BFP in 2012- a thread for winkling-advice and COD-avoidance!

[wishfulthinking1]

So... here we are!
In a positive move to avoid monthly heartache this is the thread where we'll ttc in 2012.

"will there be winkling?" of course!
"will there be tinkling?" too right! you filthy buggers
"will there be time in the COD?" probably- but it'll only be short lived!
"will there be BFPs?" YES YES YES!

A pledge! do you think I'm taking this too seriously?
I, wishfulthinking, promise to ttc with all my might. I accept that ttc is a long, drawn out process and I shant allow myself to become too obsessed with the process in 2012. (if I remain in-duffed at new year, however, I reserve the right to be right royally pissed off with life and everyone in general!)

Who's with me?

Wishfulthinkng1- ttc numero 1- expecting a sticky BFP on July 31st (and at 28 day intervals thereafter!) Days till wedding - 6!

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Tried an ov stick for first time today and it came up +ve! All pg tests I've done since last wk have been -ve so I don't think itd be left over from previous pg. have been dtd at least eod and mainly ed since middle of last week and are going to continue to do that this week so hopefully will catch it!

Does anyone know how many days ov sticks will be +ve for?

and once you detect the surge, keep testing until the day the surge goes away. because you may have a 48 hour surge and the egg drops up to 3 days after the surge

inadvertently answered woods question

as for acidic v alkaline

ssome foods become alkaline in your body

repisa thats exactly how I feel - one minute I am laughing next min I am thinking about what could have been last month and I am still back to square one.

I am a bit uplifted by the fact that I can get pregnant and it might happen this month.

woody keep the shagathon going. fx for you.

she resumes munching through the blueberries

Morning all.....wow it seems like you've all gone poas bonkers this month! I've not even slightly ventured down the OPK road just yet - that way madness lies for me I think. It all just sounds so woolly and, well, unpredictable, from what you girls have said.

Interesting points on the alkaline diet, will toddle off and have a read of that link in a sec - DH has been asking what he can do to help (apart from the obvious ) so hopefully there will be some tips for him too.

red I have visions of you looking like Violet Beauregarde from Willy Wonka you crazy blueberry eating lady! :o

holy crap according to that list my diet is pretty much a conception nightmare

Pasta and honey are acid forming???

Well I'm allergic to bananas so there's no hope for me then!

lol kitten come to think of it I do have a pinkish purple tongue from the herbal tea.

yes i saw pasta, rice and bread and buried my head in my hands :) but then i think it says you need a 'balance' so maybe eating acidic food is not bad if you balance it with alkaline. I mean I eat 2 bananas a day to make up for these damn addictive blueberries.

Afternoon Ladies,

Winkle I used the CBFM to conceive my DS back in 2010 and along with temping it took 4 Cycles! (This was after my first Termination due to Annencephaly)

I was about to dust my CBFM off and have already started charting to try and figure out when AF will arrive but then DP dashed all hopes of us starting to TTC imminently as he has decided to try and sort out his work situation first!!! He's been self-employed for 7yrs now but work is slow recently and he's decided he needs a 'proper' job before we bring another baba into the world. (Yet, he was the one after we had to Terminate for the 2nd time that as soon as I felt ready we could try again)

I could be here prematurely and he has a point but in the same breath after what has the potential to happen to us (increased risk of Annencaphalic Preganacies) time isn't our best mate even though we're young.

I felt a bit sad after we had this convo!!

So now we know we're not on the same page it has kinda put the dampners on any sexual activity! Mainly because I don;t want him to think we're at it just cos I want to get up the duff and if it were to happen I wouldn't want him to panic or be unhappy........pffffft!!

He did say 'lets just cool it on the TTC just for the time being' so I am drawing HOPE from this statement. Stay Positive StormBird!!

Anyway, I'm a bit jel of everyone else's supportive DH/DP's (not that mine is not supportive - I'm just not getting what I want at the minute).

Sorry for the outpouring, I just had to get it off my chest! And sorry for not really name checking!

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Oh crisis Storm that's awful. And I am at a higher risk as well. Crap :(
I take my 5mg prescribed folic acid, then another Pregnacare and some more 400mg of folic acid. I know it's too much but I want to try mitigate the risk as much as possible :(

DH and I have already agreed that we would terminate if they found any congenital or neural defects. That's made me a bit sad now though :( Sorry

What I do with the alkaline stuff is drink alkaline powder to be honest. I can't be changing my diet massively and I already have to fucking well inject everytime I look at food so I honestly can't be arsed to sit down and work out a meal depending on all that. The alkaline powders will help as well because there are a few bit of other things that thrive in acid so I found my urine tests have literally gone from 6.0 - 6.5 acidity to 7.5 alkaline (and I read somewhere that your body should be at about 7.4 to conceive).

Too. Much. Crap.

And are you on the 5mg folic acid, Storm?

storm so sorry you are at increased risk. The termination must have taken its toll.

resipsa sorry you had a "argh I'm not pregnant moment - they suck.

I think yesterday's preg symptoms are just me bring a bit ill. Have a headache today and feel a bit washed out - preg symptoms at 3dpo what was I thinking?

