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Just MC and ready to try again? Pregnant after MC and seeking somewhere safe to hide? Jump in the mosh pit for some serious metalling or settle yourself down in our padded cell. All welcome! (Part 19)

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Poppyjen · 08/12/2011 23:03

Another new thread for some more serious metalling - we really are a chatty lot!

Here's to making it through the WTF cycle(s), metalling* like a teenager from the early '90s in the 2WW, BFP colds and other classic symptom spotting and hiding in the (nice and comfy) padded cell post BFP Grin

If you have miscarried and are ready to TTC again, come and join us!

  • For those currently wondering what our mosh pit antics have to do with ttc post MC, a fabulous typo in an earlier thread resulted in "mentalling" becoming known as "Metalling" - a far more fitting expression I am sure you will agree!

Welcome!

OP posts:
MarthasHarbour · 17/01/2012 10:41

and you are NOT a failure no way x

BlueCrane · 17/01/2012 11:10

Morning all

marbles thank you so much for the pancakes but so so Sad to hear your news...TTC can be such a punishing process for our poor emotions! Sounds as though it may still be worth giving the consultant (who I think you were about to go and see!?) a ring to register what has happened. Thinking of you!

manda and marthas there has been some lusty in the blue residence this weekend as DH and I had a much more 'successful' time on Sunday morning than recently...blue-bump has been rather getting in the way but we seemed to be able to get to it, so to speak, which was great Wink Grin Glad to hear all's well in the harbour household too!!

Just a little note for those who've been around this thread a while and may remember my friend at work who MC'd in November? Just had a clandestine chat with her in the canteen queue and asked a general 'how are you?' and got this 'knowing look' and a smile, I said ooh...am I to infer 'good news' from the look and she nodded...turns out she's now 7 weeks, so in full metal mode as that's when she MC'd last time...but said she's feeling v sick and v tired so that's a good sign Smile

My brain is still not fully with it and I do still feel pretty wiped so am not going to attempt a full catch up, but will try and return a bit later to do it then after I've gone through and made notes so that I don't miss anyone or get anyone confused

NoMoreMarbles · 17/01/2012 11:35

I'm driving myself mad!! I went to the loo (still spotting) and decided to look at the test from this morning and it's actually not a proper BFN as there's still a line thereHmm obv things don't look too good etc but... This has never happened like this... Spotting usually quickly progresses to complete meltdown in my pantsBlush I need to step back and forget its ME I'm on about...what would I say if it's someone elseConfused

I need chocolate and a massive brandy [cuppa]

NoMoreMarbles · 17/01/2012 11:36
Brew
BlueCrane · 17/01/2012 11:45

Pops back in to hand marbles a large Brew laced with a little brandy and gently leads her to the padded mosh pit where it's safe to metal away!! Really hope you get some clear answers soon...and hopefully good ones too!!

leedy · 17/01/2012 11:51

Oh, marbles that sounds very frustrating/confusing. also passes the virtual brownies

Am now on my Actual First Month Of Trying and am needless to say convinced that I am OBVIOUSLY never going to ovulate again as am on day 12 and not much EWCM.

Still, this morning's, er, attempt to take advantage of the time of the month was a good start to the day...

queenrollo · 17/01/2012 12:00

Can I join you? I've been hiding out in the Hut over in infertility for a while.

Two years after commencing TTC i finally got a confirmed BFP - on the day of my pre-op for lap and dye (left tube blocked and hydrosalpinx). 5 days later I started to m/c
It's obvious to me now that this has happened twice before, but I had no BFP and thought I was just having a long cycle.
My Consultant is an arse and doesn't listen to me so I'm just waiting for a letter to arrive/go to my GP as I've now been removed from the surgery list. Cons said he'll see me again in 3 months if he doesn't hear from me (to tell him I am PG Hmm) I'm asking for referral elsewhere.

InsomniaQueen · 17/01/2012 12:06

A quick update from here ? I had my 31 week check and the baby is measuring at the right size which is good. Had a panic because the Dr couldn?t find the HB which you can imagine I didn?t take very well - I was panicking like mad and then she moved it to the other side and found it faintly ? im still a bit Hmm about things at the moment because the baby hasn?t been moving in the same pattern over the past two days but she has been moving and I have definitely had 10 movements in the 24 hours that I should have done. I?m thinking of calling the MW as it?s freaking me out a little to be honest!!! The other issue is that I have had glucose in my urine twice in 2 weeks and now they are getting worried about gestational diabetes????.between the SPD/PGP, sciatica, back pain, Braxton hicks and hernia pain I am pretty much falling apart ? anyone got some duct tape I can borrow to patch myself up for the next few weeks!!!

