Fantastic 40+ thread - part 6

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Over here everyone

Oh Beattie - Congratulations
I'm so pleased you have your little girl with you and that all is well.If anyone deserves it,you do. Enjoy every moment(I know you will).

Twirly, I'm so sorry about the miscarriage. It is just so sad. We love our babies right from the start, I think, so it is very hard to lose what we were looking forward to. I do hope you recover (physically) quickly.I know the emotional recovery
will take time. (((HUGS)))

Yes Deige I know it's too early to test. But as per usual,I'm incurable,and I want to get a script for progesterone asap. But,you know what,I reckon it won't be this time. I'm 9 DPO now and my temperature should be going up and it isn't.It's hovering around the same spot,so all is not lost, but I no longer feel hopeful. I expect AF will drop by on Sunday or Monday.

so sorry twirly, it's a horrible time, please look after yourself and indulge in all the forbidden things.

Beattie, congratulations on the arrival of your DD - how lovely. I hope things are all settled down now at home, are you staying in London or heading back to the coast. Enjoy your babymoon, and the other children getting to know DC6!!

the DHEA question, just to give you my perspective. I took it specifically because after my Recurrent MC tests showed nothing else wrong, 3 MMCs tended to suggest an egg quality issue (not hugely surprising in early 40s). So I took 75mg a day for about 8 months I think (bit blurry on dates). I think it's suggested it takes 4 months to make any difference. I was advised to take it every day throughout the cycle. So I don't think it's necessarily the holy grail and the answer for everyone, but as has already been said, it's not been proven yet one way or the other.

Hope everyone's ok. My 20 week scan is next week - and have been a bit anxious this week (probably and hopefully baseless but inevitable with a wobbly history). I think as it'll be 5 weeks since my last scan (and I've been scanned at 6, 8, 10, 12, 13, 15 this time!) I'm just a bit neurotic! In the past I'd have rolled my eyes if I'd read this about someone at 19 weeks, and thought "oh just get a grip", but I guess that's what hormones do!

Waves x

Thank you all so much for the supportive (as always) words - hippy, lol, sparkly, gum, 'Joll*, you are all very kind. Think the worst of it is over - no matter how many I have, I'm still always surprised at how physically painful it all is even at this very early stage as I was just short of ten weeks. Will get a scan soon to check all is clear.

On one hand, I think I should be making a list (DHEA, CoQ10, AMH tests and a million other things I've picked up here), but on the other keep thinking that it's really daft at my age anyway.

Jollster - all the very best with your scan, I'll keep my fingers crossed that everything is perfect for you both. x

Oh Twirly - how rotten for you. Utterly disappointing and just unfair. You seem remarkably strong, but that's not a consolation. We are all sending you (((hugs))) and before you start your list - just go and indulge yourself in some outrageous food - pate, blue cheese etc - and a very good bottle of vino, or your favourite tipple.

Lol - interesting to hear how non-judgemental the medical lot are. That's fantastic. I saw a consultant just before I got a BFP who basically tried to put me off by saying most women accept that it's not a good idea after 40 (or words to that effect). Like you say - babies after 40 would have been the norm before contraception. My Granddad was among the last of 13 and I'm pretty sure his mother can't have been a spring chicken. Good luck at your 20wk scan.

Waves and to all.

xxx

Sorry jollster - not Lol. Gah.

twirly just wanted to say how sorry i am to hear your sad news. Take care.

