Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

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Over here everyone

Hello! Good to hear from you fireflies and hope that things go ok with dh back at work x
Re: opks, I'm not sure where I read it, but for some reason mid-afternoon as a time to test sticks in the mind (fertility friend?). I used to do them 6ish when I got in from work, and tbh the months I got pregnant I never actually EVER got a 'positive' (I'd get a faint line but never as dark/darker than the control). That was as good as it ever got for me, so always counted that as a positive . Rarely got lines at all if using fmu.
Welcome resipsa! Sorry to hear about your mmc . I had one myself at 10 weeks a few years ago, and still find it painful to think about, and that's 2 babies later. You'll get lots of support on here that's for sure
knicky, I suffer from hyperemesis in pregnancy and was pretty worried about being so sick again. When you get pregnant (that's when, not if) why not visit your gp early on in case you need meds? I did that with ds2 and got meds at 5 weeks which really helped and allowed me to get out of bed etc though still pretty sick - they work best if started early x
Sorry not to name check more - at work and people are 'hovering'...Love to all xxx

Thanks diege, I think when (not if!) the time comes, I'll be going to the GPs - even with the chem pgs I've had waves of nausea at 4 weeks pg, so semi-dreading pregnancy again but still so want to be. All a bit topsy turvy really. Gives me hope though that you were able to function with meds during your pregnancy. It's just my worry for looking after my DD, but thankfully in a way as it's all taken to long to conceive, she's now nearly 3, so suspect I could just plant her in front of the TV if I had to. Every cloud with silver lining and al that (PS I think you're amazing to have had 5 kids - 5 lots of HG... it must have been so tough, but am full of admiration for you). Anyway, so fingers crossed for this month, lets see what this month brings xx

morning all - sorry to hear about your chemical knicky and hello to resipsa hope your stay here isn't too long (for all the right reasons!)

nice to hear from you fireflies hope your enjoying your gorgeous little boy :-)

bit of news from me - I had my first appoint ment with the egg donation nurse and she said I'm good to go whenever I'm ready, apparently it can all happen quite quickly now due to the response they got from their donation campaign - unfortunately we still have a lot of saving to do but it's nice to know I won't have to wait when we've saved enough money. We were a bit gutted as they said if dh had been 40 and under he could have donated himself and halved the cost! Oh well nothing goes easily for us lol

so am feeling quite happy and positive this morning, let's hope it all goes well and by xmas I could be preggers hooray!

welcome resipsa - this is a lovely thread - will look forward to your stories xx

good luck tina that sounds marvellous!

Wow, you really are all very nice. Thanks for the welcome!
I'm on CD15 so currently familiar with the daily POAS. Had to give up on the smiley faces as too darned expensive but decided yesterday that I don't like the ones with lines so now in a quandry...

welcome resipsa. i'm usually more of a lurker but such good news this week on here! and tina that sounds great, really pleased it may all start happening soon.

thanks knickynocks Can I just ask (and anyone else) it says on the instructions for the OPK that you shouldn't have urinated for four hours before testing - does that actually not matter?

really? my cheap internet dip sticks just say to reduce amount of water you drink for 2 hours before testing. I have found that getting a positive every month is hit or miss which may be due to the hormone being quite diluted. I just watch the line over a period of days, i can tell when its getting close to an official positive and DTD then and day after (if possible) , i carry on using them until they start to fade, that way i've caught the surge even if i have not had an official positive- if that makes sense!

I'm not the best at keeping myself hydrated during the day and often find by the end of a working day that all I've managed to drink is a 500 ml bottle of water. That said, think blackcats is right in just reducing the amount you drink for a couple of hours and it should be fine.

Thanks for the admiration knicky , not sure it's deserved though! I struggled without meds for 2 hyperemesis pregancies, being signed off work and also on drip for one, in and out of hosp. I ddn't get it with dd2 (just 'regular' morning sickness) but twas very bad with dds and ds1. I was having no more with ds5 and luckily had an obliging gp who handed over the drugs (cyclizine). Sounds like you;re like me in the sense that it kickss in very early. Oddly with the mmc I dodn;t feel sick at all, which I suppose was a sign things weren;t well.
Ooh all this talk of opks is getting me . Maybe I could just use for contraceptive purposes? or is that just too dangerous

