Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

I have had my booking appointment with my midwife. She was very nice. Just going through the sorry tale with someone seems strange.

What was sort of nice was the bit when we talked about DD delivery. I had almost forgotten I did it all normally once before. She is already worrying about my quick delivery record. My notes say 'RAPID' in number of places. DD went from 4-10 cm in 2 hrs, and was born 1hr later. What is strange and kind of lovely in a way is she thinks it is relevant, like it will happen again. Hope she is right.

Great news for you midge.

MrsNesbitt, could it be possible that this is different? I hope so much foryou that it is, but completely understand the way you are thinking. I wish thing could be different for you.

Id be lying to myself if i said that this is different.

I have been howling with laughter at the shitting on my skirt thread..what a tonic, my stomach now aches from laughing not from babyrelated stuff

A belly aching laughter is so wonderful. A week after my MC we went on a walk with some friends who didn't know we were trying, pregnant and MC'd, I didn't want to go but was depressed and thought it would be good for me. We were a rediculous group since out of the 5 of us 3 seemed depressed, anyway, we headed out for our walk but it started by going up a narrow "alley" (I don't know terms for nature!) which, even though it had been sunny for a week, was for some reason a veritable stream. It meant that we had to walk in single file legs stretched faaaarrrr apart and inch our way up the mini river bed. 3 of our group were ahead of me, every time I looked up I saw this rediculously serious sight I broke into proper fits of laughter and we'd all have to stop and laugh for a bit! It seemed like such a strange thing to be doing a week after a MC!

MC started two weeks ago tonight, and tonight is my first night to myself. I'm getting Chinese and a large glass of self congratulatory wine.

Uh oh af cramps started
We shall see.

I just had a negative pregnancy test, rediculous thing to be excited about, but it means I can join the "ttc and axious" part of this thread properly, finally, and without any medical help to finish MC so I am celebrating big time (um, on my own with a glass of wine and nothing on tv, woohoo).

Titsalinabumsquash, just thinking about your dizzy spells, should you get an appointment to make sure you're ok?

Jaffa With my first, I went from my first pain and 1cm dialated (was induced at the hospital so when I got my first pain they checked) to delivery in 5 hours 15 mins... my next two (including DS2, the 9lb 12ozer) were 1 hour 40 mins from first pain... so, yeah, it's quite possible you will be quick(ER) again!

tits Since DS2 (third pregnancy) I've had af cramping right up until 9 weeks. Don't know if it's a multi parity thing, or an age thing, but yeah, definite cramping going on for weeks. I'm hoping your symptoms (the faintness is likely low bp) mean it's still All Ok.

Congratulatory lick for midget, naturally. Good news, lovely.

mrsN Denial and delusion are different sides of the same coin. I have no doubt you're not gonna allow yourself to hope, even though to us as objective outsiders might think that your sore boobs (when you'd normally lose all symptoms) are something to be hopeful about. I really wish you'd try and get scqanned though - I do worry a little about you being in a caravan IF the worst begins

Can't remember what was said on previous pages now and haven't got time to re-read (from this morning) nor say any other stuff I intended to earlier. DF should be in shortly with my take away (lamp chops from a 'med takeaway' (kinda like a kebab shop really!)) and we are gonna watch Mickey Flanagan - so I'm hoping for one of those belly aching laughs!

just skimmed the thread but have been lurking. tits hang on in there, as manda said it could be something or nothing. mrsN that goes for you too!

Well we DTD last night and tonight after we put DS to bed and made sure he was spark out so that is 3 times this week will go for sunday and monday just to be sure too!

tentatively trying not to break MN rules but i have 2 tickets spare for Sarah Millican at the Hammersmith Apollo tomorrow night (Sat 31st) if anyone is interested? Will take offers around face value but to be honest will be happy to see them go to a good home so can do a deal. Am off to London with my friend tomos but she is undergoing Chemo and is too drained to go to the gig

puts it all into persperctive really, so what that i am not getting PG

manda have you been slapped with a gagging order on this modelling project then? come on tell all!

IQ yay you are home! fantastic news, all leaky boobs, leaky fanjo and projectile vomit, ahhh the memories!

