Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Come on down to the shiny new baby-friendly MOSH PIT.

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There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

May I ask, do any of you drink when ttc?
I have been invited to have a girly evening with one of my besties on Friday, this would normally involve wine and lots of it.
I can try to test before I go but it will still be 6 days till af is due so either way it's not really going to show anything is it?
Do I just go and drink and be merry, or go and make some excuse? She doesn't know we're ttc.

tits i do as if i didnt i would have been teetotal for 4.5 years...i only have a few every now and again (not a big drinker hence when i have a shandy i am pissed as a fart haha) IMO unless you are doing something seriously detrimental to your health (drinking 80% proof or taking hard drugs etc) moderation is the key

tits , I have always taken a compromising view, so might have one glass of wine or one coffee, but that's it, just in case.

I am going to wait until fmu tomorrow and then test with a good test.

tiago [squuuuueeeeeeeeal emoticon]! Does the pregnacare have iron in it? I can't take any iron as even a tiny amount gives me constipation, and I have a recurrent anal fissure which comes back if I get constipated, and the medication for it is not safe in pg. I didn't take the iron following my CS when I lost quite a lot of blood, so great is my poo fear.

tits, now I eat / drink as if pregnant during 2WW, but do WTF I want the rest of my cycle. That's actually pretty daft because with DS I didn't know I was pg until about 6 weeks or maybe a bit more, and was drinking and smoking lots (stopped when I found out). He's fine! I think that until about 6 weeks (or is it 9?) the embryo gets what it needs from the yolk sac, and is only in contact with your blood stream, and therefore what you eat/ drink once the placenta beds in after this. So alcohol and smoking less dangerous than a bout of food poisoning. Not sure if that's correct, but that's my reasoning.

Not sure what's happening here. CBFM flashing "m" for a few days. FF says AF due today but no sign, yet. No PMS signs but no pg signs either. FF says to wait 18 DPO before testing, which would be on DS's birthday next Wednesday.

I don't drink at all tits though sometimes I really want to. But that's because I had managed to convince myself that my one cider is what caused my first MC - which is not a position based in anything resembling reason.

As I understand it though - there's no evidence that moderate adrinking while PG is actually a problem for the baby. It's when people start necking fifteen shots a day that there is an issue. Would you be able to just have a glass or too - or will that stnd out too much?

bonzo I think the Pregnacare does have iron in it I'm afraid. Maybe there is a vitamin poll that is multi vitamin but excludes iron available though? O'd assume that if you can get enough vitamins generally, it does not need to be Pregnacare.

Fmu = BFP! I am pregnant again!

Jaffa hooray!

Sorry to have been so awol, things are all fine here with me and "Poppyseed" (thanks Manda love that name!) I am 13+3 today so just about 2nd trimester I think and the sickness has lessened (although the tiredness hasn't!) I am starting to feel a lot more positive, and I feel a lot better for it.

We started interviewing birth doulas yesterday, its early days I know but they get booked up so early round here and August/September is a nightmare with holidays etc. Really feeling good about it now though - we want a VBAC in water with no continuous monitoring so we will have to fight for it and I think I doula will be very useful. Wish I had thought of it first time around!

Anyway, sorry not to name check - so sorry to hear of bad news for some of you, it is absolutely heartbreaking. Even though I haven't been posting much I have been reading and thinking of you all.

Big congratulations too to the recent BFPs! Welcome to the moshpit!

Yeah jaffa fab news!!

bonzo I think pregnacare does have iron in it, I had to stop taking it as it seemed to make my morning sickness worse and was making me constipated, gave my stash away to a friending the end and haven't taken any bits since I stopped taking the folic acid at 12wks.

taz thinking of you and hope you're doing ok after everything yesterday.

leedy any news at your end this morning...how's the temps? Have you poas? Hope you get some answers soon -all v frustrating for you!

Suddenly sees the time and realises I must dash off for a shower, though my tum is making all sorts of strange gurgling sounds after breakfast so not sure the rushing thing is a good idea...really don't want the queasiness returning!

Tiago and Jaffa...many congratulations. :) :) :)

Yay jaffa that is wonderful news!!

tis I definitely drank whilst TTC, I agree moderation is the key.