Now for a long catch up with you ladies:

JaffaSnaffle so pleased to see your making progress with the ?feckers??..i know it?s only a little bit of a relief but hopefully this will just continue like this for you now. I wanted to post something on your due date but haven?t been feeling well, I am sending you my hugs and thoughts and hope that the planting of the snowdrop will help you feel like he has been remembered. Also hoping your little one is ok after her fall, I cant imagine what it must have been like for you. Worrying about the bump is hard enough ? I think when she is here I?m going to be a basket case!!!!

MandaHugNKiss sorry to hear that your tribe have come down withy the lurgy ? I felt really pukey on Friday and had to get the sick bowl out of the cupboard again. DH asked me what was wrong and I said ?I think I have the german bug? he looked at me like Hmm ? sometimes I totally forget that DH isn?t on MN and doesn?t know all the stuff that goes on??to be honest I think it?s probably best that he doesn?t know. Grin I read your post to misscoffee and the first thing I thought to myself was ?why isn?t Manda a life coach for women TTC?? I can see it?s a niche market but I honestly think that you could be epic at it. You always have great advise and you have been through so much I think that you could really offer something special to the women out there who are just like all of us on this thread. Not thought about it ? well think about it missy. (currently channelling Martha ad her bossy ways Grin)

misscoffee there isn?t really anything that I can say to help massively so I will just send you my hugs and positive thoughts that this time things are going to come out well for you. Also fully sympathise with you on the hips falling apart thing ? cant get any sleep at the moment as I?m waking up in agony with the pain??I feel like a pensioner and I?m currently considering asking the physio for a walker!!!

poppy fantastic news about the little bean ? 9.3mm really is sooooo small it is crazy to imagine but I have scan pics of my little one at 6 weeks when I went in for an dating scan and looking at her then and looking at the 3D pics it really is like magic. Keeping it all crossed that everything keeps going smoothly for you.

nomoremarbles firstly you are not a ?fail? you are just bloody unlucky ? there is nothing that you could or have done to make this happen. I just feel bloody sorry that things have gone tits up for you again. Sending you lots of big hugs and chocolate cake ? try to take it easy on yourself and just let it sink in today rather than trying to stay rushing around.

baby hope you and the little one are well!!!

marthas totally understand you chucking in the temping ? faffing in the morning was the reason I didn?t even get started. And bless you DH for just accepting you TMI and getting on the with the ?job???.i?m also feeling very jealous of your lusty ways. DH has totally gone off it which is just soooooooo pants. I accept I?m falling apart but that?s no reason not to have a quick sesh now and then ? he is stressing about his course and I knew the ?DH and DW? time would tail off as it always does when he?s stressed but I think I?m going to jump him later as I feel a bit fed up!!!! So enough about my lack of sex life??when do you get your results back???

blue sorry your feeling down ? I been feeling exactly the same ? I can?t even explain why and I feel like I can?t really talk to anyone about it in RL because my best friend is currently in the same slump and her problems are much worse because she is TTC and having no luck at all and so is having a huge number of tests which are making her feel worse.

Welcome to bonzo, choedron, - this thread has helped me at my best and my worst stages of metalling and getting ?notions? into my head where I was convinced there were problems with the bean. We shall be here with you through it all and nothing is TMI to us??.its all part of the terrible rollercoaster that we call TTC!!! xxxxxx

Big wave to far, tiago (good work on your twice in one day action), eve (anyone seen her recently), marathon (if your still lurking),

And good luck to the POAS buddies - maja, kells and Newton

Adding myself to the roll call as I?m getting very lost here:

BFP
MissCoffeeNWine - One coffee bean (14w), one mini-toe (17w) one DD5, and carefully incubating a few cells for metalling purposes.
PieMistress - 16w with DC#2, m/c at 7 weeks in May, DS aged 2
Poppyjen - 7 (ish) weeks with DC#2, m/c at 6-7 weeks in May, DS aged 22 months
Babysaurus - 18 weeks with DC#1, mmc at 12 week scan in July, but foetus stopped growing at 5/6 weeks.
InsomniaQueen ? 31 weeks with DC #1, mc at 6 weeks in June??.currently panicking about getting this bowling ball out of my fanjo.