Jaffa manda I went from first pain to birth with my first (and only) in 2 hours 15 minutes, no-one ever got chance to stick their hands up there to get a measurement so no idea on that score, had her at home, MW turned up with 9 minutes to spare. Having said that no MW has seemed to care much since and noone's written rapid anything or anything about birth at all on my notes either time. Maybe they will think about it later. All they seem to care about is that she came out the traditional route at a regular time and decent weight without causing damage on the way out.

tits hope you are OK can you go and be checked out? Glad you don't have to go to London though.

Mrsn I'd also go and be checked out, I know you don't have any hope but until the fat lady sings and all that..

martha sorry about your friend, yes it's all about perspective but it doesn't mean 'lesser' worries are invalid or unreal, we all muddle along best we can.

enjoy your treat wrigle

great news on the scan midget

MissC of course, i didnt direct that comment at the others on the thread at all, i was talking about me really. Apologies if i have offended

midget I'm delighted all went well with your scan!

tits fingers crossed the cramps are nothing. Good that you get to spend Easter with your family though!

More metalling from me today, pinkish CM - what the....?

nooo martha you haven't sorry if I did. I was trying to fuck knows really make you feel better. Didn't work. Bloody internet never sounds right.

Morning all, positive midget is back, going to attempt not to metal for at least a couple of days and not make it all about me. My strength of metalling yesterday snuck up in me but you know what? So glad I got checked out immediately. Would always advise the same for anyone else. You may look like a bit of a twat but reassurance or knowledge is well worth it!

Tits on that note are you still having cramps or has anything changed? I had some wretched ones around 6/7 weeks. turned into nothing sinister. Hope this same is true for you x

Wriggle hurrah in a BFN and for some serious SWI. I am always so relieved when a mc completes.

mrsn how are you doing? Hope you mange to get some distraction faro
Your break, and at least can relax.

Martha - sorry about your friend. I know what you are saying about perspective, I also get miss C's comments about our worries being real. They are not mutually exclusive and I don't think any offence was meant or was taken. I am hoping that you have to pretty offensive on here to upset the Metallers.

Had dinner with good friends who had failed IVF for number 2 an have now given up. Should have told them, really wanted to tell them. Just couldn't bring myself to do it. Still feel happier keeping it all secret. Also know personally how other people's good news sometimes cuts like a knife and didn't have the guts to see which way it would fall. I look 5 months gone so this a fairly unrealistic day dream, belly sticking out like a water melon and it was previously flat.

Manda modelling update please, let us vicariously live through you .
TLM in my experience CM can come every colour of the rainbow. Are you otherwise ok? Hope so x

Sorry if I have missed anyone. Posting from my phone as dd and DH snore beside me.

Thanks for all your well wishes and especially the licks. I am 10 weeks. I am pregnant for today. I have hit some pretty big milestones and I am full of hope again. For today anyway. And that will do.

Morning, no cramps this morning but I've convinced myself the nausea isn't as bad. I'm not sure if it's all going wrong or not. If it is I wonder what I did wrong? Stressing about hospital? Climbing a steep hill last night? Who knows. Just praying little bean stays put!

I don't think you did anything wrong tits but just try to relax where you can and also try not to get in situations which may make you feel guilty (like walking up steep hills!)

mrsn hope you are ok. I have my fingers crossed for you.

manda tell us about the modelling!! Keeping all the good stuff to yourself

I am ok. Just getting on with life really. I am going out with a friend later then staying in with dh tonight. I am trying to relax and eat healthy as I felt exhausted this week when I was at work.

I want to feel normal again before I ttc.

Pebs, hope you have a lovely weekend.

2LittleMonkeys, are you in your wtf cycle? Sorry if tmi but I had pink cm after the bleeding stopped, and there was a lot of it. It was quite ridiculous. It went paler and paler and then we dtd. Afterwards I read somewhere that pink cm can be a sign of fertility. Of course this might just be good luck on my part, but maybe it's the same? Only ever had it once.

msC if I am Penelope pitstop, you are Speedy Gonzalez! When you get that far into your pg, fingers, toes and legs crossed, I think it could be something to talk to your mw about. Did you have home birth with DD? Did you have hone births Manda.? My mw is trying to talk me into one already. I am v much in the mindset of one nice 8 week scan does not a baby maketh, but would be interested to here your experiences.