Hi everyone - I have been "read only" for a couple of weeks as I have been on holiday and am now back to reality and facing the "what next" dilemas.
Beattie what wonderful news and enjoy your beautiful girl! I too am new to the site so haven't followed your journey but that doesn't lessen the whoosh of good feeling when one reads about the success and knowing you have your little girl in your arms...bliss
Twirly so sorry to hear your news. its a miserable thing to go through whether you were preparing yourself or not. hope you take good care of yourself and best of luck with what you decide to do next.
Clicking Wow! What fab news on your BFP - I am cheering from the sidelines here
Hopeful you have my sympathy....I am dreaful for early testing, I almost wish I could take an amnesia drug and forget I am ttc and just wake up one day and think "oh I'm 3 weeks late....I'm pregnant"! hope it's an early test negative rather than a negative negative IYSWIM

AFM I am still waiting for my first period following my ERPC on the 17th April. I've been wearing my DuoFertility monitor but I think the data doesn't mean a great deal until you have had a complete cycle. I am a bit nervous about trying again but have started to feel the natural route is the way to go for us as I found the IVF cycle so hard last time, especially with how it all ended. I would like to say that my holiday recharged me but my 17 month old DS ran me ragged and topped off with a night flight home....well, enough said!

A quick question - for those of you unlucky enough to have experienced an ERPC (D and C) - did it take long for your first period to come?

Hope everyone else is doing great and that you've had some sunshine today....it's been shining brightly here in Bristol xx

twirly you know I have been thinking of you. I am so, so sorry. And it's not daft of thinking about making a list, if it helps you get through this.

joll yep, know the feeling, I am anxious too...

hopeful you make me smile with your early testing!!

clicking no-one has ever blinked an eye about me being over 40 and pg when I had Mia. In fact, my GP dad was quite astonished at how normally I have been treated. Bit different now, but I think that's because of my circumstances, rather than my age.

lucky I have had an EPRC and I think it took about six weeks to get back to normal. I was told to keep trying straight away!

Hi. Big Congrats Beattie. I've been checking in every now and again to see if there was news. I knew you were due same time as me and were very supportive when I had my mmc.
Lovely news. I'm still waiting, 40+6 days today and still no baby, it's been such a long journey I can't wait, but as usual am still finding things to worry about.
Take care.
Good luck jolls for your scan, it's always hard I think bit half way there, yeh.
Sorry twirly I hope things work out for you again, it's a hard road to go down and pick yourself up from to start again. But take heart others of us have here and there is hope. Xx

BB congratulations and blessings to you, your lovely new baby and all the family. Love and hugs.

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Hi Sparkly. Not sure about the caffeine, although my 8 cups of tea a day were probably not helping with vitamin absorption . There was a good study in Scandinavia which showed the effect of reduced vitamin D on fertility. Unfortunately, it suggested vit D supplements and no alocohol; needless to say, I just took the supplement . I think co-enzyme q10 is a good idea although I'm basing this on it's DHEA-type qualities and I'm not sure if this is real or imagined. SMEP is a good way to go, but I'm not sure it will fit in with your working pattern/partner, so you'll have to come up with your own plan based on charting. Planning SWI trysts sounds quite exciting...fingers crossed for next month.

Jolls how lovely to be able to see the baby again next week. You must really know it's little personality by now. Are you going to find out which sex it is or are you happy to know 'on the day'?

Clicking 13 kids! Sounds like a challenge, BB.
FF WHERE ARE YOU? Cashing in your Bounty Pack vouchers?

Big ((( ))) to those whose AFs have arrived or are just around the corner.

Shandy ignore the sex/curry advice and avoid watching 'One Born Every Minute'. Good luck. Today could be the day!

Diege any news on the tests yet? Hoping all's well with you.

ITS not it's!!! Gah! The shame...
Must read through.

ps - we are often Vit D in this country without realising, hence my interest in the study.

Yes, LOL, many people are without realising - even in Australia where we get a lot of sun.I know I was borderline, despite spending time outside everyday. Which reminds me,I must take my supplements tonight.

Well, I was so sure there was no hope for me,but today, while at work I felt compelled to go shopping,so popped out and picked up an ept, and peed on it at work.

I don't know why I did,especially as I'd had an obvious negative this morning. And lo and Behold - I got a faint BFP. Later I had a little brown spotting. I hope that means implantation rather than an early indication of AF coming.

I'm just going to quietly hold onto hope without making plans, anything could happen.It might be a chemical.

