Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

Any older mums ttc (late 30s)?

359 replies

sideways · 27/02/2006 15:57

I was just wondering how many of the ttc people were in their late 30s or 40s.

I am 38 and started ttc this year. It would be nice if we could support each other.

OP posts:
Juicylucythe2nd · 13/10/2006 10:35

Piz / Lemon. Have started us a new thread over on the pregnancy pages:

Over 35 thread

Feeling so proud of myself for managing a link

PizPizPiz · 13/10/2006 11:57

Thanks for the congrats girls, I'm struggling to keep up with all the threads !
My due date is 20th June and I'm 36, so the youngest of the oldies at the mo!

K1K2 · 13/10/2006 12:04

Hi Guys

Hello Trace , thanks so much , good to see you are still around, how are doing love, I haven't had a chance to look on the other threads yet if you are still on them.... Silly me of course I am a BFP , the preg hormones are already rotting my brain. Anyway. This is a very good time for us "oldies" , 4 BFP's in a week! Congrats Jucy L ( no wonder I couldn't see your old name on the thread recently), Piz and Lemon-It is good to go on an over 35 thread, as I am prob the oldest preg for all pregs this year on MN!! And at least I'll be in good company on the due in June thread.I am 7wks +0 today, due 2nd June. Good luck as always to everyone else trying xxx

Mirry71 · 24/10/2006 12:17

Hello everyone, just wondered if I could ask some advice.
Well I'm going to have to admit defeat and go to the GP, I'm 35 have been ttc since last December when I got married and came off the pill (apart from a brief blip in the summer) - done temperatures and stuff although not ov sticks. Really thought this month but....no. Anyway given my age (DH is 39) I thought I really can't carry on just hoping and need to do something about this. So am going to book appointment with GP.
The thing is I don't have a GP I know well and was wondering - what will they say to me? What sort of things will they suggest I do? And what should I say/not say to them? A friend of mine said I should say I had been trying for a year but they will know that's not true because of my pill prescription.
Oh dear. I really did hope this time...but must just be positive...any info gratefully received...

1n2s · 24/10/2006 12:33

Hi Mirry71, I'm 34 soon to be 35. Got married in May this year and came off the pill a month before. I have been to see my GP last week mainly because I was a bit worried as get awful period pains/nausea for full week before AF arrives and have never had this before. Its apparently hormones coming off the pill but had a long chat with GP (who was lovely - never met her before). Told her I was cruising toward 35 and had been trying for 7mth - she said to come back at xmas and they'll take some bloods and sperm count of DH. If you're 35 and being trying for 6months they will move fast, if under 35 they'll tell you to come back after 12months of trying. I'd pop along and tell the story

Juicylucythe2nd · 24/10/2006 12:39

Mirry - just because you had a prescription doesn't mean you took the whole lot. When was your last sript? You can just say you decided not to take them and got them just in case you changed your mind about TTC - but TBH they're not likely to be that strict about grilling you!

When I went I said I'd been trying for a year. My GP wasn't very clued-up, but he was very nice and helpful and referred us straight away. (I was 37 / DH 43 at the time).

Our GP sent 2 forms off straight away to the fertility clinic. One for an appt and one to get DH's sperm test done - as this is always the first test they do and because of this we got those results at the first appt with the consultant.

Do tell him you've been temping and take records with you. The GP may not want to see them, but they may be useful for the consultant.

It is very common to TTC up to 2 years before becoming pg, so don't dispair, but I understand you wanting to get all the tests done. For me it was about ruling any issues out so I didn't loose time unneccessarily.

Good luck.

Mirry71 · 24/10/2006 12:40

Thanks 1n2s - I've googled the doctors and found the doc who seems to do most antenatal stuff. Fingers crossed. I don't like the thought of taking lots of drugs and stuff but will just have to see what they say. Prob that we don't have enough sex!

Mirry71 · 24/10/2006 12:45

Juicylucythe2nd did DH go with you to the GP? Mine is keen to come and sees it as a thing we should do together - I don't know whether they will think it odd....

Juicylucythe2nd · 24/10/2006 12:49

My DH works away alot so I went to the GP on my own to get the referral (and my GP referred my DH for tests in his absense ).

He can go with you for support and it can't do any harm, but really I'd say it's the consultants appt which is more important.

Mirry71 · 24/10/2006 12:53

Good thought...i will tell him that...oh well it's set for 2 weeks time. I am just so worried about what they say...still i guess better to know than not.