Well, I am off to my friend's hen party today. I want to lie in bed. I have to give a speech, which I have only vaguely prepared. But I love her very much, so have to pull myself together and get on with it. Have 2 hrs driving to get my mind to it so should be fine.

tits You have done NOTHING wrong. Continue with some low level metalling but drop the guilt element. X

Brown discharge has now stopped, all back to normal, boobs very sore and tingly again this morning, this is somewhat unusual for me.

Because this has happened SO many times before, and we have ended up cancelling a holiday and putting everything on hold, i refuse to do any of that this time. I know exsactly what to do when it starts and there will be a hospital nearby to the caravan place. So i will get my drugs and G&A.

The other thing is, if this is a blighted ovum, i usually take the "abortion drugs" (jeeez i HATE that description), and i can choose when to start these, so have a great deal of control. Only once has it happened spontaneously, that was out of my own choice.
This feels very much like a blighted ovum becuase the bitch is that all symptoms are there and you have absolutely no clue that something is wrong. That is why i am able to carry on as normal.

Also, time is going quite quickly by carrying on, i have got to 7 weeks today, normally the days crawl by while this is happening.

We are away till Thursday, i will book an earlier scan for the end of next week, so that i can get the drugs at the weekend and be back at work on the Monday.
Theres a plan..

OR

early scan shows a little baked bean with a flickering hb....and i can shut up and be proved completely wrong in my doooom & gloooom

missc I am sorry, I was so down after talking to my friend and hearing how poorly she is that I got wrapped up in it and took it the wrong way. Hash!

Anyway am on train now to London and a chilled out night. Will do a proper catch up tomorrow

That was so not supposed to say hash - I typed Gaah on bloody phone!

ooh Martha, enjoy London its fab is London, xxx

ok, ok, so I'm pushed for time still... but as you want to know:

It was a fab experience... but I'm not hopeful about the results! The styling was...interesting. I know make up has to be piled on, but it wasn't my usual colours so just looked odd (to me) and my hair! Jeeze! It was all boufant and curly... totally over-styled in the american housewife kinda way. That was for two outfits, both of which were not 'me' and I'd never choose in a million years - a pair of denim shorts with a sleeveless coral tent top that has white flowers on it. A crepe-y probbaly polyester material. The second a vest style maxi dress in black and white stripes running across the body.

There were three of us, and for the final bit had to sit on a sofa together talking about pregnancy/materity clothes - I asked to have my hair up for that so they did this weird plait thing that was quite nice but perhaps too 'young' for me?

Anyway. Will link to it when it goes live on their website

Enjoy London.

modelling sounds very glam manda will look forward to seeing you all dressed up.

mrsn hurrary for seven weeks, and for a holiday. You never know.

tits I hope it all stops soon, metal away but don't blame yourself, there is nothing to be done, you know this.

jaffa yes I had her at home, was glad I planned it that way in the event! Would be looking to do the same with any other term babies I get, so technically booked in for home birth for this one as well. Hopefully without DD as midwife though she'd love that I'm sure. Even mini- toe was fast, he took 40 minutes to make his exit after they gave me the drug. Kind of adds to the feeling of being a ticking time bomb though, with my risks of prematurity and stuff.

Hello everyone - mind if I join you?

I'm 8 weeks pregnant following a mmc, and in my first pregnancy the baby had anacephaly so ended at 13 weeks.I do have a DD though, so not all bad.

Thing is, being pregnant after my first loss wasn't that stressful. Anacephaly is pretty rare, so while I did worry about something going wrong, it wasn't all consuming IYKWIM. And DD was fine so it all turned out well.
This time, though, I'm so stressed I'm bordering on tearful a lot of the time - is this normal? I'm guessing it's because mc isn't rare so I know it's entirely possible it could happen again.
I had a scan at 7 weeks, which was fine, and they booked me another at 10 weeks. But that seemed like such a long way away that I've booked a private one for next weekend . I feel pregnant - ms and tiredness mostly - which is reassuring, but I can't stop that feeling of doom.

Sorry, I've written a me me me essay .
I need to go back and read through the tread, but man you guys can talk!

Totally normal feelings kirrin, the scans will help to put your mind at rest I'm sure. Sounds as though you've come as far as you mmc already so that's another positive.

I had my DS then to mmc, now 14 weeks and all ok. Still knicker checking every now and again, but it's getting easier. Try and be positive. I haven't had any overwhelming symptoms this times, so i don't think you need to be as sick as a dog to be positive xx