BFP in 2012- a thread for winkling-advice and COD-avoidance!

[wishfulthinking1]

So... here we are!
In a positive move to avoid monthly heartache this is the thread where we'll ttc in 2012.

"will there be winkling?" of course!
"will there be tinkling?" too right! you filthy buggers
"will there be time in the COD?" probably- but it'll only be short lived!
"will there be BFPs?" YES YES YES!

A pledge! do you think I'm taking this too seriously?
I, wishfulthinking, promise to ttc with all my might. I accept that ttc is a long, drawn out process and I shant allow myself to become too obsessed with the process in 2012. (if I remain in-duffed at new year, however, I reserve the right to be right royally pissed off with life and everyone in general!)

Who's with me?

Wishfulthinkng1- ttc numero 1- expecting a sticky BFP on July 31st (and at 28 day intervals thereafter!) Days till wedding - 6!

Xxx

Hi everyone - hope you've all had good weekends.

I'm not sure if I've ov this wkend - had ewcm yesterday (but not very much) and I've definitely had some twinges/pains in the right place. Then today I had a tiny amount of pink tinged cm - does this sound like ov?

Right so positive OPK on Friday at about 1pm. Have just done another one and no smiley face. Which means I may have started the egg dropping yesterday or today or tomorrow or Tuesday.

DTD Friday night at 1am and then again now at 8pm. Enough? ACK

Well it's the EOD approach so by all advice ive seen it should be enough kick. Some there before and after egg, should be plenty swimmers around.

You sound like a woman who knows what she is talking about though kick, plus mine was similar so I had smiley yesterday morning and negative this morning. DTD weds, fri, sat and hoping to grab DP in a minute. Is that enough in theory? Or does the smiley yesterday still mean I might not have dropped egg?

It should be OK, I think...but just remember that doing it at the right time is only part of the battle. The odds are still shit for conception! :-(

I have decided it is more luck than judgment, this getting pregnant lark!

Well hopefully it's enough as DP just can't face it tonight and I can't blame him really.

Like you say though nicola, the odds are so low that we could time it perfect and get no result. Just have to wait and see now!!

I did it at the right time for the first two months. Nothing. Think I may have missed this month...we shall see!

Your poor DP! That's why I just don't force the issue...I'd rather DTD less and enjoy it and it take longer than banging away like a chore more often!

Morning all. Every1 had a good wkend? I got my + opk on saturday, looks like quitea few of us on a similar cycle. This is gonna b fun in a few wks time. All stressing 2gether. We've hardly dtd at all this mnth. But we have at the rightish time I think, Fri, Sun , I think maybe either 2nite, if I can b arsed, or tomorrow night.

We've been eod for ages and got nowhere and we're nackered, so its either not bother at all or a half hearted attempt this month. I don't think it'll work, but u never know. Come on lucky healthy egg and sperm.

We tried that Nic and it didn't work for us so we're at the banging away like a chore stage!

Peaks gone from monitor and now on high but letting hubby have a rest today as we've dtd 2 days in a row. Because I don't fully trust the monitor we're going to keep dtd eod so I need him up for it and not burnt out!

He has had it a lot easier this month nicola, only this weekend I pushed it. Weds and fri were just for fun! Sat was my request but then asking him to do it sun would have been too much. Worked out fine though as I ended up feeling like crap anyway!

So we will all be 2ww together. I had my test date down as 18th, feels a lifetime away!

Its weird how we all try something different every month. We did the shagging eod last month but I feel a bit de-motivated to go for it again this month. All that heartache and stress, so just going for a i-am-not-bothered-about-ttc-anymore approach this month.

The thing is though I am very much bothered. This morning I felt like shit and probably need a slap to wake up and appreciate what I have. But I just feel so miserable and shitty. one of my close mates said she was ringing me yesterday to talk about something - I knew she was trying as well - and for some reason I was so scared that she was ringing to tell me she was pregnant. turns out she just wanted to chat. But I felt so shit for feeling this way. I actually didnt want to answer the phone and hear another pregnancy announcement. God! I feel terrible for feeling this way.

DH makes sex amazing and def doesnt make it a chore. But I feel like I don't want to try like crazy and get all disappointed. I feel like I am about to OV any min - lots of fertile CM - DH away till Thursday. Great! Just perfect!

Right I am going to make a brew and hope that gets me out of this mood.

nicola i couldn't agree more with you - its def all down to luck. The window of making it happen is so bloody narrow.

I am just :(

red I had a go at mine for not DTD on Saturday. I felt bad afterwards because it's not as though he doesn't want to. I am fortunate (like you) that mine doesn't see it as a chore. I did clarify with him that he could ask for it if he wanted to and that DTD "for fun" is still completely allowed.

He got home, went to the bedroom and started to whistle for me when we got home then. Nothing wrong with his drive!

Is anyone taking supplements? As crazy as it sounds, the one thing I've read about a fair bit is that your body needs to be more alkaline - the uterus needs to be more alkaline - to allow the sperm to survive and meet the egg. So I have ph strips and some alkaline powder and I drink that every day just in case.

Plus the mad folic acid, zinc and Pregnacare. Stopped the EPO yesterday though because the OPK was negative. Think we may have missed it by not DTD on Saturday but it's not a big deal really.

