Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the shiny new baby-friendly MOSH PIT.

[MarthasHarbour]

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Betting for cash or are the stakes more interesting?

We haven't decided the stakes yet. I need ideas!

i say either way the stakes should go in your favour

if BFN DP has to treat you to a lovely bottle of some stinky soft cheese and something else not allowed when preg

if BFP then you get a spa treatment or somesuch (just make out like its going to be a hard punishment) and what kind of DP would stop his pregnant partner from enduring a nice relaxing spa treatment?

Is there room for one more on here? I did join the October thread but don't think my freak out concern stuff is best placed upsetting other people with a more romantic and normal view of pregnancy, so need to come share it with others who are also in the same boat. I feel even joining it may have tempted fate in some way - afterall I am not like normal people when it comes to matters of creation.

Currently on pregnancy number 9 (at least - I gave up counting), but I have one success with my gorgeous DD. BFP the week before last - first time of trying since suspected ectopic in September (too scared to have sex again till now - poor DH) so currently 5plus6.

Scan at 5 weeks confirms this one is in the right place and have one at St Marys next Wednesday to see if it is 'viable'. Such a horrible word.

I never allow myself to feel positive but I can't help feeling this one may be different - I have done it once so surely I can do it again? Right?

How can a week seem like such a bloody long time away?

Hugs to you all who have experienced recent losses. Mother Nature can be a bitch sometimes.

Tas - I saw your other thread. Hope you are resting and vegging in front of the TV.

Anyway hope there is room for little but neurotic me.

midget welcome to the thread, so sorry for your losses however congrats on the BFP just hang in there, we shall provide cake support whenever you need us! Huge FX that this bean sticks

tits you are soooo preggers

Hi all

Room for another small one? Currently 5+2 after a MMC in October 2011.

Lucky to live near St George's EPU who have said they will do me an early scan. Just wondering how soon to go - Midget - can you tell for sure whether pg is 'viable' at 6+a bit? My worst outcome would be being told 'probably bad news but come back in a week to know for sure' so want to wait until they can give a conclusive diagnosis first time.

midget welcome and congrats on the BFPso sorry for your many losses i have had 9 pregs with 1 DD and TTC number 2, have you had all the tests etc to see why you have lost so many? i have Lupus Erythematosis and Lupus Anticoag (APLS related) but i live in hope...

ooo x-posted a bit there

lilmonsty welcome and congrats on your BFP so sorry about your MMC

hey martha whats shakin?

Thanks for the welcome Nomoremarbles . So sorry for all your loses, I know to stay sane we must block some of it out but it sure as hell does leave a dent I have a clotting issue and I am on 150mg of asprin. Hideous lower back pain and a bit of spotting taking the edge of my optimism. Realy hoping this one is different. Kicking myself for my optimism now.... Nice to 'virtually' meet someone who will actually know what the helll I am talking about when it comes to this procreating malarky.

Lilmonsty - as far as I know the odds of things being ok dramatically increase if a scan is all ok at 7 weeks.

This may help from the American Pregnancy Association:

Generally from 6 ½ -7 weeks is the time when a heartbeat can be detected and viability can be assessed. A normal heartbeat at 6-7 weeks would be 90-110 beats per minute. The presence of an embryonic heartbeat is an assuring sign of the health of the pregnancy. Once a heartbeat is detected, the chance of the pregnancy continuing ranges from 70-90% dependent on what type of ultrasound is used. If the embryo is less than 5mm CRL, it is possible for it to be healthy without showing a heartbeat, though a follow up scan in 5-7 days should show cardiac activity.

Eep the thread is exploding with BFPs and newbies! Big whoop for all the BFPs and hello to all the new people, sorry you have to be here but glad you found us.

May I plead entry on the STATS THREAD to help my poor little brain cope - no hurry, no rush, not compulsory, but really helps us to know where everyone is at, fingers crossed for lots of happy updating :)

tas I'm glad it all went as expected and you are holed up at home having lots of TLC. Rest and recuperate, OK?

jaffa how funny it has a 'feel' - I know what you mean though. This one feels a lot different to the last one. I actually bought a babygro today. Keel over in shock, I know, how presumptuous of me, but I know enough babies I could send it to if it doesn't work out, and stuff doesn't bother me.

tiago so excited for you and your very fat BFP

leedy fingers crossed it's just a bit of WTF-ing and nothing to worry about. Did you POAS after all?

marbles congrats on the job!

pebs I bled all the way through with DD, in fact I'm managing to metal about the fact I'm NOT bleeding this time Hope it settle for you though, it's so stressful.

blue anniversaries are so funny and the strangest things remind you sometimes.

Grinning at martha's girded loins. Oo-er.

Hope all your symptoms have a point tits, fingers crossed for Sunday. How is your DS?

Sorry for your losses midgetm you can definitely do it again. That's my little mantra at the moment.

Lilmonsty I saw this one in the right place with a beating heart at an estimated 7 weeks, actually 7+3 I think. No guarantees of course but it was still in the right place last week at 10+6 and I hope it'll still be there tomorrow at 12+3.

And that is the key to my metalling at the moment. NT scan. Lost my first just after the dating scan and the first things started to go wrong just 3 days after the NT scan with DS, although he wasn't lost for another four weeks after that ... but I'm expecting the bad things to start happening in about a week :( Don't know how I'm going to deal with it.

missC GL for your NT scan tomorrow and well done on buying a babygrow!! i didnt buy a thing for DD until i was about 26 weeks as i was so frightened of having the 'stuff' and no baby like i did on my first pregnancy (i had the cot and loads of clothes when i MC my first) i cant wait to get to the stage were i feel comfortable buying baby clothes again so i am a little but so happy for you (i dont like to admit that im for some reason im sure we all get like that though...)

re: the new job...i had a meeting today with the HR people to discuss the details and talked more in detail about the job itself and it is entirely different to what i applied for sounds like a totally crappy job and is actually barely more money than what i am currently on so i would have a worse job for the same money! i made the decision on that basis to turn it down as if they have lied about the job description, what else are they not telling me? i dont fancy going into a job im sure i will hate, not trusting the people i work for etc...

