Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

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Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

um, I'm 7 weeks way too early to buy a pram! this is the website www.outnabout.com/. there are still a few bits and piecs left but nothing juicy. I was going to post on here and give you all a heads up but I checked back a few minutes after I'd bought mine and everything had sold out (though the car seat is back on at £25 I see). Just hoping they actually turn up now! I'm always too slow to get the good deals, I'm especially surprised I got this one given the amount of time I spend handwringing and hopping about asking DH if I should get it.

The deal came up on hotukdeals.com. Lots and lots of crap but the occassional great deal does come up!

Glad you had the all clear pebs

forgot to say, there seem to be a few of the prams brand new on ebay. I guess some people just bought them to flog on. It's a nipabout and on from £135 Buy it now, don't know anything about prams but this still seems like a decent price to me.

Hi, it's been such a long time since I have posted that I have fallen of the thread!
kirrin, fab news on your scan. I am 11+3, so very close dates to you!
msc excellent news on reaching 20 weeks. That is wonderful!
Manda you made me laugh, I have recognised myself as one of The Constipators. :)
pebs, I hope you get a very low hcg count so you are clear to try again. I am sorry it has been such a drawn out affair for you.

Well, I am metalling away. I still feel very pregnant, I'm hungry, sickly, nose like a bloodhound, tired, constipated, getting fat, sore boobs, runny nose. These are all good. The bad is this pregnancy feels very like my late mc one. It is so similar. I am so scared history is repeating itself. Last time there was no explanation, so there is nothing I can do differently. I have weeks to go until I am out of my own danger zone. I look pregnant. I am a size 10/12 normally, but now I have porn star boobs and a gnome sized paunch. Everyone will be speculating. I just want to hide away for the next 2 months. It is my brother's wedding in just over 2 weeks, and I have struggled to find anything that hides my bump. I bought the best of the bunch, which makes me look 'maybe', rather than 5/6 months pregnant. But I might get bigger in the mean time.
I am sleeping badly, mainly due to my poor old bladder, so rationally I know my judgement is not clear. But I just want to be through this time. Please let the days and weeks go quickly, and safely.

sue im off to nose at that website, 7wks isnt so bad, i swapped my dds pushchair for a bugaboo after i had my mmc because i knew if i had another i wanted it or if not ill sell it, im already adicted to the snunkie website for accessories.

is a stuffy nose a pregnancy symptom? im constantly sniffling but dont actually have a cold? just the cold symptoms but no snot it is most strange. I hope it is, it will make me breath a bit!

Im swinging from elation to serious metalling!

Got my maternity notes, need to fill them out....

just had an email cancelling my pram/car seat order due to "stock issues". Bastards getting me all excited for nothing! Ah well, I shall take my money elsewhere!

I have been reading this thread at least three times a day for weeks now. Am beginning to feel like a stalker so think I should finally speak up. I have been so down about my mc I just couldn't think of anything to say. I have been following all the stories with interest - congrats to all the new BFPs and the successful scans. pebs you are being so patient and I hope you get some answers soon. mrsn I hope you are ok, haven't heard from you for a little while.

So my metalling state is thus: has a mc at home in feb. had erpc on 29 feb. had a bfn ten days later so ttc during my wtf cycle. Severe case of symptom spotting. Totally convinced I was pg again. When I wasn't I was as upset as I had been over the mc. Silly but AF made me feel it was happening all over again.

So this cycle, no symptoms at all to speak of, did a frer at 9dpo - and there it was - a pink line. That was Saturday morning and have obv done a chemist's worth of tests since and all positive.

So advice please - AF would be due on Thursday so I have tested really early. There's a chance I could still get AF and this would be a cp right? I don't really know what a cp is exactly but have picked up bits from you lovely ladies on here.

Is there anything I can do to make this stick? I feel numb with fear. I want to be able to scream with joy but mc has taken away that innocence and freedom iyswm.

Sorry for long post. Am glad I have said something at last!

welcome along oneday. I think your name says it all, take it one day at a time . I think all of us here realise how precarious and scary pregnancy is and there isn't a lot else we can do but keep off the metalling as much as we can and take each day as it comes.

From a practical point of view there's probably not much you can do to make a difference either way. Purely to make myself feel better I'm taking 75mg asprin (could possibly help and unlikely to do any harm but as your dr first), taking Pregnacare plus daily, acupuncture and taking things as easy as I can. Oh and staying off the crack/bungee jumping etc.

A chemical pregnancy is when the egg is fertilised but doesn't implant/grow properly, you'd get your "period" close to when you would have normally and probably wouldn't know you were pregnant if you hadn't tested. Lots of Dr's don't really refer to cp's specifically as they're really an early pregnancy loss the same as any other. You're not any more likely to have a cp because you've tested early.

