Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the shiny new baby-friendly MOSH PIT.

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There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

I hope all is well with you and your bump manda

I am having a bit of a meh day, all symptoms of anything have gone, I know this doesn't put me out the race until af arrives but I am not feeling hopeful today.
DS2 has been up vomming all night so he is still tucked up in bed asleep.

Got an evening out with one of my bestests tonight so that will cheer me up. :)

Hope all is well with the mini manda

Tits despite being 5+4 I have also woken up with a horrible feeling that it's all over. Maybe it's just one of those days. Determined not to go to EPU yet because if it's good news I'll get attached and then be more sad if it's bad news later, and if it's bad news now, I'm not ready to hear it! Makes perfect sense to me

Got to go to hospital on Tuesday for colposcopy (had another pesky abnormal smear 2 weeks before BFP) going to take superhuman strength not to drop into EPU!

Manda thinking of you lovely - hope that things get back to normal today. If you are still worried do go to see someone though - it can't do any harm and it will make you feel better to know all is well It may be something and nothing but definitely worth checking it out.

lil that does kind of make sense, they can't see anything on a scan til HCG levels are about 1500 (though they saw my last one at 1100) hope everything is ok, keep us posted x

manda I don't know how you manage on so little food, you need some cake!!! Go and get checked out please, tell them you have to put my mind at rest if you need an excuse!!

missc thinking of you and hoping for good news

everyone else hope all is well xx

Been for my scan today everything looked ok. They could see bleeding on the scan which is where my spotting us coming from. Don't think it's anything to worry about but they wouldnt start my injections whilst I am bleeding. Got another scan in two weeks so hopefully the bleeding will have stopped by then

Thinking of you manda. Hope you are ok

Afternoon ladies,

Lil I had scan at 5plys 4 and all it showed was a sac and that it was right for dates. Kind of tells you nothing really but I was relieved this one was in the right place. Baby steps and all that.

Manda hope you have got checked out now and that all is ok. And like Tas says - eat some cake woman. Or at least some nuts.

Lilmonsty I hear you sister and I will share my bit of metalling:

Had to go to get my iron levels checked as I was already anaemic from my ectopic in Spetember. Waiting in the hospital for my test (starving and grumy - don't make a pregnant woman fast, and then make her wait in line - it is inhumane and will lead to rage).

Anyway in my head I was secretly thinking that this is the hospital where I first say DD's heartbeat - my one and only successful pregnancy and how it would be fate if this one was ok and I saw it here too. This is slightly mental as I do not have an app with EPU so unless i staged a sit in there wasn't much chance of this happening. Anyways I am slowing going mental in the queue when I saw someone else in the line who I recognise immediatley as the Specialist Nurse who scanned my DD. I spoke to her briefly (and scared her a little I am guessing) but managed to stop myself from whipping down my pants, geting her to check my cervix and begging her to scan me. I see her as my lucky talisman. Now I am kicking myself as maybe I should have done. The poor woman was just wating in line for a test just like the rest of us but to me it was all a big sign that this time it would be ok. I have indeed lost my marbles.

I need to stop all this insanity but I can't help it. Hope you aren't all being as crazy as me.

afternoon ladies

missC hope you are ok

pebs brilliant news on the scan bit poo that you couldnt get the medication now but FX the bleeding stops soon and the next scan is a good'un too

midget sorry but you did make me talking about the nurse in line i feel the same sometimes hence my name...my marbles were lost a while back

hope everyone is enjoying their afternoon im stuck in work and the weather is lovely outside...

Hello everyone. Newbie here.

I am currently on my 4th pregnancy after 3 MCs (1 of which was a MMC).

As soon as I found out I went to a private clinic whereby they put me on lots of meds and diagnosed me with e high natural killer cell count, which may have accoutned for the previous MCs, so they are treating me for that too.

I had my 10wk scan today so all good. Now long anxsious wait until 12wk.

I thought I would join up here as I am a constant worrier so hoping to hear from people in similar situations ideally with some success stories!

manda thinking of you, you shoud definitely go and get checked out for your peace of mind,could i be thelack of food?

missc any news?

pebs great news about the scan, did they say what was causing hte bleed?

midget you are in the right place, I for one, am definitely bonkers!

dunnit hello and great news about 10 week scan, hurray!

I had a terrible night as kept on losing more brown stuff, then one wipe of red and thought that is it, its over. Cried, accepted it was over and then today - nothing and 3rd hcg level of 1989 so going up still!! Doc was reassusing and said it can be caused by implantation, an irritable cervix, a nicked blood vessle etc

Am off on hols this week, so hopefully that will prove a nice distraction and not long to wait before a 6 week scan!

Afternoon all! Soooo pleased it's Friday and now well on with the afternoon as well so not too much time left before the weekend

pebs so glad the scan went well do they know what's causing the bleeding? What a pain to have to wait for meds but at least little mini-peb looked to be doing well!

manda hope all is well and that the silence is because you're having 'lots of fun' at Butlin's and that there's no cause for concern with mini-m!

far great news on your hcg levels...sorry about the brown stuff though...hang in there and try not to stress toooo much if you can! Enjoy your hols too! Are you going anywhere exciting?

missc hoping all's well with you too and that's you've just been v busy since your scan yesterday doing nice things and all is well! Please pop on if you can and let us know!

