BFP in 2012- a thread for winkling-advice and COD-avoidance!

[wishfulthinking1]

So... here we are!
In a positive move to avoid monthly heartache this is the thread where we'll ttc in 2012.

"will there be winkling?" of course!
"will there be tinkling?" too right! you filthy buggers
"will there be time in the COD?" probably- but it'll only be short lived!
"will there be BFPs?" YES YES YES!

A pledge! do you think I'm taking this too seriously?
I, wishfulthinking, promise to ttc with all my might. I accept that ttc is a long, drawn out process and I shant allow myself to become too obsessed with the process in 2012. (if I remain in-duffed at new year, however, I reserve the right to be right royally pissed off with life and everyone in general!)

Who's with me?

Wishfulthinkng1- ttc numero 1- expecting a sticky BFP on July 31st (and at 28 day intervals thereafter!) Days till wedding - 6!

Xxx

Kick I think this lot are your age (30?) but have been lawyers too long and after sitting here for a few years thinking "is this it?", the have-a-baby lightbulb switched on! Dunno why it took me until 39...must be slow!

Ironically, my one mate who is pregnant now is also a lawyer. Must be something in their water...

I worry about divorce. I mean, I couldn't conceive of divorcing my DH or living without him but people turn into such different people - I am scared that there is this evil in me that will only come out during a divorce. And I am so scared of hurting my DH. Random huh?

What's Gary Barlow news?

4th child was stillborn on 4 Aug

Three announcments resipsa?! That is a harsh day. All at work too? You are going to have a fair few maternity posts to cover!

The ticker thing is sooooo annoying! Makes it seem like the longest pregnancy in the world! Get it on your phone if you want to know what happens each week, don't make everyone read it!

Yeh it's such a bragging thing though isn't it. It's the people who seemingly have life so blimming easy. I wouldn't do that - I am so scared of defects and they're all so real with diabetics

resipsa well done for wearing a fake smile today. Three announcements is just taking the piss. The Gary Barlow story is heartbreaking, stillbirth is quite common and so terrifying.

I did have a moment's thought along the lines of "who the hell is going to do their stuff when they're off at their Baby Sensory/Jittabugs/spend-£6-to-have someone-to-talk-to-about-nappies sessions for a year cause it won't be me". Then I remembered this thread and thought of course it won't be me cause by then I'll be about to go on ML myself .

And why do people keep the tickers going after birth to let us know to the day how old the bundle of joy is? I could either figure it out, roughly, or I'd ask if I really wanted to know.

On the divorce front, I reckon if the relationship withstands the rollecoaster of TTC, it will withstand anything. That said, I'd be like you fear you'd be, Kick, an evil beatch.

My DH and I have been through SO much more than TTC. And through all of the hell, we've only ever considered that "this too shall pass". It's the weirdest sensation to not want to cut and run (been a cutter and runner all my life) but I can't imagine my life without him in it. No matter how up and down it is. How fucking awfully gushy is that [vomit face]

I begged one of my mates to put photos of her little one up - she's in Australia. She's the only one who loads photos maybe once a week?

Others, I have to stalk them if I want to see how their baby is.

OH WAIT - there was one mate who seriously gave birth to a little troll. It is the ugliest baby I've ever seen.

oh repisa i wouldn't want to be in your office - I think I will physically scream if I hear a pregnancy announcement. All of my close friends and couples in the family are ttc, most are preggers already, probably about 2 -3 couples left including us. I know its a not a race to get pregnant... but fuck me if another person announces it.

sorry just been in a dreadful meeting all day.

kick have they rescheduled your appt? your dream sounded fun :) defo get out of the city mate - southend sounds dreamy by the sea.

I am hoping I test -ve on OPKs till DH gets back....although getting very wet pant snot even without EPO.

yep sad about Gary Barlow... i know of a friend who went through the same. its just so devastating when something like this happens. It really makes me block ppl on fb who annoyingly feel the need to share every personal aspect of their life on fb. I think its more of a "show-off" book. Started off well as a site to keep in touch with friends, but now its just so full of vain, insensitive ppl with the 'like' buttons and endless profile pics! I could go on a long rant on FB but i will stop here. I must delete / hide the vain ppl from my friends list.

