TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Love and luck to all who need it, x

MIPS that is great news??

What did you say?? to change his mind?

Hi everyone,
Thanks for your kind wishes.
Ruth...I have normally a 25/26 day cycle and i have been using ov sticks this cycle. I got a positive on day 12 and 13, so b'ded since Friday (day 12). Hopefully will catch that egg!!
Cece...I had a serious word with him regards his depression after speaking to our GP and HV. Let him know how it affected me. I also let him know how much I was supporting him. I then reiterated the baby issue, telling him how much it meant to me and my reasons. He said to give him a month to think about it. That was last week as you know. I never mentioned it at all in that time, and just got on with life being jolly and keeping busy. I think the fact I never mentioned it, meant he did have time to think about it. I also think he perhaps felt upset about the mc (7 weeks ago) without really letting me know.
Someone suggested to me writing to him, telling him all teh positives for having a baby. I told DH that it was my dream to be a good mother and bring up a family and that if he could support me with my dream, I would support him with his. I also said that I didn't want to live with regret and that if he said no, i don't know how i would feel (kinda making him feel guilty!).
Whatever it was, it worked.
Good luck and I know how stubborn my DH is, so sending you lots of hope and love,
Mips xxx

Back from a super weekend at the beach in Brighton (spur of the moment decision on Friday afternoon), but still no AF and tests still bfn, so I will be phoning obstetrician tomorrow. I am trying to relax about this but its making me panicky that something is badly wrong (also making me pig out, I have put on 3kg in the last 3 days!, yuk)

Mips

Thanks for the tips. I will try but am I right in thinking you don't have any kids at the moment? I have two already and DH thinks that is enough - his reason for no more is that they would have to share a bedroom - in a 3 bedroom house! To me that isn't even an issue!

Hi Cece,
I have a 3 year old son. I didn't want him to be an only child, hence why i was desperate on another. We have just moved last year and have 4 bedrooms, so DH can't use that as an excuse!
Lots of kids share tell your DH.
Best thing for me was not to mention it (hard as it may be)during the period of time I had given him to think about it.
Good luck, as I know how you must be feeling. It is hard. Please keep me posted on your progress.
Love Mips xxx

Cece...just about forgot...My next option if DH had still said no was to start looking into adopting a baby from abroad (worked for a friend), or thinking about getting a horse (not that I would actually do this)or take up some dangerous sport (wouldn't do either).
I had hoped they might frighten him into saying yes.
love Mips xxx

just had d & c yesterday to remove incomplete m/c. i feel really normal, no pains or side effcts. now i am just gutted we have to wait for a month for a full cycle to start again...... it's going to go so slowly.... so might have to gym and excersise my way through the month. Can i go swimming yet ???

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Rachee, no I don't think you can swim as I was told not to bath only shower for 3 weeks. Sorry to hear about your loss.

Mips,
not mentioning it will be fine as I have plenty of practise! I have already told him I want to do the bobsleigh (the one where you lie on your tummy on a tin tray thing) in the next winter olympics!

Rachee I would not advise you to swim at the moment. I was not given very good advice after my 1st m/c (happened in another country) and used a tampon (and had sex) from the day afterwards, which in hindsight was not a good idea. No-one mentioned that I should not at the time, and it was my wedding three days after the m/c so I did not really think about it. I ended up with intrauterine scarring, which I believe could have been from infection at that time.

On another track, I now have made an appt with the obstetrician for Friday. No AF, have not tested today as have run out of preg tests but am getting fed up and it seems unlikely it would suddenly become positive on CD37. Trying not to stress. What a lovely day today!

rubles are you still around?

I am still around yes, watching out for you Nicola.
I don't know what to say to your situation, it is odd. I was really hoping you'd be posting with a BFP this morning - as I'm sure you were too.
On a positive note, I have heard of women not getting +ve results until nearly 3 weeks after AF due, so there is hope. Presumably the obstetrician will do blood tests for you on Friday and will come up with some answers.

Rachee - welcome - I read about your m/c on another thread. I'm so sorry.

Mips - glad dh came round, you must be feeling hugely relieved.

Hi rubles, well that is a bit hopeful, but we'll see. My first pregnancy (which was in fact twins, although I m/c later) I got a bfp on CD31. My second I got the bfp on the day AF was due, which was CD28. So I can't imagine it would happen so late this time. Well, will see the (very nice) doctor on Friday and hope to find out what's going on. How are you doing?

I'm alright apart from the fact that AF is almost certainly on course for arrival tomorrow so I am back to square one. Ho hum. I think I shall make an appointment with the doctor for further tests as soon as AF has definately arrived.

My mum made a bit of a corker of a comment yesterday at my nephew's christening. She said that now dp has had a raise I could think about having another baby because 'after all you're not getting any younger and your biological clock is ticking away. So you'd better do it before it ticks it's way over the edge'. Don't beat around the bush mum!

But it's beautiful weather out and dp has just come and met me for lunch and we have had a lovely lunchtime talking about anything but AF, so that was nice.

What a day........OMG it is soooooooooooooo hot. I have just got home after the journey from hell on the London underground and mainline trains.....
Arghhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh..... I hate working in London.

I have just found out that the rail signalling centres are on strike from 1200 Friday thru to 1200 Saturday. Great!!!!! How are we supposed to get home.

Anyway, how is everyone?

Fingerscrossed for some BFP's.....

