Any older mums ttc (late 30s)?

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I was just wondering how many of the ttc people were in their late 30s or 40s.

I am 38 and started ttc this year. It would be nice if we could support each other.

I'm 38 and dp is 40. 1st pg ended in m/c in October. Hopefully we'll have more luck in 2007.

I had IVF for all of my children, DS and DTS DD & DS and am blessed the treatment worked, I went through a premature menopause when I was 16!

As long as you don't give up that hope, I understand the ache and hurt in your heart, the need overtakes everything in your life, that is totally acceptable and nobody can tell you to dust yourself down and carry on with your life!

Oh my goodness, Sleepsooz! 16!! So you started periods at 13ish, and stopped again at 16? Did the doctors work out why?

Have you had to take hormone replacement since then? I'm so glad that IVF exists, and that it worked for you.

I've tried to get my GPs interested in my secondary infertility (we've been trying for well over three years now, since I was 35), but they just brush me off every time. Of course, having a miscarriage after 3 years and 2 months now proves that I am not infertile, merely sub-fertile, so they'll prob be even less interested. One GP ran a day 21 test, which proved that I was ovulating (already knew that from charting temps) and that my levels of progesterone were good for my age (28 at day 21, whatever that means).

It's all the more galling because I got pregnant with the first three very easily, so I am probably getting my comeupance now, as my sister delicately pointed out.

I have taken HRT since I was 19 I am now 45, I must admit I don't have any problems other than mood swings, but who doesn't? I hope you get sorted soon, I know how you feel, I mc triplets on the 1st IVF treatment but I now have 3 wonderful children, so am blessed!

Eaglebird, so sorry about your m/c

I have had all the blood tests and they were all normal, so I guess we just keep on trying. I will go to the drs again after Christmas and moan some more if nothing happens this month

Hi everyone Merry Christmas nearly.
I haven't posted for a while, but we have been actively TTC for a month or so now. Joined the Fertility Friend thing.
The thing is I only have a pathetic little digital thermometer, which isn't very accurate. I know I need to proper BBT one, but I'm not sure where to get one.
Do Boots stock them??
I have seen a couple on Ebay, has anyone tried?
Oh and anyone drinking grapefruit juice - Morrisons have Princes juice 2 for 1 at the moment - it's a steal. I stocked up for over Christmas.
I think Toblerone is a fertility aid as well (I hope )

Thought I might add myself to this thread - am 36 (and a half!!), and TTC numero uno. DP is 40 (and a quarter!).

Re. thermometers... I bought a Braun digital one from Boots for £9.95. Although it's not an 'official' fertility thermometer, it seems to do the job. It calculates to one decimal place, in centigrade. Not sure about the ones from ebay.

Hi maisiemog...

Quite early days for TTC - this is our second month of trying (and our first of trying with any real vigour!).

What about you?

Hi Xmassy, us too. It's really been the past month that we have been trying by paying attention to the timing etc... It's quite tricky because I never really knew when my period was due in the past and didn't have a clue about any of this stuff.
It's quite sad, but I think we struggle to find the time to BD, because I work evenings and one day at the weekend, so by the time I get in from work and eat, I'm half asleep.
We already have a little boy of 25 months and kind of wanted him to have started nursery before trying again.
My local Boots only had a thermometer for £12.99 today, so I'm just going to order one from Ebay and save a few pounds for all the supplements that have been recommended.
There seem to be digital ones and non-digital (whatever the correct term is??? )
It looks I'll be ovulating over Christmas, so not sure how that's going to work out - it's hectic enough as it is.

xmas greetings. Can I join this thread? Have one DS almost 12mths by IVF. Unsucessful embryo transfer in November hope to try again in new year,I'm 37.

Hi there, come on in!!
How are you feeling? Sorry to hear what happened. Are you TTC just now, or is there a wait?
How is your LO, sleeping well I hope?

Sorry I see you said New Year. I'm so rubbish at all this.
How are you feeling now?

Is anyone going to be ovulating around Christmas day?
I have my AF now - day four. It's my first month of charting anything, and I haven't managed to take my temp in the morning yet, because my horrible little boy finds the thermometer beside the bed and runs off with it.
Anyone else using Fertility Friend and charting temps and so on?
I have a basic digital thermometer, but have just ordered a basal body temp thermometer from Twinkle baby wotsit on Ebay, so hopefully I will be able to start charting in the next few days.
If I turn out to have a fairly standard cycle then I will have to be looking to BD from Christmas Eve onwards - which will be challenging, as we will have guests, and will be travelling quite a bit around this time. Hmm!
January might be a better month for us, because we will be skint and staying in a lot.

