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TTC first baby

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cwtching · 27/04/2012 12:20

Hello all! DH and I are TTC our first baby, I'm 31, he's 32. We've only been trying for a month so it is extremely early days but I'm so excited at the prospect.

DH may have some fertility issues (picked up on a scan) but I was pretty convinced it was going to be a BFP straight away as I had so many symptoms - but that shows how much I know! Blush

Is anyone else TTC their first baby? Please join and keep me company!!

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KickingUpQuestions · 29/05/2012 14:49

I agree - I think what really pisses me off is that they are taking something that we are actually battling with and use it to make a comedy.

There is the 'dopey" couple who fall pregnant quickly, the "older" couple who are battling and another who "rush to Africa to adopt".

It's not about the trials and tribulations of pregnancy. I think it's a bit of a mockery of the emotion turmoil of actually being in the situation we're in.

I think DH is terrified that some hitherto undiscovered female hormone pops up and decides it wants to see that movie. I think I should spit at the TV next time the ad comes on just in case he is worrying

Pinkie29 · 29/05/2012 14:54

I won't be watching it looks rubbish! Agree with the clear blue ads 'hi claire! We're trying for a baby!' get lost!!

I have a sneaking suspicion one of my workmates may be pg Hmm

KickingUpQuestions · 29/05/2012 15:19

What clear blue ads???

Argh that's rubbish. There are only 4 or 5 married people in my work and only 3 of them have kiddies.

Popinda · 29/05/2012 15:29

I know what you mean about everyone being pg! Just spoke to my friend and she is pg! Envy I'm happy for her, but sad at the same time! If the af witch didn't arrive we would have a due date (with my friend) only three weeks apart! Angry
Re film I really want to see it! Looks funny!
I brought an ovulation sticks for this months, so hoping to get lucky. Grin
I'm not going to be hang up on getting pg so much this months! GrinGrin well, will try.
Hope you Ladies, having a good time in the lovely weather. Baby dust for all of us. SmileGrin any positive new from anyone?

NicolaHazel · 29/05/2012 15:37

If only I only had 1 person at work pregnant. 6 plus someone's wife! :-/

Pinkie29 · 29/05/2012 16:16

The clear blue ads on the telly you can't miss them!

Nix that's rubbish! Well it isn't but you know what I mean! Well this one is normally the diet/health queen and it has gone out the window she's gained a few l s and isn't drinking and I heard a comment the other day to someone 'about 5 or 6 weeks' cod be total coincidence… or paranoia that I'll be accused of copying her haha! That's why I'm desperate to get pg befor my sil!

KickingUpQuestions · 29/05/2012 16:25

Hmmm I think I may have seen it and burst into tears so it's probably in the back of my mind, cowering somewhere

God I am tired tonight. Do you think if I skip DTD tonight, it will be a horrible, month long regret? I feel quite dizzy...

I am over this week. I need my bed and some quiet me-time tonight

Pinkie29 · 29/05/2012 16:31

As we always say (on the sensible thread) it will happen when it happens, no point exerting yourself if however you think it will play on your mind and you'll regret it I'd say try squeeze a quick sesh in!

KickingUpQuestions · 29/05/2012 16:35

I think just so long as I am in bed by 8pm, I can probably get a sesh in and eat and sleep by 9pm. DH can bloody well cook and serve me in bed.

With a palm leaf.

Oooh be nice if there is a nice thunderstorm while in bed as well...

Kittenkatzen · 29/05/2012 17:47

Well he'll have to serve you in bed, you can't possibly cook dinner whilst keeping your legs in the air! :o

I mist have completely missed the clear blue adverts, will try and keep that up by the sounds of it!

KickingUpQuestions · 29/05/2012 17:52

He is good at the keeping of the kicking comfy while legs are in the air and pillow is under the bottom.

Yeh i think we have missed out on the advert!!

QueenOfTheDrama · 29/05/2012 20:00

Oh I hate that advert! And yes same here, everywhere I look are pregnant ladies or newborns Envy

pinkie your comment about you suspecting your colleague got me thinking - after my previous MC at 9 weeks, DH & I have already decided that when I'm pg again we won't be telling people until at least after 12wks, this includes telling work. Is anyone else doing similar and if so how do you plan on hiding it? pinkie if your colleague is pg then it sounds pretty obvious to me!

KickingUpQuestions · 29/05/2012 20:23

I would try only tell the really close people that we are pregnant.

I know my SIL only told her work because she was shattered and felt they had to understand.