Nicola, I hope you get some good news on Friday. I just had a look at my diary and my longest wait for 2nd A/F after m/c was 41days. I'm waiting on A/F now. Good luck.

Rubles....... Mums heh!!! Mine is the same. She has no idea about what I am going thru. I haven't told her as she was so upset after my first m/c. She makes the odd sly comment though. It's all along the same line as what your mum says.

Nicola - how you doing??

My AF was a weird one. It hinted at starting on Monday, had me all depressed, then nothing. Then yesterday lunchtime when there was still no sign, I started to get excited as it was getting much later than normal. I had a solitary spot in the afternoon, which confused me as nothing more happened for the rest of the night. I woke up this morning and still nothing so officially a day late (according to my calculations), and even more confused. I did a test and got a resounding BFN, (which I wasn't surprised at, I just wanted to know what was going on).
It waited an hour leaving me dangling and then started properly before leaving for work. I actually felt relieved, strangely.

I have just rung the doctor for an appointment on Friday to get some blood/sperm tests sorted if possible, although I'm a bit nervous about that.

hi everyone, can i please join in, i lost last week, was only 4 weeks, but it still hurts like hell.

Hi Trace ((((hugs)))). I'm so sorry you are back on these bloody ttc boards again. It's such a crushing disappointment isn't it, when you have wanted it so badly for so long.

How are you doing physically? Have you stopped bleeding now?

hi rubles, not stopped yet but slowimg down, how are you?

Sorry to hijack this thread but I just wanted to reiterate that we're all thining of you Trace....so sorry darlin' Hugs & kisses.

So sorry trace to hear your news, it will hurt however far along you are, it is heartbreaking, so I am so sorry.
Could I ask some advice? Yet again I've had a BFN this month despite having sex at the right time, etc. I'm now thinking something may be wrong. I had a miscarriage in October, had an ERPC and then a few days later got an infection which floored me. Took my body a few months to get back to normal, AF wise. I'm now wondering if the infection could have caused some problems, would this make sense?
I'm 36 and have been trying for 6 or 7 months so made an appointment with the doctor for next week to discuss but would greatly value anyone elses thoughts as to points I could raise. (BTW, I've had 3 pregnancies, the last 2 I fell the first month, which is why I'm so puzzled as to why it isn't happening this time and think there is some underlying cause.)

Janus - are you me? I have been going through the same self-questioning about my fertility & I have my appointment tomorrow with the doctor. I really don't have any answers to your questions about what to ask - I was just going to go along and tell my story and hope that they offer blood tests for me and sperm tests for dp as a starter. Maybe it would be better to start a separate thread for this on the conception board as there will be lots of people who have gone through this who might know what to expect & ask?

Trace, I'm fine thanks. My attitude is strange at the moment regarding ttc - I think I've given up - I can't imagine it ever happening.

I have been putting other life decisions on hold for the past year because I wanted to have a baby first, but now I think that I might as well get on with making other changes or I a may be in limbo land forever.

trace2....so sorry hun.
It is hard but we will all get thru this together. {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Janus and Rubles. I really hope things are going to sort themselves out for you. Though I am not trying at the mo I have this underlying fear too. What if when all procedures are completed conception isn't so easy for me. It is a worry. AF is here at the mo and boy is it hurting. Tummy cramps are here with a vengence. I never used to suffer like this.
Never mind, hopefully it'll only be around for a couple of more days.

Actually, I keep forgetting to say something my acupunturist said.
Have any of you heard this? She said that after the egg has travelled down the fallopian tubes it waits for 2 hours (she says noone knows why) before it drops down into the womb. She also said that there are only three areas in the womb where an egg can successfully implant, so if it lands in the wrong place then it won't succeed.

I thought that was very interesting, but I didn't ask if it was accepted conventional medical thinking or not. Anyone heard this?

Trace, so sorry - it just sucks no matter how far along you are. A loss is a loss.

Rubles and Janus - don't have any sound advise or questions, but maybe because you were relaxed about TTC the first times you conceived it happened quickly and easily. Because of the stress of m/c and the desperation (which I share) to conceive again, your bodies are less relaxed? May be rubbish, but just a thought. Hope you get some good advise from your Docs.

Was quite optimistic when I had seriously heavy second AF a month ago that it might be my body waking up to being fertile. AF has not arrived (due today), no signs of it now don't know wtf is going on (normally reg 28 day cycle). Wondering if I'll ever conceive again. Turned 39 last month and feeling quite depressed about my chances. Don't want to stay childless

Hi, I only get to come on here on a Thursday and Friday at the mo as PC at home "gone" and new one awaited. Sorry to hear your news Trace, it is a really difficult time.

I am now on CD 20 but we did bd a lot on days 12, 13, 14, 15 and 16 so are keeping our fingers crossed for a BFP on 28/29 July. For the last few days I have been having pains that feel like AF pains, bad PMT and also soreish boobs and feel very tired. It might mean an early AF I suppose but I can always hope!

Hi- I'm not a regular on here as far as posting goes..work etc but I do view quite alot. Myself and DP had been ttc for 3 yrs when I got pg in March- had natural misc on 1st June and had mens 5th July so am on CD16...
To get to my point - has anyone here heard of/ tried the OVATEL ovulation predictors on e bay?
I've never used ov kits but my wants for a pg now are greater than ever- whereas before I was kind of coasting along.
Thanks guys!