BFP in 2012- a thread for winkling-advice and COD-avoidance!

[wishfulthinking1]

So... here we are!
In a positive move to avoid monthly heartache this is the thread where we'll ttc in 2012.

"will there be winkling?" of course!
"will there be tinkling?" too right! you filthy buggers
"will there be time in the COD?" probably- but it'll only be short lived!
"will there be BFPs?" YES YES YES!

A pledge! do you think I'm taking this too seriously?
I, wishfulthinking, promise to ttc with all my might. I accept that ttc is a long, drawn out process and I shant allow myself to become too obsessed with the process in 2012. (if I remain in-duffed at new year, however, I reserve the right to be right royally pissed off with life and everyone in general!)

Who's with me?

Wishfulthinkng1- ttc numero 1- expecting a sticky BFP on July 31st (and at 28 day intervals thereafter!) Days till wedding - 6!

Xxx

repisa - 32Bs at 41 is a good thing ;) think my 34Cs at 30 are already pointing down south.

I promise I am so, SO much more irrational than you lot think I am. In reality, I am also the one who has learnt to surrepticiously poke her chest with her forearms in a non-suspicious way to check for sore boobage and gets all excited if its still there

Ha Red - the baby you're going to have will do more damage in 6 months than those 30 years!

I would kill for badges of love down to my knees. I would kill for morning sickness that made me vomit like HELL all fucking day for 3 months if I knew that I was pregnant and that it was healthy.

Both of which are very real issues that may not happen at all for me.

oh Kick that post is like an extract of my feelings...especially the 3rd paragraph about not knowing how to convey feelings and the bits about feeling jealous and swearing at women who get pregnant the first time - and another group who I wish I wasn't friends with is the ones who get pregnant by accident lots of swearing . They just don't know what the phrase 'trying for a baby' means.

anyway i have rambled loads today....thanks for being there and listening I really love this thread. X

Kick give your DH a big cuddle and be nice to him :) he sounds lovely.

Kick yes I am on the 5mg of Folic hun I also take a Multi-vit that has Folic acid in it too!! You are right about TTC being an incredibly personal journey. The emotions are hard to control and hard to cope with.
Kick I am irrational like you wouldn't believe alot of the time when TTC. My poor DP doesn't know whether he's coming or going (no pun intended). I feel sorry for him alot but the thing is I can admit it and when you can admit it sometimes it just saves you from the torture of having to spend 3 days in a mood (no matter how difficult it is to admit). In fact now I will announce when I am about to be irrational and the argument that could follow is diffused before it's happened. It doesn't work all the time but I am a Leo afterall.

Red Thanks for the advice hun, I'm pretty sure he has an idea of how I feel but you are right in suggesting that I should make my feelings clearer. Maybe in a few days when I am feeling more rational (haha) about the situation I can broach the subject with him. It shocked me more than anything, I think, when I realised that for the first time in a long time we had a different plan. A sensible one on his part (this is me trying to be rational and understanding) but a confusing one for me. I'll try!

So Kicks post really moved me. I'm not sure if I fit into one of the catagory's above. My history includes 2 accidents, 2 Terminations for Fatal abnormalties and 1 TTC journey that took 4 months and 9 months later produced our beautiful DS. And believe me I thank my lucky stars everyday that he is here and is healthy. And those women that fall PG easily and don;t seem to have any problems, you can hate them - I hate them.......for 5 minutes and then I remember an old Mumsnetter who told me once that they were lucky, yes! But they didn't have my baby, they had their baby. And they hadn't taken away my chance of being a mummy, but that TTC was my chance to take!! I hope I have worded this sympathetically and I don't offend anyone - by all means let rip if I do and I understand that we are all very different. But it kind of became a bit of a philosophy for me.

Thanks for your support guys, means alot xxx

Hi all-
Just popping in to say hello- still lurking and keeping fx for you all. Things with me are fine-I'm 5+1 today, no symptoms to speak of- just sore boobs.

Hope you're all well xxx

P.s. for all those moody cows on 2ww, I thought I was one of you. However, now I'm pg I'm still a moody cow. Turns out i am, in fact, just a moody cow- Lucky DH! X

Wow storm - I am sorry for your losses. How awful. Do they know why the abnormalities?

We own walk our own paths I guess. I always remembered the line in "To Kill a Mockingbird" about how you never know someone until you jump in their skin and walk around in it.

