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[MarthasHarbour]

There's cake for scoffing, backs for patting, and screeching death metal for all your METALLING moments. All welcome!

Our last thread reached 1000 posts so i hope you have all found your way here! I have steaming hot chocolate croissants (or as my colleague said 'chocolate pasties'), blueberry muffins, grapefruit segments and hot buttered toast for brekkie!

Settle into the mosh pit, we have special VIP area's for those on the 2WW, the new bumps metalling with segregated areas for the first/second/third trimesters and the club class cocktail bar for those who have just got AF and can get-pissed let loose for the first two weeks!

Oh, thanks pie, that's very helpful. I've also started acupuncture so hopefully that and the B vits will sort it out.

Glad to hear about another happily upduffed, er, mature lady!

(also, my birthday's in August too! Elderly Leos reprezentin', or something)

Hi everyone, thanks for your messages. One more twist - nurse just called and said the methotrexate wasn't in, the order didn't go off until this morning, so it'll be in tomorrow. I am just dumbstruck. If my levels keep on doubling, then by tomorrow, it could be too late for an injection and I'll have to go in for surgery. The nurse hasn't said this, but my tiny brain can work this out. This is like a bad soap opera. I have said I want to come in today anyway and have bloods and rescan done, if it comes to it I will walk over to the other hospital, storm into the pharmacy and inject myself!! I don't even want the &^%$% injection, I want a live baby in the right place.

frozen that's great news!
titsa hope you're feeling better

Oh bloody hell tas that's ridiculous - so you might need to have surgery because they don't actually have the relevant medication in stock???? Really really hope you get sorted, you don't need this kind of shite on top of dealing with an ectopic.

tas that is just unbelievable, surely there must be somewhere that stocks it and why on earth is it not in stock in a hospital anyway?? I would go down in person too if I were you and I am so sorry that this is happening and adding more stress to a stressful situation :(

bonzo so sorry to hear about your DH, I have had a similar situation with DH, not the workaholic bit (but serious work misery) and wanting to just 'relax' and not wanting to even DTD at the right time. It was a total nightmare. I don;t think men really get how all consuming TTC and early pregnancy is. hugs

tas can't believe they are doing this to you... it is bad enough to be messed around about something so heartbreaking but the idea it might be too late to do it without an op tomorrow is just horrifying. Can you ring the nurse back and clarify how high your bloods were ie how near the limit you are likely to be?
If this is a possibility then to be honest I'd be tempted to just turn up and cause a fuss before 5pm when the senior people might go home & demand it is done today even if they have to get some biked over from another hospital. Ask someone senior if they are satisfied with the level of care you have been given.
so sorry this is happening to you

Tas that is shocking! How dare they? Bloody hospitals all seem to be rubbish today, but surgery due to lack of stocks is disgusting. for you I really am.

I have no idea what is up with me, I assume stress, I'm blubbing I feel so ill, all of a sudden it came on, nausea and it feels like my head is in a vice

Tas, can you contact PALS at the hospital? They can go in to fight for you ... appalled to hear this.

Thanks for all your messages - just got back from hospital. The consultant scanned me and said I am a candidate for the surgery or the injection. I can have either tomorrow. She said it doesn't seem as if I'm in danger of rupturing, though the location means that these ectopics usually rupture by 7 wks. I'm around 6 weeks now. They're ringing me with the results of the blood tests tonight and then I'm going in for something tomorrow. I'll have to see what the blood tests. If the levels have gone down, then we can watch and wait; if they've stayed the same or gone up a bit then I can have the injection and if they've gone up a lot then surgery. Although the 'blob' has grown, progesterone levels fell between blood test 1 and 3, so the pregnancy is struggling anyway. I can hardly think straight re pros and cons of each.

Oh tas

Talk about being caught between a rock and a hard place - and really not something anyone can decide for you. Although I would assume injection would be better overall wrt to avoiding a general/surgery would it mean you could be back on the ttc horse quicker, as it were if you did go surgeryt route?

As already mentioned the 'enforced' 3 month break involved with the injection could have many positives too... BUT what would you do wrt to reliable birth control in that period as, as I understand it, to fall pregnant would be pretty much doomed

How is DH holding up?

