TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Here's hoping for a shney new spring thread with lots of spring BFPs and some festive beanies so here's some sticky dust...
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Love and luck to all who need it, x

Hi andi. Sorry to hear of your mc.

Sorry can't help re ovulation sticks. Not got round to them yet. Only really first month of ttc so will wait and see. I will read other replies with interest just in case.

I have promised DP I won't obsess about getting pg but am not doing very well at the moment! It is on my mind all the time.

Hi Sky- thanks for replying. i know I haven't tried the ov sticks yet- never wanted to get into that game. I always thought that regular bding etc would cover all options...but now I've been pg and felt all of that I don't want to wait.
I was just about to start fertility treatment when a fell pg.
As for obsessing i know about that too- god which of us on here doesn't. My dp has gone quiet on the whole subject- he was intensely distressed over my mc both for me and for the twins. i had a natural mc and it was VERY painful. Whats happening with you? Have you been ttc long etc

No, not been trying long. Had MC in April followed by ERPC/infection. Drs etc told us to wait 3 months before ttc which my DP took to heart and we have stuck to. Been ttc this month only so very early days. On CD 20 now so only 8/9 days to go before I can test. Prob buy some tests today and hide them at home!

I have two DDs 10 and 6 from a previous marriage and DP has no children yet. We were all hit hard by the mc as we found at the scan (hadn't taken kids thank god) and it was a big shock.

andi, I have used opks too much. I try not to but can't seem to stop...

I haven't used those but I would warn that the brands do vary in their sensitivity. For instance for me one brand I have used has shown quite a strong second line all the time, which just gets even stronger when I have ov'd. Another one shows no line at all and then shows a clear line when I get the surge although not a dark enough line (according to the instructions) to show ovulation. However, I used the latter brand when I conceived last time and according to the instructions I didn't ov, so I just use it as a vague indicator of the right time. You have to get used to a particular brand I think.

Regular sex is the best thing really, afterall it's the sperm that makes the baby not the opk, but it helps some of us feel in control.

Forgot to ask - Angsthase, why are you concerned about late AF. Is that not a good thing?

Hi Sky and Rubles- thanks to both of you.
Sky - thanks for your history...those scans they just kill you don't they? I had 1 p/week for 5 weeks until they told me that the pg was not viable etc- everytime I thought - this is it - they'll tell me there's a fetal pole etc- but no.
Anyway- I am on CD16- so we'll be testing around the same time- I've just ordered some pg tests off e bay...don't know what they're like and it'll be ov kits next month if there's no joy.
Rubles- thanks for the info on ov kits...next month I WILL try those OVATEL- the saliva ones. It's a one off purchase, so we'll see.
I've no children and dp has one to previous marriage.
Going out now for a few hours- but I'll be back...so thanks girls.

Oh, is that a saliva scope thingy. I didn't realise, I thought it was one of the pee on a stick variety. I am afraid that I actually don't know much about those. There is a thread about the ISIS scope on here, which is the same sort of deal, so you could ask on there.

rubles - DH works away, so can't have conceived this month if / when I ov'd.

andi - I used the clear blue sticks and they never showed a line, although I probably did ov as was very reg before the m/c. But they do work for some.

is anyone using cheap ov tests off of ebay?
i amon cd13 of a 28 day cycle. as of yet there is no sign of ov...had crampy pains yesterday inmy left hand side a bit like a stitch thought that might be ov but got home a peed on stick..negative!
before my m/c it took 6 weeks to get pg so there wasnt anything wrong with my body then...but this cycle is my first since m/c so could it be a possibility im not oving?
if this is the case what should i do?
me and dp have been bding EVERY day this cycle even in the heat so i should catch the egg....
any ideas?

Hi -I've been trawling the net to get some info on these ov sticks and it's all different- some say good / some say bad. I'll bet you don't need them if it only took you 6 weeks to get pg last time and all that bding- in this bl++dy heat- should take care of all windows of opportunity!! They do say you're more fertile post m/c..I hope you have bee v. successful .I had a misc on the 1st June and a mens on the 5/July....I'm hoping I did ov and am pg too. 13 days to test day!!

hello Andi and Trace, sorry for your losses. its miserable whenever it happens. this is a great thread, full of wise words and kind thoughts. its kept me sane

I tried the ISIS scope but never saw any ferns. the one thing I did find helpful was the Toni Weschler book, taking temps and filling charts for temps and cervical mucus. The book was also quite an interesting read.

This heat is dismal. how long is it going on for??

XXXX take care all

Rubles, thanks for the message, in a way I'm glad to be seeing the doctor and trying to discover if there is anything wrong, I feel that if I get the all clear I can relax more and if not I have some explanation and hopefully something to work on. I'm sure it can't be anything wrong with partner as we have managed 3 pregancies with no probs so something tells me that after my miscarriage something has happened to my body to prevent me falling again. If it's not too much to ask I would be really interested to see what your doctor says/suggests (I don't have much faith in my GP surgery as they have let me down terrible in past couple of years so would be grateful to know what yours say). Thinking of you tomorrow.