TTC
Maja80 (hope people will stop thinking I'm 15!!) - 31 yo - No DC, mc at 12 weeks (even though baba only measured 6 weeks) on 01/12/11 Currently TTCing and trying to keep sanity
bonzo 34 yo. DS aged 22 months. mmc @ 12wks 19/12/11 measured 6wks. TTC DC2
Newtonupontheheath 27yo, DS 15mo, TTC DC2 following mmc 21/11/11 @ 11 weeks (baby 8 weeks) due to POAS 22/01/12

leedy · 17/01/2012 12:42

Adding self to roll-call too, as I attempt to catch up:

BFP
MissCoffeeNWine - One coffee bean (14w), one mini-toe (17w) one DD5, and carefully incubating a few cells for metalling purposes.
PieMistress - 16w with DC#2, m/c at 7 weeks in May, DS aged 2
Poppyjen - 7 (ish) weeks with DC#2, m/c at 6-7 weeks in May, DS aged 22 months
Babysaurus - 18 weeks with DC#1, mmc at 12 week scan in July, but foetus stopped growing at 5/6 weeks.
InsomniaQueen ? 31 weeks with DC #1, mc at 6 weeks in June??.currently panicking about getting this bowling ball out of my fanjo.

TTC
Maja80 (hope people will stop thinking I'm 15!!) - 31 yo - No DC, mc at 12 weeks (even though baba only measured 6 weeks) on 01/12/11 Currently TTCing and trying to keep sanity
bonzo 34 yo. DS aged 22 months. mmc @ 12wks 19/12/11 measured 6wks. TTC DC2
Newtonupontheheath 27yo, DS 15mo, TTC DC2 following mmc 21/11/11 @ 11 weeks (baby 8 weeks) due to POAS 22/01/12
leedy 39yo, DS aged 23 months. mmc @ 12 weeks 5/11/12 measured 8wks. Just starting to TTC again.

MarthasHarbour · 17/01/2012 12:47

IQ i cannot believe you are 31 weeks already Shock i can remember when you were TTC which-goes to show how long in the tooth i am TTCing i genuinely am v excited about mini IQ's arrival as you are our first graduate! Smile

and yes i agree that the queen of advice on here is manda (although we are all very supportive and give good advice too) i had a giggle at your 'german bug'

cant chat for long as am cheering myself up searching for holidays, however i found some really strong stringy EWCM this morning, a little later than usual (and i had some on Sunday Hmm) but maybe the CP took care of my WTF cycle. Anyway DH is going to be pounced upon tonight and no mistake! Wink

marbles hang on in there - it could be implantation bleed, i know your history but lets be positive here (where is Manda Hmm)

BTW - can one of you link me to some internet cheapies please? i can see me becoming even-more-of a POAS addict!!

MarthasHarbour · 17/01/2012 12:50

BFP
MissCoffeeNWine - One coffee bean (14w), one mini-toe (17w) one DD5, and carefully incubating a few cells for metalling purposes.
PieMistress - 16w with DC#2, m/c at 7 weeks in May, DS aged 2
Poppyjen - 7 (ish) weeks with DC#2, m/c at 6-7 weeks in May, DS aged 22 months
Babysaurus - 18 weeks with DC#1, mmc at 12 week scan in July, but foetus stopped growing at 5/6 weeks.
InsomniaQueen ? 31 weeks with DC #1, mc at 6 weeks in June??.currently panicking about getting this bowling ball out of my fanjo.

TTC
Maja80 (hope people will stop thinking I'm 15!!) - 31 yo - No DC, mc at 12 weeks (even though baba only measured 6 weeks) on 01/12/11 Currently TTCing and trying to keep sanity
bonzo 34 yo. DS aged 22 months. mmc @ 12wks 19/12/11 measured 6wks. TTC DC2
Newtonupontheheath 27yo, DS 15mo, TTC DC2 following mmc 21/11/11 @ 11 weeks (baby 8 weeks) due to POAS 22/01/12
leedy 39yo, DS aged 23 months. mmc @ 12 weeks 5/11/12 measured 8wks. Just starting to TTC again.
MarthasHarbour: 39yo; one adorable DS age 2, MC at 10 weeks 16/03/11 measuring 8 weeks, one CP on 01/08/11 at 4+3 another CP on 02/01/12 at 3+6...currently shagging like rabbits

Tiago · 17/01/2012 13:09

iq - you call that a quick update? ( mind boggles)!

farfallarocks · 17/01/2012 13:22

martha I will be joining you in the pouncing ce soir. I have a sore throat and therefore a very sexy husky voice which I intend to use to my advantage Wink

MarthasHarbour · 17/01/2012 13:30

tiago when are you testing? we may be able to synchronise Wink

far loving the husky voice tactic - works every time for me Wink although-DH never needs much encouragement

MarthasHarbour · 17/01/2012 13:30

er and far i would rather you didnt 'join me' in my shagging tonight, unless you are a swinger!! Shock

MissCoffeeNWine · 17/01/2012 13:47

Swingers! Shock

Oh it's only far and martha. Expected nothing better Wink

My hips are falling to bits IQ I was up for ages last night with immense pain in my bum-bone in my left cheek Blush Rolling over in bed isn't good. Pubis feels grindy and achey.

