Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

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Over here everyone

Hooray for the good news on Samual's kidney (Hugs from Auntie hippy)

Sorry Samuel - i spelt your name wrong - oops. X

Hee hee Hippy I spelt it like that on the birth cards we sent .
Angel I do 4 long days too, with Friday off. It's a bit of a con(in my case) in that it's pretty much full-time hrs but with 20% less pay for me...are you doing compressed hrs? I must say I do love having the Friday at home with the ds's Samuel has also turned a corner with his food -on 3 solid meals a day now and enjoying pretty much everything!

Deige - I'm so pleased that Samuel's scan was all good. It must be a relief to you. I can't believe your babies (Phoebe's too) are eating food.

I haven't broken the news to Dh and am holding off for a while. Mainly because I want to be sure it's actually going to happen (though I don't know if it won't become obvious before 10 weeks as I do get sick in the first trimester). But also, he's working in a promotional position this term, which has given him a whole lot of extra stress. He's tired and hasn't much free time, and I just can't add this stress to him right now, especially as he doesn't consider it "good news". He will really stress over my lost income when we are only just making ends meet now.

It's complicated, but ultimately I think he'll be okay.

Right now I'd like to enjoy my little secret without any negativity.

Hi all. Popping in to say my news. We had a baby girl born Saturday morning, 9.days late she came after a second sweep v quickly in 30 mins established labour. She's absolutely amazing worth all the pain and years of ttc 40+.
Good luck to you all en route. Hope this one's a keeper gum, good luck lol almost there, I remember your first post!

Congratulation shandy. Lovely news.

Sticky vibes to gum.

Freaking NICE would increase age for IVF now....

Sorry for short post. Struggling to keep up with you all! Ff x

Many many Congrats to the fabulous Shandy - wow 30 mins!! Hardly time to get your trousers off :)

Enjoy your secret Gum. X

Many congratulations Shandy that's lovely news. Do you have a name yet?
Gum I thought you might not have told but didn't want to sound rude . I would do exactly as you are in your situation. Lots of positive, sticky vibes heading your way As Hippy says, enjoy your secret!
Hi Hippy, fireflies hope all is well.
Fine here; heading off to work in a minute having dropped everyone at school/nursery. Dh is away for 5 days on a course so everything's happening at 100 miles a minute, no time for anything. This is when I could do with family around the corner!
Love to all - hope the weather is as lovely where you are as it is here.

shandy, yay for you! it's great to hear happy news.

all for those of you thinking about IVF as a possible route, there are new recommendations that it should be made available on the NHS to women over 40. www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-18143587

Yeh Shandy congrats xxxx
Gum xxx
Diege I m doing 32 hours a week 4 x 8.5 hour days ( get paid for 8 hours a day) so barely part time!!! Couldn t afford to drop a proper day a week (ie: 30 hours a week) I m still loosing £300 a month but mystery fees are reduced by £100 a month. I ve put my pension on hold at the moment to I clear a loan next year which equals an extra £240 a month!!!
No set days off which is fine but off duty done up to August so I could give nursery plenty of notice!!!
Look at our little " fatties" love it!!!!
Feel very guilty as finished work at 1 today (using up last years AL) & not collected Phebs from nursery!!! First time ever I ve finished early & left her there... But I m sat in my garden ; reading, chilling going to have a long soak & nap before Ant collects her at 5!!! Bad mummy ... Keep consoling myself with the fact she's off nursery Thurs with me & Fri with Ant!!!
Enjoying the sunshine xxx

"Mystery" what is that???? They re no mystery but nursery fees crappy I phone!!!

Shandy - how lovely! Well done you - hope you're enjoying it all so much x

Thank you to everyone who is being kind enough to ask how I am - RL isn't working quite that way but never mind, onwards and upwards, or onwards and lying back with my backside on a pillow and my legs up in the air for 30 minutes . . .

Was at GP today - asked if I was going to try again so I saw that as an opportunity to see if there was any info I didn't know and was going to be miraculous (as if). She said that, in her experience, it's better to do nothing as the pregs which will be successful are the ones which are natural iyswim. She said that, apart from folic acid (and no smoking, drinking etc), there was absolutely no evidence that anything worked unless there was a specific problem. She's probably right, but I did so much want the miracle piece of advice . . .

Hope everyone is enjoying the sun x

Gum here's one for your list - DON'T go on Google when you feel any creeping negativity! This thread is your sanctuary in google temptation times!

Shandybass - wonderful news and hope you are enjoying every magical second!

Clicking and MiaAlexandra'sMummy sending you lots of hugs and hope that the days are speeding up (in a good way) and everything is going well for you both (and indeed to everyone else!)

Twirly I hear you on the lack of RL consideration/care. I have been a bit shocked at how little some people have seemingly given a damn....I also had one or two humdinger comments about "well twins would have been hard work" ...enough said....

AngelGeorgie I'm joining you in the bad mummy camp....I had a day off today but the nanny still came and I had a snooze this afternoon :o All I can say is I hope you feel great after a few hours "off" of the most demanding job on the planet!

AFM.....after posing the question about when my period will return guess what? She arrived and so I felt that rush of optimism that comes from being a week or so away from "opportunity".

