TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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Love and luck to all who need it, x

Oh, sorry Ruthloise. for you. What a bummer. I'm expecting mine any day now too, tbh. Got all the symptoms...mine came a couple of days early last time too. It just feels like everything's screwed up, doesn't it? Keep your chin up, and try to remain positive! (hard at times, I know). Keep trying!

Oinker, glad to hear it all went well on Friday. You were in my thoughts. Hope you're ok today.

xxxx and {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} to everyone

Oh, Ruthlouise, I'm so sorry. Big HUG. Try and stay positive - easier said than done - I was gutted last week when AF arrived.

Smole I am fine thanks getting there emotionally although 1st EDD would have been next month so that will be up and down I guess and people I know are having their babys now so thats also making it raw. It will be a long time before ttc'g cos still looking for another job. Thanks for asking I will get there. I hope you are well.

Oinker glad all went ok and good luck at St Marys. Can't believe your hospital is finally pulling their finger out.

Sorry some AF's have shown their ugly head.

Glad things are slowly getting better Nikki. Hang in there. Last month I was reminded that if my 1st m/c had lived they would be 1 year old. Hadn't realised. Wish they hadn't reminded me.

I see AF came to visit all of us this month. Nice of her!

On a positve note my blood tests are finally all back. Yippee!:o Now if only the consultants secretary would return my call! Oh well.

so so sorry oinker((((((hugs)))))))

Hope everyone is OK.

I have been wrapped up in my own little world checking out info about my possible condition.
I have had loads of info back from mumsnetters.

All of the test cases and trials have been very positive.

I am going to veture out today. The cramps have subsided a bit. Last night was very uncomfortable. I think I need to get out for some air and retail therapy.

Anyways....onto more important things.....
Who is due to test next?
C'mon don't be shy.

Hiya Oinker,

My AF due in the next couple of days. Being the patient, calm person that I am, I did a test about 20 minutes ago. BFN.

No great surprise. I can keep hoping until AF rears her bloody head. ( pun intended). Tomorrow is CD26 - AF came on that day last month. I'm not going to test agin until at Thursday, if there's no sign tomorrow!

Glad to see you're feeling upbeat!

Finger crossed for you www.

Glad you're ok oinker.

My consultants secretary called back. Appt 13th June on the nhs.

Hi, would like to join this thread if poss?

Had MC/ERPC nearly 6 weeks ago and just had first AF. Consultant and GP told us we have to wait 3 months before TTC but I can't really see why. Unfortunately DP was there when we were told this and is a stickler for the rules, so we can only practice and I can try to lose weight, get healthy etc (although alcohol has played quite a large part of the last 5 weeks! and I have put on the weight i lost when I had terrible morning sickness.)

Good luck to everyone ttc at the mo , wish it were us but on the plus side mid July isn't that far away!

AF arrived today, early (CD25). Not a good day, feeling quite fed up.

Nicola - I'm so so sorry. ((((BIG BIG HUG))))

Sorry nicola - i think i have a case of pmt at the mo, so it looks like it has happened for us either. My last af came after 21 days, so i am not sure when to expect this one - it has been 21 days now - the waiting is doing my head in - it is mental torture! Off for a glass of wine now, and chill out before lost!

Morning everyone,

Nicola63 - hope you're ok. What a bummer. It may help you to know you're not alone. I would put money on the fact that my AF is due literally any minute. Saw a teeny bit of spotting last night. So I'm mega peed-off too. I'm in the foulest of foul moods. Any cheery words, anyone??

SkyTVAddict - welcome. This is a great thread. So sorry to hear your sad news. Hope you're feeling better - it does get easier to bear. IMO, you should start ttc whenever you feel ready. My dh is a stickler for rules too but he's happily ignored that one! My midwife said to just go for it whenever we felt it was right, so we went with that advice! Anyway, try to get healthy, take your folic acid, it all helps.

Bobbynog - hope af stays away! And I bet Lost cheered you up - it's fab, isn't it? A healthy dose of Sawyer's torso usually makes me smile... (I watch the repeat on a Sunday so don't tell me what happened!)

SkyTVAdict - welcome to the thread. hope you are feeling a bit better today. My first AF didn't appear for 8 weeks (currently still having the pleasure of her visit!), I gave up waiting and we began TTC, As I OV'd a couple of weeks ago I thought my body was getting back to normal but must say this AF has been pretty awful with lots of 'tissue' which I assume are remains of the amniotic sac as placenta was delivered fine and Isaac was fine too at birth. so maybe thats why they say to wait until 3 months or after 1st AF and not just for dating reasons? If I had fallen pg this month, I don't think it would have been helpful with the legacy of the m/c still there possibly leading to infection or another m/c? Someone else on this thread a few weeks ago mentioned clearing bits of placenta during their first AF too (sorry can't remember who it was but was pleased they'd posted as it reassured me with this AF). Maybe 3 months is a blanket to ensure everyone has had chance to go through first cycle. Anyway, if you've now had proper AF I would also say 'go for it'. Why wait 3 months? Sorry, I'm rambling.

Nicola63 - Sigh, So sorry to hear re AF (((hug))). I know its not much consolation but maybe focusing on the thought that the next follicle will be erupting shortly might help ease the disappointment a little?. Sorry.

WWW and Bobinog - hope you are both wrong and AF stays away.