I try to but I don't always do it right

Loads of posts today.

resipsa I am sure your 32bs are fabulous!

red enjoy the wine and your bf will understand why you had a bit of an outburst.

kick I know what you mean about your rant. I sometimes feel that way s d don't like the feeling. Like I was only really happy to hear my cousin is pregnant once i heard it took her 18 months of ttc. I know it makes me a bit of a shit for feeling that way but I can't help it.

wishful Good to hear things are going well even if you are still a moody cow

Wow, we got a little deep today! Taught us all we aren't alone though at least.

Storm I understand where you coming from and you haven't offended anyone. I guess we forget that - it's good to be reminded that we will all have own experiences of motherhood and our own personal journey. I don't really hate these women just feel very very very envious to the point where I find myself wishing it was me and not them.

Wishful haha hope Dh is prepared for the next 8months :) go easy on him.

Ladies our time will come...things will be good again.

I know this is irrational, really I do, but I need one of you to tell me it's stupid or I will end up blaming it if we aren't successful this month. So... I went for my longest run yet today but then I thought of a poor little egg I might have bouncing around made me feel bad.

It's stupid, right? I can't stop nature just by running!

Argh I know that feeling. It takes me a long time to work through the green monster and come out and congratulate someone...

Things are good as well. We are in lucky with the men we married, we have our health, wealth and prosperity. We are alive and well and life really could infinitely worse!!

dulcet NOTHING will happen to el eggo if you go for a run. In fact, I am firm of the opinion that you produce good hormones that actually help the eggo. We just went for a swim to get rid of some of the excess bleurgh from dinner.

I have a random question. We've decided that we could live in London and have a two bed place in Zone 1 or 2 (currently in zone 2). Or we could move to Southend-on-Sea and have a four bed house and travel in for about the same amount of time AND money.

Does anyone have an opinion of Southend??

kick I was born in Southend, lived there till I was 10 and have friends and family there still am on iPhone app atm so hard to type but will log on properly and talk about it when I can get on the laptop in a bit

Oooh yay kitten! It sounds positive (lie if you have to!) and my DH is so excited about the possibility of us having a house and a home and stuff. We've recently moved here from overseas so nothing is ours and we live in a nice place but we're spending our money on our rent, rather than on our home.

We would rather have a home life than a city life. And DH wants the sea. We just aren't sure where to go where we can have a balance :)

No idea about Southend kitten but it sounds better than the city to me!!

We live in a tiny one bedroom place now and we need to move to a 2-bed by December. We would save about 1000 a month in rent alone to move from a 2 bed flat in London to a 4-bed house in Southend

Grrrr I can't get him off the laptop - some excuse about having to work or some such rubbish.

Very briefly, DH and I tried the city life ourselves and barely lasted a year, so I highly recommend ditching town and getting yourself a home. Commuting can be a bitch but the weekends in a lovely place make up for it many times over. Southend and the surrounding area has some lovely places to choose from. Avoid central Southend as its not great, some nice areas include Leigh-on-Sea, Benfleet, Rayleigh and a few others. If you're not set on Southend in particular I would also recommend checking out the south coast areas around Brighton - can advise on areas that way too if interested (live that way myself now)

I can give you more detail tomorrow from work, will pm you

Thanks kick for the sense. I know it's got to be fine but brain started making it a reason for why we won't catch it this month!

Kitten - that would be great, thanks! DH works in central London and I think Southend way is just a teeny bit closer than Brighton so his heart seems set on Southend.

But will wait for your DM tomorrow. Blimming men working!!!

If it makes you feel any better dulcet I conceived dd the month we decided to take a break from ttc. In the 2ww I

Had some stupidly boozy nights out
Smoked loads on nights out (usually a none smoker)
Went out running 4 times
Upped my weights (I used to lift weights but dropped to lower weights because of ttc)
Gave blood.

If its going to stick a run will do nothing to stop it.

Morning ladies.....

storm I'm so sorry for your losses, can't begin to imagine what a hideous time you've been having and how hard it must be for you to keep picking yourself back up to start again. My fingers are firmly crossed for you

Hugs to the rest of you feeling down at the moment too - I feel like a bit of a ttc imposter only being on cycle 4 when some of you ladies have been through so much, but I think (hope) I do understand a little bit of how you all feel.

wishful glad you're doing well :)

kick am just about to pm you now!

Thanks whenshewas. It was irrational, but once it's in your brain you sometimes need others sense to wash it out! ounds like you had a fun couple of weeks there though! haha.

I am into my 2ww now I reckon. twiddles thumbs Now what?

No problem dulcet. I find I can be quite sane and objective when it is someone else but turn into a gibbering superstitious wreak when it's me.

I am on 5 dpo at the moment and time is dragging.