Google "progesterone" whenshewas :D

It's more than likely a nice, positive symptom that you've ovulated

the 2ww is dreadful temptation for symptom spotting whenshewas fx you are having the early pregnancy ones.

storm you have been through a lot with the terminations. Have you told DH how you feel deep down about ttc? Maybe he will see how much you want it and change his mind... If it helps my DH was not always this supportive. I had to wait for over a year for him to be ready to TTC... it was frustrating as hell. Feel free to vent on here - we are here to listen. x

Stern note to self for remainder of 2012; remember that sore boobs + nausea close to CD1 are caused by progesterone and NOT by soon-to-be-mini-me. At least the blokes in the office might be spared the hourly boob poke.

Yeh reliably, you can ONLY get those symptoms after implantation, which occurs about 10dpo (generally). There are the odd exceptions to the rule but it then takes hcg about 3 - 5 days to appear in the blood / urine after that so you can look at 13 dpo to start getting symptoms.

resipsathe blokes are going to be gutted if you stop poking your boobs.

Last few months I only got implantation spotting at 8/9 dpo. So no more symptom spotting till then

So good to see it written our like that kick! Nice and clear, in days. I know it's not an exact science but it does help to have a guideline like that. So in theory I can symptom spot from the middle of next week!

Yes I had no symptoms till 15dpo - so I won't bother this time around. I am kind of excited as I felt quite a lot of things at 15dpo so know what to spot or look out for.

My DH said I need to "stop obsessing". I was like swoons off "Fine, I will have wine".

He hates me drinking wine when we're TTC but he can't say anything about it now else I can say that HE is obsessing

He told me today he is broody as hell and he can't wait for an addition to our family.

Poor bloke. Then he gets the moody as hell wife for the next 2 weeks

Do you think we become touchy bitches when it comes to ttc? I feel like I have become one. I had a massive go at my best friend over the weekend....shes my BFF and a very good mate - a lovely lovely girl - and I bit her head off (virtually). She called and we got talking about life, and kids etc and I told her abt the cp and then she came out with "relax" and "don't stress it will happen".

I told her some horrible things down the phone and then I told her I was sorry for being this way. Thing is she was only trying to console me but didn't know what the right thing to say was.

She then tells me shes also having thyroid problems and risk of mc for ttc. I felt like shit. I dont want to be this person.

I think it probably does get to you and make you a bit more sensitive. You don't realise it will be hard until you start trying and the more you focus on it the more unfair it seems. Something so 'simple', that any one else seems to be able to manage, is beyond you and its frustrating. And I think it's human nature to sometimes take frustrations out on other people. It doesn't mean you are a bitch all the time red. Just maybe a little bit more sensitive about issues relating to it and frustrated with things you can't really control. That needs to be expressed in some way, just unfortunately it can be the ones you love that suffer. But only temporarily until you feel bad and apologise!

Red she's your BF, she'll understand. Far more healthy to vent every now and then, I'm sure. I keep it all in which just makes for more lonely, sleepless nights with a tear stained pillow.

Who knew I could feel so very, very sorry for myself ?

And the boob poking. Droopy 41 yr old 32Bs. Don't think they'll be missed when compared to the vast amount of young and bouncy cleavage on display in the same office .

yes i think its why I have been feeling so miserable dulcet, like you say I always thought TTC would be something simple and used to be day-dreaming about how I'd announce the pregnancy to my family and friends, what prams i'd buy, what i'd feel like pregnant and then when it doesn't happen, it drains all the excitement and hopes you initially felt. And you get left with a bitter taste.

I gave my friend another apology call a few hours later. She's my childhood friend almost like a sister to me, and all she was trying to do was console me. I think I am going to have to learn to control whatever I am feeling. Because its not making me a good person. kick i think my DH will be suffering 4 weeks of a moody cow :)

I think it's an INCREDIBLY personal journey. And I think that women generally torture the HELL out themselves because we have so many emotions that we have no idea what to do with.

I think that on top feeling about a million and twelve more things than men do, we also feel guilty for feeling those feelings and we feel like we're obsessing about things and that we are generally the only people who feel like that.

Then, I think the worst thing ever is that we honestly do think we're the only people who have the thoughts and emotions that we have and we have no idea how to convey that to anyone else because we genuinely do think that we are so alone in what we feel.

And the worst thing with TTC is that you're in the group who fall pregnant at the drop of a hat whether you want a child or not (I personally hate these women - my DH's sisters are these women who then bitch and moan that they can't afford the children. THEN USE CONTRACEPTION!).

Or you try for a baby and you want a baby and it just happens (I am very jealous of anyone who takes under 6 months).

Or you have been trying for ages and you hate anyone who falls pregnant in under 6 months and you harbour horrible thoughts about why you secretly hope it takes every ages to fall pregnant - see point 2 about subsequent guilt).

Or you have already had a baby and are trying for another but battling a bit (See point above about guilt and secret feelings of jealousy but at least you've already got a baby or six etc etc).
Or you don't want babies at all (kind of wish I could be in this group now).

The thing to remember here is that no matter which of the above groups you are in, we all still feel the same. We have the same emotions (except the first timers who fall pregnant first time - they have no idea...ever. swear word ;) )

I was so upset because my DH on Saturday jokingly said he was only good for sperm. I sulked for nearly a full day AND blamed him for not DTD on Saturday night. Then spent last night hinting that we missed the egg because HE didn't want to rumpy pumpy on Saturday so its now all HIS fault that we're not pregnant.

And no matter how much I try, I can't bloody fucking snap out of it!! No matter how much my MIND knows I am being completely and utterly irrational, I just can't stop thinking about it.

I think the hormones post-ovulation MUST play a role as well. They have to!