Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

Just popping on to give manda a big hug! Thinking of you lots and really hope you're able to get some extra support...I think the combination of all that has passed and the anniversary, plus your third trimester hormonal emotions running high will v much compound the situation for you at the moment. Take care and please try to eat if you can!

missc hope all goes well tomorrow...

And to all that SWI marthas go girl!!

Welcome to all those who have just joined us, I really hope you find this thread the lifeline that I have. And a big wave to everyone I have missed!

For me the events of the last year are starting to catch up with me, am nearing the point when I found out I got my first bfp which was for the little bean that didn't make it, as well as approaching the time when my mat leave will start and beginning to have a minor major panic about all that's going to be happening in the next few months...32 weeks tomorrow which suddenly seems very scary, amazing, but still scary!

I am feeling much better now. I got on with some work this afternoon and came home to nice tea with dh.

Boris I have had a few tv scans. They are fine no need to worry! They insert a thin wand just in a little bit. They put a condom on the wand which is a bit weird!

evening ladies

hope alls well tonight

manda i think a near-death experience anniversary is enough to make anyone have an emotional rollercoaster...add in your other experiences...well its alot to deal with alongside preg hormones...you are an emotional soup my dear! let it out but please, try and eat even if you dont sleep too much...eat something... {{{{{hugs}}}}}

not much is going on...AF is late by 1 day but cramps make things seem imminent... to be honest DH and I only DTD once around the right time and even then it wasnt our best effort

hope all the TTC-ing for everyone else has the desired effect

I could so eat that right now actually. Especially the strong coffee. Went to bed at 10.15, laid awake until 2am at the very earliest, woke again stressing at 5am, and then got jumped on by a highly annoying DD at 6.30am demanding to know why I turned her bedtime story CD off. She then got sent back to bed but instead of going back to sleep sat there shouting that I'd hurt her feelings So now instead of hiding in bed until late as was my plan I'm up for an early morning metal to follow on from my through the night metalling. Have nervous tummy and no breakfast food in to speak of, in reality. No bread no milk....

I would go out for breakfast if I could guarantee being able to eat. I have to take DD with me to the appointment after all so no idea how that's going to go down with anyone involved and just vaguely adds to the stress. I had thought I'd take her for lunch after but lunch and breakfast out seems excessive! Thank you to everyone wishing us luck.

Oh Manda, sending you such a big hug. It is so hard. After everything you went through, it would be strange if you didn't have some sort if reaction, and I think maybe your mind has to do this a little bit to help you heal. Just try to look after your body as best you can, keep drinking, try and find something bland and innocuous to nibble, rest if you cannot sleep. Is there someone who can help you with DS2 today? I always find carrying on as normal with a toddler tough. And talk you mw, as long as you think she will sympathetic.

pebs, sending you a hug too. Glad you are feeling a bit better. I am sorry you don't like your job much, it would make things easier for you if you had something interesting to stimulate you.

Misscoffee good luck today. Hope you get lots of good news today.

I am officially knackered, I went to bed at 8pm, unheard of for me. Hope this does the trick because I have really struggled to get through the days with tiredness. But keep counting the days along, now 8+4.

manda i just wanted to send the virtual hugs your way. Anniversaries are so hard to deal with. I think taking the DCs to Chessington was a great idea. You need to look after yourself and more importantly dont beat yourself up about anything Let the grief ride over you and dont bottle it up. Have a few days of blubbing, seriously it will do the trick. Make sure you try and check in every now and again though, us lot ^^ will worry about you donchaknow?

MissC your DD did make me chuckle with her 'hurt my feelings' business! AND you with your 'no i am not pregnant not yet!' on a serious note i will be thinking of you today. I mean, I just know you are going to be fine, i do, but i also know that you will be shitting bricks until you see your bouncing bean. And you know what? Feck it - take DD out for brekkie and lunch, spoil her (and you) rotten!

jaffa when i was preggy with DS i was going to bed at 8pm from about 6weeks gone! DH thought it was hilarious.

marbles i can soooo identify with this statement to be honest DH and I only DTD once around the right time and even then it wasnt our best effort having said that you are all aware of my marathon shagging sesh this month so we shall see

countrymouse you will fit right in here, what with your penchant for anything alcofrolic! so sorry for your MMC, but on the other hand am vairy pleased to meet you

boris (my cat is called boris! ) booyakashah is from Ali G, usually accompanied by clicking fingers and attitooooood!

pebs glad you are feeling better, remember not to rush the recovery

big waves to everyone, am up against it at work but will try and check in today

Good luck today MissC, hope you get reassuring news! And more virtual treats to manda, anniversaries are tough and you're allowed to go all wibbly.

Was out til 11 at band rehearsal last night (have not yet told bandmates about pregnosity), nearly fell in the door with exhaustion. I suspect I too will be joining the ranks of the early to bed tonight. Zzzzzzz.

MissC thinking of you today. Hope you are ok and hope you got some breakfast!

Manda hugs to you. Things can hit you when you aren't expecting them, especially when hormonal. It is important to feel these things though and as Leedy says, go all wibbly - you have every reason. Hope you are feeling a bit brighter now though. You have so much to look forward to in the next few weeks (but I know that doesn't by any means take away any of the hurt of the past).

Well 18 weeks here now, lots of kicking and prodding going on and the bump is a definite bump now there's no hiding it anymore! Time is starting to absolutely whizz by, seems like only a minute ago we were off to see the fertility clinic.