CONGRATULATIONS, no matter what else, today, you are pregnant!

oh, and I'm glad you've said something too. I don't like to think of people metalling away on their own. Everyone on here is so lovely and made me feel right at home.

sue tell me more about the asprin? I'll do anything to keep this baby, I'm 6+3 x

Hello Oneday, just wanted to say hello and well done for posting, i go through phases when i'm so down about my baby i just can't bare to say anything, and I know it is really really hard to overcome that.

How far along were you when you mc, if you don't mind me asking? (makes a difference in terms of future advice)

very simple article on aspirin and miscarriage prevention here

Thank you boris

Any cake orders ladies? Quite fancy a finest blueberry muffin!

Well after reading that I'm definatly going to get some, ds had iugr and dd was suspected so double reason!

Can anyone recomend a brand? Or shop to get them from?

oneday sorry you've had to join us, but welcome:)
Congratulations. I don't really know what a cp is either - I think it's a very early mc but perhaps someone more knowledgable than me will correct me in a mo. Apart from the general advice of limiting caffeine and not lifting or overdoing things I don't think there is really anything else you can do. I'd like to tell you the metalling gets less but I'm 11+2 and it's not got any better for me yet. I heard mc described as taking away the innocence which I think is bang on - you lose the excitement and are just left with the worry.
But, that is what we are all here for - support and a listening ear.

Don't know about brands, don't think it matters which. I think every chemist would sell them and would be the same contents, only question is over the dose.

My consultant told me to take 75mg a day from getting a bfp & this seems to be the ususal 'take it in case it helps dose' but i know st mary's recurrent mc unit prescribe 150mg but don't know if this is for everyone or only those where they have identified a clotting problem for definite......
(Also some people seem to be on soluble aspirin, others on normal aspirin, others on coated aspirin so it doesn't hurt their stomach, but i don't think this alters the aspirin, iyswim, my consultant didn't specify which were needed)

Ok so aslong as its 75mg its ok, anythings worth a try hey!

I'd drink petrol if they told me it would work!

Anyone else had the stuffy nose/cold feeling without any snot?

I have been pregnant 9 bloody times. Pregnancy 5 I self medicated for 3 months with 75mg aspirin for the first 3 months. Ended up with a baby at the end of it but with hindsight should have carried on as DD was LBW because of clots in my placenta. Now I am prescribed 150 mg up until 34 weeks. This is because I have a clotting issues as diagnosed at St Mary's. I swear by the stuff and have faith in this pregnancy because of something as simple as aspirin. Rubbish post as in the car x

Thank you midge, that is really reasuring to hear! Sorry you had such a rough time discovering it though!

Right I'm off to find baby asprin!

Afternoon lovely ladies.

A warm welcome new members, very sorry you find yourselves here but as others have said we will be here to comfort whilst we all metal together.

I am exhausted today, I have done 7 treatments in 3 hours in the salon this morning, I am really feeling it now and I'm only 10+2 ffs!

I look and feel huge tummy wise today, really sticking out and rock solid. I know it's my 3rd and I have a smaller than average "surgery damaged" womb but still, I look a good 6 months today.

I don't know anything about Asprin but I am on daily injected Fragmin and I was from 5 weeks as I have a long history of blood clots in pregnancy.

kirrin what great news & what a relief for you :)

Sooooooo it's 4 weeks today since mc and I just took a test ..... BFP (fancied wine, we'd been trying, something told me to test?!)

Def a new pg as had a bfn 2.5 weeks ago. All the excitement bn sucked out of a positive test, just feel scared. :(

midge, thanks for your story. so sorry about your losses, I can't imagine how hard that must be.

yikes cake. I understand what a headfuck it would be getting your BFP so soon after mc. Deep breath and sit yourself down. Congratulations!

Apologises to all. This stupid iPhone didn't refresh everyone's news & posts from today. I hoped i wasn't inconsiderate or rude! Will catch up with all today's posts now & post again!

Sorry!

hi all, I can't have posted for ages, the thread has dropped off my list. Hope you're all ok, haven't looked through much to see all your news.

We are starting to TTC again, though god knows what will happen. I am resigned that DD will be an only child (cheaper, calmer life) and if we end up with another one, then that will be a bonus.

I've been through many ups and downs in the last couple of months, but finally feeling something resembling normal after a nice holiday (for those who don't know MMC found at 12 wk scan Nov '11, then ectopic Feb)

have just seen cake's good news, congrats! Understand that you have mixed feelings but take a deep breath and ride that wave!