Oh jaffa Absolutely don't feel guilty about anger in this situation. I wouldn't worry too much about the fact you haven't replied, either - better than spouting a load of stuff that whilst may be true you know doesn't help to actually say, especially when she didn't mean to text you that other stuff. But she does sound, um, self absorbed and perhaps not that healthy for you to have much contact with at this time. Other than that, how're you doing?
frozen I really hope you get more good news tomorrow. I know what you mean about being fortunate to pay for private scans; although me, ever the bargain hunter, negotiated a 30% discount for my 7 week viablilty scan with this pregnancy as it was with the private people at 16+1 (gender scan) that my loss was discovered last year. I think some places offer packages if you're going to have a few and even if not advertised, it's worth asking?
pebs The IC's do take quite some time to get dark and in addition to that (if you're comparing one you've done this morning to one you did yesterday, for instance) they carry on developing past the '10 minute mark' and dry even darker than when you're supposed to read them. ALSO! They seem to have varying amounts of dye in them (although bloody FRERs were the worst offenders for this for me this time). The spotting is a worry, of course it is... but it's really quite common at this stage in a perfectly healthy pg
tiago Sounds like your bases were well and truly covered so fingers crossed! Do you have a dpo you plan to test at or just gonna wait and see if af arrives?
Arf at premature pancakes 
Hey, how awful am I? I've never made pancakes. And I looooooove them (drenched in lemon and smoothered in sugar - none of this Jam business or nutella or...whatever. Stick to the classics!). My poor deprived children have only had them at other people's houses or at school. Bad mummy, bad!
I think I've missed welcoming a couple of newcomers... so welcome! I do hope you can find support here.
Well! I'm off to get my hair done today! Surprise from DF for Valentines (surprising cos he normally gets me a bag or something). Now, from the age of about 12 until 30-ish I was blonde. Very blonde! I went back dark/natural when I was going into a serious job where I wanted to be taken seriously. As much as I would enjoy turning people's expectations of how thick I would be on their heads it just seemed easier to not fight against sterotype and I needed to have a strong physical prescence too so, yeah... anyway. DF and I have known each other for 15 years. So he knew me as blonde for around 7 years. He's made a couple of comments over the course of our relationship about wanting to see me blonde again and because I've been feeling dowdy and neglecting myself since the loss I'm thinking of maybe going blonde again. As I have SO much hair, it's a process - I don't get a tint, I get lots and lots of highlights, regularly, for an allover effect eventually... I want to do it for him and have toyed with the idea for years anyway sincing leaving said job but there's something in me that wonders if I'm trying to recapture a younger, more innocent time by going back blonde again.
I'm totally overthinking this, aren't I? FFS.
I suppose if I hate it (or DS2 screams the place down because he doesn't recognise me anymore!) I can always go back dark again. My appointment is this afternoon so will report back later (perhaps with a picture on my profile 
if it's not a disaster )