Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling or settle yourself down in our padded cell. All welcome! (Part 19)

[Poppyjen]

Another new thread for some more serious metalling - we really are a chatty lot!

Here's to making it through the WTF cycle(s), metalling* like a teenager from the early '90s in the 2WW, BFP colds and other classic symptom spotting and hiding in the (nice and comfy) padded cell post BFP

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us!

• For those currently wondering what our mosh pit antics have to do with ttc post MC, a fabulous typo in an earlier thread resulted in "mentalling" becoming known as "Metalling" - a far more fitting expression I am sure you will agree!

Welcome!

YESSSSS! That's the spirit my girl! And you have your mini break to look forward to too!

I had have 50.... Plus a couple of posh ones.

As you were

I have to ask newtonupontheheath & bugs...when you buy 50, do they come in a huge pack? Or do they come individually packed like the ones in the pharmacy and therefore you receive a humongous package on the post?

I think I'm going to wait until the 31s for my first piss. For some reason, I think about my mc on the 1st of December as my last 'period' so I 'might have ovulated' around the 14-15th so the 'missed period' would be due on the 28th-30th. Can someone please confirm my suspicion that I'm talking shite?

This won't be a long one as I am currently drained and exhausted.
Grandad has had the medication stopped as he was not responding so we are basically just waiting. He is pretty zonked out, and they are medicating this, but we are still going every day as it wouldn't feel right not to. (We is me, DH, my mum and my grandma.) Its all quite grim.

On a slightly more chipper note, I am starting to look VERY round about the middle! This pg is keeping my spirits up at the moment so the more of it I feel the better! I am not eating brilliantly (still no kitchen, plus not got much of an appetite with everything else going on) so it may be 80% chocolate / bread / crisps but hopefully it's a little something else too!

Right, am off to bed as too brain dead to type much more. Sorry to hear you also have grandad woes IQ and hope your grandad story has a happier ending than mine

C'est la vie, eh!

maja15 I bought from homehealth-uk.com (was linked to on here) I haven't learnt how to link from my phone yet,sorry! 50 for £7 odd pounds. Unfortunately, I discovered this the day after I bought 2 for. £1 at the pound shop and buy one get one half price posh ones (poss first response) at boots. I could open a shop, I've that many. Still haven't decided when I'll test but my thinking is similar to yours re dates and ovulation (I'm not saying its right, as I have no real knowledge of all this!) So around 21/22 December going by my strange logic. Then I can kid myself that I've tested too early til AF arrives. or if I actually get a BFP!!

Sorry Babysaurus x-post as that took me do long. Sorry to hear about your grandad. It's not nice, especially at this time of year.

mseltoe I totally agree that 2 2nd trimester losses is unlikely to be bad luck (but it could be). Where in the country are you? If you are in London can you ask to be referred to St Mary's? They really are very good at this sort of this sort of thing and the consultant there said he thinks any loss after 10 weeks is unusual (i.e. the baby is measuring 10 weeks as opposed to measuring 6 and losing it at 10). We are all here for you and sadly manda is right, we have to be our own advocates in these situations as there is still so much disagreement about causes/treaments etc

bauble I am glad work was nice but I can only imagine how hard it must have been for you, and you maya with the scan dates approaching etc.
I really hope you are successful this month but a word of warning - I pinned all my hopes on getting pregnant straight away after MC as so many people tell you you are fertile etc etc I was utterly devastated when it did not happen first month, I cried like I did when I MCed and it was totally overwhelming. I slightly wish I had been a bit gentler with myself!

baby I am so very sorry to hear about your grandpa, that must be so hard but wonderful that you have your rounding tummy to focus on!!