I'm OK, just feeling annoyed and impatient with life. My job includes being involved with people who have abused, harmed or neglected their children, and I keep thinking how unfair life is being at the moment, when I want a baby so much, and others who don't even look after them or want them get to have masses of children....well, that's just depressed and selfish thinking and I will snap out of it shortly. Life isn't fair, we all know that, and lots of people are struggling with far worse things in life than I am. So I will stop this self pity and move along...

Just me popping in again....RuthLouise I had a weird 1st af after mc this time around 4wks after mc and then 10 days later it came back again for 4 weeks 1 week I would say a "normal" AF level. I was going to go the drs if things hadn't changed but on Friday (almost 11 wks later) I too lost some "tissue" and since then my bleeding has stopped. Sometimes I think it just takes our bodies a bit more time to recover. I understand where you are coming from with your post.

Me again,
Just had chat with my best friend who thinks she's pg. Why does this upset me? She's my BEST friend, FGS! the thing is, we're weirdly on exactly the same cycle, so if we both got pg we'd have the same due date. That would be wonderful, obviously, but now it looks like she is and I'm not. She's been having spotting since last Friday. Very unlike her. Her dh is away just now but back tomorrow and they're doing a test then. I feel dreadful that I can't genuinely share in her excitement. She hadn't even fully decided to ttc yet either, they just bd'd once! I just feel that she's being a bit insensitive towards me, and I'm probably being oversensitive towards her. I'm so desperate to be pregnant! And of course I'd be truly pleased for her if she is, but I'm clearly going to find this very hard to deal with.

Any advice? Tell me I'm being a self absorbed cow. I need a kick up the arse.

My best friend is pg too. Same age as me. Had not even really "decided" to start ttc after her first baby. I am genuinely happy for her but this is hard. I feel rather pessimistic at the moment.

I'm sorry. I sound so negative and moany. It's just not a good day. The weather is dull, I have AF, loads of work to do, loads of bills to pay, and DH is in hospital having an operation (for piles, so he is feeling very sorry for himself too!). I promise to stop being a moaning minnie and cheer up tomorrow! A negative attitude is not going to make a baby!

Im just popping to say that you are not a self absorbed cow www...I mc x2 before I fell pregnant with my dd who turned 1 yesterday...I didn't want to solialise with ANYONE who was expecting when I wasn't AND THAT INCLUDED MY BF...
I remember when my bf told me she was expecting, I felt sick and I hated her ffs she was my friend...I even remember standing in a pub with her and her dh and thinking "obviously think alot of their baby standing her inhaling smoke fumes". Everyone who was pregnant or had a baby was not capable or responsable in my eyes iykwim. BUT I fell pregnant when my friend was around 4/5 months and suddenly my attitude changed.

What I am trying to say is what you are feeling is normal and in a way is jealousy. Think of it that way and try not to let it eat you up inside. I remember at the time feeling like I was a nasty cow who was going mad..lucily I had a wonderful dp (now dh) who supported me as best he could BUT even then there were times when I turned against him...

Good luck to all of you who are ttc after mc. xxxx

WWW if you are a sac (self absorbed cow) you are in good company. It's all very normal in our position.

Hi, back on line after the house move. Would you believe af arrived in the middle of the week we moved! As it was first after ERPC it was pretty heavy. Had a heavy cold too so had a pretty miserable week.

Still not sure what DH thinks about TTC - so we haven't started yet..... Feeling a bit down about the whole thing. Think he would prefer not to have any more but since I got pg it just confirmed that I really do want another ...

Shhh and N63 - ta. Just feel crap really. Have just had a nightmare with ds - involving him being a thug to another child and me smacking him out of sheer anger. It was dreadful. I'm now feeling guilty as hell. He's never been smacked before! He's sitting with a blotchy face (as am I) after a major telling off. Hmmmm. And I'm desperate for another baby?

Anyway, bf is calling soon so I'll just put a brave voice on and try to gently let her know that I'm feeling a bit jealous. She's normally the most understanding, considerate person in the world, so I know it'll be fine. I'll be fine. My time will come again, and hopefully soon! And AF still isn't here....there's always hope....will test in the morning if still no sign...fingers crossed, eh?

It is so hard isn't it? My bf is pregnant too - when she went for her scan i told her to text me that everything was ok, but not to show me the pictures - i couldn't and still can't deal with that. On the other hand she has been an absolute rock to me over the past few months - i am turning into jeckel and hyde (SP!).
Can you believe another "friend" said , and i quote "when are you going to get yourself pregnant again?" oh so subtle she is - and she knew about the miscarriage!
I am feeling happier today - i think i have accepted that af is on the way - just want it over with so we can start trying again.

Welcome back Cece

FirstNikki - thanks for understanding my ramblings . Yes, I think my 6 weeks bleeding after m/c was my body attempting to clear itself. Hopefully this AF will settle down. Saw counsellor again today , won't go into details but now I'm all over the place . Not sure I should be ttc but I so want another baby(I know I'm very fortunate to have my daughter).

Yes it is hard when everyone else seems pg. I have 2 friends who both have daughters born same month as my daughter. Then this time we all knew we were pg together for nearly 4 months. One is due next week so I hope she has her baby whilst we are away, the other is due end of July, just before I was. I am pleased for them both but it is hard.

I feel like we all need to follow the Teletubbies example...
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Let's hope for some sunshine soon to cheer us up.