been all over the place, up and down , am I aren't I etc. It's stressing me out 'cos set myself unhelpful target that I wanted to be pg by this month because of 'due date'. I followed the advice of an earlier poster (sorry can't remember who it was!) and have drunk gallons of water this month and eaten pounds of strawberries!

Ruthlouise, I have been thinking about you because we were both due in August & it's looming in my my mind too. You undoubtedly tested too early. Everything's crossed for you honey for this month.

sorry to crash a moment....

Pepper glad to see that thinks have got better best of luck ttc'g!

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WELCOME BACK

I am still here. I'm not trying to conceive at the moment but am still hovering in preparation for the day when the man at St Mary's he say 'YES'...

I am so glad things have sorted themselves out for you.

Thank you very much ladies

Nikki will email when i have longer than two minutes to myself hun.

Oinker when is your appointment?

Ruthlouise i agree with rubles (i think thats who said) that it is too early. and anyone who knew me on this thread will tell you i am a notorious early tester all i can say is thank god for the cheap tests otherwise i would be bankrupt by now

hi everyone, just thought I'd check in with you all....it's been a while!

Hope you are all ok and coping with ttc in this heat...it's a nightmare...

I'm now about 10 weeks...had another scan this morning and saw wee beanie wriggling about - a great sight considering at first I couldn't see the heartbeat and panicked...anyway, all is well and I've another scan in 3 weeks.

Haven't read through the last entries yet but I'll catch up soon..I know for a few of us it's coming up to the sue date of the babies we lost and I'm certainly thinking about it non-stop. I'm trying to think of a way to mark the due date - like lighting a candle or something - any ideas? I keep crying about it - I suppose it really will always be that little corner of sadness in me.

Love to all you lovely ladies xxxxx

Sorry to crash,

WWW noticed your post about remembering the babies.

I got some plants that blossom around the time of my loss and its great. I feel a great sense of peace when I look at them and care for them. Just an idea. One of them was a rose bush which I didn't realise until I got it home and MIL asked what it was called (didn't realise they had names) that it was called sweet dreams, my SDD picked it for colour.

Take care all at these sad times xx

www, I've been feeling a bit blue recently too & I was also wondering what to do when the day comes. I planted some bulbs in spring that should be flowering now but aren't (why??), but they are very leafy so that's something. We don't really have any space for more flowers out there. I think I shall light candles but I kind of want something more to do - just can't think of what.

I've just been over to the August ante-natal thread....why do I do these things?? I'm such an eejit.

It's like a form of torture, rubles. Stay away from such places! It's just impossible not to be wondering what should have been - dh tells me I can't dwell on it as it's unhealthy (for both me and the new pregnancy), but that's obviously easier said than done. It will always be there, won't it?

i joined you a few weeks ago can i ask a quetion?

ive wokon up in the night with pains in my pelvis, feels like some ones stabing me right throught to my back, but the co-codamals take pain of for about 3 hours, have phoned gp, they said any worse phone later, could it to be with the miscarry i was only 4 weeks?

hello Trace 2 - if really appalling pains in the side, might also be kidney stones? I had these just after DS was born, caused by dehydration (heat and BF) if in serious pain, I would just call the hospital.

WWW, Rubles and all, am thinking about the remembering our babies issue.... will try to write at some length later, have had lots of thoughts about this over last months.

love to you all XXXXXXX

T4T..
Hope you get this sorted ASAP. Try and rest hun.

Ladies..
I don't know how I am going to cope with no mn for 18 days... I'm going to miss the support.

Remembering our angels is hard. I have an olive tree in my garden planted in memeory of my dad. I have 7 little plaques under that. All with thoughts like Hope, Happiness, Love. There is a little lantern there too. Whatever you decide to do it will be special. x
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Hello all - I'm back from holiday. I don't know if you can bear with me but I'm having a pretty awful time. On May 27 we lost our baby at 12 weeks pg. On June 27 we had to have our 4-month-old puppy put to sleep. Now it is nearly a month on and I think it is all starting to really hit me. We have been away on holiday instead of relaxing I have just been getting more and more ill. I had a major depression end of last year/beginning of this and had to have medication and therapy. I worked really hard to get myself better, sort my head out and take responsibility for the way I think about things. Then I got pregnant and we got our puppy and life seemed wonderful and then whoosh, it was all gone and now I am in a right mess. I've been trying to do all the right stuff - talking to people, yoga, meditation, exercise, etc but I feel like my head is going to explode, I have raging neck and back pain and I am not sleeping. And AF arrived today and that just makes me feel more hopeless.
I know in my heart things will start to get better, but I am finding it so difficult. Oh, this has turned into a right self-pitying rant hasn't it?- sorry, I just needed to have a cry and write down how I feel and you guys got the brunt of it.

oinker - I really hope you have a lovely holiday. And we're all still here thinking of you and supporting you, even if you can't communicate for a couple of weeks. x

ruthlouise - I hope you are ok. I have been thinking about you and what a bloody awful time of things you have had. No-one should have to deal with what you've been through and I really admire that you have found the strength and courage to have investigations started into what happened.

Littlepolly, I'm so sorry it is hitting you like this. I think one thing is that when AF arrives the sadness becomes more acute and it's like the disappointment of the m/c all comes back all over again.

The insomnia and the backache/neckache sound worrying - they sound like they could be symptoms of depression coming back. You seem to be doing a lot of good things to try and help yourself, but maybe you need to go back to your doctor? Did you get offered any counselling after the m/c, (I didn't), maybe you could enquire further about that?

Remember, your m/c is only very recent for you. So although maybe it might seem like a long time, it isn't, it's no time at all. Don't raise your expectations of yourself too high - it's very very normal for you to be grieving a couple of months on. My experience of it has been that the sadness has come in waves and gone on for a hell of a lot longer time than I would have expected prior to the m/c. I am now 6 months on and I still shed tears, just less frequently.

Trace2 - how are the pains today?

Ruthlouise - ?