The Rat Smacketeers will all get BFP's this month and we are Brooking No Argument!

[TheLittleFriend]

See a Rat. Smack it.

Morning all

shiny we plant seeds in tiny little pots and then move them into bigger pots or the Vegas patch later, the little pots are in little baby greenhouses, to keep them warm and humid. Or you could just put a freezer bag over the top to get the same effect. Obviously some things like carrots go straight into the veg patch later. Good luck at the docs today.

sparkle we grow tomatoes and cucumbers in pots, you can grow almost anything if you have big deep pots. What would you like to grow?

Right what was this thread about, ah yes rat-smacking

Nothing to report here as I'm about 4dpo, but it is snowing in case you're interested

Good morning smacketeers!

Shiny, many many congratulations - I can totally understand your stress/fear so I'll hold off on the dazzling gymnastics until your first scan when you will 100% see a cute little flickering heartbeat :)

Maybe any ramekin action from you this morning perchance? I have my fingers so tightly crossed that it's your month this month.

Sparks I use our little greenhouses for chillies which are super easy to grow - I get a whole year's supply for the freezer in one summer. Not a great suggestion if you don't like chillies though!

Whims, a dinner party - my favourite thing to do. What about a lemon posset with ginger biscuits or a panna cotta with berry compote? Have nice recipes for both if they take your fancy. Oh, I saw a recipe for a rosewater panna cotta the other night - might work nicely with the Moroccan main course - let me know if you like the sound of that and I'll dig it out for you.

Right, I'm going to post now and then carry on...

Phew! It didn't get lost.

Right, where was I?

Bartlet so sorry about the continued AF. It's unacceptable behaviour from her. Good idea to visit your doc - I so hope that things resolve themselves pronto.

Scarlett any news from you? I've no idea about the SA results - it's a shame they don't send guidance out with the test results to avoid consultations with Dr Google. Are you going to see your GP about them?

Bean, HSG booked for 2 April seems like canny timing. Brooking turned up to "high" for you so that you can cancel it as a result of your BFP.

Pretty much the start of sex week here but I'm feeling a bit "meh" about it. Bored with it all now - am wondering whether to take this month off as am fed up with the same old routine every month. OH is quite busy at work at the moment so am sure he could do without the pressure of having to have a shag when he gets back late. We'll just see how we go I suppose!

13 days left at work and counting...

congratulations to shiny and really hope this one is super sticky.

maybe will you please PIAR and then dip a FR test in it ASAP!!!!! i reckon you are so updiffed but your body is just taking its time before confirming the bleeding obvious, like mine did all those weeks ago!! I'm 15 weeks tomorrow, seems to be flying by, and it would be lovely if a few more of you could come and join us this month, i just have a feeling that we are due a flood of BFP's this month!

re gardening, we are well into growing our own, and have chickens too (seem to remember at least one person on here mentioning them?)

we plant our garlic oct time as it needs the cold weather to split and we find the longer the growing season the better. We planted our shallots about a week and a half ago, but not bothering with onions as we get more harvest per space from shallots than onions, and we promised we'd cut back this year what with me being due in Sept and having a 16 month old to cope with too! Potatoes are going in next weekend. We have heated propogators tending to our peppers and tomato seedlings, they will be potted on next weekend but we don't put them out in our sort of greenhouse/summer house type beast until May. We have so many chillis left from last year, that we are giving them a miss this year (only DP eats them!) Peas are sown in trays, and we have some carrots under glass and some outside under a cloche. Strawberry bed has been thinned out of its runners and baskets and other planters have been topped up with some of the runners. Surprised by whoever has planted courgette already (think it was maybe) as they grow so fast and big and we can't put them out until May, so i don't tend to plant them till Mid April ish? The same goes for runner beans. Re butternut squash etc, they are easy to grow but need space to grow outwards and upwards, need to trail and be tied in for support - i can't be sure but i think you are meant to allow about 6 foot width? There are smaller less invasive ones you can grow, we have grown one called festival before, and a small orange one, sadly i can't remember the name, but they are both sort of about the same size as a big cooking apple. Scallop squashes are also quite compact plants, we have grown those in pots before.

anyhow, enough of my gardening passion, hope everyone has a good day, smacking rats, PIAR or whatever you are doing today!

And really hoping that someone

Mornin all

Imps I know how you're feeling. I just feel like I want to give up now. Am feeling quite down about it all. Another BFN this morning. I'm not surprised though.

