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TTC first baby

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cwtching · 27/04/2012 12:20

Hello all! DH and I are TTC our first baby, I'm 31, he's 32. We've only been trying for a month so it is extremely early days but I'm so excited at the prospect.

DH may have some fertility issues (picked up on a scan) but I was pretty convinced it was going to be a BFP straight away as I had so many symptoms - but that shows how much I know! Blush

Is anyone else TTC their first baby? Please join and keep me company!!

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Popinda · 22/05/2012 08:56

Kitten thanks for explanation! Typo def fitting! So true! Lol we are like testes in some experiment! Lol

NutBiscuit · 22/05/2012 09:15

Hello all, can I join? Took last pill on Wednesday last week, hoping to just see how it goes without actively "trying", but guessing that's harder than it sounds Smile. I have no idea what my cycles will be like as I've been on the pill for about 10 years and before that they were really irregular. Still, fingers crossed for a (sometime in) 2013 baby!

NicolaHazel · 22/05/2012 09:20

Hi NutBiscuit!

Seems like we are almost matching as my last pill was last Friday! :-)

Welcome.

Pinkie29 · 22/05/2012 09:41

Welcome nut biscuit Wine

Yay for vomitting bugsy Grin

Well I'm down in the dumps today Sad had a bit of a row with dp last night which resulted from me bursting into tears mid dtd?! Sobbing that I don't think it'll ever happen hadn't felt anxious at all before or since getting af Confused

I think he's finding it hard with the every 3rd day routine annoying thing is its what we used to do before ttc anyway now it's just swi?!

Hff Sad said to him it's never going to happen if we dont give it our best shot Hmm needless to say after my tears I wasn't in the mood to continue!

MissMedusa · 22/05/2012 09:41

Temp was back up again this morning so maybe I did OV.

Suzy thanks for the tip on the OV microscope. I had never heard of that before and that might be the answer for me.

MissMedusa · 22/05/2012 09:44

Pinkie you're certainly not the first to burst out crying mid TTC. I've been there as well.

Pinkie29 · 22/05/2012 10:00

Thanks medusa feel like I lost the plot!

Of course the argument then escalated to a whole host of other quite silly things and it's like if you don't talk to me dp how will I know your not happy about something? Men!

Kittenkatzen · 22/05/2012 10:19

Welcome nutbiscuit!

Oh pinkie sory you're feeling down :(:( [big hugs emoticon] but as medusa said you're definitely not the first or last to do it. Don't lose hope though, it WILL happen for you and it'll be worth the wait when it does! I know what you mean about dtd turning into a bit of a chore - I guess it's to be expected though when the ulterior motive is so important.

Pinkie29 · 22/05/2012 10:54

Am now sitting in my car cause I could t concentrate at my desk Sad obviously need to speak to him properly but feel like he doesn't want this nearly as much as me (tho he promises he does)

Here's me taking all these supplements I'm on a diet as slightly overweight (literally half a stone) and exercising much more so I'm fit and healthy and I know this probably sounds incredibly childish and selfish but they have the easy part?? Get to dtd loads more, gone be a long day Grin

Thanks for your support ladies Biscuit Wine

Kittenkatzen · 22/05/2012 11:09

I know exactly what you mean pinkie....I have the same feeling about my DH sometimes - he says he wants it, but is quite content to just wait for it to happen in it's own time...which tbf is probably a good way to be, it's just not that easy for us girls!

I think part of the problem is that TTC is a completely different experience for men than for women.....I don't know about you, but for me getting - and being - pregnant is a massive part of the whole thing, I want to be symptom spotting and get a BFP, and watch/feel a bump grow......but DH is one step removed from that, he only gets to experience pregnancy second hand, and I think that must take away from the excitement a bit for him. He has nine months of dealing with a hormonal DW to look forward to before he gets to have real hands-on involvement.

Rambling now, don't think I've articulated that very well but hopefully you'll get the gist of it!

QueenOfTheRodeo · 22/05/2012 11:09

Morning all,

bugs - massive congrats!! so happy for you! hope your meeting doesn't go on too long today!

pinkie sorry to hear you're feeling down. My DH can be the same, I could go on about symptoms and babies literally all day and he sometimes asks me to change the subject and says 'we'll talk about it when you are actually pregnant' grrr!! I think he feels like its all I want at the moment, especially when I want loads of sex around ov time then lose interest during the rest of the month! I think it doesn't feel as real for men until we're actually pregnant or sometimes until the baby is actually here. Its definitely harder for us women as we have all the stress of symptom spotting, then the difficulties of pregnancy to follow. All while our DHs get to sit back and relax! Its completely normal to feel like they don't want it as much as we do, but I'm sure thats not the case, I think men just show it in different ways. HTH. Smile

kitten glad you like the iperiod app! I've been using it to track cycles for about 18 months, its how I figured out my cycles! Loving the 'stoneage' nickname suggestion, do I feel a name change coming on?!

