Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Recently graduated from the mosh pit? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake!

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

And we have a recently refurbished Mosh Pit Nursery for the graduates IQ Manda and Blue, we are currently running a rota for babysitting so those three can go and get-pissed have some rest! I have done my bit this week so i need the next volunteer!

[ConfusedMumDotCom]

Evening everyone.

One of the partners at work told me she was pg today. She hasn't told anyone else yet as she has her 13 week scan next week. She just wanted to make sure I knew from her as I'm off next week. I'm very happy for her as she has had 5 mcs and has been so kind to me since mine. But I immediately burst into tears

Anyway, I'm seeing the first of my pregnant NCT friends tonight. I have lots of for the two of us me. I fully expect to cry lots this evening too. Oh and next weekend we are visiting my other pregnant NCT friend. I think once thats out the way everything should be fine until my due date.

I can't wait for this weekend. I'm shattered.

[ConfusedMumDotCom]

On a happier note my DC just said "marmite". I'm so proud

[ConfusedMumDotCom]

Grr "DD" blooming iPhone

[oo00PIXIE00oo]

Evening ladies great new thread :) well I'm a month and a half on from my mc and my body seems to be back to normal, ovulation starts this weekend so we will be TTC often goth I understand exactly how you feel for the first couple of days I couldn't bring myself to get out of bed - couldn't even be bothered to change the channel on the tv so I threw myself back into work. But still have moments when I want to just curl up and cry :(

Congrats to all the new mums x

Im not very good at regular contact so will drop in and say hello occasionally have a great weekend all x

[StateofConfusion]

Hope you have a lovely evening confused x

[ConfusedMumDotCom]

Thanks state. I had a lovely evening. We had a curry and I had . No tears though. I think that was because I already knew she was pg. She's gutted that I'm not going to be off with her as I'm the only NCT person left in walking distance and she was really looking forward to us both being off. But if i get pg in the next few months we'll have at least 6 months together, maybe more as she has the option of taking an additional year of mat leave were she works! I also off loaded all my summer maternity clothes to her. So all in all a cathartic evening.

I hope everyone else is doing ok tonight.

[StateofConfusion]

Glad it went ok confused your very brave, I've hidden since my mmc, still not seen any pregnant friends or sil. X

[NoMoreMarbles]

evening ladies :)

pebs is it a HSG you are waiting for? i had one along with all the blood tests etc in liverpool and although less than pleasant it helped rest my mind that its not my uterus at fault its just my whole blood system... crappy that the wait is so long. definitely pester the life outof the clinic for a cancellation i will dig out the MC speciallist nurses number and inbox youif you want incase it may be of use...

martha so sorry about your friend :( {{{hugs}}}

hope everyone else is ok:)

[Quicksie]

Hello! I am totally new to mumsnet...well to posting anyway, I have been reading the boards through tears cake crumbs for the last month since a MMC at 12 weeks...But now ready for some metal and moshing with fingers crossed!

[StateofConfusion]

Welcome to the mosh pit quicksie :)

[TitsalinaBumSquash]

Morning everyone. :)

Lovely day outside today, not so hot as the last few but still warm, just the way I like it.
I saw the midwife yesterday, 16 weeks today, little bean is wiggling around like a pro and heartbeat is strong.
I am being whisked away to a hotel for the night by DP now I am finally up to it, I seem to have come through the greasy haired, flabby looking stage (touch wood) and my skin is finally improving, this time last month I did't dare leave the house because my face was a bleeding, scabby mess of sores and spots, so I'm quite glad that one is passing!

The midwife was talking about being referred to the antithetic team as I'm high risk, does anyone know why or what for?

Anyway, I hope everyone is well and there are BFPs to come, to those who are pregnant today, I wish you many more weeks/months of it! :)
For those of you who got the dreaded AF or are having to wait, I am sending you a great big dose of SWI blessing and hugs. :)

[backwardpossom]

Mmm breakfast! I'm starving! Well I'm in Glasgow on a jolly with the exam board. Enjoying a cup of tea before heading down to the gym and pool. Have a meeting later then it's back on the train to get home again. 4 hours of peace... Hope you're all well...

[fatasbutter]

Welcome quicksie - this lot are very friendly!

Very brave Confused - not sure I could be so generous with my maternity clothes but I bet it was therapeutic? It is hard initially with preg friends, but helps if they are kind and sensitive rather than awkward or patronising ... state are you feeling ready to face them yet? It definitely improves with inCreasing exposure I would say (excuse random big C - DS crawling all over me for some reason!)

Anyone due to test yet or all still well in 2ww? (is it appropriate to ask?!?!)

[StateofConfusion]

fat I could deal with friends now but SIl treated me very badly over my MMC as she is due just a few weeks after I was, and was very much "I won't hide my joy and excitement, why should I?" Including tagging me and dp in scan pics on facebook, asking dp if we'd let her have our pram etc... Putting status' about "people who are so wrapped up in themselves and can't be happy for me aren't worth my time" followed by her DH commenting "if anyone is horrible to you ill break there legs" this the day after my ERPC :( and me and sil were very close before hand. Luckily she lives hundreds of miles away but we usually see each other monthly, luckily she's dug her own grave with dp so its not causing rows between us two.

DD has told me this morning the baby is at father christmas' house growing in a flower pot! She did not look convinced when I said its in my tummy! Can't wait until its kicking hard so she can feel it!

Any iminent POASers?

[fatasbutter]

She sounds horrible! Even before I had a mmc it would never occur to me to behave like that towards someone in that situation!