I would like to point out that I'm not even 6 weeks yet Shock

There will be a piece of me in each county if this pregnancy goes anywhere.

farfallarocks · 17/01/2012 13:48

Oh go on martha we have to spice it up somehow!!

iq you poor thing, you are almost there though , hang in there, I would definitely go and get checked out if you are worried though.

marbles I had something similar with spotting and faint positives and then negatives and then nothing for 2 days and then proper bleeding, It was really upsetting not knowing for sure and it can go both ways at this stage, I am hoping for you it goes well. hugs.

Welcome to rollo

BlueCrane · 17/01/2012 14:37

There's clearly no way that I can match up to IQs epic catch up with you all so I am going to give up and just add myself to the stats Smile

BFP
MissCoffeeNWine - One coffee bean (14w), one mini-toe (17w) one DD5, and carefully incubating a few cells for metalling purposes.
PieMistress - 16w with DC#2, m/c at 7 weeks in May, DS aged 2
Poppyjen - 7 (ish) weeks with DC#2, m/c at 6-7 weeks in May, DS aged 22 months
Babysaurus - 18 weeks with DC#1, mmc at 12 week scan in July, but foetus stopped growing at 5/6 weeks.
Bluecrane - 21 weeks with DC#1, mmc found at 12 week scan in May, but all had stopped growing at 6weeks ish. ERPC in June after waiting two weeks to see if I would MC naturally.
InsomniaQueen ? 31 weeks with DC #1, mc at 6 weeks in June??.currently panicking about getting this bowling ball out of my fanjo.

TTC
Maja80 (hope people will stop thinking I'm 15!!) - 31 yo - No DC, mc at 12 weeks (even though baba only measured 6 weeks) on 01/12/11 Currently TTCing and trying to keep sanity
bonzo 34 yo. DS aged 22 months. mmc @ 12wks 19/12/11 measured 6wks. TTC DC2
Newtonupontheheath 27yo, DS 15mo, TTC DC2 following mmc 21/11/11 @ 11 weeks (baby 8 weeks) due to POAS 22/01/12
leedy 39yo, DS aged 23 months. mmc @ 12 weeks 5/11/12 measured 8wks. Just starting to TTC again.
MarthasHarbour: 39yo; one adorable DS age 2, MC at 10 weeks 16/03/11 measuring 8 weeks, one CP on 01/08/11 at 4+3 another CP on 02/01/12 at 3+6...currently shagging like rabbits

Just doing that update and thinking back to my previous 12wk scan when MMC found and the ERPC has made me realise how close those dates are to being exactly a year before this LO is due so there's a chance it could arrive on the anniversary of finding out about the MMC or having my ERPC Hmm rather playing with my head now I've thought of it!!

NoMoreMarbles · 17/01/2012 14:52

BFP
MissCoffeeNWine - One coffee bean (14w), one mini-toe (17w) one DD5, and carefully incubating a few cells for metalling purposes.
PieMistress - 16w with DC#2, m/c at 7 weeks in May, DS aged 2
Poppyjen - 7 (ish) weeks with DC#2, m/c at 6-7 weeks in May, DS aged 22 months
Babysaurus - 18 weeks with DC#1, mmc at 12 week scan in July, but foetus stopped growing at 5/6 weeks.
InsomniaQueen ? 31 weeks with DC #1, mc at 6 weeks in June??.currently panicking about getting this bowling ball out of my fanjo.

SOMEWHERE IN BETWEEN Wink
NoMoreMarbles - 29yo- 1 DD (6) - 1MC at 14 weeks 22/10/02, 1MC at 9 weeks 6/7/10, 5 CP/MCs since oct 07 when started TTC#2, currently waiting to see if BFP turns into CP#6...

