Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

[Curlylox]

Over here everyone

Hey Diege no real news from me. Had stretch and sweep Fri, so now 2cm, and daily monitoring showing signs of very gentle contractions, but nothing significant. Induction Wednesday.

Is understandable that you're worried. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you for Tuesday and for some good news. In the meantime, does it help you to remind yourself that at least you are doing something about it? Some people will stick their heads in the sand and completely ignore similar issues.

So many of you are having a rough time. Hope to see you all on the up soon. FF xx

Thanks fireflies . In a way I wish I was getting the results by post, rather than a 7.20pm phone call, but then as least I can talk them through if necessary. As you say, better to know what's what and be at least a little in control that way
Best of luck for the coming days!!! By this time next week you will have your baby in your arms Sounds like things may well happen before induciton, though if not at least you have a head start so to speak with the dilation. Will be thinking of you xxx

Yes, one way or another by this time next week I will finally be a Mummy. Better get my act together! Quick!!

However you get the results, waiting for them is absolutely the pits Diege. Will be looking out for your update and sending you lots of positive vibes in the meantime.

How's everyone else doing? FF xx

All the very best FF - you go girl!!!

Offering my virtual hand to hold to my old bezzie -Diage.

Love to all.
XXXXXXX

FF so pleased that everything sounds so positive - although you must be climbing the walls, wishing your cervix would just get on with it. Keep your strength up, and keep smiling. We're all willing you on xx

Diege I can hear what you're saying - a planned phone call is like waiting for the jury to deliver a verdict; you'd rather someone slipped you a piece of paper!

It's 4:10am and I'm trying to stop crying and waking up dp. This baby just keeps growing and doesn't show any signs of wanting to come out. I'm officially due on Tuesday but from experience (and charting) I already feel well overdue for 'me'. DS2 and DD had already arrived easily by now (and looked very overcooked, despite being 3 days early). DS1 - the 'big bugger' was 2 days overdue when labour started and it took 36 hours. He didn't fit into the hospital crib. He wasn't heavy (8.8lbs) but he was off the scale head and lengthwise and I think that's a sign of being 'in' for a long time. I'm guessing my body is preparing itself for a slow but safe delivery. Either that, or it's in denial .

Hoping those of you going through difficult times are finding support in RL as well as here. It sounds like there has been a lot of sadness recently. I am hoping that this little one might give someone else a ray of hope - just as Lia66 TTT Angel Diege and BB gave me hope by having lovely babies after exceptionally difficult times.

We are really going to have to pick up where GG left off and make a 'list' so that everyone on the thread knows where we all are. It certainly made me feel better looking at the number of 'graduates' we had and how many people were on similar journeys.

good luck fireflies and lolfactor. I've been reading back over the thread so getting my head round a few more stories. knickyknocks and gum hope you are ok.

lolfactor i would really like the list.

have also learned a lot reading over the thread - eg in terms of the luteal phase, that the three times we SWI before Xmas weren't well timed. Last month's was tho. I had a late period, three BFN's, a long period and now have bloated tummy and feel sick and tired. So feel like something has happened - but not sure what.

Next time's SWI will be around a critical business meeting of my DP. Wonder if i'll actually ovulate then tho, as my cycle a bit wierd.

This is a journey it really is.
xx

oh and diege good luck with your results x

Diege FX for your results ... Xxxx
Hippy hi xxx
Somewhere I ve learnt a lot from threads like this abd found the 2 I m on to be of great support. Hope u do too xxc
FF OMG nearly there xxxx
LOL same...,, I m very excited for u both... Hope I both get the deliveries you want...I ll wait to hear with bated breath xxx
Hi all; love to u all xxxx
Having a rough time here; was the SANDS service on Saturday met up with some lovely mumsnetters however, feel very delicate & fragile since. Had to come home from work today as in tears at work. The service was very moving but hard , so many people there. One of the songs played was ;Eva Cassidy " somewhere over the rainbow" which was 1 of thd songs we had at Georgie's service , so lovely but so sad. All my emotions feel so raw, so delicate again. Although, it's 18 months now I suddenly feel like it was yesterday.
Phebs is ok full of cold still took her to the walk in centre last night as sounded a bit raspy but chest is clear...,
All so hard again. If I don t feel better soon I m going to refer myself back to my counsellor..,. Hoping after a good kip now & lunch out with a mate tomorrow I ll feel a bit better.
Love to all xxxx

