Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake overindulgence

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Thanks country its weird feeling, kind of pressure but not. Just something.

Shame about your nasty coffee, good luck on the quest for BFP, my MMC was december, erpc on the 12th. And I'm now 7wks. Still in shock I think!

Agree, a very special feeling indeed. Enjoy it as much as possible and try to put the last experience to the back of your mind as much as you can.

Thanks country enjoy all the sex

Marking my place (again) I started my new job and it's time and energy consuming to say the least (plus it's crap and I hate it already) so I barely have the breath left to eat never mind MN I am looking for a more MN friendly enjoyable opportunity...

look manda it is simples, you buy the Bolly, bring it round to mine and i will keep some aside for you for 2 years time lies

reading your post i can see how relaxing your pregnancy was with DS2, and my DS is a similar age so i know how exhausting it is at the mo never mind with a 2yo into the mix. I have no advice really just empathy, i think you are in a good position in that not only do you have DF but you also have DD and DS1, a little trio of grown up helpers i just know you are going to get lots of support and things will work out just fine.

Ooo we are moving house too, we dont live in the south so we are just chuffed that the EA is going to market our property for £16k more than we paid for it (our area has kept its value but not by London standards IYSWIM) however i can see that you and DF are far more attractive buyers than the huuuuge chain buyers. I say definitely go for the offer again and just lay on the table that you are good to go.

countrymouse every time i get a coffee from anywhere i sniff it and do a taste test to see if it is a 'pregnancy coffee' i am completely bonkers as you can see!

think i am OVing, got a little stabby pain in my right side, me and DH did some shagging last night and wednesday night so fingers crossed! we CBA tonight but will give his wrigglers a rest and do some more tomorrow

Just a quick update by my dates they say 5+5 yesterday. Scan showed gestation sac but it's empty. Usually by 5+4 a yolk sac should be seen within the gs. Could be dates being off but I know that's unlikely. So much for scan for reassurance I now have to wait 2 weeks for another scan 'unless I start bleeding before that' I'm so and upset sorry ladies for bringing the thread down xxxxx

oh mumtum how worrying. The next 2 weeks must feel like a long wait, it would for me. Did they say what gestation the scan seemed to show? I phoned around some private scanning places yesterday and they said it was best not to come before 6 weeks, and 7 or 8 would be better, because it is so hard to see things well before then. Also, did you have a dildo cam or just the transabdominal? Early scans are sometimes clearer vaginally, especially if you have a retroverted uterus, which apparently is the case in 1 in 5 of us.

Thanks bonzo it was dildo cam they didn't even try abdominally I feel like I've given up all hope already after I read that ALWAYS by 5+4 you will see a yolk sac :( I've gone over and over my dates and I'm convinced I'm 5+6 now so I should have seen the yolk sac and the sonographer was very thorough I'm devastated already my dh is like its fine if was just to early your not bleeding lets just wait and see bless him but I just hot that feeling now you know ? Sorry for the me me again

don't be sorry. I have to say, there is no such thing as "always" and "never" in medical stuff. The world is just not like that. I've passed many a multiple choice exam on the basis of that! Hang on in there, you are only 2 days off that magic 5+4. It's not over till the fat lady sings....

Oh mumtum just wanted to pop on and give you a big hang in there but I know it's really not easy at all! The whole thing is such a rollercoaster and not a nice one at that! So so sorry you've got to wait 2 weeks...it's standard practice that they will say to do that but just a hideously long time before getting any clarity!

mumtum poor you, such stress to have to wait.
There are hundreds of similar stories on t'interweb where women haven't seen a yolk at this stage and the lack of bleeding/pain is good.
I am also aware none of this will make you feel better.

what tits said. I can completely understand how despondent you feel mumtum but it's certainly not a done deal yet. don't apologise for posting either, it's what we're here for, good and bad. I've never understood why they make you wait two weeks between scans though, surely as the embryo grows at such a rate in the first few weeks one would be sufficient to guage any changes? thinking of you x

mumtum no words of wisdom to add to the very good advice given above, but thinking of you.

