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Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the shiny new baby-friendly MOSH PIT.

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MarthasHarbour · 07/02/2012 11:30

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot Brew chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

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leedy · 08/03/2012 14:01

Also just catching up - tits, fingers crossed that the CB is telling the truth!

I finally managed to get OPKs to work this month by using them in the afternoon (apparently much more reliable) - tried a CB digi one yesterday afternoon (day 11) and got a big smiley face. Bit earlier than I'd expect but my cycle has been weirdly short since the MC, so I, er, took appropriate steps. We will see.

(appropriate steps involved having to do the deed on a near collapsing single camp bed as DS was asleep in our room. Very nearly failed to conclude matters because we were laughing so much...)

(also am now amusing myself thinking of what other icons they could use for "g'wan, it's time to get busy")

MarthasHarbour · 08/03/2012 15:30

leedy Grin

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MissCoffeeNWine · 08/03/2012 18:49

I think we should all abandon peeing on a stick and just present our cases for pregnancy to the Mosh Pit Jury, who will

Think of the money you lot we'd save!

Hurray for baby bumsquash! (cos baby tits is just wrong)

leedy - oh the mind boggles! Grin

mrsclairemarie · 08/03/2012 18:53

midgetm great news about your scan glad all was well sending lots of sticky vibes to you. I know what you mean about finding it hard to deal with certain pregnant people more than others.
twolittlemonkeys really sorry to hear your news, even when you are pretty sure thats going to be the outcome its hard not to cling onto a bit of hope right until the end. Look after yourself, I really do know how you are feeling xx
Well I had my scan today by the worlds most misrible and unsympathetic nurse (seriously could they not try and be at least slighty pleasant?) They wouldn't actually give me any information once the scan was done which worried me a bit they sent me with a sealed letter to the gyne dept. I then waited for 2 very long hours to see the dr who confirmed it looked like the miscarriage was complete and no need for any further treatment. I really wish the lady who had completed the scan could have given some indication of this rather than making me wait for hours to be told.
I felt so drained after the appointment I ended up having a nap when I got in that lasted for about 4 hours!! At least now I can start to have some closure on this and move to the next scary chapter of fertility specialists/tests.

MarthasHarbour · 08/03/2012 21:08

oh mrsclaire Sad it is bad enough that you were going for the scan but that treatment you received was plain insensitive. i am pleased to see you are bracing yourself to move on, give yourself some time though and some well deserved TLC

msC can i have the please, i do love a sense of importance. And i did correctly predict baby tits BFP

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marielisa · 08/03/2012 21:20

tiago, dont worry. CB like any hpt really depends on how hydrated you are. As its detecting hcg in urine if you drink plenty of fluids you will have diluted urine so a lower hcg level. And the dates are very broad so really not that accurate. I hope you can relax and enjoy your pregnancy, congratulations!

marielisa · 08/03/2012 21:28

mrsclaire and twolittlemonkeys, so sorry for your experiences. I know how you feel about the drained feeling, i feel like i could sleep forever and all i want to do is eat junk food. (So stuffed after the biggest maccyD's feast ever!)
I'm hoping these feelings will pass so I can get motivated again and back to my old self. Just want erpc over with on Monday.

Midgetm · 08/03/2012 21:28

mrsclairemarie sorry you had such a miserable experience at the hospital but good news that the physical side of things is over. Good luck with getting the investigations you need.

Tits great news, hope your cheapys come good. I stock them by the 1000 so I can give in to my testing monster.

Martha Grin at the idea of us using you as a non weeing testing strip.

Leedy - good work. Little envious as I am banned from any sex till after the first trimester and even if I was allowed DH would be too terrified anyway. So campbed action sounds good to me.

NoMoreMarbles · 08/03/2012 22:50

eveningSmile

just a quick one to say YAY to titsGrin

sorry about the scan results missclaire and twolittleSad it sucksSad

hope everyone else is doing wellSmile

sorry not to name check but my eye is hurting! i have a blister of some sort on my EYEBALL!! its hard to sit looking at the screen for too long...