Reliable birth control would be celibacy!! DH is ok, he's sensitive but tough!

Decision has been taken out of my hands as blood tests today show levels of over 3000. So surgery tomorrow, in a way I'm relieved as the dodgy tube will be gone and they'll see if the other one is dodgy too, then at least I know where I stand. We could afford a couple of cycles of IVF if it came to it. Or I could accept DD is an only child....which would be very hard.

Oh tas :( I hope tomorrow is easy as can be for you and you get the best results possible.

oh tas so sorry you have to have the surgery i really hope it goes well tomorrow and they give you some good news WRT the other tube.

tits how shit of the hospital on one hand the bed may have been needed for another child but OTOH a bit of notice would have been a good thing as you have had to travel all that way with a poorly Ds and now also ill yourself get better soon {{hugs}} for you being 25 too though

IQ YAY for 37+1 looking forward for your update of labour/birth!!

frozen congrats on your scan

manda at the delicious meal...all we can manage is wetherspoons ATM

so i had a call from the job i applied for a few weeks ago. they had emailed last week saying they had an employment freeze so took my job offer back...they have reopened the recruitment and want me to start on monday its better money (£2000 more per year) regular hours (M-F 9-6) and more admin involved compared to more phone work in my job at the mo...i am in shock!! i have to go to a meeting with HR tomorrow for early release from the company (redundancy in april looming) and a meeting with the new company on wed and then i start on monday up to now!!

wow emoticon bombing again...

oh tas love, hope all goes well for you tomorrow.

tits what a complete arse. Wish things could be different for you and your DS

Hurray for marbles, so glad that has worked out for you!

Still ill and have very sore boobs. This is either pmt from hell post mc or I am pregnant....

jaffa have you tested since the MC to make sure you had BFN? have you tested to see if you have caught again? bloody nora they dont call it the WTF cycle for nowt do they!!

Just popping in to say I am thinking of you today tas [gentle hugs]

tas thinking of you today, I am so very sorry.

marbles fantastic news about the job!!!

Oh tas I'm so sorry. I hope all goes well today and that they can tell you that the other tube is fine.

Marbles - congratulations that is excellent news.

Does anyone out there want to talk to me sternly about the fact that I am unlikely to be PG? Please. I have sore boobs (very) - although this could be in no small part due to the poking. AF is also late (I'm on day 28 of what is usually a 26 day cycle). I am deffo mentalling and I can't test today because I stayed over at work last night because I had lots to do the partners took us all out for a curry and I missed the last train home

I was wrong. Its day 29.

Ooooh tiago that sounds very very postive, can you nip out to Boots?

tiago why would it be unlikely for you to be pg? have you been swi this cycle? af is late - get a test!

A late period is a late period, can you not nip to a chemist and get a test under the grounds of feeling a bit off colour and needing some air? Plus, I can wait here and be entertained by your news :D

I am already symptom spotting like a beast! 9I say me, I mean DP)

I think I ovulated a few days early this month, judging by the ewcm (sorry tmi) and crampy abdo.
So it would only be 10dpo but, DP rather unhelpfully mentioned that I have done nothing but vomit, sleep and swing from crying to anger the past couple days, also he hugged me this morning and I flinched because my boobs were hurting, combined with the vice like headache for several days, he is determined.

I did point out to him that I have been under stress and these are all af symptoms too and it would be to early to be getting symptoms.
He came back with, "But you never get signs of af until 2 days before and even then it's only mild mood swings and slight cramps, and last time you were like this for a week before you finally tested"

Bless him, he is sooo keen on being a dad that he is worse than I am! Symptom spotting me like a crazy man.

sigh I hate the 2ww.

Well I would hate to withhold entertainment. If AF hasn't visited by lunchtime I will extricate myself from my very boring absoutely fascinating document review and find the nearest chemist.

SWI has been done this cycle, so it is possible, it's just so disappointing every time I get my hopes up that I try not to get excited now... DH's considered opinon is that my cycle has just gone crazy - I think that he is trying to stop me getting excited too.

Are you showing any signs of AF, do you usually?