You know metalling has reached a new high/low when I'm sat here worrying about not feeling sick ..... After taking that anti sickness tablets from the dr

mumtum you are on the very cusp of the time when things are seen/not seen - and even with the very best equipment (the machine may not have been the best one - I noticed a massive difference in the clarity of the picture in the couple of days between a private scan and an epu one (epu was a few days later, too)) even with the most highly skilled sonographer, you are on the cusp - and the measurements that give the dates (ie, telling you 5+5 from the size of the sac, I guess) at this stage are teeeeny tinnnnny - just a couple of milimeters (look at how miniscule they are!) can make a couple of days difference in their calculations. PLUS! Even if you were charting and knew the exact day you ovulated, what you wouldn't know for sure is when you implanted and that's when the baby and all the gubbins starts to grow. Implanting a day a two after the mean average they will calculate their figures from will skew your result slightly particularly at this cusp stage!

Ok, bottom line: I can't guarantee everything is fine, as much as I'd love to. But right now I think you have many reasons to be hopeful (everything I've mentioned plus no pain or bleeding) although I understand why you'd be metalling like crazy that it's all over.

ALso, no way would I be waiting two weeks! If you can't afford a private scan then I guess you'll have to, but I would be going along in about a week and paying. Incidently, most private places won't scan before 7 weeks because of the senario you're in - it's often too soon for anything definitive (other than confirming sac isn't ectopic) before then.

Hang in there, lady.

tits I'm so glad you got the meds... but can't help smiling at the result of taking them! Talk about damned if you do, damned if you don't!

Thanks to all u lovely ladies I desperately want to be upbeat and think just maybe it was a bit to early or crap sonographer or dates are out or it's just really small like me ( I'm only 4ft 10!!!) or ANYTHING but knowing with the last mc it stopped growing at 5 weeks but didn't mc til I was 8 I just wish they could have said at the scan it's a defo no there is nothing in there just like last time and not make me wait for a natural mc. Though obviously if it is some miracle then I agree why wait 2 weeks why not just the one?!? Surely ud think the epu would know much we non naive mentalling ladies will be mentalling

Oops sorry for the rant perhaps whilst I still can I can put it down to pregnancy hormones

Best I leave some sticky buns and doughnuts and tea and latte for u all xxxx

X posts thank you manda that does make me feel better I will look into having a private scan I've no idea where they would do one onto google I will go

Mumtum why don't you ask them to take ur blood and see how ur hcg levels are rising the correct way even if it means going back and forth got bloods at least you have a idea how things r progressing whilst waiting the two weeks actually don't ask demand its ur right especially because of history x x

mumtum I have no more words of advice but as the others have said your at that inbetween bit where things can change so much! Take care and rest

mumtum, I am sorry you are in limbo. Agree, if you can find out more in the interim, it would be good. Hcg tests are easy to do, i had mine done at GPs, so might be easier...

I am hiding in my bed. Had a huge meal, then got cold. Tired from the food, can't get warm. Bed is the only place to be right now!

I am trying to move house too! It is too stressful for words.

tits small friendly slap. ITS THE MEDS. Enjoy not voming!

Mumtum I know it's hard but it is too early to tell. Could be good, could be bad, just too early to call. And worrying yourself sick wont change the outcome so you need to start 'operation distraction'. Be nice to yourself, relax, watch movies, eat cheese (Pasturised of course) and chocolate). Agree with all the good advice above, it ain't over till the fat lady sings. I had a scan at about this time with my current pregnancy and it showed bugger all. Roll on 2 weeks and a different story. If you do find a private one just make sure the minimum you are is 6.5. A scan before that will really only tell you that it is in the right place and not ectopic. 2 weeks is a drag though, dog weeks suck.

Jaffa me too on the bed front, DD dragged me out of it to watch James and the giant peach but really just transferring my doze from the bed to the sofa. Must be something in the air.

just bobbing on to give mumtum some support, i cannot add anything to what has been said here. I agree that you are 'on the cusp' and it isnt over yet, it is still so very early so FX

Just popped in for news. I am sorry that mumtum couldn't get a definitive answer. Can't offer any words of wisdom, although i am agreeing with everyone else; it's not over 'tl the fat lady sings! Thinking of you

PS do go for a private scan in a week if you can afford it, in London it is 100.

Evening all.

Been talking to dp about everything finally, both of us feel excited but in our heads nothing gets past the scan, I try really really hard to imagine a positive outcome but all I hear in my head is, "there's no heartbeat". And I'm driving myself crazy because other than that I feel quite positive. Sorry I'm making no sense. Its so hard to explain.

Sorry mumtum only just seen this - like everyone before has said, it's not over - and I second the suggestion of a private scan, 2 weeks is far to long to wait. Fingers well and and truly crossed for you.