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Hi all

Long time no posting. Just realised I'd not popped in this year so wanted to wish all of you the very best for 2012.

I've caught up with most of the thread, really sorry to hear some of you have been having such a rough time of it. We're all brooking for you on the PSEPP thread and hoping to see more of you over there asap.

I'd pick up my pom poms and do a routine for you but I've got a few aches and pains at the moment. Who knew you could get varicose veins in your fanjo?

Good old DH Pops, that's great news that he is doing his bit for the TTC cause In answer to your question I've found getting over night shifts much harder since having DS - I never get a lie in to catch up while he's around! I try and only do 2 in a row these days as it's easier to get back into a normal routine. I used to do 7 in a row - think it would kill me now! (and not be very conducive to successful rat smacketing )

Smegs so sorry about AF - it sucks! Your DH sounds a real sweetheart though, getting is lovely. Hope Dr W is helpful.

Am very impressed with your Wii fit session Stasi, mine is like some kind of dusty ornament underneath the TV

Maybe I can't believe you have still been cooking up a storm despite being poorly! Slow roasted tomato sauce sounds delish

I shall have a look round for your AF Froot, and when I find her I shall tell her that this will be her last visit for a least 9 months

And cakes I second that HSG = BFP coming your way!

Waves at scarlet Looking forward to joining you ladies soon [hopeful]

Well Ikea was not a massively successful trip - I still have unresolved storage ishoo's! But at least I have a belly full of meatballs My abdo cramps have ramped up a gear too so I am fairly certain that AF will be visiting soon the biaatch

Smegs that's not I still don't get that emoticon!

Evening all brookers and smackerets

Olives IKEA meatball = lucky you

Stasi I am not sure temping long term is going to be for me. I fell asleep this morning and fangometer had turned itself off when alarm went off again. Doh!!

Pop at DH timetable and now your calendar is now the same. DH seems so luffly giving up the booze, I have hinted at this with my DH but it falls on deaf ears he only hears what he wants to

Smegs so sorry to hear AF has arrived after such a short LP . Very nice of your DH to send you flowers, I really hope this has cheered you up. Fx Dr W works some magic for you smaclers

Far hope you are ok and it helped this weekend having chance to clear the air and SFF. It is all so frustrating for you - fx my lovely.

Froot I share your frustration, when starting our TTC journey and AF was a no show for over 3 months!!! Much POAS took place, all BFN.

Maybe are you nesting my dear? You should be resting, getting your feet up and reading your cake book ? FACT

Weekend baby sitting went really well, kids were both in bed before 8pm (after asking to go to bed) and didn't get up until 7.20am. My brother was when he came to collect them, apparently it is 6am at home!!!

Sweetie you are obviously a natural I am a nester, think that's why DH married me!

Olives sorry Ikea wasn't successful, but it must be worth it for the meatballs!

Scarlet so so lovely to hear from you. I have been stalking following you all over on the PSEPP thread. So sorry you are having a rough time of at the moment. Another one of those things that they don't tell you about when you are TTC

Meant to say earlier I'm really glad you had a nice weekend with DH far with some no pressure SFF. I really hope that things are on the up again

Good work on the baby sitting Sweetie,anything past 7am is officially classed as a lay in in the Olives house, you are indeed a natural

Ah thanks Maybe. I wouldn't say I'm having a rough time, I'm not complaining at all, not when it's taken so much to get here. But yes you're right, there are definitely some aspects of being updiffed that people don't warn you about!

Morning

Lovely to see you here scarlet, am I remembering correctly that you've got SPD and now stopped working? If so, I hope the enforced rest makes everything much easier for you.

sweeetie very impressed by the babysitting, though I'm not sure I've ever hearqd of children asking to go to bed before

far glad you had a good weekend, hopefully a few months of no stressing might do the trick with DH. Mine was a bit like that a while ago, saying he couldn't cope with the sex on demand and that we should just do it when we felt like it, but he has now come around to the idea that he has to do his bit and is generally OK with it. There's still the odd occasion when he wants to but can't manage it, but its mainly working OK. I hope your DH can get to the same place mentally :)

Out of time, will catch up more later

Hello all and visitors like Scarlet - good to see some happier campers here today. I'm afraid I can't say the same for myself.

Sorry to rant again but after a stressful weekend and an ultimatum from DP re' TTC (end of the summer = end of TTC in his view), the GP phoned DP yesterdat and said his test results are all fine, positive etc - and the GP needs to speak to the 'wife' (we are not married).

Am quite outraged - just how crap can they make us feel? DP is so weary of me - all my TTC efforts just seem like an obsession to him. I'm sure you are all familiar with this dynamic!

However, the booze is not being drunk in Bean Towers. Maybe this will tip the balance. Who knows? I've tried pretty much everything else...

Now have to write a sh1tty letter of complaint to the GP's practice. We are booked in to see a "much nicer" GP next week. Gah.

Sorry - not a very chatty post. Wishing you all the best for a good week. Sorry about AF btw Smegs - you are having a tough time with the witch but your DH sounds tops.

