Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

[kirrinIsland]

Congrats on the lovely scam Jaffa

[kirrinIsland]

*scan - obviously! I'm not accusing you of anything :)

[ConfusedMumDotCom]

Good luck today Stateofconfusion ((hugs))

[JaffaSnaffle]

State, good luck today. I hope it all goes well for you. X

[fatasbutter]

Good luck State today x

[MumTumWanted]

Good luck with your scan today state xxxx

[kirrinIsland]

Goodluck state

[backwardpossom]

Hope all goes well state

[InsomniaQueen]

sending big hugs out to you Martha what sad news, so glad you were able to say a proper goodbye! Xx

Jaffa so pleased your scan was all fine.

Good luck for your scan today State.

Sorry AF got you confused - fingers crossed for next time but I like the wine and mouldy cheese attitude.

Good to hear from marathon and MissG

Love to all
Xxx

[wilderumpus]

good luck for the scan today state.

confused do you have any ambivalence toward conceiving again so quickly after the mc? I only ask because i really, really want to get pg asap but feel a bit fragile still from the mc and think people might worry I would be pg and depressed still. hmmm. Anyway, if I am in this month I am due to ov on the 11th which makes us pretty much cycle buddies (only if you want to be of course!) I wouldn't test until i am about 6 months late (though I am addicted to POAS so... !) :)

Did anyone here conceive v quickly after the mc and were you 'over' the mc mentally and emotionally when you did get pg, or sort of seeing what happened? Did getting pg help you out the past in the past?

TIA :)

[StateofConfusion]

Well I'm officially pregnant, EDD has changed from 13/12 to 20/12. So I'm 10+6wks.

Very wriggly baby and lovely heartbeat, got another scan on 14/6/12

[squeakymac]

Ooh well done state so reassuring! And was just reading some stats about risk of recurrent MC depending on what week you are and after 10 weeks its essentially nil - roll on 10 weeks only 5 to go!

I can't book in with an obs person yet as we're moving in a month, so booked a private scan for when I'll be just over 8 weeks. Seems like an age away!

wilde I think its really individual. We didn't 'not' TTC the month after the MC but I do think that I would have been a nervous wreck if it had happened straight away. I don't think actually being pregnant has got rid of any of my sadness about the MC yet , and is now added to by constant worry and metalling! But if age / time isn't on your side you're better off trying straight away as every month counts....according to my GP!

[Midgetm]

State yay yay and thrice yay. That is gorgeous news and should stop the metalling for at least a week or so.

Wilde I got pregnant straight after a MC with DD and seemed to cope quite well Although with early bleeding I was convinced it was game over. (maybe selective memory). This time I got pregnant the first time I DTD after an EP and have been metalling all the always as probably not emotionally mended yet. The EP had more of an effect on me I think as it was physically more terrifying. Pregnancy after MC is always more tricky anyway as the innocence has gone.

I am still metalling now and I am 19 weeks. I am getting better but I am easily rattled!

martha special squeezes for you today lady.

[wilderumpus]

state that is such lovely news! 10 weeks! :) I only joined the thread yesterday but have been lurking and am just so pleased for you.

thanks for sharing your experiences squeaky and midget. I know that it would never be the same... am very sad that I won't be able to have the same pregnancy experience as I did with DS (blissfully unaware - i didn't even know what a mmc was! A BFP meant you were pg, end of!) I think if I won't 'get over' the mc I suppose i need to learnt to live with it and make peace with it... i do feel another baby would be a new baby, not my mc baby... and this is better than I felt last week :)

guess it just will be scary and have to take the plunge! Am 33 and though that isn't too worrying i do want to have two more childers with a decent gap between. would love to ttc again, need to talk to DH methinks :) Thinking i can try again, and even get pg again (am convinced I'll never get pg again - why I don't know) does make me feel better. ho hum! life is tricksy.

