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BFP in 2012- a thread for winkling-advice and COD-avoidance!

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wishfulthinking1 · 15/07/2012 14:37

So... here we are!
In a positive move to avoid monthly heartache this is the thread where we'll ttc in 2012.

"will there be winkling?" of course!
"will there be tinkling?" too right! you filthy buggers
"will there be time in the COD?" probably- but it'll only be short lived!
"will there be BFPs?" YES YES YES!

A pledge! do you think I'm taking this too seriously?
I, wishfulthinking, promise to ttc with all my might. I accept that ttc is a long, drawn out process and I shant allow myself to become too obsessed with the process in 2012. (if I remain in-duffed at new year, however, I reserve the right to be right royally pissed off with life and everyone in general!)

Who's with me?

Wishfulthinkng1- ttc numero 1- expecting a sticky BFP on July 31st (and at 28 day intervals thereafter!) Days till wedding - 6!

Xxx

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NicolaHazel · 28/07/2012 16:27

I just can't do EOD with how exhausting my job is. I worked until 10 twice this week, which is not conducive to DTD!

If I've tried for as long as you have I'll have to put more effort it though.

KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 16:32

Shame it's rubbish with work but I think we've gotten to a point where we will make ourselves DTD at 2am if needs be.

We've been known to set the alarm for earlier in the morning and DTD then as well

NicolaHazel · 28/07/2012 16:54

That would be last resort as I get up just before 6!

KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 17:00

Ow!!!! My DH works from home so he can do whatever he wants.

I used to work early but then I resigned so now we can do anything until I get another job

NicolaHazel · 28/07/2012 17:04

I envy your freedom!

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wishfulthinking1 · 28/07/2012 17:29

Oh kick - I really didn't mean to add pressure to what's supposed to be a relaxed thread. I guess a list was just intended so that everyone could keep up with what was going on with everyone- sometimes its hard, especially when working, to try to keep up with it all, but it's still nice to feel 'in the know' IYSWIM? But perhaps a no list thread might be more relaxed :-) please don't all disembark to a scorpio only thread. I think I'm the only cancerian on here so it'd be very lonely. And, to be fair, I already feel lonely enough in the ttc process- I don't have anyone IRL I can talk to about these things.

nicola - I know what you mean about trying to fit ttc around work. I'm more of the 'we have to do it anyway- man up' mind set, but dh really hates the pressure. And, of course, me getting in a 'shag me, shag me, shag me quick' mentality just piles the pressure on! Not helpful! So, I'm trying to be relaxed about it for the next month or two.

Fwiw, dh doesn't like the pressure but he has said that he likes to know where abouts I am in the cycle so he can 'prepare himself!' clearly sex with my is quite an ordeal!!

Boooohooo- I'm having a sorry-for-myself everyone-thinks-I-add-pressure, dh doesn't-want-to-shag-me-all-the-time moment. Is feeling sorry for yourself a pregnancy symptom?

Xx

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KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 17:34

Oh nooooo wishful i really didn't mean that at all!! And was joking about the scorpio thread.

You don't add pressure at all. I just didnt want anyone to think i was being difficult

please don't feel like that :(

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wishfulthinking1 · 28/07/2012 17:41

Sorry kick- you're fine- I'm just an over-emotional over-reactor at the best of times. 1 day before AF is due, I'm worse! Certainly no hard feelings. :-)

My DH is out tonight, so I'm going to celebrate our 1 week anniversary by myself, with some wine and a stir-fry. Now I'm married I really know how to live it up!
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KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 18:31

Ah the joys of married life!! We had a rack of lamb ribs and some roast meg. Nom nom :)

frustratedpants · 28/07/2012 19:55

was honestly only meant to be lighthearted apologies if I offended anyone.

Lamb ribs sounds yummy. Smile
We had a BBQ with family. Which was non non until I was sick, but may well have sunstroke Blush

DulcetMoans · 28/07/2012 19:58

I wish I had your dinners... poor planning means I just have freezer nonsense!

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wishfulthinking1 · 28/07/2012 20:17

frustrated you're fine- it was just me having a moment- sorry!