TitsalinaBumSquash · 09/03/2012 07:41

Martha - You're like the all seeing embryo watcher! Grin

I am off down the dr's this morning to do the necessaries and to get referred to haematology. Should this one stick it will be 40 weeks of heparin injections twice a day.
I am still a bit shaky this morning, it somehow feels different, seems silly saying this so early but it just seems a bit more real.
Poor DP he got in last night, I went straight to sleep and stayed there until 6am this morning. Blush

Tiago · 09/03/2012 07:45

Grin at tits

Thanks marielisa - I have been drinking more recently.

Went to see my colleagues baby yesterday. She was due the day before my baby was. Baby is very cute and only threw up on me once :) but it did make me a bit sad in the whole "I should have my own here with me" way.

Tiago · 09/03/2012 07:47

Shock marbles that sounds horrible

mrsclairemarie · 09/03/2012 09:24

tits congratulations on your BFP

marielisa I can understand you must just want the erpc over and done with its so horrible just waiting. I will be thinking of you on Monday, look after yourself x

I still have one more week signed off work, I fear all I'm going to do is sleep and eat junk :( I was considering ignoring my drs note and going back next week to avoid the endless sleeping/eating but I know realistically it would be too soon as I would probably end up crying in the loos.

tasmaniandevilchaser · 09/03/2012 09:48

hi everyone, I am still here, still up and down. Ended up crying on my friend's shoulder in the park yesterday with DD shouting 'mummy why have you got your hand over your face???!!!' Sad It's all so undignified! On the plus side, I am ovulating atm, for a while last year it didn't seem like I was, so at least something is working. Not that I can really contemplate trying again right now, I feel (mentally and emotionally) like I've been hit by a bus. Thank god I had some counselling booked in from the MMC, plenty more to talk about now! Sad. Last time I went I was reading an article in one of those crappy magazines in the waiting room, the article was about ectopic pregnancy and I remember thinking, that's the sort of thing that never happens to you. I was sitting there with a real life ectopic pregnancy inside me. Oh the irony!!! [bitter emoticon x 10]

very happy for your BFP tits and glad to see there's other good news, memory is failing me but midget good news on your scan!

mrsmarieclaire I would try and get out everyday, if you can face it, just a 1 min walk around the block is better than nothing. I just want to hide under a big stone, but I'm forcing myself out every day, even if it's just to post a letter. Very sensible to not go back to work next week, you really need this time. I had 3 wks off after the MMC, and I needed every minute of it. I needed a week to come out of shock.

sorry not to namecheck everyone but I hope you're having a good day x

MissCoffeeNWine · 09/03/2012 10:06

Sorry you're feeling down tas and marieclaire I also need a kick up the bum to go out and do something, I can be a total work-hermit when things get stressful, and I'm managing to metal like a good one about all my imagined milestones at the moment. To-day I am the gestation that I started to bleed with mini-toe, although I carried him another month. So if I wake up with no problems tomorrow it'll be the furthest I've ever been in a pregnancy without bleeding.

But I am being a hermit it's like I don't dare do anything in case I somehow knock the baby loose, and I've got bloody awful hip and pubis pain, a lot of the time, so walking about is painful anyway. I've gone from exercising 4 times a week to nothing and feel awful. I'm not complaining about being pregnant, I'm judging my own silly mindset that makes everything more difficult than it really has to be.