And the reason it's a little troll is because it was born with the oldest looking features ever. It's so weird but it has such an old face... No deformities or anything - just like...how he looks

red They did bless. She squeezed me in for the next preconception clinic on Monday so will go there at 10.30am. Have scribbled it all over my fridge

The waiting list is about 6 weeks long so I am REALLY grateful

And last thing but pant snot can happen 3 days BEFORE ovulation (and 3 days after FYI) so keep peeing on those sticks!!

Also, if your DH gets back for Thursday and you get a smiley face even today, you could probably catch el eggo

LOL - grabbed a sick bucket ;) thats sweet kick I think I'd be the same. we've been through a lot over 12 years and cant see my future without him in it.

I have decided that if and when I get pregnant there will be no announcements on fb. I will not even be announcing the birth. I will put up 1 photo of the baby only when its born. Just the one. maybe one every year there after if I feel like it. Thing is I don't really want my baby splashed out on FB before its too old. Can you imagine when they are 18 / 21 and at uni and half of his/her mates would have seen him/her in a nappy or with choc all over their face! How embarrassing. So I have decided I won't be putting up any on FB. Cut will have a password protected tumblr account to share pics with family and close friends.

*But not cut.

Yes true - I am determined to catch that evasive eggo this month! Told DH last night to be prepared cuz I'm going to jump him when he gets back. he says he can't wait

Afternoon ladies,

Been having a lurk this morn. Im with you all on the facebook thing. I rarely go on it. I find that people put anyone down as a friend. Mine are only my actual friends, plus a couple from school who I got on well with. I cant bear to look at all the ...oh what shall i have for tea.... oh ive broke a nail ..... oh ive got a new top. Who gives a shit. The very few pics of DD on there have been put on by other people at birthdays etc. I love my own kid and I know it sounds harsh but I just dont wanna look and gush over anyone elses. When/If I ever get pg and have baby. Will not be facebooking it.

As im in a really cant be arsed cycle. Last clomid one - my body just cant do another. I think i maybe ov'd over wkend. I havent even checked my calender to see when AF should be due. Cant be bothered to calculate what cd im on or anything. This is a r-e-l-a-x-e-d month. TBH i think im DTD'd out. Gone EOD over possible ov time and they were half hearted efforts. I just cant believe the clomids gonna work, so im sort of looking forward to having a go without it. However long my cycles may be.

resipsa Excellent work on tha fake smile.

ribs i don't know if i should congratulate you on chilledness or not?

i agree about Facebook. i like it to keep in contact with good mates around the world but i hate the enforced lack of privacy.

my dh is convinced i have been fertilized. i am not :)

interview in west friggin London with a nice brand.

my luck considering we want to move to the east coast. argh!!

Good luck - I think kick What will be will be.

Yeah im now in the mindset that DTD like crazy has got me nowhere and im tired of all the up and down-ness (is that a word, i dont think so) of keeping track where we are. I saw the ewcm, did 3 ov tests, 2nd one positive. job done.

Next month mind you will be different - when its cd50 -odd and im wondering when the hell im gonna ovulate. I thought a chilled out month was in order before I go super-stressed.

Im hoping that the acupuncture will help my cycles and im all ready to get my agnus castus, and loads of people swear by that stuff. Anyone had a go with it?

Hi-Five RIBS thats so chilled out. I am taking a leaf out of your book. I haven't monitored cycle days. previously I used to keep spreadsheets (shakes head in despair) and track every symptom on my app, mood swings and had notes etc on CM changes. Yikes! This month I haven't looked at the app so don't know what CD im on. It feels nice to not know.

OPKs and shagging are the only two things that im doing this month. Oh and I have been asked to plan two baby showers (fake smiles galore)

I succumbed to baby crack last night where I browsed Mamas and Papas and started reading Taurus star sign as that's what my baby will be if I get pregnant this month. No more baby site browsing...for now

Get me home! Route to station involves walking past birth registry office. I get near and the doors open to disgorge hundreds (well, 3) proud sets of parents with newborns in v cute outfits.

I need some of that "chill" today!

Hi all

Been keeping busy with work and life so haven't been on much.

Monitor has gone back to low today but we're going to keep DTD. Currently on CD17 and have so far DTD CD9, 12, 14, 15.

No wonder I'm confused: monitor said I ov'd on Cd14 or 15, IPeriod says CD20 and Period Tracker says CD24!

hi Winkle that is confusing indeed. The only thing I can say is keep shagging and you will have it covered :)

oh dear repisa! I dont know how you do it - might need to invest in a pair of horse blinders when walking past that dreaded thing!!