Angel big hugs to you. Is understandable that you'll have set backs from time to time so don't be too hard on yourself. I'm sure you must still need to do some grieving even now. It is only 18 months since you lost Georgie in shocking circumstances. No wonder it feels just like yesterday. You've dealt so incredibly well with everything, and I'm sure you will continue to do so. More hugs. FF xx

lol sending your baby gentle eviction vibes.

somewhere hope something has happened. Fingers crossed.

We could start the stats list ourselves. GG was exceptionally dedicated - I've no idea how she managed to keep such a close eye on our cycles!

Right, off for more monitoring.

Lol hold on in there my love! Never having gone overdue or even close really I can only imagine how frustrated you must be feeling (ditto fireflies!).
Angel I'm so sorry you're feeling so low, though as fireflies says, 18 months really is no time at all. Hope that you can enjoy your lunch out tomorrow etc and be kind to yourself. Apart from the cold, how is Phoebs doing now? I think Samuel is teething but with no sign of any teeth coming through (just going on dribbling and pain cries at night).
Somewhere good luck on timings for this month. I had forgoetten all the faffling with being in the right place at the right time that is ttc-ing!
Thanks for all your good wishes re: my test results. I tend to keep things like this private in rl, don't even mention to close friends/family, so it does help to have somewhere to chat about my fears etc.
Hello to all - how are things gum, Italian?
Oh and me old mucker Hippy thanks for the good wishes xxx

Right, I'll start the list under 'graduates'...

Graduates: Diege, 42, ds2 born October 2012, 10mths of trying. Dc 5 for me!

Arghh, a mistake already!! Ds2 born 2011, not 2012...

Graduates
Diege, 42, ds2 born October 2011, 10 months trying. Dc number 5!

Thanks very much Diege .& LOL xxxx
1 step, day at a time.
Angelgeorgie DD born 18/10/11 after 4 years of ttc. 2 MC s & Darling Georgie ( stillborn at 41 weeks 10/10/10).
Xxxx

Oh , I m 41 & I ve no other children x

Diege think I can see/ feel some white stumps/ teeth... She dribbles +++ ,she sits up , talks away , pulls on you to kiss her & is generally fab.... We ve had a few weeks of her waking up hopefully that ll settle soon ... Not very good with disrupted sleep.
Eating : we ve come to a bit of a stand still she ll have her baby jars , yoghurts etc we used to blend potatoes etc. but a bit stuck
Now!!!! I ve just ordered a baby weaning book.... What does Samuel eat? Is he crawling yet? We ve tried blending if we ve had spaghetti etc... But quite often we have spicey stuff... So no good!!! Can see her being on 4-6 month jars to shes 21!!!
Ant bought her some of these , even though I'd moved her up to the next stage as he said " she doesn't like the others" !!!
Xxx

at on jars for life. Samuel is pretty much the same food-wise. Mainly jars (when at home), sneaking in a few 7-9 months ones. Tried homemade rice pudding but he spat out all of the lumps quite neatly in a row onto his bib . We have a lot of home cooked stuff as a family but like you not really blendable down (can pasta and vegetable frittata be blended?). No success with finger food. Not sitting up, though trying and slumping...Rolling very well though. Crawling, I can't see that happening soon - more like a seal with flapping arms on belly .
Right, we need someone to 'edit' (ie place in a list) the list-info'. You won't believe this but I can't find the copy and paste button on this new laptop, just a faves button where it used to be ...