SWI has started in earnest in the farfalla household. Actually, DH initiated it in the kitchen and it felt a lot more like SFF than SWI which was lovely.
We are out for 2 nights so unlikely to DTD again until Thurs so I am hoping my egglet hangs on until then. Hello to all cycle buddies and hope your SWI has started in earnest!!

baby so sorry about your grandad, we have had that with a couple of family members and it is just so sending you the love xx

er and manda i just checked out your pics and how can you be such a 'stunna' with 3 kiddies eh? eh? look at that slim bikini lady at 6 weeks pg! aaaaalso i got all my hair cut short in the summer and am so missing my golden locks and then i look at your lovely flowing gingerness auburn loveliness and i get sooo on a final note i am sat at my desk fanning myself at the pic of your DH in a cowboy suit i may need to use that as my screensaver

So DH and i BD'd last night despite my stinking cold, we did it because i got that pain in my ovaries which usually denotes OV (have always had it since i was about 16 - i remember my mum saying at the time that i would find 'the pain' useful one day - i didnt know what she meant until now!) anyway so that is CD11 and CD12 taken care of, i might just get DH to make it a hat trick tonight then give him a rest until boxing day when we get our sordid hotel for the night then all set to test circa 4/5 Jan. Because I WILL get PG in 2012 and the sooner the better

erhem can i just refer back in my notes to mseltoes recent comment ere:

We're still pretty active in the bedroom department, we always have been really, but we've only been together for ten years, maybe we'll calm down one day. It's nice I suppose not to feel under pressure, and it's one reason I don't feel the need to obsess over TTC, we're always going to catch the egg with very rare exceptions, we're generally together at least once a day and often more

sweet holy moly baby jesus and the mary and joseph woman are you two at it twice a day after ten years?? ONLY ten years????? DH and i have been together 7 years and he is lucky if he gets it twice a month week!

mseltoe, I have re-read my post, and I am very sorry if I implied that your situation was down to bad luck. Of course that is very unlikely with 2 2ndtri losses. It wasn't what I meant - only that that was was I had been wondering with my loss.

It turned out to be the case, all my results were clear, which was comforting in one way, and jsut horrible in another because there is nothing to be done differently next time that they know about. Far very interested in your consultant, mine was very fobby-offy about it. :(

baby sorry about your grandad. Wishing you strength.

at martha I'm only young in MN world, I always assume many to be older and have longer relationships than mine As for the rest, what can I do, he's hawt Definitely eliminates the need for all the egg maps and shagging charts though

baby - I'm sorry about your Grandad. I hope you all find peace.

Jaffa - no worries, it was a very useful post. I think I'm just going to wait until New Year now, I don't actually want to have an appointment hanging over my head during the festivities and I won't get it before then will I. So best not to. Far no not in London, though I am in a big city.

CD10 today and some rather interesting SWI last night, more tonight I'll wager and wait until I get the Mrs Claus outfit out on Christmas Eve

MsEltoe if you want to see another 'hot hubby' check out Manda's profile!

Am laughing at martha's post about manda's DP! One hot cowboy

And am also gobsmacked too as mseltoe's twice a day comment! HOLY FREEKING MACKREL! Yo go girl! Puts us all to shame! Hee Hee. Even when TTC we didn't do it twice a day!

martha I also cut off my long hair this year (it's thin and spindly anyway so no great loss) but the hair dying has become something of a necessity nowadays as the grey seems to be taking over!

baby so sorry to hear about your grandad :(x your bump is sounding lovely!

Bugger! Right in the middle of my name checking, have to go out for lunch! xx

Cor manda your DH looks gorgeous and so are you

we seem to have a Manda and MandasDH love-in today!

Baby so sad to hear your news - it is a horrible situation, having been through this with DH's grandad, I am sending you hugs and love from here. As you said you must try to hold on to the joy of the bump it will help you in the coming weeks. My Gramps has been told he has to have heart surgery which at 89 is not exactly great but at the moment he is up and flirting with the nurses so I'm hoping he will keep on fighting to get through this.

mseltoe I damn well bow down to you - DH and I have been together 7 years and i wish i could get him twice a day. We are down to a couple of times a week which i find disappointing but my current size and shape make it difficult to seduce him without prior planning. You are in fact my hero though.....!!!!

