Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

Ah, marff It's not called Mother's ruin for nuffink, now, is it? Anyway, I'm allowed a drink, so make with the bombay sapphire (I'll have a wedge of lime, too, please, ta muchly)! To be honest, I'm probably a prime candidate for PND - indeed, it's probably fair to say I have AND... and I've had just the regular garden variety on and off for much of my life since, oh, about 15. What I won't be able to convey to them, though, is that I am horribly self aware of it, and I also know when I'm at the point where I really need to seek help (and by help I pretty much mean AD's). THing is, as much as I've been pretty low (and, y'know, with good reason!) over the last year there are two big differences between now and 'then' (when I was with ExH) One: DF is massively more supportive. He has his own wobbles and stuff, but on the whole I know I can lean on him. It's not something I had 'then'. And, two: Mumsnet, specifically originally the mc board but now this thread. In real life, I'm usually a closed book and don't talk emotions much, if at all (other than with DF who usually wants to talk about what I'm thinking a whole lot more than I want to!). Here I feel comfortable venting some and again, not something I had 'then'.

Innyhoo, if they wanna be on the look out then so be it. I'm not one of those 'Bloody busy bodies, who do they think they are' types - they're doing a job and god-knows we all get up in arms when women/children fall through the cracks so I'm happy to be kept an eye on (as much as I feel I don't really need it - I'm not infallible maybe I will need it!)

jaffa for you. All I can say is that, for me anyway, it gets a little easier with the passing of time - and I'm only just passing the first anniversary of delivering (but have passed due date proper and then didn't have a 'he should have been x months old' thought until very recently when it occured, in a non-upsetting way, that he would have been 6 months). I fully expect that to snowball. Of course it never goes completely, but I think, I hope, the intensity fades.

I was gonna leave a late night snack but I am absolutely stuffed to the gills on crappy, 'orrid McDonalds (the idea of which is always more appealing than the reality!) and I can't bear to even think about typing words of food. So sorry!

[emotional moment] i admire you manda no really i do i think you are incredibly level headed about everything that is going on and has gone before. One of my ante natal friends who clearly wasnt coping put in a complaint about her HV, who really just wanted to help she wouldnt be told. Aanyway your DF sounds lovely and-is a hunk too

I am not pissed honest - it is 9.40am FFS

Well i am off today, DS is poorly, he has a temperature and has slept like a log since, well since he got up and necked his milk then settled into our bed, he was shaking and has a bit of a temp. I havent even managed to get some calpol into him as he was spark out. Sleep is probably for the best.

Gotta go - DS woke up

Weirdly crampy. Have just had lunch so it's probably indigestion or similar, but metalling system has gone into overdrive. Pleasepleaseplease let it be nothing.

FX leedy sure it could be indigestion, take it easy

I was weirdly cramps before I got my BFP and have had random moments since. Don't worry until it's something to worry about :)

Following on from my evil virus last week, I now have epic earache. The walk in centre helpfully told me I should take plenty of paracetamol. Which is making very little difference

I've also had the teensiest bit of pink when I wipe over the last couple of days, since the clot on Saturday. I'm ignoring it.

leedy much more likely to be food/pooh related. I have them too and they soon passed.

GPB boo to the ear ache. Pink is normally fine with me (this pregnancy had it 4-7 weeks but all gone now. Hope it's the same for you. Best news is no more bad red clot stuff.

I have just 'graduated' from st marys. They have discharged me into normal antenatal care. Of course this totally freaked me out. They seem so bloody confident. Graduation at 10+3 weeks seems a tad optimistic but who am I to argue with them. I did ask the poor dr what happens if I go metal jacket between now and then. He seemed to expect this kind of metalling. The young clerk congratulated me on my graduation, I gave some blood so they could do research on us freaky loosing baby people and walked away having a little cry (fear and relief). Had lunch with mr midget and even allowed ourselves to talk baby names. 1 week till my nt scan. Blimey. I believe! Cue freaky jazz hands and gospel singing. They even give you a jar so you can send back a bit of placenta after delivery ao they can do more research on that. Slightly embarrassing scan - I was full of 'gas' apparently, poor bean was in a smog of farts!

I no longer have them to metal at so be warned, you are my sole outlet. Without their freaky bullishness the mental midget may win the battle of dominance with positive midget. But I will try and not drive you too insane.

I've just been checking in on here now and then as feel too far behind everyone in my own process, but... "I was full of 'gas' apparently, poor bean was in a smog of farts!" gave me such a belly laugh! I just had to come on and say hello to everyone and glad to read that things are going so well today!!! leedy perhaps you ate what midgetm had?

Aw, marff Thanks. FOr... everything.

leedy Will most likely be some digestive issue - I always seem to get random bouts of what we shall charmingly refer to as The Trots whilst pregnant, complete with gripey cramps.

GPB How many weeks are you now? How crap to get another illness on the back of the other know how that feels! Get better soon (and maybe see dr - you might need ABs if ear infection)

midget Yay for being 'normal'! Well... y'know. And, hey, until that positive laydee comes back around, we're happy to entertain t'other one (and tell her off when necessary) so no worries!