I'm almost 37 and we have been ttc for about 7 months (DS is almost 21 months). I recently had the blood tests which indicated I may not be ovulating. This month I've also been using persona and test sticks for the first time - I'm on CD18 now and no sign of anything. We are waiting for the results of DH's first sperm test but I am feeling so despondent. Another friend has just called to say she's pregnant with her second child (the second friend this week). I feel so hopeless and pathetic

Hi Littlestar- it is hard when everyone around you seems pregnant (and they do!!). Stick around here- we're all pretty much in the same boat...

You are getting medical help now, and should soon know whether there is a treatable problem. And CD18 is not too bad- there are ladies on the TTC after miscarriage who are now pregnant despite extremely erratic cycles (anything up to 45-50 days). Taking charge of your fertility, so that you begin to spot your fertile times, is quite the best thing to do.

Hang in there.

Hi Little star, I'm sorry to hear you are feeling fed-up. I hope your little boy is cheering you up, and reminding you that you are a lovely mummy already and have lots of great qualities.
We hadn't planned for our DS so haven't had to think about this before, as it's all new we've only had one month of not succeeding, but I can see that if it went on for months it would be totally frustrating. I think particularly if you had no idea why.
It sounds positive that you have had tests done, so you have something to address, rather than having no idea what the hold-up is.
Do you know what your GP has planned for you?
On the plus side - you did conceive your DS, so you know you have been capable before.
My approach is not to be too optimistic, because I don't want to get depressed if it takes ages/doesn't happen. Kind of treating it like an experiment almost, you know keeping a distance slightly.
I don't know if it would work for you, but for me it helps that I have a lot of other projects which are kind of like babies. This is what I have been thinking about whilst I was planning to TTC. I can be a bit prone to depression and have to manage my feelings quite carefully, so I hope that I will be able to keep perspective by not focussing too much on TTC. I hope this works, it has worked in other difficult situations in the past. I really don't want to get very down about this.
I do worry sometimes that I might focus too much on the potential baby and not enough on the actual baby that I have and I hate to feel that he isn't enough. How do you avoid feeling that way?
Anyway, I'm not being very positive here. I wish you the best of luck for the new year.
Could I ask are you taking any of the supplements recommended on this thread?
It's a bit boring all the waiting isn't it?
Merry Christmas everyone on this thread.

Thanks Maisiemog,(just logged on) feeling alot more positive now thanks. Your last message struck a chord with me about focusing on the potential baby and not on the one here. DS is growing so quickly I sometimes forget he is still a baby Really looking forward to first Christmas with him. Last shop today, I am not going anywhere near a supermarket till well into the new year

Have a brilliant xmas everyone

P.S Good luck with the BD

Thanks maisiemog, you're so right and I'm definitely feeling a bit more positive today. I've ordered some books about conception so I can get more info about supplements, diet etc and feel a bit more in control. Like you, I have been prone to depression in the past and I don't want to go there again, especially as I already have such a fab little boy who is the light of my life.

Like you say, it's boring - and I've never been very patient at waiting! But hopefully it will all be worthwhile and in the meantime at least I've got Mumsnet to take my mind off things

You are very welcome Sleepless and LittleStar, I hope you both have great Christmases with your LO's.
I'm plotting my chart of Fertility Friend - haven't managed to take my temp at all so far, can never remember first thing and when I do remember it's the afternoon. [rolls eyes]
Has anyone else read the 'coursework' that they send? I am kind of struggling to keep up with it, on lesson 19 or something now and haven't had time to read the last three or four properly. Cor it's hard work all this isn't it?

I don't know how well I'll manage to do with the complete avoidance of alcohol.
Just have another choccie now. Yum yum!

Not finding the festive season the ideal time to TTC. It's pretty hard to get through Christmas with no alcohol or coffee and finding time between shopping and travelling and cooking for BDing - not easy.
Best of luck for babies in 2007 though.

Hi there, new to this, (website and pregnancy!)

Late 30's, pregnant, trying to work out how to start a new link and failed so just wondering how I find out if there are any other similar women in my situation in the Medway towns in Kent. Am feeling pretty isolated!

Thanks very much!

Oh dear, I'm sure you will find someone to talk to over on the pregnancy discussion area here
If you look at the top of all the conversations (threads) you will see this
To create a new conversation in the "Pregnancy" topic, go here
click on 'here' and put in a suitable title e.g. anyone else in the medway area expecting in July, or something like that.

Does that help at all?
Are there any pre-baby type groups where you are? I went to an NCT bumps and babies thing before I had my little boy, which I found on the Internet. Most people there had already had there babies, but it was good to hear about their experiences, because I was a bit worried about what to expect.
Another good site is netmums . They have a bit for pregnant mums and you should be able to find clubs events etc... in you local area.

This area of mumsnet is where people come when they are still trying for a baby, so you are doing pretty well from that point of view.

Maisiemog, Thanks for suggesting the netmums site had never heard of it before and it looks very helpful