I also got my NT results back - same as mini-toe's - 1:100,000 risk. Good news of course but I can't help remembering how I felt when I got mini-toe's - like it was the final hurdle overcome. HA.

pebspop · 09/03/2012 10:23

how old are you missc? my nt results last time where only 1 in 800 which i felt was a bad result. i was 31 at the time. the hospital said it was low risk but i was hoping for a big number like you are getting.

i am mentalling today as have got the brown spotting back. it had calmed down a lot after my scan last week even though i could see the blood on the scan so i suppose more had to come out at some point. i have put a pad on today as i feel that it is coming out more than just wiping (sorry for tmi!). my mentalling is made worse as i went out with my grandma last night and she tripped over a step and i tried to catch her. i don't think i actually caught her as she managed to stop herself and i didn't feel like i had strained myself but i was really scared that i could have done some damage without even thinking.

i am sure it's all nothing but it really panics me. i wish i have took epu up on their offer of another scan today now. i have to wait until thursday for next one now.

i will try to end on a positive note. the blood i saw on the scan last week needed to come out/stop before i can take my heparin injections. so this bit of brown bleeding is ok. and i am just panicking about stopping my grandma falling. i dont think i actually did anything as she stopped herself.

it;s not working i am still metalling aarrrggghh!!

Midgetm · 09/03/2012 10:44

Good Luck Tits and trust your instincts. I know exxactly what you mean about this one feeling different. The M/C clinic told me to trust my instincts so perhaps we shold listen to them...Maybe it is foolish but I find positive thinking better (when not having a full on mettaller) and although it might not always change the outcome the journey there is more pleasant. Poor you with Heparin - I had to take that and I still have one brusie from it that hasn't faded. This was from the specialist nurse showing me how to take it - the same never happened when I did it myself - oh the irony. Anyway you do get used to it don't you? I just looked a bit like a pin cushion at the gym.

pebspop metal away but you know brown spotting is not bad on it's own. Not always. You know this, we all know this but it doesn't stop it freaking each and everyone of us out. At least with a pad you can monitor it and call EPU if it gets to anything that alarms you. I don't think old Granny will have done any harm - the bean is so protected in you - it is so much more likely to have hurt you not it.

MIssC - step away from the computer and shake a tail feather (whilst minding the dodgy hip) you know it makes sense.

Tas sorry you are having a bad day. It is still such early days. God I know what you mean about not being ready after a EP. I was scared to have sex for ages and poor DH only got it once before I was upduffed. It's the longest sex drought in history.

mrsclairemarie like others say - take as long as you need. I always struggle with people being nice to me when I feel especially vulnerable.

Marbles Ouch that sounds very bad - hope it clears up soon.

I took a brave step in being less obsessed and mental and moved the scan app I had on Monday to Thursday. (I already had one Wednesday so really obsessive even by my own low standards). Get me. I figured Thursday will be much closer to 8 weeks which is a bit of milestone for me and therefore will tell me more anyway. Mental, me? Never. Ok, maybe later.

MandaHugNKiss · 09/03/2012 11:11

Pebs my nt risk with DS2 (at 36) were 1:13,000 compared to 1:3200(or so, can't remember exact figure) this time just two years later and being told by FMC that the baby couldn't look any better than it does (physically, with all the stuff they check far in excess of anything the nhs looks for). I think I got the lowest risk possible for my age considering the risk is considered so much higher with each passing year past 35. Further to that, as 'high' risk isn't until you get to about 1:150 then your result of 1:800 which is pretty darn good. It helps, I think, to actually visualise yourself in a room with 800 other pregnant women... Just one of you will have a baby affected by Down syndrome. Or, conversely, if you're a gambler, suppose there was a horse running at 800-1 - you're not gonna put any money on it, are you, because it just won't win! Natch, we're gonna metal regardless. When baby wasn't moving last week because I was so ill and starving I convinced myself his poor/infrequent movements were because he has an issue like down syndrome that causes poor muscle tone. That's with my 1:3200 and the 'couldn't look better' message and knowing I have an anterior placenta (and make my placentas PLENTY big - papp-a results 2 and 1/2 times 'average' and the big babies at the end of it...). Jeeze!

