Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the shiny new baby-friendly MOSH PIT.

[MarthasHarbour]

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Jaffa, that's brilliant news, hoorah! And hoorah for you too, crystal!

My temperatures seem to be going down again, so I suspect it was just some kind of hormonal weirdness. Oh well. I am hoping that the MAGIC LUMINOUS WEE VITAMINS will sort me out this month....

Oh, and I drink in moderation when TTC - it took me nearly a year to get pg with DS and I think I'd have gone bonkers completely if I'd had to act as if I was already pregnant as well as all the other stress. I was pretty abstemious at the start, mind, but the month I actually conceived him I was so convinced I was never going to get pregnant anyway I got hammered during the TWW. Whoops. No ill effects, of course, as everyone else has said there's no chance of drinking affecting a pregnancy at that stage anyway. The pregnancy I miscarried was conceived after a lot of wine on holiday... WRT drinking when actually pg, both times I've pretty much gone off the taste of booze during the first few months, and then had the odd glass of wine or beer afterwards.

x-post littlemiss welcome to the mosh pit that is this thread! Congrats on your BFP...how old is your DC1?

i rang the epu again this morning and they have told me not to worry about the stringy bit. they had lot's of nice theories about the brown spotting and said they are not concerned at this point especially as i had it since a week before af would have been due.

will find out on friday i suppose....

pebs keeping all crossed for your scan tomorrow.

HCG has more than doubled at 600 today so we are going in the right direction. Sitll nervous as hell but can't hope for more at this stage really. Scan booked for 14th March.

allchick and joyful I am very sorry you find yourself here, it really is the most wonderfully supportive board.

littlemiss hello

bluecrane I can only imagine how poignant this must be for you, I have trouble remembering what on earth I have done for the past year at the best of times, I actually have to keep a file all year round to help me out for appraisal time!! Best of luck with it

hi to everyone, not with it enough for individual messages, but congrats to all those with BFP!!! That's such great news!

I'm back from hospital, ectopic pregnancy for those who haven't read back through the whole thread. I was 6 wks.

In the end my gut feeling said operation not methotrexate injection, so I was relieved when they said HCG levels were a bit too high for the methotrexate. Apparently I had started to bleed internally and the blob was pretty "ripe", i.e. getting ready to rupture - so I am very pleased I had the op, don't think I had any time to wait for injection to work, esp as with the injection HCG levels tend to rise for 4 days and the chance of rupture increases. Maybe it was part anxiety but I really felt I didn't have much time left, it seems from what the surgeon said that I was right.

I'm totally knackered now, with a sore tummy and a sore throat from the tube but reasonably ok. Had a look at the photos of my op, very interesting, my inside bits looked lovely!!! Saw ovaries, tubes, womb and liver. My right tube looks fine which was a big relief, though the left tube also looked fine (apart from big blob). The surgeon said sometimes they just don't know the reason, it was really close to the womb, just before the tube opens out into the womb, so near and yet so far

I stayed overnight in the end, I was feeling a bit faint. I got about 1 hours sleep, even though I couldn't keep my eyes open and the ward was mostly quiet, I just couldn't shut down and sleep. I'm not sure what's coming next, but I'm going to take it very easy, 2 wks off work. I feel like I've physically, mentally and emotionally I've been in a washing machine, through wash, spin and tumble dry cycle.

Sorry for the essay, just churning it all through my mind.

Tas, so glad you are home safely. Lots of hugs to you x

just trying to catch up but i have noticed that jaffa is pg again!!! omfg that is brilliant news!!! and tiago too - wey hayyyyy

right off to catch up properly - just didnt want that to go unmentioned!

tas I am so sorry and giving you a massive hug, take it easy and be kind to yourself. Do you have a good box set to get into and lose yourself to? Sorry if that sounds insensitive, I found it really helped me to get into someone else's life for a bit. PM me as I have several I would be happy to send you, The killing, Mad men etc

i could only skim the thread as am on lunch at work.

Tas i am glad you are home, hopefully you can get some rest, i am so sorry how it all worked out for you but as you are fully aware we are all here for you.

welcome to all the newbies, it is that there are so many very recent MC's on the thread at the moment. as i say we are all here for support.

I am having a wobbly myself, it is less than two weeks to 'the anniversary of the MC' and i am a wreck. I had to revisit a report i wrote on the day i started bleeding and i had to go to the loo to compose myself, i remember how i felt that i had to get that report done before i go home as i just knew that i would be off for a while.......

sorry to bring the thread down, thanks blue for the

ps - on a lighter note tits i have been convinced that you are PG for ages - since the post where you were on the train home from London

trying to cheer up a bit now

tas glad to hear you are home - take care and rest well! A TV boxed set sounds like a good plan to curl up on the sofa with!

marthas life brings horrible reminders of things past, hope your afternoon perks up

far looks as though the appraisal is on. Just had a long chat with DH which was useful and have filled some of the form in though 2011 does remain rather a blur of 'mere existence' through everything that happened.

Welcome to all the newbies, though very sorry you have gone through your losses in order to join us.

tas so glad you are home safely, hope you are getting plenty of TLC.

crystal For me personally, I'm having an early scan at 8 weeks because my baby measured 8 weeks at the 12 week scan where my MMC was discovered. My overwhelming feeling at the time (well, second to being generally devastated) was that I couldn't believe I had carried a dead baby for 4 weeks and so that is the reason for my early scan. I don't think I will feel super-confident that the 12 week scan will be fine if the 8 week scan is, but at least if it is bad news at 8 weeks, I can do something about it earlier.

