Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

Urgh, how does anyone else cope with work during the first tri? Between the bleurghs and the exhaustion and the metalling, I feel like the Worst Employee Ever.

I'd love them Tits, although i' sure you will have other takers, should be like freecycle where they tell you not to give to the first person who replies in case the more needy don't have easy internet access :)

How did you get on with the CSA??

Quick metalling question- i've got bad AF cramps- should i take paracetamol or aspirin, can either be bad in terms of f*ing things up for next month- completely mad i know but the sort of thing i do then torture myself with after.

leedy don't worry, i've met the worse employee ever they work with my husband and its definitely not you!! It will pass. Do you have the weekend off to rest? Can you stay in bed and demand to be waited on?

Sadly, I don't have the weekend off - I have to play a gig in another city (scheduled before I got my BFP!). I am, however, going to go down early and have booked myself into a ridiculously nice hotel. Naptastic! Room service!

I'm pretty sure you can take anything you like for AF cramps (well, er, within reason) and it won't have any effect on the following month's TTC. You just shouldn't take aspirin (unless prescribed) or ibuprofen when actually preg.

Oh sorry i'd forgotten about the gig, you did mention it upthread somewhere! I hope it goes well and you get lots of naps. The other day i was reading a v old thread about a woman whose posh hotel wrote to her after she left asking for the rest of the bottle of shampoo back as taking it disrupted their green policy of refilling! You have been warned! Am going to take paracetamol now, thanks.

Damn, no bringing an empty suitcase and filling it up with smellies...

They're yours boris if you pm me your address I'll pop them in the post Monday.

I called the CSA they'll do the usual and chase the payment

I would always chose paracetamol over Aspirin personally but I do have blood clotting ishoos.

Just dropping in to say hello

poppy fab news on the scan

All those who AF has inconsiderately paid a visit to - v sorry and hope you're doing ok.

Those waiting to test or enduring the WTF cycle...hang in there!

manda not long now lady! I've avoided the BHs so far but am truly sick of acid reflux and heartburn and have drunk so much gaviscon that my LO may well develop a taste for Pernod in later life

I've been v grumpy this week with a stinking cold but the light at the end of the tunnel is finishing work at the end of next week can't quite believe it's all happening...35weeks on Tuesday...eeeek!!!

Sorry for not posting much...I am lurking to see how you're all getting on!

Been on a few days holiday and come back to a ghost board. Can only assume this is a good sign of a metalling free weekend.

Congratulations on team pink holly.

My cheap Doppler from eBay seems to be keeping the metalling at bay. Wise investment, For now. Anyways hope you are all having a lovely weekend x

Doppler you say midget?

How many weeks are you?
I could do with some de metalling! I'm only 10+1 but I have 3 weeks until my next scan, I swear symptoms are less today

I wonder is a Doppler would do me more harm or good?

Hope everyone's well.

tits the angel sounds Doppler is realy good, but it's from 12 weeks and you can't allways find the hb untill later on which causes more metalling.

You can get them on amazon for less than £30

midge Dopplers, in general, are frowned upon here at MN it seems, but I've used one regularly with DS2 and this time in the period between being able to find the hb and being able to feel regular movement. Ironic, really, that I didn't dig it out last time.

Once you can feel regular movement, that is a better indication of everything being 'ok' - there is an oft mentioned story of a woman, quite late in her pregnancy, who realised the baby hadn't moved in some time so listened in with her doppler. Hearing a hb, she was reassured. But it turned out the baby had passed and she was hearing her own hb. I guess if she'd have gone in when noticing movement had slowed/ceased for a while the baby may have had a chance.

ANyway, glad it's offering you some reassurance right now - does it have an lcd readout so you can easily be pretty sure it's not your own hb?

I'll have to get around to selling mine (it's a hospital grade one, with lcd display) as this is definitely our last baby... DF going to the Dr's to talk about getting snipped!