Lotsalufff to you lot and keep up the smacketting.

xxx

Hang on Bean I am so confused..... I thought there were motility issues with DP's sperm? (I could have completely made this up though) But either way, how dare his GP say that to him? I think we are all familiar with that dynamic though. Good for you on the booze front. An ultimatum is not really on either. A joint decision has to be made whether or not to stop TTC. Maybe it is all just getting a bit too much for DP at the moment (how many of us have been there?!) and he will calm down and come around to the idea again. I think you need a visit to Smegs' Dr W, that'll sort you out

Smegs how are you feeling today? Pictures all ok?

Scarlet, sorry if I made it sound like you were complaining, I know you aren't at all. It just sounds mighty painful does that SPD. It must be so tough when you just can't get comfy.

Hello to all other smackateers. All for one and one for all and all that

Thanks Beedle, it's scream who's been signed off work with SPD, thankfully I haven't got that.

Sorry to hear you're having a crap time bean. You'd think someone in a GP's position would have the common sense to check whether you are married or not rather than make an assumption. I hope things at home improve soon.

Sorry Scarlet cross posts, I too was confusing you with Scream sorry too premature to blame this on baby brain? When is your EDD? There's going to be a whole army of brooking babies

It sounds like you had a lovely weekend far and I think you both needed it :)
I think you've reached a point where getting upset with him will have the opposite effect to the one desired; I think he's right that both you need to take the pressure off over the next few months. Imho a semi-regular mid-week shag is a reasonable compromise?

Oooo olives I love the IKEA restaurant. I wish I lived closer to one!

Sweetie you can get thermometers that remember your last temperature, so when you turn it back on it will be displayed? Very impressed by your mad child-wrangling skillz :o

Oh bean I'm so sorry DH isn't playing ball. But it is a good sign that his swimmers are fine, and the end of the Summer is a long, long way away yet. And if nothing happens before then (as if!) you could just continue to SFF without contraception....
In the meantime, you were considering trying clomid weren't you? So there are some pro-active things you can try with DH's blessing (as it were)

DH has been struck down with a sick bug! I am 8DPO and have a really high basal temperature (37.33c), so I think I will be coming down with it imminently :(

Pop hope you aren't getting sick. Could it be the infamous triphasic chart thingamabob that I hear so much about. Slightly off topic, but thingamabob is an actual word. It hasn't come up with the red dotted line on my lap top! Everyday is a school day with Maybe

No no no - this is the point. On Thursday last week the GP told me that DP's swimmers have motility issues (disclosing another patient's test results - legal?!) Then on Friday DP rang to make apptmt with that GP and was told GP had to ring him with results - no appointment given. Crap enough. Monday GP rings DP who was in a business meeting but GP refused to ring back later. Told DP that his swimmers were fine, "all positive" and that the GP needs to speak to me (whom he called DP's wife). The fact that I'd been given different results had caused a lot of unhappiness in our household over w'e - huge discussions etc and an ultimatum from DP and a reminder that he's not v motivated to have DC2.

Either way I feel that DP's drinking is halving our chances of a BFP (these are the stats re' booze btw for ANYONE in a couple trying to conceive).

DP has kicked booze in the head (and he's v grumpy about that and made it clear that he won't do it in public - obviously afraid people will ask why etc). Next week we are going to see a good GP, so yes in a way there's been progress but it all feels horrible and no sort of victory.

Pop - DP would tell you that he needs me to de-stress. True enough. But the GP is hardly helping. And I'm really sorry there's a bug in your house. BOOOO.

Sorry - I know it doesn't sound like a big deal but I feel desperate/desolate/no way forward other than accepting that we are only meant to have one DC and to count our blessings. Will shut up now and read back through all your news.

Just tentatively popping my head back in here after a long time away. For those who don't know me (or have forgotten me - I won't be offended, I promise! ;-), I made it to the antenatal thread then was told at our 12 week scan that the baby had problems. Sadly she died at 18 weeks just before Christmas. Recovery has been slow so not getting straight back into full TTC, but just beginning to think about it now so thought I'd meander back into the fold.

I see some names I recognise so hope you get to head across to the antenatal thread soon. I'm particularly glad to see maybe around and to know there is no maybe about it now! How is the research going? After doing my viva in the middle of all this, I have my graduation next month!

Hello to everyone else! This thread has an amazing success rate so hope we all get our BFPs soon.

Oh bean what a shame. GP sounds both tactless and not very efficeint. I hope you get a chance to see someone more sympathetic and helpful. I think your partner must be worried about you to suggest stopping trying for a bit. Perhaps he thinks the stress is affecting you and he's trying to ease things up for you a bit? (Apologies if I'm reading the situation incorrectly - I'm very bad at other people's relationships). Even so, the summer is a long way off (especially if you angle for the end of summer).

Hope you're okay pop and maybe did your work from home day help?

Hello far nice to see you. And everyone else.

Stasi - I don't even throw away scraps of fabric bigger than a postage stamp. It'll all go to school / friends unless I sew things out of it first. Have no fear.