TTC
Maja80 (hope people will stop thinking I'm 15!!) - 31 yo - No DC, mc at 12 weeks (even though baba only measured 6 weeks) on 01/12/11 Currently TTCing and trying to keep sanity
bonzo 34 yo. DS aged 22 months. mmc @ 12wks 19/12/11 measured 6wks. TTC DC2
Newtonupontheheath 27yo, DS 15mo, TTC DC2 following mmc 21/11/11 @ 11 weeks (baby 8 weeks) due to POAS 22/01/12
leedy 39yo, DS aged 23 months. mmc @ 12 weeks 5/11/12 measured 8wks. Just starting to TTC again.
MarthasHarbour: 39yo; one adorable DS age 2, MC at 10 weeks 16/03/11 measuring 8 weeks, one CP on 01/08/11 at 4+3 another CP on 02/01/12 at 3+6...currently shagging like rabbits

farfallarocks · 17/01/2012 15:03

BFP
MissCoffeeNWine - One coffee bean (14w), one mini-toe (17w) one DD5, and carefully incubating a few cells for metalling purposes.
PieMistress - 16w with DC#2, m/c at 7 weeks in May, DS aged 2
Poppyjen - 7 (ish) weeks with DC#2, m/c at 6-7 weeks in May, DS aged 22 months
Babysaurus - 18 weeks with DC#1, mmc at 12 week scan in July, but foetus stopped growing at 5/6 weeks.
InsomniaQueen ? 31 weeks with DC #1, mc at 6 weeks in June??.currently panicking about getting this bowling ball out of my fanjo.

SOMEWHERE IN BETWEEN
NoMoreMarbles - 29yo- 1 DD (6) - 1MC at 14 weeks 22/10/02, 1MC at 9 weeks 6/7/10, 5 CP/MCs since oct 07 when started TTC#2, currently waiting to see if BFP turns into CP#6...

TTC
Maja80 (hope people will stop thinking I'm 15!!) - 31 yo - No DC, mc at 12 weeks (even though baba only measured 6 weeks) on 01/12/11 Currently TTCing and trying to keep sanity
bonzo 34 yo. DS aged 22 months. mmc @ 12wks 19/12/11 measured 6wks. TTC DC2
Newtonupontheheath 27yo, DS 15mo, TTC DC2 following mmc 21/11/11 @ 11 weeks (baby 8 weeks) due to POAS 22/01/12
leedy 39yo, DS aged 23 months. mmc @ 12 weeks 5/11/12 measured 8wks. Just starting to TTC again.
MarthasHarbour: 39yo; one adorable DS age 2, MC at 10 weeks 16/03/11 measuring 8 weeks, one CP on 01/08/11 at 4+3 another CP on 02/01/12 at 3+6...currently shagging like rabbits
Farfallarocks: 31yo. TTC#1, MC at 5 weeks on 27/06/2011, chemical pregnancy in September. TTC again (sighs)

MissCoffeeNWine · 17/01/2012 15:04

Dates are horrible aren't they blue It's messing me up that if this pregnancy continues I'll hit mini-toe's gestation at loss at mini-toe's due date. Oh and I found out about this pregnancy on the 6th anniversary of losing coffee bean.

There are lots and lots of dates to choose from though and a long time between then and now. If I'd have taken one more cycle I'd have been in the same boat, but this one would have to last to 43+5 to get to mini-toe's birthday as it is.

One day at a time. They're just numbers.

MarthasHarbour · 17/01/2012 15:40

you're not wrong blue and mscoffee; if i get a BFP this month then LO will be due on 8 October, my MC/LO last year was due on 10 October. Sad

and my mothers birthday is on 9 Oct...... Hmm

I still want a BFP this month though Smile

babysaurus · 17/01/2012 16:15

Hello all,
Today would have been my due date and, you know what. I feel fine about it. Completely fine! I think the MMC was horrendous but as everything had stopped growing so early on, it didn't feel like losing a baby. I think also being pg now helps hugely.

Choedron I got pregnant on my first cycle after the WTF cycle. I didn't think there was any chance whatsoever but that proved not to be the case.

Nomoremarbles I am so sorry to read your post. Hugs xx

Hello everyone else. I'm sorry but I can't do a long read through / name check as I am knackered and cold after being out for three and a half hours with the dog.

leedy · 17/01/2012 16:18

Annnnnnnd just found out that my friend who was my "pregnancy buddy" last time round is pregnant again. Delighted for her, but...

BlueCrane · 17/01/2012 17:33

What a mixed bag of a day between us all eh!? Some with tough Sad news, others with difficult news for them but Smile for others...some just plodding along wondering when it will be their turn again Hmm or getting to grips with it actually happenning again now Confused ! What a cross-section of the realities of TTC and MC on this today! Just feeling in a bit of a thoughtful mood I guess, hence the reflection...

But...here's to lots of well timed, relaxed and enjoyable SWI tonight Wink Wink you girles know who you are!! And for those waiting 'to know what's going on' hang in there!!