Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the mosh pit for some serious metalling and cake

[MarthasHarbour]

Continuation of the last thread.

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your metalling moments. All welcome so come on in and get settled into the plush sofas!

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So settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

The standard 'form' of the thread is the first one on in the morning brings the brekkie!

And this will be a very special thread, it is the one where our first 'graduate' gives us our first bambino Go on IQ give us a twirl if-you can be arsed in your full term state

I'm only checking in on here until a time when I feel I can participate properly, but can I say Mrsnesbit, big big hug and waiting patiently for news and hoping for the good kind for you, bu I respect that you know your body and hope you're getting some of what you need right now.

Ah shite, mrsn, I'm sorry - that's really worrying even if it isn't anything. What Martha said, basically, and sending extra finger-crossing from over here.

Oh mrsn, I hope it's not what you expect

Ok all, I'm having a bit of a mental today. I've come down with a really bad cold (not quite flu but doesn't feel too far off). When I woke up my temperature was 101F. Dr Google says this is Bad for the 4+3 embryo, and I had those horrible feverish dreams all about miscarrying last night.

In addition we went to the RMC today (after I got rereferred following my rubbish appointment at a different hospital), and the consultant was lovely and very reassuring BUT we had a scan and there was nothing to see. They weren't worried but I am now.

Aargh. I want to fast forward the next 8 months please.

Just a quickie, am supposed to be working,

Welcome Mrspear. Do you have another test you can take tomorrow? maybe you ov late and it might be good news? (having said that I've just finished my second AF since my MC and they have both been a little odd so i think the MC has mucked up my cycle a lot and the waiting is awful).

Mrs N am with you in spirit. I hope the spotting turns out to be just that and not another MC. Good grief some times life is so unexplicably unfair. I'm so sorry.

mild cramping at the moment.

When it really gets going i usually take myself off to A&E only because i need gas & air and morphine. My mcs are very very painful, i cant cope with it at home. Usually all over and done with in one night.

Im comforted by the and the foot stool and the vip area, so thankyou all.

Just one question:
WHY
WHY
WHY
???????

I will not go on, i will not whinge, i may come for a hug, but wont trample on other folks joy and happy news. I will shut up.

Just, thanks every one of you that has replied and been so very kind xxx

Um, I know I can only speak for myself, but I think that this thread is here for the whinging about the utter bastard unfairness of the whole thing. It's angry making and upsetting, and if having a place to vent helps you then I'm more than happy to hear it and give unmumsnetty hugs, tea, plenty of wine, Brie and pâté, and complete agreement that it's fucking miserable and none of us deserve this.

mrspear (which I read as mr spear, for some reason - I'm assuming you're actually mrs pear?!), do you know when you ovulated? My cycles were getting progressively longer with each MC, ending up at 36 days most recently - if I hadn't known that I didn't ovulate till CD25, I would definitely have been testing too early. You may just have skew-wiff cycles for a while.

Shit, was hoping it was just a false alarm. So sorry. Morphine a very, very good idea. Don't let the fob you off with lesser rubbish.

Please do go on if you need to, don't feel like you have to shut up, you aren't whingeing. Everyone on this thread knows how unutterably bloody crap it is.

mrs n oh fuck. Also holding your hand and shoving a pain killer and a Valium in your gob. this is the metalling thread ou are allowed to whine and metal. I really do know what you are going through and it is bastard unfair.

grandpooh take parecetomol to mange your fever as high temp no good for bean but parecetomol is ok. They would not be able to see anything at 4w 3. What the hell were they looking for? Don't worry, that is normal. Think is more around 5 when they can see the sac.

I usually ask them to shut me in a room with a loo, gas& air cylinder and regular morphine. They always oblige although last time i was between a hernia repair and a breast lump removal on a general surgical ward. That was shite.

i wait till i cnat stand it any longer then i go.

Do you have someone with you?

Ah grrrrr, mrsn I too was hoping it was a false alarm. Really really sorry, and do not feel like you can't whinge/rage/swear/metal as much as you need to at the crapness of it. We've all been there and that's why we're here, if you know what I mean.