I must admit I was reluctant to tell people about it in case they had the wrong reaction - either excessive pity or dismissiveness - and I have a couple of close friends who don't know as every time I called they were too busy to talk or so self obsessed it just felt wrong (one of them I know will be upset that I felt like that if it ever does come up in conversation) - sigh - this baby making is so much more stressful than it first appeared ...

[StateofConfusion]

It is isn't it.

Tbh with sil I wasn't to suprised, she's the youngest and only girl out of 5 dc, so has a real sense of self importance and now looking back is a real user! Me and dp are just sitting back waiting for the fall out as she hated being on mat leave with dc1 and now she's leaving work and will have 2 under 2. She is not maternal. My big two are 16months apart so I know only too well how hard that is but she thinks sitting home all day is the easiest option, whereas I learnt getting out of the house was. I'm actually very relieved that they will be 4 and nearly 6 when this one arrives, although the years of ttc, cps, mc and mmc were no fun!

I just told people this time but then regretted it as I didn't want people feeling sorry for me or asking if I'm ok. I prefer to be alone or talk here than have people in RL in my face.

[wilderumpus]

confused you are so brave. I can't face pg people that well yet and definitely would not give away any of my mat clothes. That would feel like rubbing salt in the wound for some reason not at all bitter

Was signed off work with depression yesterday. Am ok if at home, not so good anywhere else! Not got over the mc very well, three weeks of limbo while they did scans to check it really was a blighted ovum have taken their toll, and not unreasonably according to my extremely lovely gp. Just saying so anyone else in this situ might feel better if they too feel low seemingly ages after the event (my actual mc was in hosp a month ago).

state that sounds bloody awful about your sil. Really selfish and harsh! Best out of that one perhaps... but family... meh.

fat very appropriate to ask about 2ww etc! I am really excited about the fact I have just finished my AF, DH seems to be on board re: baby sex and he has the next nine days off to relax and shag me senseless. Baby no. 3 here we come! (can't believe am ttc my third baby... weird!)

Today I am inside with DS, feeling like i just want hot chocolate and a good book and complete peace... he wants me to be fireman mummy, to be a mountain he can climb and fling himself off and a horse he can ride. Ohhhh, how long till DH gets home?! Am going to bake a cake (with hyper DS)... wish me luck! oooh me nerves!

[pebspop]

state your sil sounds like a tosser! i would love to tell you about my tosser of a sil (well brother's gf) she is a nightmare - the stories i could tell would out me too much though!

confused. glad to hear it went well with your friend.

i am feeling much better today. i was inputting af on fertility friend last night and realised that what i thought was af(only lasted one day) 10 days ago was when i usually ov and the bleeding yesterday would be af starting after the usual 28 days. i haven't been keeping track of days so didn't have a clue where i was at (very unlike me!)

dr google found plenty of people with ov bleeding after mc - maybe my hormones aren't quite right yet as i have never had this before.

my last af dragged on for 10 days which is unheard of for me so i feel like i have been bleeding on and off constantly. will see how this one goes.

i really should start temping again to help me know whats going on.

i have been taking my b vits so hopefully they will help.

[WhyAlwaysBoris]

Hello everyone, i haven't had time to catch up on the thread for the last couple of days, madly busy trying to finish off some stuff at work as off today for a week, so don't know what is going on, I hope everyone is ok, I will catch up when i'm back next week.

It is the due date of our son today who died at 20 weeks so dh and i are going away for a few day, we are going to a prayer thing which i think will help.

I'm in a mad rush, sorry, but wanted to pop on before i went and wish Yikes all the best for tomorrow. I hope your day is beautiful and everything goes perfectly. I will be thinking of you.

[squeakymac]

state the joy of SILs eh! One of mine has 4 kids and didn't say anything to me after MC not a word grrrr!

Does anyone else feel the days pass incredibly slowly at this early, worrying stage? I can't believe I'm only 5+2. Not helped by the most awful lower back pain which has woken me up from sleep every night for the last week - I have to get up and stretch and walk around for a while and it goes away then, reeeeally hope it settles down soon! According to Dr Google its ligaments stretching - anyone have any thoughts?

Also quite as a not v close friend guessed that I was pregnant because (in her words) I look 'so awful'! Thanks! Hoping noone else (mum, boss etc) guesses...

Hope you all enjoy your long BH weekend, we're stuck with just 3 days here (Ireland)!

[squeakymac]

PS boris hope you get through the weekend ok and the prayer service gives you some comfort, mind yourself

[pebspop]

marbles i think they are going to do hsg or hyteroscopy but i need to have an initial consultation first, which i am having in a couple of weeks.

any phone numbers etc will be very useful - thanks!

boris look after yourself this weekend, take it easy.

[JaffaSnaffle]

Boris, I hope you find some peace this weekend. X

[backwardpossom]

Thinking of you Boris x

[wilderumpus]

boris I haven't spoken to you before but was lurking and know of your story. I hope you find some comfort in the service and have a nice time away.

pebs pinpointing the bleeding sounds promising! I had ov bleeding too in my last (wtf) cycle - I thought it was just a hangover from the mc bleeding and dtd on day two of the ov spotting and, realising in retrospect with FF, missed the egg as i ov'ed that day! grrr. And this AF I just finished was 6/7 days long when normally 4. Does the ov bleeding continue then? interesting. After i had DS I started to get ov pain, just light AF type cramping - so weird how our bodies are always changing.

squeaky arf early pregnancy is a nightmare! Is it really painful as in, painkiller bad? or constant? or just at night so could just be your bed and one of those things? If you have a niggling worry don't hesitate to call the gp just to set your mind at rest. :)