Right...brain getting a bit confused with the up and down scrolling so am just going to at everyone else sorry for not managing a full name check!

hi dunnit, sorry you have to be here too, but you're in good company! Great that you're being well looked after and 10 wk scan went well. 10 wks is when my MMC baby died, and that happened to a few people I know in RL so I think it's a big hurdle you're over.

farfalla glad your HCG levels are still rising, have a lovely relaxing hols!

Waves to everyone else and brings for all those that want (i.e. me) and for everyone else (is it wrong to start on the wine at 4.45pm? DD is at my mum's tonight and I've had a very shit day.....)

Drink the tas, I plan to tonight, I am already sick of the am I/aren't I worrying and obsessing, an evening out with DP and my friends is just what I need.

Hi all, sorry I'm not a regular poster (2yo DD keeps me far too busy) but your kind comments after I joined makes me think this is the first place to turn now...

I've just had the faintest, lightest, barely-there-est positive line on a pg test at 16 dpo. Am a bag of nerves! This is my WTF cycle after mc at end of Jan and haven't had AF since. Can it be true? I remember people saying you can have a false negative but not a false positive. Is that the case even if the line is really light?

Argh, etc.

OMG project!! That's right, you don't get false positives, even if the line is faint, it's still a line!!! Congrats!!!

A line is a line. And you are more fertile after an M/C. The evidence of this is currently asleep in her car seat heading up the M6. Congratulations.

Typically I just booked an expensive holiday this morning. Someone here suggested it - great idea, I thought, as I'm bound not to be pg... but I estimate I could be 10 weeks when we go (if this is actually true which as yet i find hard to believe). Major stressing at thought of mc again but IN GREECE. No, no, no, no, no

Evening out is not happening, DS2 has gone from bad to worse so I cannot leave him. :( poor lad hasn't kept anything down all day or night.

[fed up emotion]

Oh and congratulations project

Projectg You can't think like that. Take it one week at a time. When 10 wks comes you will be over the most risky stage so you can have a nice holiday.

Projectg it will be a lovely holiday for you to enjoy when you are over the bumpiest time and will give you something to do while awaiting your 12 weeks scan . Congratulations.

Congrats project just a quick question though...did you test to make sure you had a bfn after the mc? The only reason I ask is that it can take a while for the hcg levels to go down and I would hate for you to get excited and then find that this is left over Hcg and not new Hcg iyswim? Hoping that it's new for you though! Re the holiday we flew to NYC when I was 10 weeks this time and it was a v good distraction from getting to 12 weeks...though I made sure I'd had a scan to check on beany before we went to try and minimise the metalling!

tits so sorry ds2 not well and night out off...hope he feels v better soon!

Sorry I haven't been on, everything's OK, I have 61.8mm of baby with a 1.8m nuchal measurement, a heartbeat, two arms, two legs, wiggling. Not as wiggly as her big brother but wiggly none the less. Have a picture of her giving me a proper two-leg ninja kick.

I'm hopelessly attached and cannot hope to do the sensible, protective thing of being stoic and cautious until well past the danger time. I recognise this baby when I see it on screen. I know her (she's a girl). I'm a silly fool who'll end up heartbroken again.

Last night we ended up at MILs and she told me I'd not to be so negative, and I can't tell her not to get excited, as she's an optimist by nature, and she'll continue to think the baby will make it, even if I persist in being so doommongering and pessimistic. I guess that's what having three pregnancies end in three healthy children will do for your outlook, huh? Never held your own dead baby? NO OPINION.

Will try and catch up in a bit.

Hooray for you MissC! Absolutely delighted for you and the bump. What excellent news! And so pleased you aren't being stoic and cautious. Whatever happens happens (I think there's a song in there somewhere) and so you may as well enjoy the happy times. If I could only take my own advice!

Meanwhile was feeling so nauseous I came home from work early. The only thing that abates the nausea is eating. If this pg carries on I'm going to get massive.

And enjoy doing so.

Hope everyone else is happy n healthy

missc
wonderful news

MissC - wonderful news!

I am very crampy tonight (early I might add) I have banished DP to the shop until he locates and brings me chocolate on a grand scale

MsC so pleased that you and your mini-ninja have got this far. Did they check the positioning of the placenta etc in relation to your uterus?

I completely get your anxiety about getting attached. Having had 3 pregnancies before this one with only one fabulous DD to show for it sort of takes the shine off it all. But it does not have to take the love away. I believe that there are many types of love. Some are straight forward, like my first naive pregnancy was, and some are not easy to give or receive. And I believe love of unborn babies after a miscarriage is painful to give, but is the most natural and right thing in the world to do. You are still their mum after all.

My DS is buried in an infants cemetery, for miscarriages, stillbirths and children under 2. There is a gravestone for a little baby there which reads,
'We never knew your love, but you will always have ours'.

Now this sort of thing is not very helpful when you have a busy life to get on with, but I think it is important to acknowledge, no matter how much of a heartbroken fool it makes you feel. Big hugs.