Uh-hum, you've been sick twice in two days you say? I'm betting it's twins!!! Grin

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KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 20:19

Haha these hormones are mad!!! Bunch of women in one pretend room!! :)

frustratedpants · 28/07/2012 20:26

Pretty certain it's sunstroke today wishful. Sad going on the bright lobster pink state of my shoulders/back and the headache that's threatening Blush that'll teach me not to put my factor 50 on. only ever get sunburnt when I'm tidying the garden.

please don't say twins. Shock overacting brain has been saying that recently, but don't run in our families

What about burning lips? (as in facial lips) Confused

KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 20:46

I wouldn't think pregnant but only because it hurts more if you aren't or something goes wrong.

I am notoriously shit and get yelled at for not being supportive enough when ladies feel symptoms.

I just always hurt more when i thought i was pregnant and people agreed and then i wasn't :(

frustratedpants · 28/07/2012 21:00

Actually kick I appreciate your "now don't get carried away" for want of a way to phrase it because I do get carried away. I was a total bitch last month in COD Smile

KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 21:03

The thing is that it hurts. If someone is pregnant it won't go anywhere.

I hate seeing people hurt so i do try to mitigate it

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wishfulthinking1 · 28/07/2012 22:06

kick you need some sort of banner:

Kicktheguru: a sane voice in a mad world!

You are, of course, right not to encourage people go get too carried away. But, without getting carried away, I'm keeping everything crossed that this is a good luck thread!

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KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 22:08

Oh god me too.

I may outwardly APPEAR to have the voice of calm but I mentally symptom spot and go all crazy as well

I have just also had enough times where I was SO sure and I wasn't pregnant so I can ward off the evil symptom spotting a leeeeeeettle bit!

Newbie2 · 28/07/2012 23:24

red I'm so sorry for your news :( Are you ok? I'm not really sure what a chemical pregnancy is, it sounds weird that the test can detect a fake pregnancy! I guess this why we are told to wait until after AF arrives. That's so not fair on you. I hope AF passes super quick!

KickTheGuru · 28/07/2012 23:36

Newbie - a chemical pregnancy is in essence a very early miscarriage. The egg ia fertilized and implants but there ia normally a chromosomal abnormality and the body induces a miscarriage

you get a positive test but the hcg then drops off after the chem pg.

because it is so early, most women either don't pick up the positive test or they just assume it normal Af

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 28/07/2012 23:47

Hi newbie a chemical pregnancy is not a fake pregnancy but a pregnancy that fails very early on. The theory is that conception takes place but for some reason there is a chromosomal abnormality. Because the embryo is not healthy it fails to implant properly and dies very soon.

The body then miscarries but because it is so early this is just experienced as a normal or slightly late af.

KickTheGuru · 29/07/2012 00:29

We obviously think the same based on the almost identical explanation... :)

kittykatsforever · 29/07/2012 07:19

So I almost don't dare to say anything but this is second day now.......
I've had a very faint line.......
I'm very scared

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wishfulthinking1 · 29/07/2012 07:31

Oooooooh-kitty - a line is a line. When is af due? Fx for you.

Well... I was lying in bed this morning thinking about how af was due, and she usually comes in the night, but didn't. So.... I caved and tested, all the while being really annoyed with myself for not waiting. But cb digital says I'm 1-2 weeks pregnant! floozy- got pg a week before she was married- scandal

I've woken up dh who said agreed it was great, and has now gone back to sleep (in is defence he was out till 2 in the morning). So, here we go again! I mc at 7 weeks last time (though I started bleeding at around 6.4) We'll be marking the seven week point by flying to Thailand!! We originally decided not to go as I'd be 17 wks pg, which we didn't think was ideal. But then I had mc, so we decided to go ahead and book it. But I'll just have to be careful and take it easy!

I'm going to stick around on this thread, if it's ok, I'll dip a toe into an antenatal thread, but don't want to get over-excited, bearing in mind what happened last time but I am overexcited anyway!!

Fx of the rest of you girls!!
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