Hello to all the newbies and welcome Smile

QueenOfTheRodeo · 22/05/2012 11:10

x-posts kitten - we practically said the same thing! We really are all in the same boat haha! Grin

Kittenkatzen · 22/05/2012 11:19

yep all aboard the Crazy TTC Ship!

I am loving the iperiod app - have back filled it to the day I took my last pill so I should be able to keep a good eye on my cycles.....the only things i'm finding looking at it every day makes the month go soooooooo sloooowly!

EllieBuffalo · 22/05/2012 11:41

Hi

I'm taking the

EllieBuffalo · 22/05/2012 11:43

Oops - can you tell this is my first post after lurking. I came off the pill at Christmas as DH & I agreed to start TTC on holiday in June. I'm feeling a little excited and scared at the same time - I didn't know where to turn so thought MN was the place!!

QueenOfTheRodeo · 22/05/2012 11:43

haha I know what you mean kitten - today I'm looking at it going 'how on earth am I STILL only CD9?!'

QueenOfTheRodeo · 22/05/2012 11:44

Welcome ellie Smile MN is definitely the place, come join the madness!!

Kittenkatzen · 22/05/2012 11:49

Welcome ellie :)

Well done for doing the sensible thing and planning ahead by coming off the pill early - fx for a quick BFP for you!

NicolaHazel · 22/05/2012 11:59

Hi Ellie!

I wish I had the patience to come off the pill and wait. But I don't, so I'm just going for it!

EllieBuffalo · 22/05/2012 12:04

Thanks, we knew we couldn't start TTC until June so by coming off the pill early I felt like I was at least doing something to prepare for when we were ready to go. It felt like a step forward even though I knew I had to wait. Now it's here feel a little weird after years if avoiding an accident!!

purplefairies · 22/05/2012 12:08

Congratulations mrsbugsy, that is absolutely fab news!!!

Pinkie, I've been feeling so emotional since I came off the pill two weeks ago. Sometimes I could just start crying for no reason. Is this just the hormones getting out of my system? Hope it calms down soon as I don't feel great at all to be honest - just feel really "on edge" and a bit spaced-out/dizzy some of the time.

I'm on CD7 now and I could swear I'm having ovulation pains on my left side - I used to get quite bad middle-of-the-month pain before I took the pill, so fingers crossed it really is ovulation and not just wind/a pulled muscle :)

QueenOfTheRodeo · 22/05/2012 12:15

purple I think I might be ovulating early in my cycle too - I thought I might be imagining it but maybe its more common than I thought?

ellie its weird isn't it after spending years trying to NOT get pregnant!

Pinkie29 · 22/05/2012 12:57

fairies quite possibly your body getting used to not having the extra intake if hormones, I'm convinced coming off the pill aggravated my anxiety and panic attacks, in October me and dp were away and I just felt on the verge of tears the whole time with no explanation and felt constantly on edge of wake up at 3am in tears Sad I'd never felt so out of control

I'm miles better than I was and take Citalopram for my anxiety which has worked wonders I guess last night scared me that I was slipping back.

Thanks for your advice tho everyone think I need to take into account it's totally different for him. kitten that's exactly it! I want to know in capable of having a little life grow inside me see my tummy getting bigger and (hopefully) enjoy being pregnant Smile

Kittenkatzen · 22/05/2012 13:44

purple i came off the pill almost three weeks ago and have definitely been way more emotional since then - the other day DH had a whinge at me over something ridiculously minor, and I flounced off upstairs in tears over it...I knew I was being ridiculous but I couldn't help it! I think it must be our bodies readjusting the hormone levels after years of being pumped with synthetic ones and not that i'm a bit of a drama queen

pinkie can you take citalopram whilst pg? Only ask because DH used to take it and I know he was supposed to do a stepped withdrawal over a period of time when he came off it as it can send you a bit loopy if you go cold turkey....

KickingUpQuestions · 22/05/2012 13:48

Hey Queen - remember that 70% of women ovulate before day 10 and after day 17. There is no "normal" when it comes to lady bits!