DS was 2 on Saturday as well, we took him to the zoo which was wonderful - it was lovely to see him so excited by all of the animals and I managed to make a perfectly acceptable (and recognisable!) George Pig cake which survived the journey and we had a splendid - if a little chilly - picnic.

Anyway, enough rambling about my brood - hope everyone is doing well - IQ if you're still looking in here, hope things are going ok for you lovely. The first few weeks can be a bit overwhelming so remember there are lots of us here who can answer questions etc. (apologies for curiosity - ignore me of course if you don't want to say )

She's alive grin]

And has normal fluid and dildocam reveals a closed cervix of over 4cm in length with no funnelling.

Not able to see siting as well as they'd like so I'm in for even more frequent scanning (live from a fanjo near you every 3 weeks) and they gave me a direct line to the consultant's office if I have any problems. It was dungaree consultant again, she's pretty cool.

But she's alive

MissC! Awesome news!

Oh MissC that is wonderful news

Oh MissC fantastic bloody brilliant news!!! Yay for the dildocam (you can keep your fanjo away from my doors though )

Brilliant news MissC :)

A dungaree consultant?

Huzzah missc so happy for you and your little girl! :)

I just sneezed and got a pain right through my lower abdomen, it's gone now, could I have done damage? < possibly being a metalling bint right now > it felt very
Crampy.

Yay for missC - I didn't have any doubts You ought to be metal-lite for at least, oh a few hours

tits You could very well have done damage... as in, the sudden movement will have pulled your ligaments which are already in the process of loosening and prone to 'pulling' and a stitch-type pain anyway! Damage to the baby by sneezing, though? Unheard of! If you're looking to get into the VIP area today, you'll need a better excuse than a sneeze m'lady!

I'm... somewhat better today. Still low, but moving into 'snappy and irritable' rather than 'bubbly snotty crying' so it's an improvement, right? The midwife I saw today (usual one had car trouble) is going to contact the bereavement midwife again so hopefully I'll speak to her soon... but I do feel the terribly bleak sadness of the last couple of days lifting somewhat. Thank you all so much for your kind words and licks and food and hugs

Hi ladies - well were struggling on here with breastfeeding, lack of sleep, poo checking and posseting through the nose!!!

Im really unsure of what I'm doing and it all seems a bit but I just look at her and know it's all worth it - i wouldn't change it for anything!!!

Good to see you ladies are doing well - sending special hugs to Manda and big congrats to missc!!! I'm sure loads more has happened since Ive been gone but I cant go back to catch up at the moment. I still need to find a new home on mumsnet but to be honest I don't really think that I quite fit anywhere yet so I shall just carry on lurking here until I figure out what to do with myself.

For those who asked we called the LO Amelia - she is all dark hair and cheeks, just like me!

Also for all the original thread ladies I had a message from babysauraus she is doing well and her pg is progressing well. I think she is about 29 weeks now - so all getting close.

Oh IQ those early days with your first are quite something. It's bloody difficult and bewildering as well as awesome, in the true sense of the word - I've spent hours just staring at my newborns, totally awestruck!

You know, as much as you feel you don't fit into another group (although this may be good time to join the post natal thread as you're all at the same starting point even though you will have had differing pregnancies), remember if you have a particular problem there are the specific boards (breast and bottle feeding, for instance) or those of us here that are old hands emphasis on the old and would be happy to help.

Thank goodness you've heard from baby - she's popped into my head on many an occassion and I've hoped so hard that she's ok. Thank you for passing the message on

Amelia is a beautiful name!

Yay yay and thrice yay to MissC. A pass from metalling should be granted for at lease 48 hours x

manda i am overjoyed to hear you are 'snappy and irritable' she's back! seriously though, DH always knows all is well if i start talking shite and snap his head off for arranging the socks the wrong way and blimey your MWs sound so very supportive. Glad to hear you are going to see a bereavement midwife. but i wonder if they are anticipating potential PND? and, you know, giving you the support from the outset. Anyway, as it is the evening i have poured you an alcoholic free G&T. Basically it is Tonic sans Gin

oh oh and i loooove the name Amelia reminds me of my heroine as a child - Amelia Jane by Enid Blyton

i really should proof read

1. Manda i didnt mean to sound trite by touching on PND then pouring you a G&T

1. IQ i didnt mean 'single mothers' i meant it like 'every single mother' as in every mother in the world IYSWIM i wasnt implying that Mr IQ had disappeared

I am getting more forgetful everyday. I was sure I posted hours ago. Apparently not!

So, misscoffee wonderful news. Take your metal jacket off for a few days and be happy at how far you have come, leaving milestones in your wake!

IQ, lovely to hear from you. My good friend, who has 3 children under 5 and is angling for a 4th, send me a card when DD was born saying enjoy this wonderful, exhausting time. I often thought of it in the muddle.

Oh, I am in a bit of a grey mood this evening. Been battling on for a while, and then sunk. An NCT friend has announced her pregnancy. I am so happy for her, but also really sad. I keep thinking about both babies I lost. I keep feeling like I am missing out, or even more mental, lagging behind, but if all had gone well with first pg, I would have a 12 week old baby by now, and if I hadn't lost my second one I would be 17 wks and out of my 'danger zone'. I have so far to go, and have no patience with the agonising waiting. I just cannot enjoy this pg at all through worry.

Waves hello to all those I have not name checked. Should go to sleep to get through tomorrow.