I had a doppler with ds2 I used it about twice, but this was the days before pregnancy caused me nothing but worry.

I might invest in a very cheaply eBay one that claims to be from 10 weeks and have a go.
Little heartbeats are faster than adult ones aren't they?

Well it did stop my metalling but now not so sure im not picking up my own as doesnt seen fast enough so probably agree with manda that best to get a good un. Thing is I do think I can feel flutters, just not regular so it's kind of a short term in between de metaller. I know movements are more important, DD hardly moved at all and turned out she was in big trouble in my inhospitable womb, was just lucky to have her whipped out before my rubbish placenta failed completely. I am now on the fence as to if they are good or bad. For us metallers maybe temporarily good, if used properly. And get a good one, not £22 off eBay like me....

Tits I am 14 weeks. And remember the positive midget is a bit mental, not sure if the old style me would have coped and it may have made me metal more.

Yuppers, the baby's heart will be faster than yours - typically between 120-160...

But if your hb is fater than usual (as is normal for pregnancy, I think a pregnant 'average' womans hb is usually at least 80 although you crazy people who exercise regularly will probably have a lower reading) My 'normal' hb is around mid 70's but for some reason my heartbeat is hovering around 100 this pregnancy (and as high as 140 when I'm feeling particularly shite and breathless). If I pick up DS2's toys, that's enough to push it up to 125. But resting, it's around 100. Obviously I have the read out so it makes it easier to distinguish - not sure my ears are really up to the difference beween 100 and the 120 the baby tends to be at.

Can I just whine for a moment that I'm UTTERLY EXHAUSTED? Wait, I think I just did. Thanks!

Moan heard, comforting stroke offered. Baby making an exhausting business x

And I love it when you call me midge.

Found the HB again, I love my Doppler once again.

hi everyone

Ive just got a bfp after a mmc in december, to say im scared doesnt cover it, im sat here now on the verge of tears because i am so afraid, i just want it to be ok! I thought id be so happy nothing else would enter my head but fear is gripping me so tightly!

mind if i join you all, you seem exactly what i need

Well, you kinda can't join unless you like cake, Stateof... and bring a cake offering! What cake do you bring, hmmmm?

(I am joking, call it a little distraction if you will - getting your mind onto cake for a few moments can't be a bad thing, right?)

(seriously, though, what cake are you offering?)

Unfortunately, all of us here know exactly how you're feeling. The good news is, many, many of us are currently progressing through successful pregnancies. There's no reason why you won't too - you know a mc/mmc doesn't automatically mean it'll happen again, right? Do you have other DC?

Manda

actually i have pink strawberry flavoured cake in the kitchen, pink strawberry frosting and glittery butterflys, that do (i really do I made it for my sisters birthday)

I have a dd and ds, which makes me think maybe that was our chance and now our luck is over.

Feel all over the place, hormones? and just wanting to stay calm, knowing im not alone is a huge comfort, and your last sentence made me stop and think, thank you.

Welcome stateofconfusion I can totally empathise. I mc'd last month and want a BFP but am also dreading it, think it'll be a very anxious time. You are very welcome here. The ladies (and cake!) are lovely. You can share your ups and downs and hopefully a positive & straight forward pregnancy. Your feelings are totally understandable, roll with it & as the weeks tick by you will hopefully be reassured.

Take care, hugs x

thank you cake and sorry for your loss, its utterly shit isnt it!

Im now obsessing that Ive not had heartburn today, or felt sick..

How many weeks are you? Have you got any other children? If it is reassuring I had no symptoms whatsoever with dc until 7 weeks and then felt like crap until 14 weeks. DC was born at term totally fine (despite bleeding at 7,32 & 39 weeks). You maybe a lucky one with no sickness (I never had heartburn) or it may floor you in a few weeks!! ;p

XxX

Ps - it is shit! But we will be ok. As a friend who lost a baby at 30 weeks said. You'll never forget but one day it will just be part of your past & nOt filling every thought xxx