Congrats MissC (and LittleMissC).

Tits I have stabby pains too, but only when I do something like sneeze without tensing my muscles first. I don't think you need to worry.

Jaffa - I am useless at work at present as by 2pm I need a nap. This is ridiculous (but I wouldn't change it for the world).

I have another scan booked for 23 April and am counting down the days and praying that the munchkin will still be alive. I know he should be (have become convinced it's a boy), and that seeing a heartbeat is an excellent start and there is no reason to think anything is wrong - but hey, I'm still LittleMissParanoid

That's reassuring, midgetm. I actually had this type of bleeding in my last pregnancy, and it turned out to be nothing to do with my uterus and when we did a mad panicky dash to the EPU we saw a heartbeat. Sadly it died between then and my 12wk scan, but the bleeding was something like cervical erosion. The only thing is, in the pregnancy before which was a blighted ovum, I started bleeding at about 6weeks and naturally miscarried at 9 weeks.

Argh, I'm just going to ignore it and concentrate on my hurry ear instead. Which the dr won't give me anything for as it's 'just' inflamed due to my horrible cold.

I had to post then go back to name check...

I'm 5+4 now manda.

tiago, that's good news about the scan - we'll all get there in the end!

midget, it's a Good Thing that you've graduated - they're obviously happy with how you've progressed!

Just popping on wondering how Mrs Nesbitt is doing. Hope you are alright if you read this. X

hi everyone

i am feeling ok at the moment. i rang the hopsital and i have got an appointment with my consultant on 30th april. i am hoping the genetic testing results will be back by then but the secretary said even if they aren't i can still get the ball rolling with referrals etc.

glad to see you are feeling a bit better manda.

pebs that is really positive news, something for you to focus on

midget i actually at this bit do research on us freaky loosing baby people that is us innit? congrats on your graduation

manda sh'is my beshtesht fweeiiiiind

right then you are the only lot i can admit this to, i did an IC yesterday (CD15) yes i am a fuckwit - BFN - who knew!

DS better today, DH decided to take the day off anyway and has a day of lads fun planned, soft play followed by the allotment, DS is gonna be knackered!

shit i forgot the brekkie

shit i forgot the brekkie

obviously that was meant to be i clearly havent had mine yet!

Morning everyone :)
I'm still trying to sort out who is who - this thread moves so fast!

leedy I have those sort of pains too - I think they probably digestive related but I wish they'd go away as they don't help my paranoia.

midget congratulations on your graduation

GPB hope the ear is feeling better today?

pebs the appointment sounds positive and not too far away - hopefully you'll get some answers.

I have a private scan booked for Saturday and I have a sick feeling every time I think about it - I am so nervous. I'll be 9 weeks and my mmc was at 8+4. I have an NHS one booked for next Thursday but that just seemed like aaages away - I just couldn't wait til then. I feel very sick and very tired which is good but the paranoia is eating away at me.
A girl at work announced she was pregnant yesterday, and I am genuinely really happy for her, but I feel strangely jinxed I have no idea why, it's ridiculous - it's not like we have to take it in turns to be pregnant. I am obviously completely irrational :(

pebs good news on getting a date, I am sure they wouldn't have set a date if your results won't be back so hopefully you will be on the road to the referral you need.

kirrin weeks aren't actual calendar weeks when waiting for a scan, they are 'dog weeks' so they actually last 7 times as long. I count the sleeps. Maybe shouldnt admit that out loud.

Martha thanks for the graduation offering. I was rather disappointmeted they didn't offer me the same, but they did offer a receptical for sending back some umbilical cord. And so the research continues. Hope I didn't offend, trying to be flip about a non flip subject doesn't always work on the interweb. I would have donated an ovary or an arm if their research would have stopped other women having to go through what the ladies on this board have. I do t think we are freaky, just unlucky. Ok maybe I sometimes feel a little freaky and broken. Anyway hope I didn't offend anyone, it really wasn't my intention.

I am of course now metalli g a little about the smog of farts. No wonder my womb is so unhospitable! Poor bean may need a gas mask.

Sorry double posting, last one was supposed to be a preview, stupid midget, stupid iPhone x

at dog weeks - very true!

hey midget no offence taken at all, i thought it was funny!

dog weeks! YY

I am a twat and the smiley faces are too bloody small on my gaddam iPhone...

That's good news, Pebs.

I completely agree about dog weeks. I can't believe that I've still got another 10 days before my next scan. It's FOREVER.

kirrin, my ear is Not Better. I woke up at 5am today and it was weeping. I thought, yay, it doesn't hurt so much, maybe that means it's on the mend. When I woke up properly at 7, it turns out that it was bleeding, and all signs point to a ruptured eardrum. NHS direct think I should go to the walk in centre AGAIN but I'm not sure I CBA. I'm fed up with being ill, it's been almost 2 weeks now. I had a cry on DH last night - I'm pathetic!

GPB get to a doctor! Blood and puss from ear sounds a very bad thing.