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TTC after a miscarriage - springy BFPs for festive beanies

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mygirllolipop · 04/03/2006 15:26

Here's hoping for a shney new spring thread with lots of spring BFPs and some festive beanies so here's some sticky dust...
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Love and luck to all who need it, x

OP posts:
FirstNikki · 15/03/2006 16:43

Thanks mygirl I am ok thanks, works still a pain but that won't change for a while. Getting there slowly but surely.

Coathanger · 15/03/2006 16:48

Sorry - quick crash!

Piffle I am so [shocked] at what you have been through with DD the last few days - the same thing is going on with my DS1 right now. See your thread about \link{http://www.mumsnet.com/Talk?topicid=138&threadid=154974\it}

FirstNikki · 15/03/2006 16:56

If pepper is about at anytime just checking to see how your house is settlign after the move? Hope you are ok

hannibo · 15/03/2006 19:05

hi everyone and thanks for the warm welcome. I have a dd 21 months i am 33yrs and so is dh. just finished af and dh away working but back on friday. I am just glad we have made the decision really it just seems like a really huge step forward for us both because i lost so much blood that i had to have a transfusion and ended up on iv antibiotics and fluids and in hospital for five days, that we said we would probably not even think about trying till next year but hey, here we are after the three months and both wanting to try again, god help usGrin.

going4potty · 15/03/2006 20:27

Hi hanibo and everyone else too. Piffle have posted on the other thread for you. Was the dr that told you it could be viral fairly junior ie house officer ? Cause theyre probably just covering all the bases. But checking for perthes was quite routine when i worked at an orthopedic hospital so seems sensible. Anyhow sorry i havent posted been a bit tired but also still feeling nervy til im sscanned again! Diddle thanks for the mail and concern your really sweet, im just feeling like its all a dream still and im sure have mentioned before, cause symptoms arent the same as with ds just as they werent with the ectopic im just really scared im imagining it all and that i will go for a scan and something terrible will happen. Sorry for being so dithery, i cant even express myself at mo. Also my sil and bro are unexpectedly returning from Japan and i just dont want all the ectopic questions at the mo.

rubles · 16/03/2006 08:22

going4potty, can I ask when you have your first scan for? Are you able to get an early one to put your mind at rest? I am sorry if you have talked about this on other threads but I am avoiding pregnancy threads so I wouldn't have seen it.

HellKat · 16/03/2006 08:36

Hiya girls.
Just checking in on you all.
Piffle- Your poor little girl Sad I hope you hear some answers soon hun.
How's everyone?
Love & hugs to all xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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mygirllolipop · 16/03/2006 09:53

piffle - how are things re DD and I may have this wrong but did you have an appointment today. good luck with everything.
Hannibo - I know the experience was scary but most people decide to go for more kids after MC/scary births. I clearly remember saying after DD3 that I didn't want more! good luck, I'm sure you'll be fine.

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FirstNikki · 16/03/2006 09:56

Just a quick post until lunch to say HI!

G4P you will be fine I am sure ring epu for early scan or can your friend squeeze you in as a favour?

Rubles how are you feeling?

HK - great news on 14 wks just noticed on other thread

Hope you are all well speak soon xx

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mygirllolipop · 16/03/2006 10:09

hi Nikki how've you been lately?

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FirstNikki · 16/03/2006 12:31

Yeah not too bad thanks, work is doing my nut and DH and I are working through things. Not seen skids yet so will have to brace myself for that this weekend, reluctant to do so cos how I feel still but very aware if I don't then the gap will grow and don't want that to happen haven't seen them now for over a week feel guilty.

how are you mygirl?

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mygirllolipop · 16/03/2006 13:47

Hi Nikki tried to post earlier but got this:
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Anyway what I said was sorry work is doing your nut, hope it's not too bad, glad you and DH are working through things. I think you're right about if you don't see the skids the gap will grow even though it's a pain in the bum for you.
I'm OK.

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riley3 · 16/03/2006 14:25

Hi everyone - just checking in to see how everyone is. I saw my GP today who signed me off for this week and last. Funnily enough it looks as though the mc may finally be finishing. I am still v up & down emotionally (babies everywhere etc) but everyone (including work) have been so fantastic, esp dh that I feel I am on my way out to the other side as it were. So now I just need an AF in (at least!) 4 wks time and off we go again Smile!