Good luck today msC! What time is your scan? X

Thanks Midget and MissC - very helpful to know. Sounds like I have a couple of weeks to wait until I can go to EPU. Why does time go so slowly just after a BFP?!

MissC Good luck for scan today. I have fingers and toes crossed for you. If you don't mind, I'm going to wait until if/when I see a heartbeat before adding myself to the stats thread. Feels a bit early and I am coping by being in denial at the moment. Sadly it means that I'm not so excited about this pg. I wish I could have back the optimism of last time! Oh well, you live and learn...

So I am officially going mad.

I woke up at 4am this morning desperate to pee, this is unusual for me so I took it as a deluded sign to POAS anyway, the faintest half line known to man appeared, a kind of squint at the light and hold it at a certain angle line. Well half line appeared.
So I try again this morning when I wake up and nadda, nothing at all.
The non line from early hours is still on the other test though, so faint that I haven't even bothered to ring DP at work and tell him to come and check for me.

Natch, the sensible thing to do will be to wait a couple days and do it again with FMU, but anyway, this has confused me greatly. Although according to my dates I am 10DPO according to the charts of "normal" ovulation I am only 7DPO.

Good luck for scans today! :)

I have everything crossed for those having scans today. I nearly rang EPU yesterday because of spotting and back ache. Calmed down now. I have learnt although waiting sucks it really is the only option. your posts ring so many bells with me. The not being able to get excited, no Planning. Taking each day but really being petrified. For all these reasons I have no idea why I am allowing myself to think positively. I may have finally lost my marbles (so can I join you nomoremarbles?

tits surely your 4am pee would be the first pee of the day and your second would not so unlikely to show so early?

tits keep your cool

Right then, you are only 7-10DPO therefore it is far too early for an IC, however you have a faint line, albeit a v v v faint line. I agree you should give it a couple of days.

But i have said it before and i shall say it again - i am convinced you are preggers!

MissC massivo fingers crossed for your scan today! i am impressed you bought a babygro, knowing you as i do i think that is a good sign, you really are feeling this one arent you? xx

Well, I could be adding this all up very wrong.

The first day of may last period was the 11th Feb.
I have a clockwork 26 day cycle.
I have this iPhone app thingy that says I should have ovulated on the 23rd Feb.
However, I was getting the one sided crapmyness and EWCM that would suggest ovulation on the 18th, so either I ovulated early, or I didn't, hence the difference is DPOs, I don't know why I testes, I know it's faaaar to early.
I'm not due on till the 8th but something in my sleepy brain declared that it was a must.
For now I shall be a very good lady and wait a few day.

titsI was testing early this cycle and got a couple of BFNs. Give it at least a couple more days and test again.

Well done one buying a babygro missc i am not sure about buying things this time. i bought a cot and some vests last time and they are just stashed away out of sight. i don't feel like i will ever want to buy anything until a baby is actually here - which may not be practical!

midget glad you have found us! i tried looking on a bus thread and it made me very :( i do not fit in with those ladies at all. i need a place where i can worry and moan and everyone will understand. i am hoping that no-one in real life gets pg at the same time as me as i hate all the symptom checking and talking about babies. i know quite a few babies that were due at the same time as my last pgs and it makes things even harder.

my plan at the moment (if everything is ok tomorrow - i will never stop saying things like that!!) is not to tell anyone unless they notice the bump in the future. i certainly will not be telling anyone who i wouldn't ring up to tell bad news to, so random work people/neighbours/casual acquantances can fuck off!

morning

martha you have made me laugh and splutter my tea at my desk at shaking your tits

tits ooooo on your V faint line...i am DYING to POAS but i only have a CB left as i was detremined not to get ICs due to the immense metalling on my last preg... i am getting excited for you...

missC FX for your scan...

my AF-like symptoms seem to have resurfaced again with low abdo cramping and nipples like football studs they are also really sensitive and i winced this AM when cuddling DD...slap me someone...slap me NOW!! AF is due anytime in the next week...if i Oved on CD13 like i think i did AF is late...

Wishing missc luck with scan today

tis that sounds very very promising indeed!

pebs I know what you mean about the buses etc
I keep on looking at the Nov12 thread and everyone is so positive and they are 4/5 weeks pregnant and I just don't think I could take it not would it be fair for me to metal on their thread and panic them.
How is the spotting?
I have had more spotting this morning, darker and more of it when I had a BM (sorry TMI). Nothing since then and no cramps, man its such a head fuck, at least 12 days before anything can be seen on a scan. I know loads of people have spotting/inplantation and all is well but its also how it always starts for me. Good luck for tomorrow!

Morning all (just about),

Big congrats to Jaffa keeping it all crossed for you!!

Welcome to all the newbies - this thread is awesome so I'm sure it will help you as much as it's helped me.

missc good luck with your scan today - fingers crossed for all good news.

I'm feeling hopeful for you ladies in the TWW as we have had a spate (can I use that word here?) of BFP's hopefully this is a trend for the thread!!

As for moving onto other threads I feel exactly like the rest of you - at no point during this pg have I wanted to 'get on a bus'.......they are far too optimistic and sure about everything - I could see myself being chucked off for my metalling ways!!! The only thing I'm worrying about now is being removed from here when my baby arrives......where will I go??? I don't fit in anywhere else!!!

Love to all xxxx