Only 13 days! Super news. And I love the sound of that rose water panna cotta!

Great news about the peak Sparks. As far as growing things, peppers are a good one for pots too. And aubergines. And if you have huge pits, how about some spuds? And herbs and salad leaves too.

Snow Beedle! It is beautifully sunny here, but very chilly. These are my favourite sorts of days!

Morning ladies, hope you are all well this sunny Tuesday?

Shiny Congratulations! Fabulous news, brooking hard for a very sticky bean!

Bean Good work on the sneaky early morning shag - I'm liking your style! Hope the HSG is not required at all but at least you have a date now.

Maybe Any news this morning? I too have everything crossed for this being your month!

Scarlett Those SA results look pretty good to me, GP should go through them with you both though.

Bartlet That is miserable, I do think a little trip to the GP is in order now.

Whims I know it's a bit retro but DH made a lemon meringue pie on Sunday and it was bloody handsome!

Smegs Good luck with HSG!

Sparks Yay for peak! Get on it girl!

Imps Know what you mean about the TTC routine getting a bit boring! Maybe just SFF when you fancy it this month, there are still likely to be some sperm in the right place at the right time! Not much longer now working with the knobheads then

X-posts with Maybe Sorry about BFN, still hoping it's a slow grower though.

Aw shucks Maybe I was so sure!

Bartlet good idea to go to the dr. I may have said it before but after my mc in April last year (I was 12 weeks) I didn't have a bleed for about 7 weeks, then when it came it lasted 5 weeks. After that my cycles eventually went back to normal. It was worrying at the time and I had lots of scans etc so I'm trying to reassure you that this could just be part of the recovery process, but it's terribly frustrating when you feel emotionally ready to try again and your body isn't yet ready. I hope things setlle down very soon.

Bean I am with the other girls in brooking that you will get your BFP this cycle and will not need that pesky HSG.

Imps I am sort of with you with the apathy. In fact I'm thinking about stopping altogether. I know that's not in the spirit of this thread, but I feel a bit down about it all at the moment. Having said that, my due date would be Christmas Eve if we got lucky this month! Ooh I have a work-related question for you - things are unstable at work at the moment and I am aware that redundancy may be on the cards. My contract says I have to give three months notice if I resign. Does this mean the company would have to give me 3 months notice if they want to make me redundant? How long left until you go now? Can't be long!

Hello everyone else and good luck for today Shiny at the doctor's - I'm sure things will go fine this time - that nasty taste you describe rings bells for me as I had that when preg with DD.

Olives, Maybe, Little and others - thanks for all the attacks on AF! She looks properly scared now!

Olives I am brooking that you will get your BFP on Friday and it will all be worth it. Is the NK cell test a blood test? And why will you take progesterone too? Is that related to the NK cells thing or a separate issue? Questions, questions! I think if I knew whether there was a reason for my mcs and if it was something that could be treated I would feel more positive about TTC, but at the moment I feel as though the chances are that if/when I do get pg again I will probably just have another mc. DH and I agreed that if that happened we would stop trying, so I just feel really negative about it all. I suppose I am wondering whether to have some private tests to arm myself with more knowledge and possibly treatment, but on the other hand we can't really afford to do that and they may not find anything anyway. I hate being in limbo!

Sorry for the non-brooking post - I will switch back to cheery positivity now I promise!

Generic if you can afford to have tests done privately it may well be worth it to remove some element of stress about TTC. There may well be nothing wrong - in which case you can crack on knowing that your chances of another MC are slim. On the other hand, if there is something that needs looking in/dealing with then you will be able to take those steps to ensure the stickiest bean, like, EVER. Either way, some of the horribleness of TTC can be removed by reducing that element of doubt which, from my perspective, is one of the hardest things to deal with.

Re: notice - your contract should say how long your employer needs to give you - they will need to give you that notice (or pay you in lieu which is even better - lump sum cash and no need to work!) if you are made redundant on top of your statutory redundancy pay (if any) and any accrued but untaken holiday.

Loopy your knowledge of veg and gardening is quite simply phenominal -phinomenel phenomanal amazing. I'm really just getting started so don't know much about it all yet but had some great success last year, esp with pak choi which looked and tasted amazing after I'd ditched the organic attempt and sprayed the bejeesus out of the leaf beetles which were attacking it--

KAPOW! - take THAT! Maybe's peed on pee stick. You good for nothing piece of plastic. You're not big, you're not clever and you get peed on for a living. So nerr to you.