FirstNikki · 16/03/2006 15:00

lol Mygirl that message looks like the inside of my head sometimes..... cannot compute! Grin

Riley glad you have the support and you have taken some time to grieve and come to terms with your loss. Also nice to hear you can begin to see the other side as you put it. YEP! Come AF's the sooner we know our bodies are back to normal, well as they can be Wink the better.

FirstNikki · 16/03/2006 15:03

Meant to have added Riley, the babies everywhere thing its true I think because we are more "aware" of it we see it more than we would normally. Its like when I get a change in car I then see everyone in them. It will get easier and less noticeable. I was in the pub the other week and 2 pg women came in! aarrrgghhh had to leave. You turn will come soon hun x

kreamkrackers · 16/03/2006 15:47

hi just come on quickly to say my sister had a scan today and all went very well for her. the sac's back to being normal shape and they've dated it and told her everything seems fine. such a relief :o:o:o

FirstNikki · 16/03/2006 16:14

Great news KK glad all is well and you can both rest now.

going4potty · 16/03/2006 16:31

Hello all, kk glad you sis is feeling well and all is ok. Everyonne else hope your all well

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mygirllolipop · 17/03/2006 10:28

Morning all!

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weewilliewinkie · 17/03/2006 10:41

Hi girls...

KK, great news about your sis. glad to hear all is well...

Having a crappy morning...3 weeks since m/c and can't stop thinking about it. To make matters worse, saw an old friend this morning at music with mummies who is 20 weeks - she was showing off her bump (she doesn't know about my m/c) and I had to walk away. Then another friend asked me in front of loads of people how I was feeling, 2nd pg and looking after a toddler, how exhausting etc etc - nobody had told her either....she was utterly mortified when I told her, then she got very upset and I had to comfort her. It was awful and has just made me spend the last half hour weeping.

I really thought I was starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but I'm not. I'm just so sad. Keep thinking 'I should be 18 weeks.... I should be, I should be...' but I'm not anything.

Plus ds is totally playing up. I'm so peed off!
Sorry for the rant ladies. I feel a bit better now.

FirstNikki · 17/03/2006 12:55

WWW

I really feel for you hun. I seem to remember you got upset at this music group last time too (if I am wrong I do apologise) Is there a possibilty if its too much to give it a miss one week when you are low? I know from experience sometimes it helps and other times it can make it worse but just a thought.

I have tried to stop thinking how many weeks I would be to help with the loss and grief, maybe taking little steps to put this to the back of your mind. (I know it won't be forgotten its just putting that thought elsewhere until you feel stronger)

It is still early days in the loss process and you will be fine some days and not others but try to say to yourself this is normal to be like this and don't beat yourself up when you have a low time. Have you thought of seeing someone maybe a grief counsellor? The hospital I was at gives you a counsellor number to call if required.

Ranting is good and talking is great too. Goodness knows where I would be if I didn't - in a nut house by now I think.

xx {{hugs}} xx

weewilliewinkie · 17/03/2006 14:03

Hi FN - I am going to skip music for a couple of weeks - ds isn't in the least bit interested in it at the moment anyway, and I find myself sitting there singing 'wheels on the bus' and doing all the actions by myself while he's running wild around the hall! I'm just having a rubbish day , ds is bored out of his mind, I'm knackered, the housework needs doing and I can't be bothered. I'm sure I'll feel better tomorrow....

thanks for your kind words, I appreciate them. It's nice knowing I can come on here and there'll always be someone to listen.

rubles · 17/03/2006 14:07

www - three weeks isn't long, you know. It may seem like it but it isn't. massive (((((HUGS)))) to you. I think we have all been there and I would guess that everyone on this thread has had days like you are having today - similar situations/comments/thoughts. I am two months on and this week had the 'I would be 18 weeks now and feeling really excited about the 20 week scan' thought.

Could you break the cycle and, as FirstNikki suggested, not go to the music group for a little while, do something different (I take dd shopping for something for myself in TopShop, then lunch. But that might not be your thing). Take care honey. xx

FirstNikki · 17/03/2006 14:11

bless you how old is DS? The house work can wait don't worry about that.

FirstNikki · 17/03/2006 14:14

Hi Rubles how are you?

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