Yes Diege way too risky!!! Step away from the opks!!!
Welcome Resipa xxx good luck ...lots of success stories on here!!! I m one ; my 2 nd daughter: Phoebe is 8 months old after my first darling daughter was stillborn at 41 weeks on 10/10/10. My angel; Georgie ( hence my name) I m 41 now. I'd also had 1 mc,1 MMC & 2 CPs before Georgie. Hope your stay is short & sweet.
Hi Knicky I always use the CB ovulation sticks ; love them!!! I used to test about 2 ish at work & only held my urine for a couple of hours before hand.. Best of British xxxx
Tina excellant news... Glad things are moving. Xxx
Hope everyone else is ok?
Lovely , smiley news about the new arrivals this snug sure is getting full!!!
Hot, busy at work, Phebs knackered hoping she ll sleep tonight!!!
Love to all xxxx

interesting diege you never got a proper OPK positive. definitely shouldn't use them as contraception then! Not sure where you're at - are you wanting to 'have another bash' as twirlygogo puts it or have a rest?

repsipa yes the smiley faces ones are exorbitant! i try to test only 3 days before i think i'm ovulating and that way i've made a 20 pack last several months. you can get a 20pack on amazon for about £27 which is cheaper than Boots but still dear. Need to check out the cheapo ones.

OPK-wise i'm still not getting a positive on CD19. but had ewcm and a general inclination to DTD - surely the traditional signs. Also wierd cramps, not like normal ovulation cramps - lots of them, randomly, over days. Don't know what's going on. Not sure i'm even on the 2ww now! think i may have had a CP last month and tested just as it departed. The very first PG test I did there was a slight flicker of a line and I didn't think that meant anyting but then as my period was late i did a few more and there were noticeably no flickers.

xx

Hi all - phew the heat! I know I wanted it to stop raining but I'm using the mussies to wipe myself down, not the baby!

Thanks for all the lovely comments and support. Really appreciate it as dp didn't get any cover for his paternity leave (as teachers, our colleagues - friends - were asked to do it and he was asked to give them the work they need to set) and went back to work on Wednesday. We've only got two weeks until term finishes, so I'm holding on until then, but was a bit gutted tbh . My mum also chose this week to go on holiday and my brother came to visit yesterday and just expected me to have prepared lunch for him and his girlfriend . I had to dash to Waitrose in the morning to buy food. Poor old Teddy was forced to move seamlessly from the maternity ward to the fruit and veg section. He seemed a bit surprised - as did everyone else witnessing a rather harassed women throwing things into a trolley with a newborn she'd clearly pinched from a hospital. Still - most people have similar tales. You don't often get the fairy story combo of doting dad, generous employers and supportive families at every occasion.

One thing I need to pass on before I forget. As I was singing your praises to my lovely experienced delivery midwife, she told me that she had heard about or worked with a project at Kings Hospital in London which focuses on giving 'older' mums to be the right level of hormones pre-conception to maximise their chances. She feels strongly that the chemical pregnancies are not down to poor eggs but are down to slower hormone responses. She believes that post-40 the speed at which our bodies respond with the appropriate hormones SLOWS DOWN. We don't instantly get the HCG response or the extra PROGESTERONE needed to sustain a pregnancy. When they are already high (ie post mc/cp) we have a chance. However, we would have had a chance before if we had had higher doses in our system pre-conception.

I'd not heard of the Kings study, but I know we've discussed this before. I mentioned it to my doctor who said that it was nature's way rejecting a poor quality egg/embryo and that it would be safer not to sustain such a pregnancy artificially - she would not give me progesterone. BB had a very different experience and was given progesterone. Just thought I should pass it on.

that's fascinating lolfactor and amazed you can find the time to write stuff - amazing how one minute they're in your tummy and the next in the fruit and veg section x

lovely to hear from you lol although I'm appalled that you had to feed your family having just recently given birth!!

I was interested to hear about the trial your midwife spoke about it - I did some searching and I think that it's this trial that's still open:
www.kcl.ac.uk/medicine/research/divisions/wh/clinical/open/promise.aspx

and also: www.medscinet.net/promise/

they're still looking for ladies to take part in the trial that have been diagnosed with unexplained recurrent miscarriage

Hi resipsa!
I'm a newbie on this thread too, I had a MC in March and another a few weeks ago but we've decided to try again .
There are some inspirational stories on here, it's very encouraging!

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