Hello all, new posters included - so sorry you've had to join us here. All I can vouch for is the support you get from everyone here and the fact the pain from the mc does get better. Although even now 6 months later, I still have bad days - probably because I keep remembering I should be on maternity leave, whenever I have a bad day at work

Well, DH is coming home for 10 days R&R 3 weeks on Sunday! {HURRAH } (can you tell I'm happy about that!) Anyway, I need all your positive babydust-like thoughts that I'm actually fertile during the week he is home!.

Probably far too much to hope for with my irregular cycles, but I've been spotting the last couple of days, so assume AF coming in full force tomorrow, or Saturday, so that would take me to around DAY20/21 of an around 35-45 day cycle, so I might if I'm lucky just catch it - got to remain positive. Just hope I don't suddenly have a much shorter or much longer cycle. I'm also going to try not obsessing about in the hope that being relaxed is better. I would say I'd try and forget about it, but look at me, already back here! You can't help, but obsess, can you?, and I'm definitely worse since the mc.

Hope all on 2ww remain positive (both mentally and pregnantly!)
Janus and Rubles, I hope your GP's are understanding and supportive.
Nicola - how you doing? Hope your doctor's appointment tomorrow also goes ok?

take care all
x

I'm weaning myself of mumsnet.

I will be going on my hols on Wednesday and am off for three weeks. I will not have access to a computer.

Enjoy the summer break ladies.

AF is def on it's way, even if a little late. Cramping and some spotting. DH is only here until the morning of day 13 (assuming AF arrives properly today).
Fingers crossed I ov early!!
Have a lovely weekend girls and lots of BD'ing for those who can stand the heat!

thank you all for the kind messages!, i thought i was doing ok, until this morning, no idea why or what set me off just carnt stop crying, i hope we all get some good news soon

Hi everyone. I'm feeling very miserable and stressed to be honest. Seeing the doctor this afternoon. No Af, tests continue to be negative. Am now convinced there is something very seriously wrong with me. Also DH had a chat with me, saying that he wonders whether, given my age, it is now time to accept I will not have children. Do I really want to be in my 60's when a child is a teenager etc etc...made me feel very pessimistic and hopeless and about a million years old. I know he means well but it didn't help.

I had my appointment with the GP this morning. I managed to avoid the regular GPs and got a locum thankfully. It was very quick, I just said what the issue was and he asked a couple of questions about me then said that although it is normal at the grand old age of 35 to take longer to conceive he was happy to refer me to a gynae. That was it, so now I await that appointment in 4 to 6 weeks time.

I had my acupuncture appointment last night. Somehow we got round to talking about the due date next month and I started bawling and . Haven't cried for ages about the m/c so I was really surprised and taken aback that it was all suddenly coming out again. I thought I was 'over it'.

Nicola I really hope the dr helps in some way this afternoon or at least offers some comforting words. It must be really stressful not knowing what's going on like this.

I am loving the heat. We are going out for a nice meal tonight with friends, so it will be lovely to be eating al fresco.

Nicola good luck for this afternoon.
I feel the same as you sometimes. I am 38 and have been trying for 2 years to have a baby. I didn't choose to start so late I just wasn't settled. Hopefully you will hear some positive news.

Good luck.

Feeling much better as have found out what the problem was.

I have a "functional cyst" on my right ovary which was maintaining the endometrium and preventing my cycle from proceeding as normal. It showed up on an ultrasound, which also showed that the endometrium (uterus lining) is fine and normal and apart from the cyst the ovaries are fine too. Apprantly this is not that unusual and is nothing to worry about. It does not affect fertility, or mean that I am menopausal, or anything.

I have to have an injection of HCG (the pregnancy hormone) to make the cyst burst, and then things will go back to normal. AF should come in about 2 weeks (or I could still get pregnant as when the cyst bursts an egg will be released).

He's given me the HCG to inject. I didn't have it yesterday as he says I will be in a bit of pain for a couple of hours afterwards as the cyst bursts, and we were going out last night to celebrate that my DH has just got his exam results (pilot exams) and has passed everything. I'll inject it at some point over the w/end, when I have the time to lie down for a few hours.

I am so relieved! Thanks for all the nice thoughts and concern ladies. You are the best!

xxxxx

PS an egg should be released approx 40 hours after the injection (this is why they also use this injection for fertility treatment) so some precisely timed bding will be in order!! Pain or not, we will get to it!!

That's excellent news Nicola. I'm so pleased for you, I've been checking online everyday briefly just to see whether you have a BFP yet! Good luck with your next round ttc'ing

Nicola.....

GREAT NEWS

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GOOD LUCK

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Nicola, that's fantastic, you must be so relieved to finally have an explanation and also such a simple remedy. Good luck for the next month, fingers crossed for you.

wonderful news Nicola, and especially that it is something easily dealt with. it is so nerve-racking to persevere with doctors, but brilliant when good news comes.

take care and good luck to you!