Have a good day everyone. The croissant seminar was today, god was it boring, but I swiped the second tray of buns for our office, if any of you are passing.

Oh Bartlat my love, it's so so good to hear from you. I was so so sorry to read about your little girl. You take all the time you need to recover, but we are here brooking for you. This year will most definitely be your year. Well done on your viva. My research is, well, going I suppose Bet you can't wait to don that rather fetching hat can you

Whim I am at home again today, started burning up last night. I fear it may be a bit of flu, as my back and neck are so sore, and my legs feel like lead. Knitting is keeping me going. And am off to look at an allotment plot later! So bloomin excited about this!

Bean what on earth is going on there? Do you know which results are the correct ones? It is such a mind f**k! I would be fuming too, but I find that with some GPs, they will never, ever admit they are in the wrong (like the GP that prescribed my bro penicillin as a child, when he was allergic to it. They ended up striking us off their books cos we complained). I hope you get some proper answers. Your DP can not blame you for being worked up over this, I would feel the same after being given two completely contradicting results

Ahhh I seeee, bean that really is appalling. I'd also be asking for clarification over DHs results ? which is it?? It's sort of important
Don't apologise - this is what we're all here for; think of us as your smacketeers rant-buddies :o

You're right maybe I don't get a red squiggle in Word for thingamabob either! I shall have to remember that for scrabble :o

Hi Bartlett ! Of course we've not forgotten you :) I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, but welcome back

Well done on swiping the croissants, whims

bean that was totally out of order what the GP did, I doubt they should even have told you. I couldn't even find out at my practice if the results had come back never mind what they were. Apart from the ok they told my dh on the phone, the first I really knew of them was when I saw consultant and then it was because info had been linked to me for purposes of the appt. Perhaps because of way it happened your partner feels tricked even tho on your part it wasn't intentional. Hopefully it will 'all come out in the wash' and get straigtened out.

Hi to everyone else

Hi all

Bartlet - we are all so gutted for you and what a sad time for you and all your family. I hope you get time for grief and that a BFP is not too far away for you. Poor little girl to have such a short life.

Maybe - what a rotter. Hottie and drugs for you.

Thanks in general for letting me rant everyone. Cakes - sounds equally as bad at your practice. This GP is basically a twat. But I've leave it behind and move on to the new one who is supposed to be much more sympathetic.

We were both phoned individually by a neutral GP with both of our test results but no explanation y'day. Of course DP didn't make a note or anything. But it doesn't matter - we'll get clarification on Monday. I just need GP to talk us through how to optimise our chances (thus making it clear to DP that the booze factor is relevant and not just me obsessing).

Whim - croissant queen - yes he's a bit worried about me but not enough up until now to try harder himself. He said we were missing out on things because of TTC but when I asked him to explain he couldn't think of any examples. I don't like me much at the moment either, but I can't shake the feeling there must be something in the way of conceiving after DS was so quick 2.8 years ago. I haven't had a chemical - nothing - which makes me think that sperm isn't meeting egg... And all my tests show ov and a good number of eggs etc. So wtf is going on?!

I know - there's no answers for anyone. And it's a scary path ahead for all of us.

April's HSG will help. Then a few more months of hopefully no booze and acupuncture and then I do essentially agree with DP, we just put aside our efforts/hopes and move on. He is willing to consider fostering/adoption so that's there to remind me that there are ways and means.

Sweetie - you're a winner.

Smegs - how you doing? And everyone I've missed - sorry, but brooking for the BFP tsunami that's coming our way!

x

Hi bartlet. I don't think we 'met' before. I hope you're ok. You sound very stoical, at what must be such a difficult time. I'm another PhDer - had my viva in Nov, so am (subject to amendments) now Dr Whim. Well done you for getting it all done.

Good to see you sounding a bit more positive bean. Your ability to put your GP behind you, as it were, and move on should be an inspiration to all us impatient rat smackers.

Afternoon everyone. I am very, very tired today, so am going to write a short post from memory, rather than one of my epic posts :)

News from me first - not much, apart from a very nasty UTI. I was fine yesterday afternoon, then when I got home from work started peeing very blood stained wee, with a few clots. A night of intense pain and feeling like I needed a wee (but couldn't go), and an emergency doctors appointment this morning for some antibiotics. It wasn't really an emergency, but I wanted it sorted!

Far glad you had a good weekend away and managed to talk to your DH. It's a shame he's still so stressed about things, but I think the compromise seems like a good one. If a bit frustrating for you. I hope it works out for you though, there shouldn't be any reason at all that you can't get pg from weekend SFF and one mid week SFF.

Bartlett I was very sorry to hear your news, it's good to hear from you. We'll all be here ready and waiting as soon as you decide to come back and join us. I've saved you a spot on the sofa by the fire.

Bean I can't believe that GP. I hope you get things sorted soon and some proper answers. The end of the summer is a long time away, and things can change.

Got to go now as I have a counselling appointment. Catch up more later.