Kittenkatzen · 29/05/2012 20:23

Yes drama we'll be doing the same. Or at least planning to, I guess hiding a little bump should be manageable to that point at least, and I should be able to cover off most drinking situations with volunteering to drive. The only problem I can foresee is with my best friend who lives just around the corner, will be tricky think up 3 months of excuse not to pop round for a cheeky wine or whatever :)

KFFOREVER · 29/05/2012 20:39

tell me about it! Pregnant ladies are everywhere.lol. My sister in law gave birth a couple of days ago and friend gave birth last week. Little premature but the babies are fine.

I always said I would keep it quiet until 12 weeks but I would be too excited and will tell the whole world.lol. I think if you have a hard pregnancy it will be hard not to tell work and close people.

QueenOfTheDrama · 29/05/2012 21:04

I know what you meanKF - I was so excited last time I was pregnant that I'd told everyone by about 6 weeks! But then after the mc at 9 weeks I also had to go through bumping into people for weeks after that asking how the pregnancy was going and even saw someone a year or so later who asked how my baby was! This time we'll only be telling a few people, just parents and a couple of close friends - basically the people I'd need support from where it to go wrong again. Probably a bit of a negative way to look at things but I feel like I should be cautious.

I think the drinking thing would be one of my main problems too - I'm sort of known for being a bit of a big drinker on nights out with friends or colleagues!! Would have to skip some nights out/drive/have just coke instead of vodka & coke etc!

Also had really bad sickness (as in all.day.long) last time round so would have to find a way to get that under control if it happened again as not so sure I could hide needing to puke every 5mins!

Pinkie29 · 29/05/2012 21:57

queen it's been common knowledge for a while she wanted another was her dp that needed convincing by the sound of it, I could be way off but will keep my ears open Grin just a bit Envy as I wanted to be the only pg person in the office this year!

QueenOfTheDrama · 29/05/2012 22:49

Its annoying isn't it pinkie at my work there's 2 pregnant ladies and one man's wife is pregnant too - no one would probably give a shit if I was too! But hopefully everyone will be too busy fussing over them to notice me looking a bit green and sloping off to the loo Grin

NicolaHazel · 29/05/2012 22:53

I'd want to hide mine for as long as possible...others have, so sure I can!

And my company is a baby making machine. About 15 babies in the 2 years I've been there! Hopefully bodes well for me :-)

Popinda · 29/05/2012 22:57

Queen so sorry to hear you had a such a hard time! Fx everything would be much better once you get your bfp! Smile

NicolaHazel · 30/05/2012 08:30

Ow...stabby pains in region of left ovary today.

Beginning to think my body is telling me that hormonal birth control for 17 years was a bad idea!!

KickingUpQuestions · 30/05/2012 09:00

Yeh I always thought it was a bad idea. I never wanted to put anything foreign into my body. The pill I could control. The idea of an injection just freaked me out - I considered it once for about 5 minutes. I read up on it and decided it was the WORST idea on the planet.

The funny thing is that it doesn't seem to matter. I didn't put anything into my body and I developed fibroids and all kinds of shit. I was careful about sex and playing around and who I shagged etc etc my whole life and it still doesn't matter.

Bitter much?

I could have played around a lot more (kidding)

Pinkie29 · 30/05/2012 09:36

Lol same here kicking (mostly)!! I have a small intramural fibroid in the left wall of my uterus apparently it's the 'better' kind?!

Nicola let's hope there's some baby dust floating round your building!

Fair point queen every cloud and all that!

KickingUpQuestions · 30/05/2012 09:44

I had two fibroids - one was 10cm and the other was 8cm. I haemorrhaged for a year and was on progesterone to control the bleeding. I had injections to freeze the hormones for 3 months, so went through menopause-like period for about 5 months. They eventually were small enough to operate on (but still too large when they cut me open and they had to cut me extra when I was under)

Now I have an 8inch myomectomy scar along my bikini line (same as a c-section scar) Grin

However, that was when they could unequivocally tell me that there was no endometriosis and that there is no reason that they could see for me to not fall pregnant.

Also, most women have the fibroids that you have. Especially at 26 years old (when I had mine). So they didn't believe me when I said I had something that was causing a lot of trouble. It took my GP 6 months to eventually believe me and send me to a consultant.

Apparently, "haemorrhaging until you pass out" isn't life threatening though?

MissMedusa · 30/05/2012 10:03

That sounds horrible kicking. It's scary how common these kinds of things are. I had a 4.5cm dermoid removed at the beginning of this month and it was quite an ordeal and I don't have any scarring as they were able to do it by laprascopy. The good thing is they did a hysteroscopy at the same time so they were able to check that everything else is in working order.

This month I'm actually hoping for AF today. She was due yesterday and I'm really keen to get started with a normal cycle after the surgery. I have little to no chance of being PG this cycle as we had to abstain from SWI for most of the crucial days so seeing AF would be a good thing for a change. Temp dipped today so assuming everything is normal (which, of course, it isn't) I should see her soon.