I have stopped taking prenatal vits as I am convinced they were giving me cramps. Since stopping them no more cramps, just taking folic acid, do you think this is ok girls?

jaffa massive congrats

tits (I feel a bit rude typing that, what a child I am!) I drank when TTC - in fact I had a big night on the booze three nights before I found out I was pregnant. I found TTC stressful enough as it was, without cutting out anything that lessened that stress. I think it very much depends on your lifestyle though. My social life with my DH, family and friends involves social drinking and I would have very much ostracised myself by not drinking at all, and definitely been unhappier.

In my last pregnancy I drank moderately (a glass of wine or a pint of shandy) but as that didn't go so well I'm drinking nothing for 12 weeks and then I'll see how I feel if I get that far. May I add there was absolutely nothing to suggest that those odd glasses of wine were the cause of the MMC but at least I could rule that out if it ever happened again.

To be honest, I haven't fancied a drink at all this time but I might fancy the odd glass of wine later, who knows?

jaffa!!!! congrats!!!

leedy any news?

all Af symptoms have disappeared now maybe im having another WTF cycle...

Hi all I've been on and off here since I mc New Year's Eve.. Well I got a BFP on Sunday and am trying to pretend it's not real because am majorly panicking! I mc at 6 weeks last time which is still 1 1/2 weeks away yet but am trying to just be really positive! Some people on here mentioned having a private scan at 7 weeks, if I got that far, is there any reason for this, as I thought you weren't moderately safe until 12 weeks? AGGGGHHHH! Sorry panicking!

Hello lovely ladies
May I please join you? I have been lurking and have read all your 1000+ posts from the previous thread and this one.
I MC on the 22nd of Feb at what should have been 8+2 weeks but sadly baby died at 6 weeks.
I was given the medical managaement option so I'm still bleeding.
TMI ALERT - Passed the foetus last week Weds which was the worst experience of my life.
I am desperate to be pregnant again but unfortunately my DH works in another country so we don't see regularly. Won't be seeing him till Easter :-( but looking forward to SWI and DTD and everything related to getting me pregnant.
I have been reading about Vits B and I am willing to take almost anything that will help my eggs. Before the MC, I took Folic Acid, Vit E and Zinc religiously.
I have got those Pregnacare conception tabs but not sure when to begin taking them.
I am really hoping and praying my bleeding would have stopped and my period returned byt he time i see DH in April, God willing.
A big fat CONGRATULATIONS to all who have BFPs and IQ who's almost there and to those waiting, it will happen.
I do pray to get a BFP too as it seems to be contagious on this thread.

jaffa

tiago

crystal

Valentine's Day was successful then yes

Sorry I'm not supposed to be on here I'll be back later, just had to emoti-bomb you.

Sneaking on here from work to say congratulations and sticky wishes for the BFPs. Tas, I hope the surgery goes as well as it can. Hoping that the rash of BFPs is catching for all in the TWW. I would like to stick around here and hope to work out how to make mumsnet look less obvious from my work PC this afternoon as it means I can come back for personals - I work in an open plan office so everyone and his dog can see what I'm doing all the bloody time .

Mmmmm, cake ... am troughing ginger biscuits to try to keep the nausea at bay but ginger cake might work even better

Sorry, I mean I hope the surgery WENT as well as it could, Tas. Good grief, my brain's all over the place! Another scan tomorrow - if it still shows a heartbeat I will have reached 11 weeks. Another week before I'm past the point of my latest miscarriage.

crystal they say once you have seen a heartbeat at any stage the chances of mc fall dramatically. a lot of the mc's up to 12 weeks actually happen in the early days but our bodies don't realise until later on. many people with mmc's at the twelve week scan find the baby measures very small so it happened weeks previously and they didn't know. basically if you see the heartbeat at 7/8 weeks you are in with a very good chance of it working out.

my mc's happened because i got blood clots in my placenta which killed the baby later on so no amount of early scans reassure me. 12 week scan doesn't offer me a 'safe' feeling either :(.

congrats to all the BFPS!! we have had loads this month!

i am still spotting. got a stringy brown bit last night when i wee'd so i am mentalling now. i can barely concentrate at work but i have got things to do so need to get on with them. only two days until the scan. i knwo everything could be ok but i feel like i am planning for everything having gone wrong and needing to go in hospital for an erpc next week. why can't anything be simple??