martha i wouldnt say flawless skin but definitely not saggy or wrinkly, my mother doesnt have any wrinkles at 56 so im hoping this is a sign of things to come. On the other hand my sister found my first grey hair last week - thankfully i think i would look good as a silvery type and so was quite chuffed!!! As for the ginger, mixed race freckle baby - i'm hoping she looks like Jade (2011 winner of Britain and Irelands Next Top Model(......i realise i am reaching a little here but by god i want a ginger baby!!!! DSis was on form as per usual last night, i said that i think i might need her there when i go into labour to encourage me before we go to the hospital. She said fine as long as i wasn't going to sit there wailing for hours, she made it clear that she was prepared to use force if necessary to shut me up and had no issues with hitting a pg woman.......wasn't really sure how to react!!!

For all the ladies POAS i bought these from ebay but it's the same company. They come as individual little strips, almost like a litmus test and they are individually packed in their own foil type container. They bundle them up and they come as one order - i think i got 25 and they managed to get that through my letter box. Not sure what 50 will be like. A word of advise - go and buy a pack of disposable cups from poundland/99p shop so that you can have a fresh container to pee in each time and the cup and the test can be put in the bin together once used!!! I realise i may be teaching you to 'suck eggs' here but it took me a while before i went down this route.

Ok all this talk about Manda and her DH I had to go in a look for myself>>>> the gorgeous gene clearly runs in your family - I want to say im not jealous but to be honest that would just be a big fat lie!!!!

Big wave to everyone - must get back to work looking busy. Love to you all!! xxxx

Indeed Manda and family are very beautiful.

I'm not outing myself with pictures of us though. You'll just have to believe me when I tell you we're all bloody stunning

baby Sorry about your grandad, I swear these things always seem to happent this time of the year... my husband nan's passed away very recently (coinciding with my mc) and it was horrible. Good luck!

farfallarocks & bugs re: hoping to get preg straight after mc. I am in a pretty bad way but my DH is even worse. He told me last night he can't imagine being happy again until we have a baba. That he feels like life is meaningless. It's a bit weird when only 4 months ago he was quite happy to wait whatever it took for me to get preg. In fact, he was quite apprehensive about how a baby would change our lives. Now I just don't know what to say to confort him.

FFS you lot! I really hope DF doesn't have one of his reads over my shoulder (or infact a little spy on me) because his head will swell to epic proportions! Ah, well, merry christmas DF - my gift to you (should you see it; I'm not pointing it out!) is these crazy wimmen talking about your hawtness!

maja So sorry you're both struggling. It does get better (and sometimes worse, if I'm honest) but it's great that DH is opening up to you - even though what he's saying is heartbreaking. Don't see it as your job to comfort him, as such. You're in this together, remember? But keep talking. The comfort can come from that - not bottling thoughts and fears up. Men in particular struggle for someone to admit 'emotional' stuff to. We can forget that, being that we're the ones at the 'centre' of what has happened. I think you're both doing so well to lean on each other even though it feels like you're falling apart. Much strength to you (both).

baby I'm so sorry about Grandad. I lost my dearly loved Nan when pregnant with DS1. The whole 'circle of life' thing seemed all to horribly real at that point. Hormones exacerbated my despair that she wouldn't know DS1 (the first boy in that side of the family for over 30 years). But, yes, in the end 'the circle', the new life was a comfort. I hope you find the same with your precious load.

MsEl You two are positively rampant! Hurrah! We generally manage most days (been a little less lately with so much sickness and then illness) but have only been together a little over three years.I think 'official' advice is once a day over the Ov period (unless there are issues on his side, then it's less, I believe) so there's a chance for the number of swimmers in each, um, emission to build up to good numbers.

Out for lunch, pie Where'd you go, what you have? I'm still kinda lacking an appetite and one day someone describing what they're eating might set me off? Like those prawn satay touted on here all those moons ago! I still want them!

martha I am properly auburn, thankyouverymuch! Hair looks dark unless it's got sun/lots of light and then you can see the ginger red I'm thinking your boxing day sexathon love in is something to be properly jealous of. Not like some bloke that dresses up as a cowboy!

manda hell yeah!