[backwardpossom]

Woohoo State! :)

[Countmyblessings]

Hi can I join - I am waiting for the arrival of AF although as have had a eptopic and 1 tube removed have no clue when it will!
Sorry have not had chance to read but will do! Has anyone else had a ectopic recently and then gotten pregnant and all been well!!!!
Congrats to all who just overcome the fear of news at scan so glad for you that it was good news!!!!!! I also don't know how I will cope at another scan as and when the time comes!!!
Big wave to yikes and backwards ( was on dec thread with you both)

[gothinrecovery]

That is great news State, glad to hear all is well.

I will be disappearing for a bit probably. Need to get head straight and am going on holiday tomorrow night for 10 days. Head is all over the place, I just want to be pregnant again, but at 43 I know mother nature is not on my side especially after 4 years of unexplained infertility previously. Also need to try not to obsess about it which will be difficult.

[ConfusedMumDotCom]

Hoorah for state. So happy you've got a wriggler in there

Hi wilder. I'm always happy to have a cycle buddy. I have loads of POAS avoidance tricks which I'll be willing to share when the time comes. I think when I do get a BFP I'll be happy and scared, but it felt right for us to get straight back on the saddle (if you know what I mean). Everyone is different and I am still sad about the mc and loss of the future I thought I would have, but optimistic for the new future.

[backwardpossom]

Waves to count! How are you doing?

[leedy]

Oh, brilliant news on scans state and jaffa!

[StateofConfusion]

Thank you all, squeaky hearing that's blown away the last scrap of todays metalling and I'm

[NoMoreMarbles]

lovely news state :)

i have been VERY emotional today...found out that 2 friends are pregnant without trying so thats most of them now. i only have 1 non preg friend now and as happy as i am for them i feel like shouting ITS NOT YOUR TURN!!! ITS MY TURN NOW :( :( :( i have been TTC for 56 months now thats 4 years and 8 months one friend has had 2 babies in that time and announced her 3rd a few weeks ago. i hate my body today :(

[fatasbutter]

Fantastic news State! Congratulations!

Oh Marbles that's so upsetting for you - it's so hard trying to be whilst also being for people. There were not less than FOUR friends pg within days of me when I had my mmc and although I'm not too now when I see their burgeoning bumps, I do get a stab of sadness now and again that I just suppress until I can't breathe! It will happen for us!

Only T minus 6 days til AF now and I am heading shamefacedly to buy some more sticks to wee on... Trying desperately but failing miserably to not let my hopes get to high... Couldn't someone invent a suspended animation tent for us 2ww-ers?!

[MrsPear]

Jaffa and state huge congratulations on the scan results.

martha sending big hugs to you as i cannot even comprehend what you must be going through

confused sorry about AF - this will be your month

goth i hope you can somehow enjoy your holiday

Hello to others that i missed. And hello to the newbies - the ladies on here are lovely and it is good to know we have all been in that horrible place and therefore we all understand.

Brain is still not engaged. Still scared. Still not taking it in. Told poor DH i told him i am not going for the early scan again yesterday. Poor man is worried too (and pissed off with our doctors). He really though he was going to lose me in November, was i really that ill?! Oh well 3 weeks until 12 week scan. HELP!

[wilderumpus]

aw marbles. It is so hard. I am still actively avoiding people who got pg and then whined about it on fb when I lost mine so can't imagine how you get on with it.

goth I hope you are ok. I hope you can have a nice holiday and take time to think if you need to, get shitfaced, and ignore it all if you want to, too. I hope we see you back soon.

state I do think you are so brave having your scan, but now you know and can hopefully relax a wee bit. mrs pear I can totally understand why you want to avoid it! I will probably have an early scan but will completely die of nerves and cry a LOT.

squeaky and midget i completely meant to congratulate you on your relative pregnancies! Hurrah! Am actually really enthused by how many preggo people there are here :)

confused thanks for the offer to share poas avoidance techniques. luckily I only have ONE piss stick in residence - no more shall be bought and no pissing on said stick shall take place until I am late, late, late!