To the rescue...
I'll carry on compiling the list and post it when you guys have all made your entries. Roll up everyone...

Thanks *LOL . Not that you have anything big coming up to occupy your time

Angel I am glad to see I am in very good company with Phoebs. I am dribbling for England at the moment (fortunately only overnight). Not v sexy! And having broken nights.

Lol thanks for volunteering! Here are my details:

Fireflies-42, 1x blckd tube, x2 failed IVFs 2011, 40+2 with first ever (spontaneous) pregnancy.

Back from monitoring. LOs HB fine. MW excitable about my BP being a bit high along with protein in urine, so waiting for a call about that. My feet are v puffy too.

Still, no wonder BP up. Was diff to get parking spot at hosp. When I did eventually spot an old couple who were leaving, hovered with indicators on. Noticed hulking great guy on foot also hovering and on phone (he'd passed me as I was waiting). When old dears backed out he went and stood in the middle of the spot and tried to stop me parking there. F**r! So I just drove at him. Fortunately he moved, but I was greeted to a torrent of abuse when I got out and then he complained that I was being rude when I told him to get out of my fecking way. He went snivveling to his GF who he was trying to hold space for that I'd nearly run him over. Seriously, Shrek sized, tattoed twunt of a guy vs heavily preggers 5'4'' laydee.... Spose I should calm down a little though, right?

Just running in to hug LOL and say hang on in there, you are nearly at the end of this terribly long and stressful journey - please don't cry, Lovie.

and of course to my darling AngelGeorgie (Lou). 18 months has in someways flown by - as fireflies says - you lost Georgie in such a sudden and shocking way and it is so natural for you to still feel raw pain. wish I could reach into my laptop and give you a proper hug, Mrs. ((()))

fireflies - Come on woman, i can't keep checking!!!!!

thanks for your encouragement. great to know i can come here and obsess over my symptoms.

AngelGeorgie I don't think 18 months is any time at all - very hard work indeed - sending you good vibes - Phoebe sounds ever so sweet.

hello all.

fireflies you made me laugh with that parking story...

angel sorry to hear that today has been hard. Maybe the SANDS event was cathartic for you in some way, allowing you to feel sad while you also feel so much love. You love both your girls immeasurably, and that has to be a conflict when what you want most in the world is to have them both with you.

That's how I am feeling anyway... On Saturday, at DH's 'alternative' birthday, we announced publicly that I am pregnant with Mia's little sibling, a gift of hope you all know I feel has been granted to us by Mia. Upon hearing the news, the room was filled with smiles and tears in equal measures as we tried to convey both the happiness and fear we both feel, and the challenges and new opportunity that a second child may bring to us. It is so very hard to balance the pain with the love we feel, both for Mia and her little sibling. Joy and love and fear, mixed all together. I just want my little red-head back to be here, and to be a big sister, just like one of her little friends, gently stroking the hair of her recently arrived sibling. I want my DH to smile on Father's Day because of Mia. And we can't. Our loss and our joy both seem very great.

diege how did you go with your test results? Hope all is ok.

For the list for lol, as she has nothing to do
I am 42, one MC in 2009, one naturally conceived DD, Mia, born Sept 10, but who died unexpectedly Oct 12 ; now naturally conceived pg 15+2, and hoping for an uneventful and peaceful time...

somewhere do you have a basal body thermometer? Really useful alongside the OPK for pinpointing ovulation, especially if you chart using the FertileFriend system. Definitely recommend it all... Fingers crossed for you!

Angel big hug (((big hug))) Revisiting that level of pain must be devastating. My thoughts are with you and Ant. x

Ok - this is for somewhere - you need to cut and paste this list and add your details. I'm bound to have made awful mistakes and left people out unknowingly. So sorry. Just quietly correct them. No hurt intended. I've gone back over the last 3 threads and am now falling asleep!