Hello joyful. Welcome to the thread. I am sorry for your loss and that it is all so recent for you x

crystaltea congratulations! I think a lot of people want to have early scan for reassurance, but there is also some medical significance. According to a pregnancy book I have, by 8 weeks, if a fetal heartbeat is seen on a scan, your risk of miscarriage has fallen to 3%. It drops to 1% at 12 weeks.

I am actually feeling down, which seems ridiculous given my news today. My DH has upset me, he barely mentioned the result this morning, and when I brought it up he just said, I am pleased but we have had too many false hopes for me to excited.

This pregnancy feels like my DD's, not my 2 mc, but it seems I am the only one who feels hope. I rang mw to ask advice about what I can do about my sore throat, and after answering my question she advised me to ring back in a few weeks, and contact gp. I guess I am just exhausted from flu. I have not had a proper night's sleep for over a week.

Hello all, have been reading through all the threads and wanted to post too.
I had a mmc last week....was (or so i thought) 13 weeks so had started to show, tell everyone, wear maternity etc....when I started bleeding :(
After 4 days in and out of hospital it all ended with an erpc on Thurs eve.

Just feel complete despair, I knew I was pregnant (even though was first pregnancy) straight away....even before the test said I was, so just feel so let down by my body that I did not know this time....my baby had died at 7 weeks but I just had NO idea as sac was still growing, its heartbreaking to think that for the majority of my pregnancy when my hubby and I were so happy the baby had died :)

Also feeling a bit low today as was planning on returning to work this morning (work in a tough inner city secondary school) but after a visit to my doc yesterday she ruled that out till Monday.....Im a bit of an emotional wreck still! IS THAT NORMAL?????? Feel like a double failure.

I do take comfort with all the lovely stories of successful pregnancies after mc, my doc also said she will recommend me for an early scan next time. but I am still so scared that it will happen again.....I am so desperate to be pregnant again, I really hope it happens xxxxx

at Jaffa and Crystal. Congrats.

Welcome Joyful and allchik. It is completely normal to be an emotional wreck. You had a baby growing and then it was gone - no one would ever deal with that overnight.

Hello Ladies, can I pleeeease come and sit in here and face the corner for a while.!

I had a mc in late Jan around 6 wks, to my surprise I'm feeling the same old feelings all over again.. did a test yesterday.. pregnant. Really??? apparently not un-common to fall straight after a mc..

I'm currently on maternity leave, returning to work 26th March..nice new role, nursery sorted.. now what do I do!!

DH is a little laid back about it all, not the best of help..guess I just have to sit back and wait - what will be will be.

Hugs to all x

Welcome to joful and allchik so sorry to hear your news...MC is v v tough and it is v normal to feel v emotional and phyiscally all over the place for quite some time afterwards. This thread is an excellent place to be for support...ranting...virtual screaming...oh, and cake...of course, cake!!

allchik I also had an MMC (found at 12wk scan, baby had stopped at 6wks ish) so know that horrible feeling that you feel so let down by your body when you had been feeling all about being pregnant when actually is just wasn't working but your body hadn't caught up yet - it is a very cruel situation. I think your doc was sensible to sign you off until Monday - is there anything you can do to help distract you for the next few days and help with the healing?

Huge congrats to crystal we have had a busy bfp time in the last few days!!

I'm having an odd day...supposed to have my appraisal this afternoon (if my boss doesn't cancel it in favour of another meeting...again!). But the thing is that my last appraisal - last year - was when I first told him I was pregnant and before my MMC...subsequent ERPC and recovery...ttc again and now pregnant again. So I'm trying to fill in my form but have a sort of mental block on all the time that has passed between then and now - it was such a rollercoaster of a year that 2011 is a real blur in my mind and I didn't really get anywhere with any of my targets and feel like a bit of a failure with it all...plus he's being quite useless about dicussions re. my returning to work PT after a year on mat leave and I'm worried that my 'lack of progress' this past year isn't going to help....grrrr...I wasn't even supposed to be here for an appraisal this year...I was supposed to be on mat leave already with my now 3 month old bouncing LO Right...best try and get back to it...