Another lovely sunny day here today - anyone got any outside plans?

strike out fail

Barges in, right then brookers, what is all this talk on giving up, eh.

'What do we want?'
'Positive pee sticks'

'When do we want them?
'Now!!!'

generic I would definitely go for some tests if you can, best money we ever spent in our case and as imps says, it can take some of the stress out of it. Having said that your GP might agree to a few tests as you have been TTC for over 6 months. Maybe of the tests for fertility are the same as MC investigations so you can kill 2 birds with one stone if that helps?

imps - get rat smacketing this month gal, this month could be your month!

maybe sorry about the BFN, it sucks, we have all been there and I really sorry :(

barlett I am sorry things are still up the creak, definitely worth exploring if you have a nice GP.

I am officially a GP endorsed preggo, they were useless though, no Mat B form, no form at all in fact, freaked out by the history and told me my first midwife appointment would be AFTER my scan, at 16-18 weeks which is obviously rubbish. So I have circumvented them entirely and self-referred to the hospital

Thanks Imps and Far for your advice. I will ask DH what he thinks about GP or private tests.

Ta Imps for the work advice too! I will check my contract forthwith!

Far that is rubbish re making you wait for mw appointment and well done you for self-referring. You did the right thing. Are you having another scan this week or is it next? You are getting your baby this time so there.

Forgot to say before hello to all the PSEPPs dropping in! Loopy, Pop, Cakes etc.

Thanks generic, next scan 4th April, should be 9 weeks and apparently if all well then with heartbeat, risk drops to 3% and then 1% at 12 weeks. Feels ages away but I am brooking no argument all will be well.

Yes, you're right Far dammit - this month could well be my month! What am I waiting for - I need to get shagging!

Oh Far that's great! All will be well with minifar's heart beat will be just great.

I agree with Imps and Far Generic* it will definitely help take some of the guess work away from TTC

Thanks Imps you definitely showed that piss stick who's boss

Thanks everyone. I really am just very fed up of this TTC lark now. It's such an uphill battle, with seemingly no end in near sight. I'm sure I will pick myself up again.

Loooopy your gardening prowess is impressive. The courgette packet said to sow them now, it's just an experiement really, we have had one pop up though, it is a whopper

Hi Far My GP didn't do a huge amount either, filled out form to give to reception to be sent to mw, asked me if I was taking folic acid and did I want a prescription and sorted the first of two early scans that I had. I was suprised she took my word for it I was pg tbh lol. Oh and she did work out how pg I was based on a 28day cycle which had no relevance to my messed up body.

Don't understand why you won't see mw for so long, but had heard some people don't have 12wk scan and I guess given your having one at 9wks perhaps they feel that is ok. Then again it could all be different once mw knows of your existence lol.
Glad all is going well!

"Uphill battle" is a perfect way to describe it Maybe. It really is! It's beyond boring especially when we have so little control over it. I guess we just have to keep on at it until it happens

Very true Imps I think I may get to the GP and get the ball rolling. I was going to give it a few months of properly going for it (DH was really going to get on board) but I feel like it will probably just be another 3 months wasted

Hi cakes, it was a mistake, I called the hospital to check, they definitely do a midwife appointment at 8 weeks , then scan at 12/13 (nuchal scan), just the GP being a dope. She is great if you want a referral or a prescription/ you know what is wrong with you and just need access to the right tests/people.

i would not trust her to actually diagnose anything or give any accurate information whatsoever though. She is of the 'everyone has a 28 day cycle and ovulates on day 14' school of thought!

Good plan Maybe - at least it will feel like you're doing something to chivvy matters along, even when it does turn out to be a wasted journey given that your BFP will appear immediately before/after your appointment.

I am going to wait until August, but part of me thinks well why not go now - it's not going to do any harm to have tests earlier rather than later. But I shall resist for now I think and give nature a chance - it will only have been 12 cycles in August, and that length of time doesn't mean that anything's wrong at all - it just means that our bodies are having soooo much fun being on this magical journey and want to stay on it a little longer

I've bitten the bullet, appointment next Tuesday afternoon. I am scared that they will find something wrong now But it's better to know, right?

Don't be scared! It's all good. If there's something wrong (which there won't be) wouldn't you rather it be investigated and dealt with than left lurking, unknown, in the background???

You will be fine lovely! Every step is a step closer to your littl'un!