One thing to keep an eye out for is sore boobs. If you tend to get them, it's another fairly reliable sign that you've ovulated and the progesterone is on the increase... :)

Oh and it sounds so stupid but I really do have an Amazon wish list. It's just short of buying anything but it helps to think that I may be there soon enough to buy things.

It will happen. Just...try not to get so down about it. At least everyone on this thread is the same. NO newbies allowed

yes thats what I love about this thread and same as you have hidden the August one. I like this one - feels comfy to be on this thread.

haha - mine bought me some sexy lingerie which got me very horny and I love him to bits for doing that...but im just peed off that he's not here till Thu and I might OV anytime this week. I mean what am I supposed to do with that sexy lingerie? Clean the house and hoover in it! Eh?!

I have stupidly missed my pregnacare twice this weekend. I MUST NOT DO THAT again. I will google the alkaline stuff.

Kick you never know - you dtd before and after OV so you have a good chance of catching it.

at the whistling DH :)

The thing is that you have a window of about 3 days so may catch it yet!

Also, I am not totally convinced that the window is completely correct with a positive OPK. You can detect the surge for up to 48 hours and then it can be up to three days after that for the eggie to drop. Which means that you could potentially get an egg up to 5 days after the first OPK.

On top of that, I wouldn't say (and have read it) that EWCM is entirely reliable. I guess none of them are entirely reliable methods.

To be honest, the one thing I do is calculate my longest cycle and the fertile period from that, then my shortest cycle and the fertile period from that and that's when I concentrate DTD.

The OPK's may detect the surge but you may not drop an egg, also if you have PCOS you can have a surge twice in your cycle but only drop one egg once, the EWCM isn't completely reliable as I've discovered recently because it's not 100% correct at saying what time of the month you're at. I thought I had EWCM yesterday but felt quite dry inside when we DTD so I have no idea.

And nothing can predict if and when the egg actually drops.

So I reckon it's all about DTD and enjoying our other halves and just enjoying the ride. If it happens, it's where it's supposed to be.

yes I find myself obsessing less while using OPKs - I am furkling less around my cervix, not analyzing twinges or pains, not even checking consistency of CM. just know it looks fertile. I think OPKs might be a good thing to stop obsessing when I might be OV.

Also thinking of hobbies / things to do - to distract myself from TTC (if that's even possible) anyone have any ideas?

Good morning everyone. kick I am liking your little nuggets of info, especially the sore boobs stuff. I am 4 dpo and have very tingly boobs (yesterday and they are still tingly today). I didn't know they could get painful just because of the increase in progesterone post ovulation.

Everyone's dh sounds just lovely.

Cervix is even LESS reliable :D

Hobbies - MN?

I am job hunting. And erm...reading. And erm...trying to find out how to fall pregnant

sod the distraction techniques - who am i kidding?!
Reading didn't work for me - I went through 6 books last month - good chunky books. yes 6!

Kick I just checked dr.google. which came up with this link
www.fertilefoods.com/healthy-pregnancy/fertility/alkaline-foods-for-conception/

I have checked the list of foods - and bleeding heck my diet is more acidic than alkaline. My mum told me to eat bananas for conception (yes she knows we are trying and is being awfully nice and supportive abt it) now I know why?! I am making a list of food to get to assist implantation this month.

Do you know about blueberries much? I am getting conflicting views on berries - some websites saying they are acidic and others saying they aid ovulation and keep the eggs healthy. Not sure what to believe?! The reason I ask is because I eat a lot of these things - a box of blueberries a day, blueberry herbal tea and blueberry yoghurt! I know - I am insane.

Blueberries were one of those superfood a while back, weren't they? Dunno if they are acidic though. I would guess they were but that's not based on knowledge.

So to clarify, we could ov up to 5 days after smiley? I don't understand these sticks!!

I think if I've understood it correctly all OPKs tell you is that your egg is about to pop. In scientific terms they detect the LH in the urine. LH is present but surges when you are about to ovulate. You can ovulate anytime (12-36hr timeframe) of the LH surge being detected - so you could release the egg within 3 days after your smiley.

Basically I see OPKs as telling me my egg is about to be release and I should make sure there are spermies nearby.

another thing i forgot to add dulcet don't rely on the OPKs. dr. google and MN threads have informed me that even if you get a smiley face all it means is that your body is about to release the egg. you might get stressed and our stupid bodies may change their mind and fail to release it. then they might decide to try again and release the egg a bit later down the cycle which is why sometimes ppl get EWCM all over the place.

So basically i'm pissing on £5 worth of OPKs without any guarantees. yes TTC is bloody unpredictable.

Red hope you're feeling sunnier now (unlike the bloody weather). I was driving along just now feeling pretty happy, suddenly had a niggle that something was not quite right then I remembered; not bloody pregnant yet. That's how it gets you. It's cruel. And crap.

Cheers red. I am doing the cb trial so just POAS every day so when the smiley came I was happy but then I realised I wasn't sure what that meant! I am trying to trust my body more than the sticks but that's not always easy. Will try get another DTD in tonight and hope that we had it covered!