The Rat Smacketeers will all get BFP's this month and we are Brooking No Argument!

[TheLittleFriend]

See a Rat. Smack it.

Oh dear - I can see today is a tough day for the Brookers. I'm not going to be any more uplifting, I'm afraid. I have finally admitted to myself that TTC is having a v bad impact on our relationship. I think I realised it had reached a low point when I started contemplating a quick shag with the bin man (now that no one gets their milk delivered). Another sex fail this morning. I'm suspicious that DP has actually got a hormonal/physical issue as he can't shag on consecutive days let alone more than once in a day as well as having poor spermies. His response is that old chestnut - I put him under too much pressure and SWI is no fun, but if he found sex as much fun as I used to do (whether it's to make a baby or not) I don't think it would feel like pressure. Either way the frustration and monthly lows are too much for either of us to deal with and I'm worried that it will start impacting on life for DS. It's all a bit stupid really, since I now know there's really only a couple of days to make sure we have SWI each month and am this close to the HSG and who knows if SA might improve with acupuncture? But that's life. If I don't let TTC alone - and work with DP to make sex a positive experience for us both - I think we will end up pushing each other way and we're in no position to do this given that we have a son together.

On balance, I'm incredibly lucky to have what I have (especially given that we probably had the sperm issue when we conceived DS) and maybe we'll get lucky again, you never know. Maybe having 1DC will become my preferred choice in time to come; I'm deffo less broody as DS gets livelier/develops.

Thanks to all of you for being so supportive but also for helping me fully recognise my good fortune.

I'm going to wave goodbye to you lovely lot. I am SO BROOKING for you all to get your babies and I truly believe you will but am so hacked off for you that it's been such a tough journey. You are a really, really great bunch of girls, in all sincerity, and I will lurk in here from time to time to watch the BFPs pile up.

ps - sorry for being a bit intense - a long-held Beanflaw.

Oh Beanykins. You are making a brave and bold decision to lay down your sword. If you feel as though TTC is negatively impacting on your DS and your relationship with DP him then I think you're doing absolutely the right thing by shifting your focus.

It will take a while to get your head around not TTC with the intensity that you were and I hope that this doesn't cause you as much heartache as TTC has. Most of all though I hope to see you here in a month's time with your post-HSG (do still have the HSG) ironic non-TTC BFP (anymore acronyms for anyone?)

Muchos love and hugs to you.

Oh Bean don't go. I feel bereft at the thought of the Brookers without you. I always look forward to what you have to say on the arcane subjects of alternative therapies and the nutritional content of nuts, and your calm presence. Where else do you lurk? Can we come and see you there? Lots of love and luck to you wherever you do go, and there'll always be room for you in here. xx

I'm off work again with another ill child. He wanted to 'bake' a lemon and poppy seed cake,(well, 'one of those lemon cakes with bits in') and the computer packed up just as the time came. Thanks maybe for coming to my rescue. Is it your recipe? It's just chilling now, waiting for DS1 to come home from school. Looks yum.

Imps I was thinking that there must be someone out there on the internet that can make us an app. When you published a recipe book, you'd have to upload a list of the recipes. Then when you had the app, you'd just tick the list of books you had and it could provide a kind of meta index. If apps weren't free, we'd make gazillions.

Hello everyone else!

((((((bean)))))) I'm so sorry you're leaving us, but completely understand that it's the best decision for you and yours right now. I wish you the best of luck with everything.

And I echo Imps that I hope to see you here next month with your ironic non-TTC BFP!

I was thinking of exactly the same thing Whims. I'm sure we can make gazillions out of it somehow. Right, how do I go about making one of these newfangled app things?

And... I had my HSG. It was a bit uncomfortable and I was shaky at first, but it was really quick. My tubes are completely clear, but very long. At least there wasn't something else to worry about, anyway. Mild crampy feelings at the moment, but nothing compared to proper period pains. Phew! The worst bit was the wait - it was a 2pm appointment and they saw me at 2:40. I was waiting in this tiny cubicle in my hospital gown for nearly half an hour

About to have a and a sit down, and read back todays news.

Oh Bean I am going to miss you so much. I love your wise words and calming influence. Please don't go forever. I am so sure you are going to get another BFP though, I really am. That HSG will help wonders.

Oh Whim another poorly LO. The cake is a good food recipe, but it is so yummy. I can't make it often, as DH can't have poppy seeds when he is working.

I need my cook books indexing. I would also like a nice storage for them so I can buy even more

Smegs great news on your tubes

So sorry to hear the brookers are feeling low today, it comes in waves i think, boo to AFs and BFNs all round.

bean as you well know, I have been in exactly your position with the sex fails and DH not wanting to try, as you know, it really was driving a wedge between us. We reached an awful low the month before I got this BFP.
Is there any way you could just take the pressure off and not try, not prevent and see what happens? Stop all the vits, herbs, acupuncture and things that are reminding you of TTC all the time and just have sex for fun. Or will it be too all consuming for you? You are such a great source of fun, support and humour we would all be gutted to see you leave :(

smegs glad the HCG was not too painful, get rat smackettering these next few months!

maybe I'm intrigued by the incompatibility of poppy seeds and having your bottom on TV.

I have poppy seeds in my muesli everyday and then go to work. Am I risking life and limb?

Whim. Now, I think it is completely slightly ridiculous, but DH isn't allowed booze/drungs in his system for him job (engineer) and poppy seeds=opium. So any random drugs and alcohol test could pick it up. Apparently

And that would be drugs, not drungs. He is allowed those in his system

I'm convinced that's nonsense. But now I'm tempted to take L&PS muffins round airports and see what happens.

I said the same Whim but apparently it is true, as you metabolise the poppy seeds as morphine/codeine. But there is another test to determine whether it came from drugs or not.

Plus, I'm fairly sure his bread he has for lunch every day has them in it

Yes, maybe why are poppy seeds a no-no for tube workers?

Ah, my stoopid pooter and it's refusal to refresh the sodding screen! Thanks for that clarification

Poppy seeds (in large amounts) can give you a positive drugs test as they contain the same compound as heroin/morphine! Perhaps MrMaybe is subject to random drug tests at work?

Well done getting through the HSG, smegs. Am I right in thinking that fertility jumps in the couple of months after one?

bean, we are a grumpy lot at the moment, aren't we? I've certainly contributed enough doom and gloom. I can completely understand your reasons for wanting to step back a bit, but will be sorry to see you go. You know where we all are when you need to nip back in just to hello or to come back properly - although, of course, it will be in the Ante-natal thread because we are all getting pregnant this month.

Sorry about the BFNs. Hope AF stays away and they turn into BFPs.

whims, great idea about the cooking book app. If you do it and if I ever own an iPhone, I'll definitely buy it.

Massive cross-posting re: poppy seeds!

Well, who'd a thunk it? Here .

Codeine and Maybe don't mix well, apparently I metabolise it more into morphine, therefore it has a bigger effect. Or so I was once told

You are right Bartlett DH is indeed subject to random testing, though he has never had a test to date! Plus he gets stage fright the poor thing

Umm, re: food apps/websites, has anyone seen Tastebook.com? I think there are copyright issues occasionally, it's a sort of Pinterest for recipes, but I quite like it. Not actually signed up for it yet.

I've got some white poppy seeds in my spice cupboard - do you reckon they'd have the same effect?

No imps they'd clearly be like crack.