Juicylucythe2nd · 24/10/2006 12:57

Mirry - We started TTC in Oct 2004 and I didn't get a BFP until April 2006 (sadly ended in mc, but now 9weeks). All our tests showed us as normal and I got approved for IUI and IVF, but fell naturally twice before my appts.

It really is just good for peace of mind - If your periods are regular it's unlikely there is anything wrong.

Fingers crossed for you - let us know how you get on. xx

Mirry71 · 24/10/2006 13:28

will do - thank you very much x

1n2s · 24/10/2006 13:38

Hi Mirry71 - no I don't like the thought of taking lots of remedies etc but I was advised by my Dr to be taking folic acid if TTC which I've been on for 8months. I was also quizzed my GP last week as to how often we have sex - bit nosey I know (shock). She said we should being doing it 2-3times a week and not just around ovulation time. Must admit - we go for it every other day between day 10 and 16 and am using OTK to help but too knackered to be at it all the time. I'm going back before xmas if nothing happens to have blood tests done - I guess these will be for POS and Thyroid check. I'll probably go alone although DH v supportive and would happily come with me.

Mirry71 · 24/10/2006 14:24

I know exactly how you feel. Really go for it around days 8-15 but after that....too knackered! so may face similar questions from GP!

wishing1 · 29/10/2006 04:01

Any of you use an OPK? How did you time sex if you did. The sad thing about me is, I don't care so much about sex until around ovulation and then I"m obsessed and nervous! I am 38 and I know my clock is ticking, ttc since June, I had all the blood work done, everything's fine I have 2 teenagers and trying with my new hubby who has none. I wish so bad I had the BFP, but I'm again in the two week wait. We bd the day before and the day of the positive OPK, hubby studying for another medical exam, hard to get him out of the books

wishing1 · 29/10/2006 04:07

Just a quick not about evening primrose oil. I work in the hospital and just the past week have scanned 2 patients with induced liver hepatitis from evening primrose oil. Seems they started getting a little jaundice and really tired, liver function levels irratic so they were asked to stop taking it and things would get better, just thought I would give the warning.

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 30/10/2006 12:56

I am 39 and have had a misscarriage today at 5 weeks. I got bfp last week after 18 months of ttc and on the first round of clomid 50mg.

I had a miscarriage at 12 weeks in 1992, a dd in 2003 who is 3 next week and lost a dd in april last year who was stillborn at 25 weeks

I was so happy to be pg at last but my dad has just put me on a downer and said "your body is trying to tell you its not meant to be, and youshould give up".

Giving up is the last thing on my mind and I am already urging this bleed to get into full flow so I can start taking my clomid for this month.
I am DESPERATE for another and I said if the medics tell me that there is no reason I should not have another healthy child, then I must listen to them and nobody else.Thats what I told him

Original poster
sideways · 30/10/2006 13:53

chocolatepeanut - I'm so so sorry to hear about your miscarriage. You must be devastated .

Pleased to hear you are not giving up, but I hope you take the time you need to get over this one.

Take care of yourself.

OP posts:
Original poster
sideways · 30/10/2006 13:53

Oh and ignore your dad

OP posts:
Mumfun · 30/10/2006 15:07

Hi

Sorry to butt in butIm just finding this thread so useful/interesting as Im thinking of trying for another child at age 41.

Chocolatepeanut -I have had 2 lovely children at age 38 and 9 days short of my 41st birthday. It does get harder to have a child in getting and staying pg but is perfectly possible. Please dont get down. I really thought I would not have a second when I had not conceived by age 40 and was really hacked off about it. But I did have lovely DD.

Best of luck to all trying.

jabuti · 30/10/2006 15:17

hi guys,

im just so pissed off at your dad, choc! please ask him to shut up. who is he to know what your body is telling you? there are plenty of late 30's and 40's mums out there, its common. besides, he comes from a different generation when women had their babies in their 20's.

do listen to your heart about when to try or not, and i hope you have as many babies as you wish!

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 30/10/2006 16:35

My dad and I are v close and hes coming from a good place.My mum had me at 20 but died at 52 so dad is all i have.He will come round,i kmow

Juicylucythe2nd · 30/10/2006 16:39

Choc - do you tell him about TTC and about this BFP?

Maybe the best thing for his worrying would be to hold off until the 12wk scan next time. That way he will worry less and you won't have to worry about upsetting him.

Obviously don't know how close you are, so only you know best how to handle his concern.

Take Care.xx

CHOCOLATEPEANUT · 30/10/2006 17:51

Yes IF I get pg again I am only telling dh until I get past first hurdle ie 12 weeks

jabuti · 30/10/2006 19:06

well, i guess it sounded worst than it was when you wrote it. good luck!