Hope everyone is enjoying the brilliant weather and it's lifting spirits where needed.

love from Lucky x

Glad it's not just me Lucky !!! Xx

Congratulations Shandy - what lovely news.

Too Late Lucky, I've already googled this morning,and kind of wish I hadn't.

Old anxieties creeping back, and I wish I could skip the next 8 weeks - perhaps in a coma or something...I'm afraid I did a test when I woke this morning, an internet cheapie and it's so light it's barely visible. I hope it means nothing, but on the other hand I'm stealing myself for a chemical pregnancy.

Being prepared mentally, though, doesn't seem to make things any easier. I know I'm jumping the gun a bit, but despite all the bravado about being calm, and accepting etc, I'm going to be terribly disappointed if things don't work out, and of course, at my age,there's a very good chance they won't.

Sorry about the negativity, I just really expected, at 16 DPO,I'd get a reasonable line on a test.

Now I just have to wait and see. I'm not going to have beta blood tests or anything like that.

congratulations shandy!!!! Lovely news!!!

gum don't despair yet, maybe the line was weaker simply because it was a cheap test, try not to read too much into it at this stage

I'm afraid I'm feeling a bit 'under the weather' this morning, dh and I got a 'little' tipsy last night and didn't get into bed until 1 then I had to be up at 6, I nearly collapsed in the shower and had to lie on the bathroom floor soaking wet until I didn't feel like blacking out anymore.....I'm NEVER drinking again (or anything else for that matter!!)

Gum Big hug. There's no easy way to sit it out, is there? We all feel for you. Hope your day goes swiftly and positively for you.

Shandy
Terrific news! So pleased for you. What a long journey - and now you've arrived! Now can you tell me how you did 30 mins, please? Think I could cope with that .

Diege great news about Samuel's tests. That's one ticked off the 'worry list' hopefully. Does anyone's list ever get any shorter, though? Perhaps I'll just consign mine to the circular.

Twirly ((( )))

Tina loving the slummy mummy approach. Sometimes the bathroom floor is the only place to be...although the garden is looking very tempting at the moment. Even if the lawn is 3 feet high.

Enjoy the sun everyone!

Thanks lol - you're all so lovely; do you all want to come round for a cup of tea; I scare all the RL people off!

May I ask what a chemical pregnancy is? I don't know all of this stuff - I remember getting tested for a molar pregnancy in one miscarriage too, and didn't know what that was either .

And lucky - what a horrible thing to have said to you. Some people are just so thoughtless.

I've had it all this time from the usual 'well, it's nature's way - for the best really' (with a side order of . . . 'at your age') to 'bet you're relieved really, in a funny sort of way' (no, not in any sort of way) to 'ooh, you'll be more careful now I expect!' To be honest, I can almost brush that all off, it's when someone hugs me or is lovely that I get a bit flustered and don't quite know what to do.

Twirly a chemical pregnancy is when you get a BFP early but the pregnancy doesn t stick. I ve had a couple where I ve tested positive early ( cd 23/24 ) a faint line then a few days later I ve got my period. So if I hadn t have tested I would never have known about the BFP ( if that makes sense!!)
Xxxx

That does make sense, thanks for the explanation! Another reason not to test early I guess . . . I'll stick that one on the ever-expanding list!

Ah Gum, I really hope all is well - you don't deserve any more heartbreak. On a positive note though so many people (myself included with dd2) have had the fainter line thing - peeonastick.com I think it is talks about this and how it's not just your wee, but the concentration of dye in each brand (even each batch in the same brand) that affects the line darkness. I really hope this explains it for you, and will be willing everything to be fine and dandy xxx
Twirly, yes, no early testing!!!
Angel, I've lost track of the times I've kept the dcs in nursery when I get back early from work. Hell, I even book leave the week after they're back at school/nursery
Tina, that does sound like a good night...what on earth were you up to until 1am?

Arghh missed out my hello to Lol

congratulations shandy on your daughter. How exciting, 2 babies on this thread in quick succession!

twirly I can't believe people are so insensitive to say all those things, how mean.

tina I hope you recovered from your wobbly start this morning. I do feel less guilty about going out drinking 2 nights running this week - ok not very much either night, but what about my poor eggs....

hopeful hang in there, I hope this one sticks for you, but there's no easy way to get through the first weeks. Stick to you "don'ts" list - no more POASing.

miasmum & clicking I hope all is well and things are progressing as they should be.

waves to everyone else

Thanks for all your support and kind words. I do, think, realistically, that this isn't going to stick. I know I shouldn't have peed on a stick this morning, but I'd rather prepare myself. I did a first response test on Monday (at 14 DPO) and had a lovely dark pink line. This morning's FR test has a very light line.I know from past pregnancies that the line does get darker - particularly at 17 DPO. I also have no more boob tenderness.

And it is okay. I'd rather lose it now than later, and hope that it'll just be like a late period. Those of you who have had early miscarriages - will it be like that?I really don't ever want to go through another ERPC.

I know symptoms do fluctuate in the early weeks, but I think the light test is indicative of falling HCG levels.

One thing is certain - if I loss this one, I'm not going to ttc again. I'm really tired of the whole thing. I've had enough of uncertainty. I know it would be worth it in the end, but I just can't do this to myself anymore.

Sorry about the negative post, just had to get it off my chest.