TTC

Italiangreyhound, 47.DD aged 7 (from IUI), MMC 2006, IUI/IVF/Donor IVF - failed. FET donor cycle March 2012 also failed. Looking at all options, including adopting.

Hippychick, 45. DS1 and DS2 conceived in 30s, then decided to ttc at 43. Successful after 5 months but unfortunately MMC; got pregnant again after 3 months - again MC. No BFP since and trying to move on.

Hopefulgum, 45. ttc#6, 3 mcs
Twirlyagogo dc1, dc2, mc, mc, dc3, mc x 2.
Knickyknocks, 40.
Purple Dragon, 39. 1 adopted child; now ttc biological child.
mrscupcake, 42. First pg age 36 ended at 14 wks due to chromosomal abnormalities, ds born 2007 now 5, mmc June 2011, mmc now - ERPC.
kiwibabe, 43. DC1 at 41. TTC DC2.
TinaO99 , failed IUIs; considering natural IVF.
blackcatsdancing44 . TTC second, first is an adult . Had a MMC earlier this year and hoping to have better luck next time.
sparklysapphire, 44 DD (4) , TTC #2

Incaminka, 42. Three mmcs, 6 weeks, 14 weeks and 8 weeks.
luckyagain, 42. Conceived DS via ICSI when 41. BFP in February and told expecting twins.... lost the hb on one at 7 weeks and the 2nd at 9 weeks. Now trying naturally after ERPC.
RetroMaggie. First dd was IVF after 5 years of ttc. One mc since at 7 wks and a possible very early miscarriage.
Elena67, 45. DS (2)
MaisieM, 42. TTc first with DH. Came off the CP in August 2010 and DH had a vasectomy reversal last June and has been tested since and all seems ok with the 'swimmers'.
Curlylox needs updating

PREGGOS

MiaAlexandrasmummy, 42. Sad loss of 13-month old only DD who was conceived naturally. Now pregnant naturally with DC2.
marytheresa Due date for DS is 25/7/12.
Jollster, 44 - 1 DS (4) TTC#2 since June 2009, 3MMCs 2 early MCs. Now 24 weeks.
10000 Fireflies - 42, blocked tube, x 2 failed IVF cycles. 40+2 with first ever (spontaneous) pregnancy.
Lolfactor, 46, DS1 and 2 and DD now grown up. DS3 (with new partner) took 2.5 years (on and off) to conceive naturally. 3 x cp and 1 x mc at 5 weeks. DS3 due any moment (so that will make 4 plus a stepdaughter)
clickingtock (aka Beangrower) 42. DS1. BFP after 16 months TTC DC2.

RECENT GRADUATES
Diege, 42, ds2 born October 2011, 10 months trying. Dc number 5! Samuel born happily in the snug.
Angelgeorgie, 41, DD (Phoebe) born 18/10/11 after 4 years of ttc. 2 MC s & Darling Georgie ( stillborn at 41 weeks 10/10/10).
Beattiebow (BB) 41 - just had #6. 2 miscarriages, several chemical pregnancies. Preg after 16 months trying. Used CBFM and Progesterone. (tried temping and clomid also).
Shandybass - 41 , 3 mcs, then DD delivered safely, if a little late!
Herecomesthesun - DS1 at 44, DD at 47 - both conceived naturally. PCOS and went on metformin, which apparently can help reduce the risk of recurrent miscarriage. Was recommended vit B supplements such as pyridoxine (B6) and B12 and also folic acid 5mg daily (DH's family have history of mild spina bifida type defects).
Hairytale - 43, 3 mcs, then DD, naturally conceived.
Fifitot, 47. Had DC1 at 43 and DC2 at 47.
spottysox, 44. DD1 - Labour was 51 minutes from start to finish.
TTT, 41. Sadly lost DD1, aged 3. DD2 conceived naturally after 15 months and delivered safely in the snug.

Cross-posts, MM My heart goes out to you, Angel and TTT x