Mrsnesbit, I really hope it's a false alarm, but it is definitely alarming. I am so sorry you are going through this. You are in my thoughts. And for heavens sake, whinge as much as you like. X

Grandpooh, hope you are getting better. Get on top of your temp. Paracetamol only to knock it out.

Hello to Mrspear. Welcome to the thread.

Well, I am in a metalling session today. Tomorrow afternoon is my early scan. I'll be 7 and 5 I think. Just hoping for a heartbeat, and a measurement that would make sense. Wish oh wish I felt more pregnant.

Very jealous of madmen. Haven't got sky, and it never bothered me before now. Enjoy the box set martha, it is fab!

Mrsn. Please make sure you moan on here. Noone else can understand what you are going through.

The unfairness of it all is really gut wrenching.

Does this always happen in the same way? I would like to chat about what testing/investigations you have had for this when you feel up to it.

Oh mrsn so sorry this appears to be happening again we have all had more than our fair share of this shit so please don't keep your thoughts away xx we all collectively have experienced an awful lot and can really relate...

mrsn please day whatever you need too, thinking of you xx

Say not day bloody phone

Yup yup, taking paracetamol - trying to find the balance between not taking too many paracets and keeping my temp below 100. I also discovered this morning that my basal thermometer makes a different, more alarmed beeping noise if you're too hot!

I was a bit [unsure] about scanning me this early too. It did not help. We're booked in for 3 wks time now, on the same day that I would have had our 20wk scan for the last pregnancy. Not sure if that's a good thing or a bad thing.

Good luck for your scan Jaffa, fingers crossed.

MrsN if it is happening again that is so desperately unfair please feel free to vent as much as you want - that's why we're all here as others have said. Take care of yourself, I hope that you have someone in RL to look after you tonight.

mrsN can't add to what has already been said (ie we're here to hear whatever it is you need/want to say) but want you to know that you're in my thoughts.

grand It's important to keep your temp down... any chance of dunking in a cool bath to help? Multiple times if necessary!

I thought about that Manda, but instead DH dug out some Kool Stripz (or something similar with annoying 'jazzy' spelling) and they're amazing. I'm ok as long as I keep taking the tablets, I'm a bit concerned about tonight though . Oh well, if I feel like this overnight I won't be going in to work tomorrow (as a property manager for freehold blocks, whoever was asking, was it Taz?) so I can get up and dunk myself in the bath then.

Evening all

mrsn so so sorry to hear what you're going through and I echo everyone else's words of encouragement to vent as much as you liken here...that's what we're here for!

Haven't much brain for full responses to posts from the day as work has been manic today but am nearly nearly there with my project which is due in tomorrow (I work in construction doing tender pricing for whoever it was that was asking...quite enjoy it but have no idea how it will work when I want to go back part time and am hoping to have a change to doing interior design if I can in the next few years which I could do from home and work around kids etc).

mrsn, I am so so sorry if this turns out to be what you suspect it it. And don't be daft, this is exactly the place to vent, be angry, sad, wallow in self pity. If you can't do it here, where can you?

grandpoo take the max dose of paracetamol: taking less is of no benefit. So that's 4 doses in 24 hours. The Koolstrips may feel nice, but I'm not sure they will bring your core body temp down, which is the important thing. There is some evidence that occasional use of ibuprofen in the first trimester is OK, but you need to decide for yourself. I've been taking paracetamol and amoxicillin, and codeine at night time for the pain in my ear. And could be up diffed, not sure.

jaffa fingers x'd for you for tomorrow.

Ear still giving me gip and leaking gunk. Really don't fancy work tomorrow, but self employed, so no workee- no money. I'm a dentist, tomorrow I'm doing check ups in residential homes, so not terribly taxing.

So.. [TMI] alert... went to loo before and saw one drop of bright red blood. Then remembered that is was from my chronic anal fissure (courtesy of the codeine). Never before have I been so pleased to have a bleeding arsehole.

manda I do remember your hair disaster. Hoping tomorrow is an improvement. Is the general consensus here then that highlights are OK when pg. I know permanent colours are not really recommended. What about low lights? I just had mine highlighted as I want to stop colouring all together, and though that might be an easier transition to grey / white than just going cold turkey on the dark brown dye. But I'm too blonde now for my liking. I was planning to get low lights put back in next time.