It's funny though, cos I have had a strong feeling that all the planets were aligned this month - but still had a few wobbles - my breast tenderness was gone this morning,but is back now.

I hope it is sticky this time. I'll call my Dr tomorrow for a progesterone script if I get a positive in the morning...

Gum I will be keeing everything crossed for you that the bfp does indeed stick - please give (hourly) updates! Strange that you should have felt so compelled to buy a test - something somewhere is sending out positive vibes! xxx
Twirly so sorry for you - what a horrible shock I had a mc (missed though) at 10 weeks a few years ago and it was one of the toughest things I've been through. Thinking of you xxx

Twirly sorry xx
Gum congrats
All good here just so busy at work & with Phebs. However, wouldn t have it any other way (well apart from our Georgie being here) but its lovely
Love to all xxxx

Oh Luckyagain I had an ERPC with my 2 nd MC was fine & it took about 5-6 weeks for my period to reappear after. Sorry xx

Did another test this morning and it's faint,but there's a line. Yesterday's line seems darker,but it was in the middle of the day,perhaps that makes a difference? Not going to obsess about it. Had a nice high temp this morning but I do have a full blown headcold.

For today,I am pregnant. No more spotting - guessing it was implantation.I hope that means the bean is snuggling tightly in.

Lol, remind me,did you take progesterone? I know my progesterone is usually normal,but have worried in the past that it may have dropped too low and caused my last miscarriage as there was no definite chromosomal issue (those the test got botched,so who knows). Anyway,I'm just not sure about the progesterone,and wanted to see if others on here had used it,how much,and for how long? Will it have to be the pessaries,or can you take a pill?

Might have to google it

Nice to hear all is well,Angel.

How FABULOUS Gum!

really great news gum.

Oh, what lovely news, gum!

fantastic news gum hope it sticks in there, so pleased for you

Twirly so sorry about your news as Shandy says hang in there, I'm sure your time will come!

Just to let you all know I had my first intro hypnotherapy appt, he looks like Eddie Izzard but seems very nice lol - first proper appt next week so may be suddenly breaking into barking like a dog or singing or something at innopportune moments

Congratulations Gum - very exciting for you and well done for staying calm about it. Wishing you the very best over the coming bump months. I'm afraid I'm still feeling a bit OTT about it all, but nearly 7 weeks in now and feeling a bit more 'normal'. Desperately trying to stop myself from telling people...

It's been a while again, so sorry for my lengthy absences.

Firstly twirly so sorry to read your news. It's just flipping awful. Been there once with my M/C and that was plenty. Felt god awful for a while and know that my hormones were all over the place. I hope that when you're ready you're able to try again and that things stick this time. Having a look at the recent messages on this thread, there is always always hope for things to turn out differently.
Gum just flipping wonderful news!!!!! Crossing everything I can that this is a sticky one. For today you are pregnant and that's just bloody fantastic!!!
clicking have no idea how you're managing to stop telling people. I know that I'd find it almost impossible not to grab a loudspeaker and scream it from an opentop bus down Oxford Street. Only a few more weeks then you can make it official - and grab a loudspeaker, find said bus and start your announcements.......
MAM how are you feeling? Must be 9 or 10 weeks now?

As for me, no news, AF arrived about 9 days ago. SWI week starting within the next day or so. Sperm analysis results for DH have come back fine (I think and according to GP all fine). Just really hoping (like every month) that this is my month. After 15 cycles or whatever it is, this TTC business is very very frustrating. But I'm doing fine, and have hope for this month. DH is around every night next week which gives us no excuse not to go at it hammer and tong (is this known as TMI?????) That said, no hammers and tongs used in the knocks residence, that's bordering on some very strange shennanigans.

Gum OMG!! Am absolutely over the moon for you . You've got a blue line - that's fantastic news. 'Stick, little gumbean, stick!'

ps Gum - no, I didn't take progesterone, but thinking that BB did. My doctor didn't let me have it but I was tempted to get some off the internet .