I'm not convinced it is a logical thing to do, but it will make me feel like I am doing something about the situation, and not just passively waiting until 12 weeks feeling more and more helpless. It is one of those situations where I feel utterly blessed to be able to have enough disposable income to afford to do something which, let's face it, is not wholly medically necessary.

Thank you ladies for your congratulations. They have cheered me up no end. I think that my DH reaction really floored me this morning, but I suppose he is scared. I am scared this time too, but weirdly not as much as last pregnancy that felt wrong from the start. This feels like I did when I was pg with DD, so bodes better!

Welcome newbies, sucks that you're having to be here but glad you have found a place of support.

tas I am glad you're home safe, look after yourself sweetheart.

Congrats on the bfps that have happened. :)

More from DP this morning, when he noticed I was suffering with my carpal tunnel syndrome again, I do wish he would shut it, I'll only end up getting my hopes up! On CD18 of 26 so still a long wait .. I have a whole bunch of tests waiting if needs be

feeling slightly more human today although so run down, I am spotty and have a slight ear infection in one of my piercings. Ho hum, dp is back early from work today so I shall curl up with him and feel sorry for myself.

Jaffa - my DH is also happy but trying hard not to get excited. He found my MC really hard, as he knew I was miserable and in quite severe pain for a while, and could do nothing. He's very worried that we will end up in the same place again.

I personally feel that this PG is different too. For starters, the lines on the PG tests are strong rather than blink-and-you'll-miss-it cases, and the CB digital I used this morning said 2-3 weeks (which I suspect is not a result that would have been at all possible for my blighted ovum PG). And I feel different ths time - last time it was almost as if I knew something was wrong - I was so worried. I just don't feel so anxious this time (though I am still a bit of course).

In personal 'talisman' points too - the due date is Bonfire Night, which is my favourite night of the year (even above Christmas). Timing wise, if it goes well I will hit 12 weeks just before a visit to my Dad in April (so perfectly timed for telling him).

I will be booking a private early scan if I get to 8 weeks though. Unless i can convince the midwives to get me one.

My afternoon has gone all pear shaped, more work wise than anything else. On the plus side i informed DH that we are having a shagging session this month and to gird his loins from Saturday onwards. He is rather at the prospect!

sorry tas just read that back and my liddle interlude of whingeing sounds all misplaced!!

tiago would you not have been able to get a 2-3 weeks on a cd digi with a blighted ovum? that gives me hope as i have been secretly wondering if my spotting could be blighted ovum. i got a 2-3 then a 3+ the week after so maybe i can't have a blighted ovum.

oh martha, bless you, it's so not misplaced!! I totally understand and have been thinking about how I'll feel at the beginning of June (my due date for the MMC). I was so desperate to be pg for then, I don't know if I can face it now. But I'll def have that cake, cream and hot choc, thanks!!

farfalla that's so kind, box sets are a great idea, we went through MadMen 1 and 2 during the MMC, we're on Season 3 now. I will forever associate Madmen with pregnancy loss, but distraction is often good, otherwise you can get settled in a dark place

Keep sending good news of BFPs and happy scans, it gives me hope!

Ugh, I have an upset tummy in the mix now! Bloody body seems to be nosediving atm.
I have started watching misfits on Netflix so that's keeping me amused if you're after a box set recommendation tas.

pebs I'm not a expert (but am a lawyer so good at disclaiming responsibility ), but I can at least confirm that I had no spotting at all with my blighted ovum PG until a tiny bit at 8 weeks the day before the scan. I don't think that a blighted ovum would be likely to churn out the amounts of pg hormones to cause an increase in the cb digital results. Every time I did a test I only got a very very weak line.

Also by way of reassurance - my friend had spotting (and occasionally more) throughout her pregnancy. She now has a 4 months old - the issue was just that the baby implanted fairly low down.

My only 2 successful pregnancies had spotting all through! The 8 mcs I had nothing at all until the bleeding that ended them. I now have a 5 and a 7 year old :D

i wrote a nice big post earlier on and it seems to have disappeared...

ok so the gist was...

CONGRATS on the loads of BFPs

tas so glad the op went well! without the Methatrexate does that mean you can TTC earlier or would you still have to wait the 3 months? i hope you are ok and not too sore {{{hugs}}}

tits i didnt realise you had had 8MCs me too! (not that thats the kind of club you want to join) i cant remember if you were given a "reason" for yours or not? FWIW i think you should do a test going by all your symptoms

i will pop back later qnd finish my update...DH wants to go for a drive to visit HMS liverpool at liverpool docks...exciting...

Oooooo dear Tas, sorry about your association with Madmen, my nn really doesn't help. . However I'm rewatching series 3 now too!

Noooo don't tempt me! It's too early to tell and it will just be bfn and I'll get all lol.
Nope no reason for reoccurring mc the day I went in for all the tests and to see the consultant I found out I was pg with DS2. I'm going to test on Sunday if I'm showing no af symptoms. I'm currently wagering with DP he says I am, I say I'm not, we are working out what to bet