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Any older mums ttc (late 30s)?

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sideways · 27/02/2006 15:57

I was just wondering how many of the ttc people were in their late 30s or 40s.

I am 38 and started ttc this year. It would be nice if we could support each other.

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nannymacfee · 17/08/2006 12:50

sorry silly question, but what does AF mean?!
New to site, thanks.

dizzy36 · 17/08/2006 13:19

AF - Auntie Flo i.e time of the month

Angsthase · 17/08/2006 13:35

nannymcfee - there's a whole list at the top called acronym list next to useful stuff (took me days to find it when I joined, and I spent most of my time completely confused!)

nannymacfee · 17/08/2006 13:52

Thanks Angsthase and dizzy36 - understood!!

Debbiedowner · 21/08/2006 11:17

I'm 10 weeks with my second baby having tried for 10 years (all the tests and clomid but nothing worked). We had given up hope and took comfort from having a fabulous 14 year old daughter and then right out of the blue! - it happened. Only thing I have been doing differently is more exercise (we got a dog)and I gave up tea and coffee. My message is don't give up hope, all those years of disappointment and heartache have faded overnight! My heart goes out to all of you who are trying - keep going!

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sideways · 21/08/2006 11:35

Congratulations Debbie, that's fantastic news. Best of luck wiht your pregnancy.

How old are you?

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maddymax · 21/08/2006 14:19

This is the first time I have posted a message and just wanted to say how relieved I am to have found other 'older' mums like me. I have 2 ds of 3 and 5 and after 2 missed miscarriages have been ttc for 8 mths. I am 39 (40 in Oct)and was starting to feel time was running out. Thank you for giving me hope.

Debbiedowner · 21/08/2006 18:13

Hi Sideways, I'm 35 (will be 36 when baby arrives). I wish i'd known about mumsnet throughout all the years I've been trying. The thread on conception has had me laughing, crying and fascinated. Fab stuff

bodenbetty · 21/08/2006 18:56

I had DS at 38 - conceived 3rd month of trying. then had 2 mc after that. was told by consultant that my hormone levels were too high & that I'd be lucky to a) concieve again & b) to have a sucessful pregnanacy.
I sold all ds's stuff. started chinese medicine & acupunture ( very dodgy outfit - think they saw me coming) gave up wheat & diary 9 well quite a lot of it) tried to concentrate on my gorgeous son.
Had DD at the age of 41. No-one was more shocked than I when I got Pg as I had given up hope.
which just goes to show - never say never & never give up!!!!

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sideways · 21/08/2006 19:18

Hi maddy, welcome . I hope you get your result soon. There's plenty of support to be found here and on the other ttc threads.

Betty - that's a lovely story, congratulations! I think one of the problems can often be that we try so hard and become so obseeses, then when we relax (not that I would know about the realxing bit!) it sometimes happens.

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tissey · 22/08/2006 08:14

Hi, good to know there are plenty of us older mums out there, I have 3 children(sorry not used to all abb yet) 26 24 & 4, had last one at 41, big gap 2nd marriage, fell quite easily some bleeding for a few months came to conclusion may have lost a twin, anyway he was fine and I had him at home as planned, with amazing support from my midwife, only started reading mumsnet as I think i may be pg at 46 (not planned)sorry to go on, bit nervous.

Angsthase · 22/08/2006 08:53

Thanks girls for your positive stories. Really cheers me up and gives me hope. Keep em comin'

maddymax · 22/08/2006 10:30

Betty and tissey - what great stories and tissey best of luck if you are pg. Starting to feel really positive now and I've bought Toni Weschlers book thats been mentioned a couple of times. (Just hope I get a bit of peace to read it.)

bodenbetty · 22/08/2006 11:41

forgot to say - got a job in August - pg in oCtober - bit of a shocker to ahve to tell them I was leaving after 9 months!!
but DONT give up like I saide before - if I can do it.....
I look at my preciuo DD sometimes & feelike crying as she is suchj a gift we never thought we'd ahve. good luck & try not to get too obsessed about it though I know its easier sadi than done

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sideways · 01/09/2006 10:15

Just wondering how everyone is doing. No news here yet!

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littlestar · 02/09/2006 10:16

Please can I join in? I'm 37, AF is almost a week late (I'm usually pretty regular) but I've had 2 BFN's this week. We have only been ttc for 3 months which I realise isn't very long at all. But I got pregnant with DS first time (he's now 17 months) so I naively assumed it would be plain sailing second time around.

I've been feeling nauseous and having mood swings, weird metallic taste (and even pimples!), but it seems like it's all psychosomatic and I'm really fed up! As ever, reading mumsnet has cheered me up immensely and reminded me I'm not alone.

maddymax · 02/09/2006 17:44

Hello littlestar, I'm new to MN and only posted for the first time last week. I've been ttc for 8 months and was all ready to start a new regime (taking temp, checking CM etc.) after AF arrived. But I'm now 5 days late and trying to hold off testing for a little while as I'm frightened of a BFN.

Hope you end up with your BFP - there are lots of people on here who have got BFNs early on only to get their BFP later - heres hoping.

maddymax · 02/09/2006 17:51

PS if I have managed to get pg I'm sure reading everyones stories on MN helped - it stopped me feeling so uptight and panicky.

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sideways · 02/09/2006 20:39

Hi littlestar, welcome . I hope you get the result you want.

You too maddy!

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littlestar · 03/09/2006 07:36

Thnak you. Still no sign of AF but I'm not sure how long to leave it before I do a third test - I can't face another disappointment! Good luck Maddy x

maddymax · 03/09/2006 21:15

Well I knew it was too good to be true - AF arrived this morning. Major disappointment but such is life I suppose. Back to the drawing board ( or temp chart).

Fingers still crossed for you littlestar. XX

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sideways · 03/09/2006 22:27

Bad luck maddy, sorry it didn't happen this time . Are you often late?

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littlestar · 04/09/2006 10:19

Me too maddy, AF came this morning. I was feeling so sick last night, but it must just have been something I ate. Better luck next time, eh girls x

maddymax · 04/09/2006 14:48

Sorry to hear that littlestar I know how much of a let down it is.

Sideways, haven't been late at all while ttc this time, always bang on time think thats why I'd got my hopes up.

I'm hoping that if I start charting I might find out that I ovulate at a funny time or something and that we've been BD at the wrong time.

I've had the results of a blood test back from my GP that seems to show everythings 'normal' but I'm going back to chat to her about it.

Anyway more important things to think about at the moment - my eldest starts infants school tomorrow, one less 'baby' in the nest.

Angsthase · 11/09/2006 13:56

How we doing girls?
CD21 here. May know CD28, but if it's like other 2 AF's since m.c. will be CD31 before I find out.
Defo won't test before CD31 either way.
I hate that age is against me. Really starting to pee me off.

Hope everyone is more upbeat than me

Wingey old bitch that I am