As for your bleeding, I feel it's highly unlikely you've caused any further issue or damage by reaching for Grandma but more likely you've kinda dislodged/helped along the old blood that was just sitting there getting slowwwwly reabsorbed.

missC Ok, so you haven't gotten over your final hurdle but you have had some great news re: nt risk so try and feel the good stuff too, y'know? Ultimately, you kinda know your 'issue' is mostly about your anatomy but imagine the added woe if your risk came back 1:80 - especially as, postionally speaking, things look promising for this little one. Baby looks healthy, baby picked a prime location - win/win! It doesn't take away the previous losses and metalling that goes hand in hand with that but... yeah, y'know?

tas So sorry my lovely. DS2 is only just starting to show empathy for my tears and will wipe them, kiss me and then latch on (I presume his thinking is 'well, it makes me feel better when I feel crap so it's bound to help her, too, right?') and as much as it's soooo lovely that he 'cares' I kinda preferred it when I could sit and cry/wail and he didn't notice!

Probbaly felt like everyone in the park was looking at you but the truth is very few, if any, of them will remember the incident within days.

Poop, DS2 just bumped his head and is crying... I think some boob-action is in order. Back later

Tiago · 09/03/2012 12:04

missclairemarie please don't go back until you feel you can manage. I went back too soon and it was a big mistake.

pebs feel free to metal - but remember that LO is very snug inside you and it is only on rubbish soap operas (eg sunset beach) that trying to catch a grandma would cause a problem ;)

pebspop · 09/03/2012 12:51

i feel like an idiot now for worrying about crazy falling grandmas!! the things we find to worry ourselves. i was feeling like i was in a confident spell on pg as well until last night.

i am trying not to worry about the spotting either. i knew more would have to come out as it was on the scan last week- it wasn't just going to vanish was it!

manda i know deep down 1 in 800 is good but i would have expected at 1 in 000's kind of risk. not that it really matters as that pg ended in mc anyway but i suppose you have to be grateful like you say that it's not much worse. someone i know got 1 in 2. luckily everything was ok but that must be really scary.

JaffaSnaffle · 09/03/2012 14:04

Pebs, I have had 2 nuchal results, my first was 836 which was my DD. I was a little worried then, but all was fine. All the health professionals were happy with it. My 17 wk miscarriage, for which there was no explanation was in the 1000s.

MandaHugNKiss · 09/03/2012 14:15

By the way, I'm absolutely gutted I can't take a trip to the NE to pee all over marff by way of a pregnancy test! Sure, technically it would cost a whole lot more than a bunch of FRERs but how much better to have her ponder then declare your pregnant staus? That's even snazzier than a cb digi with conception indicator! Fed up with the impersonal silence of a traditional peestick? I'm marff - and I can reliably tell you whether you have conceived whilst we drink tea and eat cake

You'll be rich, marff, rich I tells you!

GrandPoohBah · 09/03/2012 17:00

waves shyly

Hello everyone! I've been stalking you watching this thread for a while and then you had your flurry of BFPs and I decided I wanted a piece of that action so thought I'd better introduce myself.

DH and I have been trying to conceive no1 for the last 9 months, in which time we've had one MC at 9 weeks and one MMC at 12 (after having seen the heartbeat at 7). I also had a MC when I was 18 with a previous partner which I don't really 'count' (first week of uni, saved me from having to make a difficult decision), but the NHS does so we're being seen by the recurrent miscarriage clinic on Monday. I had an ERPC three weeks ago for the MMC, and managed to pick up an infection while I was at it so I'm on some fun antibiotics now too.

So, um, hi Smile

GrandPoohBah · 09/03/2012 17:02

Oh. And I'm really pissed off with the whole thing. But I think that goes without saying...

tasmaniandevilchaser · 09/03/2012 18:41

hiya grandpoohbah sorry for your losses, hope that the recurrent MC clinic are helpful. I have a very similar history, (just replace last mc with an ectopic) but we were lucky enough to have a DD in the middle of it all, so they don't count mine as recurrent. I've heard that the support you get from the recurrent mc clinic is really helpful. Sorry you got an infection from the ERPC, I expect that's about the last thing you need right now, hope that goes soon. I found my MMC very very shocking and stressful, hope that you're taking good care of yourself x